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The Life of And podcast is for high-achieving women and working parents who are ready to stop living a life of “have to” and start designing a life they actually want. It’s a space where we talk honestly about the things we’re often afraid to admit — even to ourselves. The exhaustion. The ambition. The loneliness. The joy. The tension of wanting more without losing yourself in the process. If you’re in the thick of it — feeling stretched, tired, hopeful, driven — this is your invitation to take a breath, get real, and find your way back to your own Life of And.

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June 11, 2026Episode 31835 min

Stop Looking Wealthy. Start Building Wealth.

The wealth you want is often built in the choices no one else can see.In this solo episode of Life of And, Tiffany breaks down a financial framework that can change how you think about money, time, and the life you are building. Instead of only asking whether something fits your monthly budget, Tiffany challenges listeners to ask: does this decision make me money, save me time, or help me build something? That simple filter turns everyday choices, from childcare to subscriptions to cash sitting in an account, into a clearer way to protect your energy, grow your options, and support a more abundant future.This conversation is a practical reminder that looking successful and building real wealth are not the same thing. Tiffany shares personal examples from her own family’s decisions, including investing in childcare, choosing public school, putting cash to work, and saying no to spending that only creates the appearance of success. Listeners will walk away with a more grounded way to evaluate financial choices, understand income statement versus balance sheet thinking, and take simple steps toward a life with more freedom, flexibility, and intention.What You’ll LearnHow to tell the difference between income statement thinking and balance sheet thinkingWhy invisible financial choices can create more freedom, flexibility, and long-term wealthThree simple actions to help your money and time start working harder for the life you actually wantTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(02:12) The three purchases test(03:50) Income statement vs balance sheet thinking(07:52) How your balance sheet shows what you’re building(10:12) Why a budget is not enough(11:52) When childcare becomes a time investment(15:20) The real cost behind family decisions(18:01) The trap of looking wealthy(18:17) What happens when you invest the monthly spend(23:47) How to get your cash working for you(29:20) The scoreboard that really matters(30:26) Three money moves to make nowLike this episode? Check out more in the series:https://youtu.be/h5tayXL1HxIhttps://youtu.be/MJLq7zdH2NU https://youtu.be/m3fnoNDOp-AFor more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/Program Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Ready to Put Your Money to Work? Learn More Here: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank Created in partnership with Share Your Genius www.shareyourgenius.com Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

June 4, 2026Episode 31735 min

Rebecca Minkoff on Fearlessness, Money, and Not Waiting for Permission

What if building a successful life required you to stop waiting for permission and start trusting yourself first?In this episode of Life Of And, Tiffany sits down with fashion designer, entrepreneur, and author Rebecca Minkoff to discuss the mindset shifts that helped her build an iconic global brand while navigating marriage, motherhood, money, and ambition. From moving to New York City at 18 without a college degree to launching the Female Founder Collective, Rebecca shares the lessons she learned about resilience, risk-taking, and creating success on her own terms.This conversation explores what it means to raise grounded children in a privileged world, why women need to talk more openly about money and investing, and how high-achieving couples can stay connected without losing themselves in the chaos of family and work. Rebecca also opens up about guilt, fear, sacrifice, and the tension many women feel while trying to pursue big dreams and stay deeply present at home. Listeners will walk away with practical insights on entrepreneurship, parenting, relationships, and redefining what fearlessness actually looks like.What You’ll Learn:How to stop waiting for permission and start trusting your own visionHow to raise kids with strong work ethic, responsibility, and gratitudeWhat fearlessness really means when building a career and a familyFor more from Rebecca, check out these links:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaminkoff/Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beckyminkoff/Female Founder Collective: https://femalefoundercollective.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/rebecca-minkoff Substack: https://rebeccaminkoff.substack.com/Check out Rebecca’s book “Fearless: The New Rules for Unlocking Creativity, Courage, and Success”: https://www.rebeccaminkoff.com/pages/copy-of-fearless-the-new-rules-for-unlocking-creativity-courage-and-successTreat yourself to a Rebecca Minkoff bag and get $75 off your purchase with code RMSpotted at checkout. Shop now at https://www.rebeccaminkoff.com/For more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/ProgramTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(01:57) On skipping college at 18 and moving to NYC alone(04:09) The green ledger in the kitchen that shaped everything(06:45) The day she stopped asking and started building (11:34) Your spouse is not your therapist(14:25) Making two careers, four kids, and one nanny work(17:18) Choosing presence over self-care(19:49) What she wants her kids to say about their childhood(22:17) How she to sell the company you built(24:54) Fearless isn't the absence of fear(30:35) Why she built Superwomen and what it’s really about(32:17) The "not now list" and how to keep your dreams aliveCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Created in partnership with Share Your Genius Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

May 28, 2026Episode 31647 min

Parenting Through Hard Seasons: What to Say, What to Do, and How to Stay Present When Life Gets Hard

What if navigating your family through life’s toughest moments felt clearer, calmer, and more manageable?In this episode of Life Of And, Tiffany sits down with Michelle Gambs to discuss how parents can show up for their kids even when life feels impossible. Hard seasons, like illness, loss, divorce, financial strain, or marital challenges, ripple through your home, shaping how children experience the world. Michelle offers practical guidance on balancing honesty and protection while helping kids process their emotions and maintain family stability.This conversation reminds us that children don’t need perfect parents. They need parents who stay present, offer guidance, and model resilience. By navigating grief, anger, disappointment, and other intense emotions, both parents and kids can build emotional capacity together. Listeners will gain strategies for sharing difficult truths in age-appropriate ways, observing children without judgment, and providing the support networks kids need to thrive even when parents are overwhelmed.What You’ll Learn:How to parent authentically in seasons of grief, loss, and uncertaintyWhy children need support from multiple adults, not just parentsHow to help kids build emotional intelligence by observing and validating their feelingsLove Michelle? So do we. Here's every episode she's been on — start anywhere or binge them all:The #1 Way to Bring Peace to Your Home (Ep. 165): Guilt-free parenting, raising capable kids, and why forbidden = attractive. No Such Thing as Perfect Parenting (Ep. 203): Why the goal isn't perfection — it's continuous improvement. A must-listen if you're balancing a career, a business, and a busy household.Pro Tips on Managing Chores in Your Home (Ep. 210): The art and science of age-appropriate chore systems, natural consequences, and how to handle allowance without directly tying it to tasks. For more from Michelle, check out these links:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-gambs-710437176 Website: https://www.michellegambs.com/ And if you want more from Michelle, her book Stay Away from Option D...and You Will Be a Perfect Parent: A Simple Philosophy for Parenting. A Simple Philosophy for Life is on Amazon, and her courses and workshops are at michellegambs.com. Online Workshops: https://www.michellegambs.com/onlineworkshops Redirecting Children's Behavior 4-Week Course: https://www.michellegambs.com/online-courseFor more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/ProgramTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(02:09) Sharing hard truths before full resolution(05:05) Shifting from protecting to preparing kids(08:45) Why age appropriate honesty supports understanding(11:09) Rebuilding stability after revealing difficult truths(13:47) You suffer well with support networks(15:56) Stop pity, build emotional capacity(22:20) Stages of grief and finding meaning(25:54) How grief progresses differently for each person(27:10) Why kids act out feelings while processing(31:09) Observe your kids to name their needs(36:14) Why teens ask less focused questions(45:34) Closing reflections on parenting hard seasonsCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Created in partnership with Share Your Genius Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

May 21, 2026Episode 31518 min

Tiffany Unscripted: What It Feels Like to Be in the Middle of Your Life and Still Move Forward

What if being in the middle of life’s transitions didn’t feel overwhelming, but instead became a time of growth, clarity, and deeper presence?In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany introduces Tiffany Unscripted, a new episode style where she steps away from teaching or interviewing and simply talks through what life is showing her in real time. She shares what it feels like to be right in the middle of life, juggling family, work, a move into a “forever home,” and the personal challenges that don’t always come with neat answers. Tiffany reflects on how hard seasons, though painful and disorienting, can become part of what forms us into who we are meant to become.Through personal stories, she emphasizes the importance of staying present, leaning into relationships, and showing up for yourself in small ways, even when life feels chaotic. Tiffany explores how our faceplant moments, those unexpected falls, can become turning points, teaching us to navigate life with intention and grace.What You’ll LearnHow to embrace life’s unpredictable moments without feeling defeatedWhy the middle of life is where the real growth happensHow to stay present in the face of changeThe power of showing up for yourself in small, practical waysTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(00:25) A sweet sister moment(01:37) An honest midlife check-in(01:55) When the forever house dream changes(03:50) Parenting both ends of the family(05:52) What happens when life faceplants(07:38) Reaching for your people when it is hard(10:49) Staying present through faith(12:42) Finding agency in the hard(13:04) The bra lesson in self-care(15:48) Staying awake in the middle of life(18:04) Share, connect, and keep goingFor more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/Program Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Created in partnership with Share Your Genius www.shareyourgenius.com Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

May 14, 2026Episode 31420 min

Stop Undoing Your Own Progress: The Decision-Keeping Framework

What if the reason you keep going back on your decisions isn’t weakness, but a sign that you haven’t fully bought into what you chose yet?In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with longtime mentor and monthly conversation partner Brian Kavicky of Lushin to talk about what happens after a big decision is made, when life gets loud, discomfort sets in, and the temptation to rewrite the plan starts to feel very reasonable. Together, they discuss why real decisions are not complete until your actions begin matching what you said you wanted, and why fear, doubt, sadness, and friction can actually be part of growth instead of proof that you chose wrong. Tiffany and Brian explore how saying yes to a bigger life requires saying no to almost everything that does not support it, why constantly adjusting the scoreboard can lead to regret, and how filling your own cup first gives you more to share at work, at home, and in your relationships. You’ll walk away with a framework to:Recognize when discomfort is part of growth, not a sign you made the wrong decisionProtect your bigger yes by getting clearer about what needs to become a noStop adjusting the scoreboard just to feel comfortable againIdentify what actually fills your cup and start making space for itWish you could talk it out with BK? Good news, you can! Book time with Brian Kavicky here. For more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/Program Timestamps:(00:00) Intro(01:41) When a decision becomes action(03:15) Why discomfort can mean growth(05:40) Stop moving the goalposts(08:30) The power of choosing your no(10:20) Leading from your real priorities(13:50) Why filling your cup comes first(14:51) Dream bigger before you plan(17:34) Finding the why beneath the wantCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: This episode is sponsored by Lushin. As part of our ongoing content partnership, Brian Kavicky joins the podcast monthly to share insights on leadership and sales. No compensation is received for referrals.Created in partnership with Share Your Genius Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

May 7, 2026Episode 31337 min

Summer Parenting Without Losing Your Mind

What if summer felt less like something to survive and more like a season your family actually knew how to enjoy?In this episode of Life Of And, Tiffany sits down with Michelle Gambs to talk about how working parents can move into summer with more clarity, structure, and peace. When school ends, the built-in rhythm of the day disappears, and suddenly the season can start to feel like one long negotiation over boredom, screens, work, childcare, and everyone’s expectations. Michelle offers a more practical way to think about it, helping parents create enough predictability to calm the chaos without over-managing every moment.This conversation is a reminder that summer does not have to be something families simply survive. With clear expectations, age-appropriate responsibility, and a willingness to let kids practice solving some of their own problems, summer can become a season where the whole family feels more capable. Listeners will walk away with practical language, steadier boundaries, and a more peaceful way to make summer feel intentional without trying to control every minute.What You’ll Learn:How to create summer structure without over-scheduling every minuteWhy boredom can help kids build creativity, independence, and problem-solving skillsWhy summer is a powerful time to teach life skills like cooking, planning, and responsibilityFor more from Michelle, check out these links:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-gambs-710437176 Website: https://www.michellegambs.com/ Get Michelle’s book Stay Away from Option D...and You Will Be a Perfect Parent: A Simple Philosophy for Parenting. A Simple Philosophy for Life: https://a.co/d/0cwzjixM For more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/ProgramTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(03:34) When summer starts to feel like childcare(04:10) Why working from home needs cleaner boundaries(06:12) How bookends create peace without nagging(07:54) Giving kids ownership without giving up authority(11:07) Why boredom is not your problem to solve(16:10) Setting screen expectations before the battles begin(19:10) The tech boundaries that make summer calmer(23:47) Treating technology like a privilege, not a right(25:19) How fewer words make consequences work better(30:47) Using summer to build real life skillsCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Created in partnership with Share Your Genius Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

April 30, 2026Episode 31258 min

Money Confessions: What Women Really Think About Time, Guilt, and Financial Freedom

What if the money stress you're carrying isn't about how much you make, but about never having a real, honest conversation about it?In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with Nicole Lorch, President and COO of First Internet Bank, to answer real, unfiltered money questions submitted by real women navigating careers, kids, and growing financial complexity. From feeling behind despite a high income to struggling with guilt when spending money to make life easier, this conversation unravels the emotional and practical realities of modern money management.Tiffany and Nicole dig into why traditional budgeting advice fails modern women, what it actually looks like to think about your time like a balance sheet, and how so much of our financial guilt is really an identity problem rooted in values we inherited, not ones we actually chose. They share their own money confessions, tackle the invisible load hiding in plain sight, and offer practical frameworks for managing variable income, getting aligned with your spouse, and building financial confidence even if you don't have the vocabulary yet. You’ll walk away with a framework to:Shift from a guilt-driven money mindset to a values-based approachUnderstand how to buy back your time without feeling selfishCreate simple systems for managing money, even with inconsistent incomeHave more productive conversations about money with your partnerFor more from Nicole: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicole-lorch/ For more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/ProgramTimestamps:(00:00) Intro (03:05) Money confessions: what Tiffany and Nicole admit out loud(07:01) Unlearning the DIY mindset your parents gave you (10:39) Shifting from money guilt to valuing your time(14:47) What to do when outsourcing feels out of reach financially(17:20) How to spot the invisible load before it burns you out(22:00) Bringing the invisible load list to your husband without a fight(25:55) Practical advice for couples with opposite money habits(30:32) Account structures that actually work for differently-wired couples(32:10) How to manage money when your income is unpredictable (37:36) Savings account vs. high-yield vs. retirement (41:08) The case for buying back time even in your most expensive season (45:05) Getting financially prepared for the unthinkable (48:30) Why more money doesn't solve the feeling of falling behind (53:27) Getting financially literate when you're starting from zero (57:01) Why women putting money on the table changes everythingCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Ready to Put Your Money to Work? Learn More Here: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank Created in partnership with Share Your Genius www.shareyourgenius.com Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

April 23, 2026Episode 31120 min

What to Outsource First, How to Make the Math Work, and Why You Still Feel Guilty About It

Imagine if balancing family, work, and personal life wasn’t about doing more, but about getting the right help?In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany shares how outsourcing can be a game-changer for busy women managing multiple responsibilities. After years of struggling with trying to do it all, Tiffany learned that asking for help wasn’t a failure; it was a strategic decision. She explains how outsourcing tasks like laundry, house cleaning, and even grocery shopping can save you hours each week, giving you the time and energy to focus on what truly matters.Tiffany also emphasizes the importance of shifting your mindset. Instead of asking, “Can I afford to get help?” She encourages women to ask, “Can I afford not to get help?” By making small, episodic investments in your time, you can create a life that feels more sustainable and less chaotic.What You’ll LearnThe first tasks to outsource for busy familiesHow outsourcing can help reduce mental and emotional energyWhy prioritizing rest is key to maintaining productivityHow to shift from "Can I afford help?" to "Can I afford not to get help?"Timestamps:(00:00) Intro(01:36) How to decide the first task to outsource(06:10) Using episodic outsourcing strategically(07:12) Paying for help without financial pressure(11:23) Understanding tradeoffs and real math(12:43) Tiffany’s personal outsourcing turning point (15:26) Highest ROI time-buying outsourcing options(17:36) Simple outsourcing decision frameworkWant to learn more about outsourcing? Check out these fan favorites:Do It or Delegate It: An Up Close Look at My In-Home Help Stop Doing Your Laundry4 Unpopular Decisions We Made to Build Our Two-Career HomeThe Economics of Doing EverythingFor more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/Program Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Created in partnership with Share Your Genius www.shareyourgenius.com Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

April 16, 2026Episode 31020 min

The Summer Planning Episode: What Every Working Mom Needs to Do in the Next 30 Days

What if the key to enjoying summer isn’t just flexibility, but planning ahead?In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany explains how planning early can turn summer chaos into clarity. After years of scrambling, she learned that the secret wasn’t doing more, it was being intentional with the summer calendar. Tiffany shares how asking the right questions, setting priorities, and creating clear agreements with the family can reduce stress and make the summer enjoyable.She highlights how to avoid burnout by organizing childcare, prioritizing family activities, and setting boundaries. Tiffany also offers tips on getting kids involved in meal planning and ensuring there’s enough unstructured time. By planning ahead, you can reclaim your time and focus on moments that truly matter.What You’ll LearnHow to plan summer logistics ahead of timeWhy setting priorities is key to enjoying your summerHow to engage your family in the planning processWhy creating a visible summer schedule helps avoid chaosTimestamps:(00:00) Intro(00:35) Avoid working mom summer panic with preparation(02:06) Create a logistics coverage plan for childcare(05:06) Set family priorities and define summer activities(07:08) Understand why priorities matter for a successful summer(10:41) Make your plan visible with a family calendar(13:14) Solve the summer food dilemma by planning meals(16:08) Prep your home base for a smooth summer(18:44) Plan as a team and work together(19:53) Get a final pep talk before summer beginsLove this episode? Tiffany has been helping working parents crush summer for years. Dive deeper with these fan favorites: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLR2Wi9I1-pzm56Avg23T9H6K2wCEb--V8&si=KVgYn4p0sWxo9EyY Episode 129: Crush Your Summer: 3 Tips for Balancing Your Career and Family FunEpisode 197: 5 Tips to Help Working Parents Crush Summer BreakEpisode 264: A Working Parent's Guide to Navigating SummerEpisode 266: Summer Survival Systems for the Whole Family Episode 268: Less Chaos, More Protein: Tiffany's Summer Food Game PlanFor more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/Program Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: Created in partnership with Share Your Genius www.shareyourgenius.com Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank

April 9, 2026Episode 30926 min

The Real Reason You Feel Guilty as a Working Mom

What if the real issue isn’t that you’re making the wrong choices, but that guilt is quietly driving your decisions and clouding your judgment?In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with Brian Kavicky, a longtime mentor and monthly conversation partner, to go deep into the complexities of guilt and its impact on decision-making for high-performing women. Together, they explore the many faces of guilt, including silent and public guilt, and how it often becomes a tool of self-protection and justification. Tiffany shares real-life examples, like the time she felt guilty for not participating more in her daughter’s school musical, and the irrational guilt that comes with being successful in a world that pressures women to be everything to everyone.Tiffany and Brian discuss how guilt can cloud your judgment, make you question your choices, and push you away from your true priorities. They explain how guilt often stems from external pressures, like societal expectations or comparison to others, and how it keeps you stuck in a cycle of justification instead of making empowered decisions based on your values.You’ll walk away with a framework to:Identify when guilt is influencing your decisionsRecognize the difference between self-protection and true self-trustUnderstand how guilt can derail your priorities and goalsLearn how to shift your mindset from guilt-driven decisions to purpose-driven choicesWish you could talk it out with BK? Good news, you can! Book time with Brian Kavicky here. For more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/ProgramTimestamps:(00:00) Intro (01:40) What burnout does to our progress(03:13) Turning guilt into empowered choices(07:00) How to reframe professional guilt(09:50) Breaking the cycle of internal vs. external guilt(11:45) The self-deception trap of guilt(14:15) Transforming guilt into purposeful action(17:49) The hidden cost of “doing it all”(23:34) Why we should question our guilt’s triggerCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: This episode is sponsored by Lushin. As part of our ongoing content partnership, Brian Kavicky joins the podcast monthly to share insights on leadership and sales. No compensation is received for referrals.Created in partnership with Share Your Genius Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-Bank