What to Say When You Freeze, Get Overlooked, or Get Underpaid
You've been told to "just be more confident." But confidence isn't something you either have or you don't. It's a muscle, and it gets built before the moment demands it.In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Brian Kavicky, sales and leadership coach at Lushin and her mentor of fifteen years, to work through the questions women carry into every room but rarely say out loud: What do you do when you freeze mid-sentence? When someone takes credit for your idea? When you know you should speak up but can't make yourself do it? When the salary offer comes in low and you don't know if you're allowed to push back?Brian breaks down the difference between feedback and criticism — one gives you something to fix; the other can't. He explains why ambition shows up in behavior while self-promotion shows up in posture, and why almost nobody is actually self-promoting even though almost everybody is worried about it. He also names the single behavior behind most of the gender pay gap: women accept the first offer. Men don't.You'll walk away knowing how to:Tell real feedback from criticism, and what to do with eachSpeak up when your idea gets credited to someone elseState your accomplishments as fact without it feeling like braggingUse "I am" statements to rewire how you show up under pressureAsk for more money without riskThis is not a conversation about being more polished. It's about having the right words for the right moment.Wish you could talk it out with BK? Good news, you can! Book time with Brian Kavicky here. For more from Tiffany:Follow Tiffany on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany.sauderLearn More: https://www.tiffanysauder.com Ready to build your own Life of And? Explore the program: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/Program Timestamps:(00:00) Intro(04:17) The difference between Too direct and too soft feedback(07:12) How to ask for actionable feedback(09:01) When criticism is about insecurity(12:07) Being visible without self-promotion(19:00) What to do when someone repeats your idea(22:48) Calling out bias in the room(24:56) How to stop freezing when challenged(26:21) “I am” phrases for confidence(30:26) What to do when self-doubt takes over(32:40) Asking for more money(36:26) Confidence comes from getting specificCheck out the apps and sponsor of this episode: This episode is sponsored by Lushin. As part of our ongoing content partnership, Brian Kavicky joins the podcast monthly to share insights on leadership and sales. No compensation is received for referrals.Created in partnership with Share Your Genius Learn more about First Internet Bank: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/First-Internet-BankFind out more about Neighbor Serve here: https://neighborserve.com/life_of_and/

