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Men After God is a Christian podcast for men who want to lead well at home, at work, and in their own hearts. It's for husbands and fathers who work hard, go to church, and still feel like nobody ever showed them how to lead the people they love. Three hosts bring plain, Bible-grounded conversation on God, marriage, fatherhood, work, and brotherhood, with one thing you can put into practice this week. Don't be a perfect man. Be a pursuing man. WHO IT'S FOR The man who loves his family and wants to lead them better. The dad who snapped at his kids again and wants to know why. The husband who keeps fixing problems when his wife needs him to listen. The guy with plenty of acquaintances and nobody to call when it falls apart. The pastor or men's ministry leader looking for something honest to hand the men in his church. HOW IT WORKS Each host records on his own, so every episode goes deep on one idea from one man's lane instead of skimming ten. Every so often all three sit down together. No hype and no performance, just men telling the truth about where they are and pointing other men back to Christ. MEET THE HOSTS Adrian Ferrari: Wisdom and Daily Discipline Adrian pastors a church, planted churches before that, and served as a missionary in Argentina. He teaches straight through the text, verse by verse, most often in Proverbs: integrity, self-control, the tongue, humility at home, and the slow drift that takes a man down long before anyone notices. Luke Sorensen: Inner Healing and Relational Repair Luke is an emotional intelligence coach and has co-hosted since season two. He brings a coach's language to the things men carry and rarely say out loud: shame and identity, grief and trauma, forgiveness, boundaries, apology, and rebuilding trust after it breaks. Then he puts Scripture underneath it. Dustin Alley: Leading Yourself, Your Home, and Your Men Dr. Dustin Alley is a Marine Corps veteran, a pastor, and the author of Becoming a Man After God. He teaches the disciplines that hold when nobody is watching, what a wife and children need from a man, and how to go from having friends to having brothers. He also speaks to pastors and church leaders rebuilding their men's ministry. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR Christian marriage: listening, conflict, humility, and loving your wife well Christian fatherhood: being present, handling anger, and passing down something better than you were handed Faith and work: integrity, discipline, and the stewardship of your time Men's emotional and mental health from a biblical view: shame, grief, loneliness, and burnout Brotherhood and discipleship: real friendship between men, mentoring, and men's ministry Bible study for men: Proverbs and practical wisdom for ordinary days WHERE TO START Why Men Feel Alone (Even at Church) Breaking the Lies Men Believe: Shame, Identity, and Freedom in Christ Real Strength Is Self-Control: What Proverbs 15 Teaches Christian Men About Their Words Follow the show so the next one lands in your feed. If an episode helps you, send it to one man who needs it. Watch full episodes on YouTube at @MenAfterGodpod. Find the book, Becoming a Man After God, on Amazon.

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April 7, 2026Episode 817 min

The 5-Pillar Framework Every Christian Man Needs (Ditching Cookie-Cutter Faith)

Are you tired of "cookie-cutter Christianity"? Many Christian men feel exhausted and guilty, trying to squeeze their life into a rigid spiritual system that wasn’t designed for their wiredness or current season of life. In this powerful transition episode, Dr. Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen address the dangerous distinction between a rigid "system" and a customizable "framework." Using examples from bad marriage counseling to the ideal time for devotions, they explore how to stop copying other people's spiritual habits and start following Jesus as the man God uniquely made you to be. If deepen your relationship with Jesus is your foundation, this framework provides the architectural necessary to hold up the other essential areas of your life. We introduce the five areas every Christian man must schedule into his week—and if you can't find room for these five, you are overbooked. In this episode, we break down: The "Perfectly Normal" Trap: Celebrated 4,000 downloads and a humbling anecdote from an Easter lunch that confronted Dustin's pride. System vs. Framework: Why cookie-cutter approaches fail under pressure, and how to find freedom in a customizable Biblical framework. A philosophical Friday night text: Dustin dives deep on why we must learn to live from the love of Jesus rather than pursuing it. Luke’s Struggles: Why developing self and delivering value are easy for him, but devoting time to family and "doing nothing" requires intense intentionality. The Permission Slip: Giving you permission to obey the Holy Spirit’s promptings, even when your season of obedience looks different from the man in the pew next to you. The 5-Pillar Framework Identified: We define the five pillars you need to maintain balance, authority, and peace: Deepen your relationship with Jesus (The Foundation) Devote time to your family Develop yourself Deliver value to others Do nothing for Jesus (The essential "brain glitch" statement on Sabbath and Rest). Have a question or want to share how the framework is working for you? Email Dustin directly at alley1230@icloud.com

March 23, 2026Episode 833 min

Physical Health for Christian Men: Overcoming Excuses & Building Accountability

The conversation delves into the depth of the book, the physical man, and holistic health, as well as the importance of physical well-being and accountability. The hosts share personal experiences and insights, encouraging listeners to take responsibility for their physical health and well-being. Takeaways Holistic health encompasses physical, mental, and spiritual well-being Accountability should focus on self-motivation and celebrating wins Chapters 00:00 The Depth of the Book 08:56 Physical Well-being and Accountability

March 2, 2026Episode 724 min

Why Men Feel Alone (Even at Church)

The conversation explores the themes of intentional living, relational priorities, deepening friendships, and challenges in friendship. It emphasizes the importance of active listening, navigating surface conversations, and addressing challenges in male fellowship. The role of pride in friendships and the impact of unfulfilling relationships are also discussed. Takeaways Active listening is key to prioritizing relationships Navigating surface conversations is essential for building deeper relationships Chapters 00:00 The Intentional Man 06:13 Deepening Friendships 13:30 Challenges in Friendship

February 26, 202623 min

Peace Precedes Productivity

Dr. Dustin Alley shares insights on the discipline of focus and the impact of fragmented attention on productivity and peace. He emphasizes the importance of order, directed attention, and the stewardship of focus. The conversation explores the economic case for focus, the value of depth, and provides a framework for a more focused life. Takeaways Discipline of focus Peace precedes productivity Chapters 00:00 The Stewarded Focus Framework

February 23, 2026Episode 529 min

Guard Your Heart: Phones, Busyness, and the Slow Fade

The conversation explores the themes of intentional living, relationship with Jesus, and the impact of technology on relationships. It delves into the importance of intentional actions, the significance of movement in purpose, and the dangers of comparison and busyness. It also emphasizes the need for intentional communication and interaction in relationships. Takeaways Intentional living is crucial for building meaningful relationships. The impact of technology on relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. The significance of movement in purpose and the dangers of comparison and busyness. Chapters 00:00 Living Intentionally and Purposefully 07:17 The Impact of Technology on Relationships 14:03 The Dangers of Comparison and Busyness 22:03 Intentional Communication and Interaction in Relationships

February 17, 2026Episode 426 min

Scope Creep: Staying Focused When Life Won’t Stop Pulling You

The podcast hosts discuss the concept of focus and obedience in the context of their personal experiences and faith. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing and aligning with God's will, as well as the challenges of distractions and overcommitment. The conversation delves into the themes of time management, decision-making, and the significance of waiting for God's guidance. Takeaways Focus and obedience are essential for aligning with God's will. Prioritizing and saying no to distractions are crucial for effective time management. Waiting for God's guidance and seeking wisdom through prayer are important aspects of decision-making. Chapters 00:00 Consistency and Inconsistency in Podcasting 06:40 Scope Creep and Time Management 13:20 The Importance of Prioritization and Obedience 21:56 Seeking Wisdom and Waiting for Guidance

January 20, 2026Episode 326 min

Heart Set: Living in Surrender and Faith

Episode Description In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen continue Season 2 by exploring what it means to have a heart that is truly set on God. Building from Chapter Two of Becoming a Man After God , they introduce the idea of “heart set” versus mindset—arguing that while the mind may be easier to manage, the heart is what ultimately shapes who we become. Through the life of George Müller, Dustin and Luke examine what surrender looks like in real life, especially when obedience requires stepping away from what is safe, expected, or culturally approved. They discuss faith as an action, not just a belief, and wrestle honestly with the tension between trusting God and trying to meet your own needs. The conversation challenges men to stop living on autopilot, stop blaming circumstances or counsel for inaction, and instead live with a heart fully surrendered to God’s leading. The episode closes with a strong call to personal responsibility, cheerful obedience, and giving God not just your behavior—but your heart. Chapters 00:00 Season 2 introduction and the concept of “heart set” 00:48 Why the heart is more dangerous—and more powerful—than the mind 01:30 “You are what you love” and how affection shapes identity 02:22 Chapter Two overview and why it’s so short 03:33 What was missing from the chapter and lessons learned after publishing 04:55 George Müller’s life and the challenge of living by faith 06:24 Faith as action, not just surrender language 08:56 Safe paths versus surrendered paths 10:23 Getting out of God’s way and unbelief as an obstacle 11:22 Seasons, obedience, and when God changes direction 13:30 Müller’s story of provision and God’s “royal” supply 14:38 When we meet our own needs and credit God anyway 15:51 Faith, surrender, and unique personal battles 16:18 Why your walk with God cannot be borrowed from someone else 17:11 Owning your story, suffering, and responsibility 18:10 Obedience over counsel when God is clearly leading 20:02 Suffering, growth, and surrendering what “ought to be” 20:25 Faith that can’t be tested can’t be trusted 22:48 Personal obedience and resisting people-pleasing 23:47 God’s Word over the “easy button” of leadership 24:20 Emotions, logic, and cheerful obedience 25:28 Final challenge: surrender your heart, not just your actions Resources Mentioned in This Episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q George Müller and a life lived by faith (historical reference) Support the Show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: https://www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: https://facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com 💙 Support Us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

January 12, 2026Episode 221 min

From History to His Story: Repentance Is the Doorway to Growth

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen continue Season 2 by diving into Chapter One of Becoming a Man After God . They reflect on the joy of recording together again, share gratitude for the Men After God community and Patreon supporters, and explain the renewed direction of the ministry—producing free, accessible content while staying surrendered to where God is leading. The conversation centers on what it truly means to be a “man after God’s heart” by examining the life of David. Rather than viewing David as a flawless spiritual hero, Dustin and Luke unpack how David’s identity was shaped by repentance, humility, and persistent pursuit of God—even in failure. They challenge the idea that background or upbringing determines spiritual potential and emphasize personal responsibility, repentance, and ownership as key markers of spiritual maturity. The episode closes with a direct challenge to men: stop blaming your past, take responsibility for your walk with God, and recognize that your relationship with Him will only grow as deep as your willingness to repent. Chapters 00:00 Welcome back, Season 2 energy, and recording together again 01:06 Gratitude for Patreon supporters and the Men After God community 03:30 Vision for Season 2 and introducing the “Becoming” series 03:56 Why Chapter One matters: From History to His Story 05:14 Who the book is for—and why it applies beyond men 05:45 What Dustin wishes he had added to Chapter One 08:09 David’s life, failure, and the myth of spiritual perfection 10:00 What “a man after God’s heart” actually means 11:26 Pursuing God vs. achieving fulfillment 13:30 Why there is no finish line apart from God 14:50 The advantage New Testament believers have through the Holy Spirit 17:13 Becoming is a choice, not a personality trait 17:43 Repentance, responsibility, and owning your life 20:13 Why repentance is the gateway to restoration 21:32 Final thoughts and closing encouragement Resources Mentioned in This Episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q Group facilitation guides for the book (free PDFs available by request) 📧 dustin@menaftergod.net Riverside FM for podcast recording https://riverside.fm The Diary of a CEO podcast https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEO Support the Show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: https://www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: https://facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com 💙 Support Us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

January 5, 2026Episode 232 min

Becoming a Man After God in 2026: The 5 Disciplines That Actually Change You

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen talk about why most New Year goals die fast and what to do instead. They unpack the difference between setting goals and building daily disciplines, then pull back the curtain on the origin story of Dustin’s book Becoming a Man After God. Dustin shares how a season of overload pushed him to the edge and how one question shifted everything from doing things for God to learning how to do life with God. Together, they challenge men to prioritize what matters, build rhythms that protect their walk with Christ and their families, and pursue holistic stewardship that includes spiritual, mental, and physical health. They close with a simple reflection tool that turns listening into action so growth becomes real and repeatable. Chapters 00:00 Why goals die by January 5 and why daily agenda matters 02:01 Dustin’s goals and the action plans behind them 04:48 Spiritual goals at home and intentional discipleship with kids 05:26 Luke’s goals, Working Genius, and teaching core principles to children 07:12 Why Dustin wrote Becoming a Man After God 08:55 The overload season, the warning signs, and the breaking point 13:30 The five part framework that shaped the book 18:00 Who you are becoming and how decisions shape identity 20:37 Discipline, rhythms, Daniel 1, and the power of small choices 23:42 Why you never arrive and why that is the point 27:56 Holistic stewardship and why spiritual, mental, and physical are connected 29:59 Reflection questions that turn content into change Resources mentioned in this episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley - https://a.co/d/5KZkPq0 Working Genius assessment and certification - https://www.workinggenius.com/ John Beasley, Mind and Body Fitness - https://mindandbodystrength.com/ Greater Oaks Foundation and Spartan fundraiser - https://fundraise.spartan.com/page/Dustin-26972750 Dustin’s Airbnb in Kissimmee Florida - https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/1569707871787434572?source_impression_id=p3_1767051701_P35rKxpUcJYzGAiH Support the show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com/ 💙 Support Us: www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify

December 30, 2025Episode 139 min

Season 1 Finale!

In this episode of the Men After God podcast, Dustin Alley and Luke Sorensen kick off Season 2 by looking back on what God did in Season 1 and casting vision for what is next. They talk honestly about real life constraints, why they are shifting toward shorter episodes, and how the goal stays the same: serve men, strengthen families, and equip leaders with practical, biblical help. A major focus is Dustin’s book Becoming a Man After God and how churches can use it as a mens ministry resource through the included group facilitation guides. They also highlight the value of reflection after listening, the need for rest as worship, and how God sometimes leads by stopping you, not just by accelerating you. Chapters 00:00 Season 2 kickoff and life updates 04:39 Season 1 recap, wins, losses, and what God taught them 10:23 Vision for Season 2 and the shift to shorter weekly episodes 13:06 Overview of the book Becoming a Man After God and the five principles 22:02 How to use the book and facilitation guides in a mens ministry or Bible study 28:58 The 15 minute format and how to turn listening into action 34:36 Valleys, being stopped by God, and the book Deeper 38:10 Shout outs, non sponsor promotions, and ways to connect Resources mentioned in this episode Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley - https://a.co/d/iA5BV3q Group facilitation guides for the book, available by request as free PDFs - dustin@menaftergod.net Deeper by Dane C Ortlund - https://a.co/d/ft43HrK Riverside FM for recording - riverside.fm Men of Valor Ministries - https://www.movministries.org/ John Beasley, Mind and Body Fitness - https://mindandbodystrength.com/ Huberman Lab podcast - https://www.hubermanlab.com/podcast The Diary of a CEO podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEO Support the show 📌 Connect with Men After God: 🌍 Website: www.menaftergod.net 📺 YouTube: www. youtube.com/@menaftergodpod 📷 Instagram: www.instagram.com/menaftergodpod 👥 Join Our Community: facebook.com/groups/menaftergod 🛒 Get MAG Merch: https://menaftergod.myshopify.com/ 💙 Support Us: www.patreon.com/MenAfterGod 🎙️ Available on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify