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Hosted by Hannah Huante

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Aug 2026

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motivation, personal interviews, tips/expertise, & REAL life stories with unapologetic, creator Han Huante of @howhanseesit who finds motivation, comfort, & inspiration in hearing personal stories of growth, adversity, and success. new episodes every Tuesday.message from Han: i'm Hannah (Han) and I am the creator behind HOWHANSEESIT: the Blog, Instagram, Tik Tok, and, now, host of How I See It the pod. You may already know me from my social channels, but if you don't, I started blogging in 2017 with a drive to authentically share my life unapologetically and inspire others to do the same through fashion, beauty, & my personal lifestyle while prioritizing transparency, mental health, & realness.On this pod, I will be interviewing people from all different walks of life and all different industries; my hope is that it becomes a place to illuminate people’s interesting and unique stories; their journey, the hardships they've faced, and how they built their career. You can even expect tips and expertise from my guests. Alot of us go through the same experiences... no one is exempt from the human experience. The words "unapologetic", "authentic", "realness"... are words I hope, if you don’t already, you start to associate with my platforms and this podcast. SOCIAL ACCOUNTS: come join the fam xxCONNECT BELOW:follow Han's instagram here follow HOW I SEE IT the pod on Instagram here follow Han's TIK TOK here check out Han's blog here

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August 11, 2026Episode 15926 min

Success Is in Staying Present: How to Build Discipline, What to Do When Motivation Falters, Taking Action vs. Procrastination, Building Self-Trust, Staying Consistent & Creating Success

#159: On today’s episode, Han jumps on for a SOLO episode all about discipline: how to build success, why discipline is a skill you can actually develop, and how staying present can completely change the way you view discipline as you approach personal growth, success, and your mental health.Han gets into one of the questions she gets asked most: how do you stay so motivated? The truth is, she doesn’t. Motivation comes and goes. But when motivation falters, discipline is something you can learn to rely on.She breaks down why she doesn’t believe disciplined people are simply born that way, why discipline is a skill that can be strengthened and flexed over time, and why so much of building discipline comes down to staying present and learning to keep promises to yourself.Han gets into:Why discipline matters more than motivationHow discipline can actually be developed and strengthened over timeWhy consistency often matters more than talent, intelligence, or qualificationBuilding confidence and self-trust by keeping small promises to yourselfWhy the promises you make to yourself don’t need to be massive to create meaningful changeCreating consistency through small, low-stakes daily actionsWhy staying present is one of the most important parts of becoming disciplinedHow constantly thinking about where you “should” be can make it harder to take actionThe pressure to be more successful, make more money, feel more healed, or be further along than you areWhy obsessing over the end goal can actually work against your personal growthHow to know where you’re going without thinking about the destination every single dayFocusing on what actually moves the needle forward todayHow small, consistent actions compound over timeAdjusting your expectations of what the journey toward success is supposed to look and feel likeLearning to trust yourself and the process even when you can’t see immediate resultsSmall ways that Han stays disciplined in her mental health and wellnesss routines & MORE!This episode is for anyone who is struggling to stay consistent, who's procrastinating on taking action, or feeling overwhelmed by how far they still have to go. If you’re working toward becoming more successful, mentally well, confident, disciplined, or simply becoming someone you can rely on, this episode is a reminder to know where you’re going, come back to today, and trust that what you do consistently will compound over time.CONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.comTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Discipline, Success & Staying Present00:30 — Welcome Back / Feeling Better01:45 — Why I’m Talking About Discipline02:13 — Motivation vs. Discipline03:15 — Discipline Is a Skill You Can Develop03:35 — Why Consistent Action Creates Success04:15 — Building Confidence by Keeping Small Promises04:43 — Why Success Requires Staying Present05:53 — Stop Living in the “Helicopter View”06:11 — Why Obsessing Over the End Goal Makes Discipline Harder07:20 — Daily Action & the Compound Effect08:07 — Changing Your Expectations of the Journey09:26 — Starting Before You Have Everything Figured Out09:46 — Procrastination, Overthinking & Getting Stuck in the Big Picture11:46 — How I Build Discipline in Business12:44 — Structure, Scheduling & Staying Organized13:55 — The Daily To-Do List & Keeping Promises to Yourself17:04 — Discipline in Mental Health & Therapy18:03 — Discipline With Fitness & Physical Health19:37 — Supplements, Skincare & Everyday Commitments21:40 — The Compound Effect Beyond Money22:50 — Anyone Can Build Discipline24:26 — The Real Key: Showing Up for Yourself24:40 — Why Success Is in the Journey, Not the End Goal25:00 — Applying Discipline to Healing, Happiness & Being Present25:31 — Final Thoughts26:01 — Outro

August 4, 2026Episode 15856 min

You Have to Be Delusional: How to Reprogram Your Mind, Navigating Sobriety, Break Free from People-Pleasing, Take Accountability, & Decenter Men | MJ Gray

#158: On today’s episode, Han sits down with MJ Gray, content creator and host of the Maneater podcast, as she shares her personal healing journey: discovering the power of her mind and learning how to reprogram the beliefs that had shaped her life.After years of trying to get sober, and living through what she describes as a continuous dark night of the soul, MJ realized sobriety would require more than willpower. MJ and Han unpack manifestation, addiction, childhood trauma, people pleasing, self-love, accountability, decentering men, and why accepting the discomfort of life may be the key to finally finding peace.The girls get into:the power of your mind and reprogramming deeply rooted beliefs and childhood conditioningWhy changing your life can initially feel irrational or delusionalHow addiction and unhealthy coping mechanisms can change formsMJ’s spiritual awakening and relationship with manifestationUsing meditation and mindset to create a different realityHow the expectation to always be happy makes us unhappyTaking accountability for your healing without invalidating your traumaMoving beyond victimhood while maintaining compassion for yourselfLetting go of guilt, jealousy, anger, and self-hatredHealing patterns created by narcissistic or emotionally unhealthy parentsBreaking free from people pleasing and the need to be likedLearning to genuinely love yourself and embrace who you areHow unresolved trauma can recreate familiar relationshipsDecentering men and creating fulfillment outside of relationships& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating sobriety, childhood trauma, people pleasing, self-doubt, or a difficult mental health journey. It is for the woman learning how to reprogram negative beliefs.TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00 — Introduction00:05:32 — Getting existential and questioning everything00:05:44 — How sobriety led MJ to social media00:06:18 — The desire to feel seen and understood00:06:48 — MJ’s sobriety journey00:07:05 — Experiencing a continuous dark night of the soul00:09:58 — Why addiction can change forms00:10:26 — Coping with the discomfort of being human00:11:17 — Why expecting constant happiness makes us unhappy00:12:26 — Childhood trauma, victimhood, and personal accountability00:14:33 — Falling down, trying again, and releasing guilt00:15:07 — Why guilt can create more self-hatred00:15:41 — MJ’s spiritual awakening after getting sober00:16:16 — Discovering meditation and spirituality00:16:55 — Relapse and discovering the power of the mind00:17:28 — Applying manifestation and mindset to sobriety00:17:44 — The day MJ quit drinking and smoking00:18:12 — Convincing herself she no longer liked alcohol00:19:03 — Reprogramming beliefs created by a narcissistic parent00:20:00 — Why transforming your life can feel delusional00:20:57 — Resetting your childhood programming00:23:25 — Does MJ care what other people think?00:24:10 — Why people pleasing never worked00:24:53 — Self-love, insecurity, and genuinely liking yourself00:25:19 — Learning to water the lawn you already have00:25:44 — Releasing the things you cannot control00:26:07 — Why peace has to begin within you00:27:13 — Life gets easier to carry00:28:56 — Where your attention goes, your energy flows00:29:17 — Moving beyond rumination and self-pity00:29:35 — Why traumatic patterns can feel like home00:30:04 — Taking accountability for repeated patterns00:34:08 — Why women need to start decentering men00:34:47 — Creating fulfillment outside of relationships00:35:56 — Loving men without centering them00:36:12 — The risks women face within relationships00:36:34 — Expecting romantic partners to add value to your lifeCONNECT BELOWFollow MJ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow MANEATER hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

July 28, 202658 min

Why Getting Everything You Want Can Still Leave You Empty: Validation Addiction, Building Self-Worth, Stepping into Sobriety, Quieting Negative Self Talk, & Choosing Peace | Isaac Hindin-Miller

#157: On today’s episode, Han sits down with Isaac Hindin-Miller, a fashion journalist turned DJ, interviewer, content creator, and founder of I LIKE YOU!, for an honest conversation about external validation, low self-worth, negative self-talk, and the lifelong work of learning how to feel whole within yourself.Isaac and Han unpack the realization that no amount of attention, achievement, access, popularity, or external approval can fill an internal void. They discuss what it actually takes to rebuild your self-esteem, interrupt destructive thought patterns, stop outsourcing your worth, and choose peace and acceptance instead of constantly chasing happiness. They get into:Why external approval can never create lasting self-worthWhy happiness cannot be contingent on external validationChoosing acceptance and peace instead of chasing constant happinessNavigating imposter syndrome and self doubtHow to interrupt cruel and destructive negative self-talkThe problem with finding validation elsewhereDepression, sobriety, and breaking cycles of self-destructive behaviorThe connection between low self-esteem and unhealthy coping mechanisms Social media, comparison, and attaching your value to your workIntellectualizing trauma instead of allowing yourself to feel itWhy understanding your emotions is different from actually feeling themHow choosing a different behavior can lead to a healthier mindsetFinding identity, hobbies, and joy outside of your careerHow relationships act as mirrors for the parts of ourselves that still need healing& MORE!This episode is for anyone who has ever looked outside of themselves for proof that they are worthy, lovable, important, or enough. This is a conversation for those doing the daily work to quiet the voices that tear you down, and learning to build a sense of self-worth that does not depend on attention, accomplishments, or validation. TIMESTAMPS:00:57 Isaac joins the podcast04:25 Is the life he dreamed about everything he thought it would be?05:21 Why reaching the top does not fill the internal void05:40 The daily work required to feel whole06:02 Accepting the human condition06:13 Finding peace within the mundanity of life06:26 Chasing happiness versus choosing acceptance06:44 Redefining happiness as peace07:06 Why happiness cannot be contingent on something happening07:42 Isaac’s drive to reach the top08:37 Experiencing bullying and rejection growing up09:56 Building your self-worth on a foundation of sand16:02 Growing the I LIKE YOU! parties from 800 to 3,000 people in New York City16:33 Imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and feeling like a fraud16:57 Feeling isolated while surrounded by crowds17:05 The conversation with Isaac’s dad that changed his perspective17:46 Becoming a victim to your own story18:07 The danger of constantly thinking about yourself18:20 Learning to interrupt negative self-talk19:35 Accepting that the negative voices may never fully disappear19:59 Moving toward something positive or negative20:14 Depression and self-destructive coping mechanisms21:20 Rebuilding self-esteem from within21:32 The connection between mental health and low self-worth22:47 Social media, validation, and mental health23:55 Attaching your personal value to your business24:42 Sobriety and learning how to feel27:12 Intellectualizing emotions and suppressing vulnerability27:52 Understanding yourself versus feeling your emotions28:28 Changing your behavior to change your mindset33:51 The importance in finding a hobby34:53 Having the courage to redefine who you are48:18 How relationships act as mirrorsCONNECT BELOW:Follow Isaac hereFollow I Like You hereRead Isaac's Substack hereCONNECT with HAN:Follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠Watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠Shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

July 21, 2026Episode 15652 min

How to Build Self-Trust, Choosing Courage Over Comfort, Facing the Unknown, Leaving the Life You’ve Outgrown, & Building a Full Life Without Waiting for the Right Partner | Jess Windell

#156: This week, Han sits down with Jess Windell, founder of Maven PR and a public relations expert to investigate what it takes to build a foundation of self-trust through acts of courage.Jess and Han have an honest conversation about the psychology behind confidence, courage, risk, productivity, ambition, and creating a life that feels meaningful beyond your career. Jess shares how calling off her wedding four months before it was supposed to happen became the catalyst for nearly every major decision that followed, and taught her that doing the hardest thing can open the door to an entirely different life. The girls get into:Why confidence is the outcome of courageHow taking risks builds self-trustCalling off a wedding when nothing was “wrong,” but it still wasn’t rightWhy comfort can keep you trapped in the wrong lifeLetting go of the timeline and future you plannedNavigating rejection, uncertainty, and unexpected changesManifestation beyond material goalsThe pressure to always be productiveWhy traditional ideas of rest do not work for everyoneSeparating your worth from your career, relationship, or motherhoodCreating a full life before finding a partner or having childrenWhy placing your entire identity into one area of your life can be dangerousAllowing different parts of your life to thrive during different seasonsThe psychology, vulnerability, and human connection behind PRWhy audiences are craving more truth and authenticityHow Jess went from never wanting to own a business to founding Maven ConsultingWhy many businesses are not ready for traditional full-service PRDemocratizing PR and making the industry more accessible& MORE!This episode is for anyone learning how to trust themselves, make a difficult decision, leave something that is comfortable but no longer aligned, or release the pressure to have their entire life figured out. Jess and Han remind us that confidence does not always come before the leap—sometimes, confidence is built by proving to yourself that you are capable of taking it.TIMESTAMPS:00:53 — Welcome Jess to the podcast01:07 — The psychology and human connection behind PR02:40 — Was Jess always confident?03:32 — Confidence is the outcome of courage05:30 — Why your life can become better when you take risks06:45 — How Jess learned to trust herself07:13 — Calling off her wedding four months before it happened08:43 — Leaving when nothing is wrong, but it is not right09:15 — How uncertainty keeps us trapped09:29 — Getting uncomfortable to find true comfort11:25 — Discovering a new life on the other side of fear12:06 — Manifesting the feelings you want to experience13:30 — Becoming too attached to the life you planned13:57 — Letting go of control and welcoming change15:35 — Finding balance within the gray areas16:05 — Productivity, anxiety, and the pressure to always be doing more19:12 — Why rest looks different for everyone22:03 — Would Jess make the same decision nine years later?23:05 — The conversation around whether women can “have it all”24:11 — Creating a full life outside of a partner and children24:43 — Why your entire identity cannot live in one area25:22 — Nothing in life will be a 10 out of 10 all the time27:08 — Understanding the different seasons of life29:02 — Why Jess never planned to start a business29:40 — Her desire to transform the PR industry30:00 — Building an in-house PR team at Perfect Bar31:30 — Earning a seat at the table34:10 — The meaning behind the name Maven36:00 — Why audiences are craving truth and vulnerability38:32 — Why Jess turns away potential clients39:20 — Democratizing and demystifying PRCONNECT BELOW:follow Jess ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠check out Jess's PR program Catalyst hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

July 14, 2026Episode 15553 min

Surrendering Is a Choice: Facing Stage 3 Breast Cancer at 19, Reframing Trauma, Choosing a Positive Mindset, Using Language to Reclaim Agency, & Reclaiming Our Power | Miranda McKeon

#155: On today’s episode, Han sits down with actress, founder, and breast cancer survivor Miranda McKeon for a conversation around mental health, grief, identity, and what it means to surrender. At 19 years old, Miranda had just come off the Netflix series Anne with an E when she discovered a small lump in her breast. She quickly was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer.Miranda and Han explore how trauma changes your relationship with mental health, and how Miranda reclaimed a sense of agency. The girls get into:Being diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and how she navigated eight rounds of chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and 25 rounds of radiationThe mental, physical, and spiritual toll of cancer treatmentThe grief that comes when the future you imagined suddenly disappearsHaving to surrender when you are someone who craves controlLearning to speak to yourself like someone who will always have your backnavigating depression as someone who never struggled with mental health issuesthe problem with outsourcing comfort and validationhow women tether themselves to our physical appearance The complicated relationship women have with beauty, value, and appearanceMoving away from a “why me?” mentality and the art of reframingHow changing your language can help you reclaim agencyWhy surrendering can still be an intentional choiceHow facing mortality changed the way Miranda values her time and her lifeLearning not to waste energy obsessing over things you cannot controlTherapy, journaling, and returning to the tools that support your mental healthThe breast cancer signs and symptoms young women need to knowThe rise of breast cancer diagnoses among young women& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating grief, depression, trauma, illness, or a season of life that has forced them to release control. If you're looking to feel inspired to move through your trauma, this episode is for you!TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction05:21 – Coming off Anne with an E and believing her career was just beginning05:40 – Being diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer at 1906:00 – Finding a lump during a breast self-exam07:55 – The immediate mental-health impact of a cancer diagnosis08:25 – Surrendering control when your future feels uncertain11:07 – Why your relationship with mental health changes over time11:35 – Egg freezing, chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and radiation11:50 – The mental, physical, and spiritual toll of cancer treatment12:30 – Depression and losing hope for the future15:00 – Grieving the life and future you thought you were going to have16:20 – Why mental-health struggles can feel so isolating18:04 – Outsourcing comfort and validation when you feel alone19:40 – The wounds cancer brought to the surface20:35 – Why women are taught to use beauty as an asset21:58 – Why losing her hair did not feel empowering22:30 – Moving away from a “why me?” mentality25:00 – Reframing the way you speak about difficult experiences25:15 – Changing “I have to” into “I get to”25:39 – Using language to reclaim agency and control27:13 – How surrendering can still be a choice31:35 – Why Miranda no longer perseverates on everything that goes wrong32:00 – How facing mortality changed the way she values her life32:20 – What Lexapro and antidepressants actually changed34:29 – Learning how to live with the unknown35:07 – Struggling to release control35:33 – Why obsessing over what you cannot change only wastes your energy36:00 – Returning to the mental-health tools that support you36:43 – Therapy as a tool for healing40:22 – Creating resources for women navigating breast cancer42:30 – The rise of breast cancer among young womenCONNECT BELOW:follow Miranda ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Fill Your Tank hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠

July 7, 2026Episode 1541 hr 5 min

How to Attract a Healthy Relationship: Healing Attachment Wounds, How to Spot Love Bombing, Chemistry vs. Compatibility, Red Flags, & Non-Negotiable Dating Conversations | Niko Emanuilidis

#154: On today's episode, Han sits down with the creator and dating coach behind The Daddy Academy, Niko Emanuilidis, for the first-ever dating conversation with a man on the podcast. The girls wanted to know about modern dating, relationships, red flags, what men actually think, and what women should be looking for in a healthy partner... and Niko unapologetically gets into it.Han and Niko explore the male perspective on dating so women can better understand the other side, while also breaking down what it actually looks like to date a healthy, emotionally mature man. This episode covers why so many of us keep repeating the same relationship patterns, why healing doesn't always stop you from attracting unhealthy partners, and why the real work is learning to recognize and reject what no longer aligns with you.Niko and Han get into:How childhood wounds shape who you're attracted toWhy healing doesn't stop you from attracting unhealthy people—you simply have to stop choosing themWhy a healthy man can embody both masculine and feminine energyWhat emotional regulation actually looks like in a relationship, especially when looking for a boyfriend/long term partnerWhy women are evolving emotionally faster than menWhy relationships often become the next stage of healingThe five conversations every couple should have within the first few datesHow to know if someone is dating intentionallyThe difference between chemistry and compatibilityWhat men wish women better understood about datingWhat women should actually look for in a healthy partnerThe biggest red flags women consistently missHow to recognize love bombing before it's too lateWhy healthy love feels calm instead of chaoticThe importance of pacing and boundaries in early datingFinding your core wound and breaking unhealthy dating patternsWhat it actually takes to attract the relationship you deserveThe importance of being seen& MORE!This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in unhealthy dating patterns, struggles with attachment wounds, or wants to build a secure, emotionally healthy relationship. If you're navigating dating anxiety, love bombing, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, emotional unavailability, or the fear of being fully seen, this conversation will completely change the way you think about love.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction01:02 – Meet Niko from The Daddy Academy02:53 – What healthy masculine energy actually looks like04:45 – Why emotionally available men are the most attractive07:06 – Why women are evolving emotionally faster than men08:57 – Do you have to heal before entering a healthy relationship?10:10 – Why you date your unfinished business10:26 – Why healing doesn't stop emotionally unavailable people from showing up17:02 – What women are really looking for in men today20:27 – The five conversations every couple should have early on23:24 – How to know if someone is dating intentionally25:33 – Why talking about past relationships matters29:09 – Learning to be fully seen in relationships32:45 – Identifying your core wound and attachment patterns33:16 – What men wish women understood about dating39:02 – The biggest dating red flags women miss39:23 – How love bombing starts with high chemistry and obsession40:00 – Why you can't rush the dating process40:58 – The difference between calm love and anxious chemistry41:22 – What healthy obsession actually looks like42:33 – Why pacing and boundaries matter in early dating46:26 – Why you should never date someone's potential48:10 – Why your time is your greatest asset while dating53:05 – How to attract the healthy relationship you deserve54:50 – Why being fully seen helps you find your person1:00:24 – Stop chasing your future spouse and start loving your own lifeCONNECT BELOW:Follow Niko hereFollow the Daddy Academy hereJoin his Dating program herefollow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠

June 30, 2026Episode 15334 min

What Makes Life Worth Living: Pursuing Healing, Accepting Life's Dualities, Exploring Happiness After Trauma, Navigating Depression & Anxiety, Overcoming Fear, Letting Go of Control, & More

#153: On today's solo episode, Han opens up about one of the hardest seasons of her life and the question she's been asking:What actually makes life worth living?Despite experiencing the most success she's ever had in her career, Han shares why she's simultaneously been navigating one of the darkest chapters of her personal life. She reflects on returning to therapy, her experience with MDMA-assisted therapy, healing from complex trauma, and why she believes so much of our suffering comes from resisting life's inevitable dualities rather than learning to hold them.This episode is an honest conversation about mental health, depression, healing, fear, and learning to find freedom even when life feels uncertain. Han explores why happiness can actually feel more frightening than pain after trauma, why control keeps us stuck, and why true healing begins the moment we stop trying to escape discomfort and start embracing life's gray areas.Han gets into:what actually makes life worth livingwhy success doesn't always equal happinessreturning to therapy and pursuing deeper healingMDMA-assisted therapy and reconnecting to your bodyintellectualizing your emotions vs. actually feeling themaccepting life's dualities instead of resisting themlearning to live in the grayperfectionism, overachievement, and the need for controlwhy happiness can feel scarier than traumaexploring happiness after traumafinding safety outside of your identity as someone who has sufferedletting go of the stories you've had to carry to survivewhy avoiding discomfort creates more sufferingthe truth behind fearwhy trying to escape fear becomes its own prisonnavigating depression through acceptance rather than avoidanceletting go of control and choosing freedom over certaintywhat it really means to build a life worth livingHappiness as a brave choice& MORE!This episode is for anyone who is having a hard time accepting the dualities of life. If you've been navigating depression, complex trauma, burnout, or a season where life feels both beautiful and incredibly difficult, this conversation is for you. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is allow yourself to explore what happiness can truly feel like. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction00:43 – Why I've been putting off this solo episode01:25 – Going back to therapy to heal deeper layers of trauma02:11 – The paradox of success: Why achievement doesn't always bring happiness03:40 – Learning to accept life's dualities and live in the gray04:00 – Growing up around narcissism and how it shaped the way I cope05:13 – What actually makes life worth living?06:30 – My experience with MDMA-assisted therapy07:08 – Intellectualizing emotions vs. feeling them in your body08:07 – The perfectionism I didn't realize I had09:19 – Can we sit with life's uncertainty instead of trying to escape it?10:28 – Why discomfort makes us retreat11:24 – Letting go of control instead of avoiding your feelings11:43 – How accepting ambiguity creates freedom13:02 – Why happiness can feel scarier than trauma14:46 – Letting go of an identity rooted in suffering15:29 – Why acceptance can transform your relationships and career17:38 – Navigating a dark night of the soul19:48 – The vulnerability of exploring happiness20:10 – When discomfort becomes familiar24:27 – Why external validation never creates lasting safety25:19 – Fear, discomfort, and why we struggle to sit with uncertainty27:22 – How trying to escape fear becomes its own prisonCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

June 23, 2026Episode 1521 hr 2 min

Pain Is Required for Joy: Processing Your Feelings, Embracing Life's Dualities, Letting Go of Control, Healing Through Psychology & Spirituality, Understanding Shame & More | Aliza Shapiro

#152: On today's episode, psychotherapist and founder of Therapy in the City,  joins the podcast for a conversation about what it actually means to heal.So many of us spend our lives chasing happiness while trying to avoid pain, but what if the very thing we're resisting is what allows us to experience the deepest joy?Aliza explains why healing isn't about becoming happy all the time, but about learning to embrace the full human experience. The girls unpack why discomfort isn't something to escape, why uncertainty is one of life's greatest teachers, and how letting go of control can completely transform the way we experience life. The girls get into:why pain is required for joywhy avoiding your emotions creates more sufferingprocessing your feelings instead of escaping themaccepting the full human experienceembracing life's dualitieswhy happiness isn't the goal of healingletting go of control and embracing uncertaintywhy some people naturally experience emotions more intenselythe Biosocial Theory and why mental health isn't always rooted in traumawhy you are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiencesthe difference between your first thought and your second thought (more on rewiring the brain)why high achievers often struggle to feel their emotionsslowing down, stillness, and the power of the pauseunderstanding shame and where it stems fromwhat Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is and how it helps us healpsychology and spirituality... why healing requires bothredefining what true joy actually looks likedating, attachment styles, and choosing relationships that align with your values& MORE!This episode is for anyone who struggles to relinquish control, finds themselves in patterns of emotional avoidance, or is constantly chasing happiness while resisting pain. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by uncertainty, uncomfortable emotions, or the inevitable ups and downs of life, this conversation will completely reframe what healing actually looks like. Because true joy isn't found in avoiding pain... it's found in learning how to hold both.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction01:09 – What actually brings people to therapy?04:49 – Feeling emotions deeply and learning how to process them05:53 – The Biosocial Theory: Why some people feel emotions more intensely07:03 – Healing isn't only for people with trauma08:04 – You are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiences09:38 – Stop trying to control what you can't control10:39 – Why healing is about beginning again13:29 – Learning to embrace uncertainty16:48 – Why happiness isn't the destination17:19 – Why pain is required for joy18:05 – Emotional avoidance: Why avoiding your feelings creates more suffering20:26 – You can be self-aware and still be emotionally unavailable21:40 – Logic vs. emotion: Learning to actually feel23:01 – The science behind emotions and slowing them down24:11 – The healing power of the pause, silence, and stillness27:01 – Shame, secrecy, and why they always go together27:48 – What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)?34:40 – Becoming comfortable with life's ambiguity36:15 – Psychology, spirituality, and trusting something bigger than yourself37:25 – The three things anxiety usually comes back to38:42 – Why external achievement can never replace internal healing40:27 – What is joy, really?48:21 – Dating, attachment, and choosing relationships that align with your valuesCONNECT BELOW:Follow Aliza hereVisit Therapy in the City hereCONNECT WITH HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

June 16, 2026Episode 1511 hr 13 min

Can Women Have It All? Imposter Syndrome, Finding Purpose in Your Career, Taking Action Through Self-Trust, Rewriting the Narrative Around Motherhood & More | Michelle Battersby

#151: On today’s episode, President of Peanut and former Bumble executive Michelle Battersby joins the podcast for an honest conversation around ambition, imposter syndrome, motherhood, and the pressure women feel to choose between building a successful career and building a family.Michelle opens up about helping scale Bumble, launching and later selling her company Sunroom, navigating the mental health challenges that come with entrepreneurship, and learning to trust herself through seasons of uncertainty. The girls unpack purpose, imposter syndrome, self-doubt, societal expectations placed on women.Michelle opens up about her own healing journey— navigating motherhood and the narratives she had to rewrite as she entered the new season.The girls get into:self-worth and tying your identity to achievementhow we can move through imposter syndromeconfidence, self-doubt, and learning to trust yourselfentrepreneurship as a mental health journeyidentifying the voice of self-trust versus self-doubthow fear keeps us trapped and prevents us from reaching our potentialbuilding Bumble and launching female-first platformsdouble standards women face in business, leadership, and successthe pressure women feel to choose between motherhood and ambitionWhy 86% of women believe motherhood will negatively impact their careersmaternal loneliness, women's mental health, and the support systems women desperately needfertility decisions, abortion, family planning, and career timingnavigating pregnancy while building a careerwhy women are still penalized for motherhood in ways men aren'tthe systems and societal structures that make balancing career and family so difficultwhy the conversation shouldn't be "can women have it all?" but rather "why is it so hard for women to have it all?"challenging outdated narratives around motherhood, ambition, and identitywork-life balance and redefining what it means to "have it all"building a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and authentic& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating imposter syndrome and anyone lost searching for purpose in their 9-5 job. This episode is also for women who are struggling with the idea of motherhood— anxiety around fertility decisions and entering the next chapter of life.CONNECT BELOW:follow Michelle herefollow Peanut hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han herefollow HOW I SEE IT herefollow Han on Substack herewatch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube hereshop the podcast merch herework with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com00:00 – Introduction02:32 – Realizing she wasn't passionate about her career04:49 – The intuition that changed her life07:53 – Self-worth, achievement, and identity10:29 – Is it wrong to tie your worth to what you do?11:16 – Different seasons of ambition and success11:42 – Fulfillment vs external achievement12:30 – Challenging gender roles through Bumble14:42 – Why Michelle is drawn to controversial conversations16:08 – Launching Sunroom and challenging societal norms18:55 – Double standards for women in business and leadership22:20 – Imposter syndrome and self-doubt22:55 – Entrepreneurship as a mental health journey24:38 – Luck, opportunity, and taking action26:20 – Learning to trust your intuition28:43 – Different forms of bravery29:00 – Identifying the voice of intuition versus fear31:46 – What would partial success look like?37:14 – Why 86% of women believe motherhood will hurt their careers38:07 – Unlearning beliefs around ambition and motherhood39:17 – Navigating pregnancy while building a company41:00 – The systems that make balancing career and family difficult43:35 – Fertility decisions, abortion, and career timing45:10 – Is there ever a "right time" to have children?51:08 – The pressure to "bounce back" after motherhood54:10 – What society gets wrong about motherhood1:04:15 – Rock bottom, ChatGPT tarot cards, and finding clarity

June 2, 2026Episode 15051 min

Heart Break is Necessary: The Danger of Settling, Releasing Childhood Wounds, Self-Abandoning, Dating Standards, Finding Authentic Love, Healing & More | Jess Girod

#150: On today's episode, Jess Girod, creator, season 27 contestant of The Bachelor, and season 9 contestant of Bachelor in Paradise, jumps on the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, self-worth, childhood wounds, and the relationship patterns we unknowingly carry into adulthood. Jess opens up about growing up in a household filled with conflict, the fear of repeating her parents' relationship, and the realization that she was settling—not just in dating, but in life.Through stories of heartbreak, healing, situationships, and self-discovery, Jess shares how some of her most painful experiences became the catalyst for deeper growth. The girls unpack self-abandonment, fear of intimacy, closure, emotional availability, dating standards, and what it actually means to build a relationship rooted in authenticity rather than familiarity. This conversation is a reminder that healing isn't about finding the right person—it's about becoming someone who no longer abandons themselves.The girls get into:fear of repeating your parents' relationshipgrowing up around conflict and how childhood wounds shape adult relationshipswhy we often settle for what feels familiarself-abandonment and losing yourself in relationshipsnavigating betrayal, heartbreak, and relationship traumawhy heartbreak can become one of life's greatest teachersfear of intimacy and emotional vulnerabilitylearning that authentic love requires authenticity from yourself firstwhy closure isn't something another person can give yousituationships, rejection, and unanswered questionsrelationship patterns and breaking cycles that no longer serve youself-worth while singlethe pressure women feel to find a relationshipdating standards, emotional availability, and self-respectwhy the right relationship won't require convincing, chasing, or forcingchoosing hope after heartbreakThis episode is for anyone healing from heartbreak, working through childhood wounds, questioning a relationship, struggling with self-worth, or trying to break old relationship patterns. If you've ever found yourself settling, seeking closure, abandoning your needs, or wondering why the same lessons keep showing up in your relationships, this conversation will remind you that healing begins when you stop looking for validation outside of yourself and start trusting what you already know.CONNECT BELOW:Follow Jess on InstagramFollow Jess on Tik TokCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

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