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June 7, 2026Episode 8223 min

FS82 - Facilitating in communities with Jeffrey Marr

In today's episode, Umah is joined by Jeff Marr, founder of The Practical Philosophy Club, to unpack the unique art of community facilitation and what it takes to design unstructured, safe spaces for deep, depolarising conversation. Moving away from top-down corporate agendas, Jeff explores how his grassroots, peer-led facilitation model grew from a casual living room meetup in Mexico into a global network hosting over 800 people a week across 28 countries. They talk about: The power of the introduction and why the first few minutes are the facilitator's most critical tool for setting guidelines on airtime, monologue-busting, and vulnerability The "jam session" approach to facilitation, shifting the practitioner's role from a rigid authority figure to a light touch that trusts adults to self-moderate and navigate their own dialogue Holding space for ideological friction and practical techniques to de-escalate heated moments, calm group triggers, and help people sit with constructive discomfort The spectrum of group dynamics, from managing large groups by scaling into small, co-facilitated tables, to knowing when to let a little healthy chaos ride. Quote highlights "I think that's one of our main issues in society is that we have these echo chambers that no one's breaking out of, and our algorithms are pushing us to go further into it." "...you want to have a strong frame of reality and a sense of confidence in yourself, so that you can hear." "We've had several people who, we could call them say problematic, right? Like a little bit quick to anger easily triggered these type of things. And I have seen them blossom... they're able to hear all these opinions without getting triggered anymore so it's been beautiful to see that." Links Today's guest: Jeffery Marr — Practical Philosophy Club Founder https://www.practicalphilosophy.club & https://www.linkedin.com/in/practicalphilosophyy/ To join a Practical Philosophy Meetup in a country near you, head to: https://www.practicalphilosophy.club/practical-philosophy-locations/ Today's host: Umah Ganeshalingam — Change and Transformation Advisor and Facilitator https://www.linkedin.com/in/umah To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF England & Wales Chapter: 🎧 https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ 📧 podcast@iaf-ew.co.uk 🌐https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales Transcript: Umah: Hello, and welcome to Facilitation Stories. This podcast is brought to you by the England and Wales Chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Umah, and today we're going to hear about "Facilitating in Communities". In August last year, I went to Toronto and joined a meetup where I had the most wonderful time. Today's guest is the architect of that experience, Jeff Marr. He is the founder of the Practical Philosophy Club, a charity that has sparked deep discussions in communities in over 28 countries. Jeff, welcome. Welcome to the show. Jeff: Thank you, Umah Umah: So first off, I wanted you to tell our listeners a little bit about Practical Philosophy Club, what it means to you, and why you started it. Jeff: Practical Philosophy is mostly the opportunity for us to have deep discussion. We started post-COVID-ish, so 2021, at the very end of it, going into 2022, and people were hungry for conversation. And so that was more or less how it got started. And then over the last little while, it just grew exponentially more or less, and it took us about two years to set the foundations, figure out what it was that we even believed in. What were we trying to even do here? I'm a big fan of philosophy, and I wanted to have a space where people could talk. I think that what we need is more transparency and honesty and less polarisation in the world, and so that's through a roundabout fun way, enjoyable way. We're putting people into a room who have all these different opinions, all these different thoughts, and they're able to communicate with one another. And on social media and in traditional media, they would more or less consider themselves enemies. But then you get people who have very different political beliefs, and they realise they have a lot more in common. We aren't enemies to one another. I really like to see people think things through, and it's an opportunity to go deep into a conversation, both very logically, but also in the esoteric sense. I'm also a big fan of self-development, too. A lot of people, they're not necessarily open to self-development because it has a bad rap. But they come to Practical Philosophy 'cause, like, yeah, I do the practical aspect of it, and it does help people with whatever they're going through, even though they're learning different ways of thinking about situations in their life without directly confronting. And through that exploration of that topic, maybe it'll unlock different insights. Umah: You've got Practical Philosophy Club in all those different countries, and a lot of the facilitation is happening in communities where there's different cultures, different socioeconomic backgrounds, and every week everyone's talking about the same topic, and you've set that up for a reason, haven't you? Jeff: It was an accident. Umah: It was an accident! Jeff: Yeah! Umah: Tell me then, how was it an accident? Jeff: I just tried to have a meetup in my living room in. I was living in Mexico, so I just hosted a meetup, and I didn't really know how it was gonna go. The first one was just me reading quotes off my laptop and so then through iteration, it became what it became. I wasn't familiar with any facilitation, so we built it from the ground up. And then as we've gone, we've found different organisations that are doing good work and trying to see if there's anything that we can implement through our processes. The reason it happened by accident is just 'cause I was in Mexico, but I'm from Canada. Umah: Yeah. Jeff: And then we opened one in Canada. We needed to learn how to figure out how to run these and how to make them survive and how to make them thrive. And then we also moved to Valencia in Spain, and then we tried it there and it worked. And so after that, it took on a life of its own. So it wasn't really the intention. It was just meaningful. Philosophy's nerdy, and I was mostly confused for a long time. Why are people even showing up? Why are people coming to this? When we opened our first one in Vancouver in the west end of Canada, this guy came up to me and he was like, "This is very brave to call it philosophy. If you would call it deep conversations, maybe more people would come. People don't like philosophy." I was like, "Yeah, that's fair, but I personally love philosophy as a basis of everything that we are. And so if we can, I guess, reinvent the idea of what that means because I don't like the academia version of philosophy necessarily. I don't hate it, but like it's not accessible to a lot of people. How do we introduce this idea that philosophy is a way of critical thinking and figuring things out for yourself and, say they're stressed about work. This is just my opinion, but we can't rely on authority figures because things are changing so much. And so how can we indirectly help people understand that whatever your conclusions are gonna be, they're gonna have to be your conclusions because we can't rely on the government to tell us, "Oh, this is the direction to go. Go to school, go to university, get a job." It's, that's not necessarily an option, so how can we help build that together, but then as well have this community of very unique type of person who comes every week, and you get to meet some very cool people there through it. Umah: And so to build that community and have people meet others and connect in a meaningful way, you have facilitators who obviously don't lead the conversation, but, um, you have them there so that they can set the guidelines, set the scene, and ensure that good, deep discussions take place in all these different cultures around the world. And so the facilitators, they mostly do that through the introduction, right? It's quite important to you, so could you tell me why? Jeff: Yeah. The introduction the most important part, and that was again, something I didn't realise until my friend Susanna in Playa del Carmen in Mexico, she was the one who showed me that introduction sets the tone for when we split into different groups for how people are supposed to behave within this space, and our guidelines that we have is mostly like no side talk, right? Give people realm where they can speak. We want you to share your story. We want you to be as vulnerable as you're comfortable to be, but also just be aware of how much it is that you're talking. How much of your story are you sharing? Are you on a 15-minute monologue? So keeping in mind that it is a group conversation. You just share these things at the beginning because although they're guidelines, they're not hard rules, it's something that we believe helps make the conversation better. We're not here to just hear how smart and cool I am. We're here to hear new perspectives, and we want everyone to have that opportunity. We have been trying to figure out how we can do that without even having a host, and I think we will always need someone to start it up. Our Mississauga group, which is a city outside of Toronto, they've got a pretty big group, and people come consistently, but there's one main guy who gives the introduction. But if, if he can't make it, we want it to be as minimal words as we can make it to set the tone. Anyone can do this. Umah: You've got the guidelines, and you've got really good introduction on how to set the session up and that's really helpful for someone who's quite interested in doing this. Not everyone is necessarily needing to be a professional to facilitate. It's not always necessarily a qualification. Sometimes it's a skill that you can practice, and you can learn. Jeff: And I guess it's interesting or lucky That this was the decision that we decided to go with. Someone once told me that it's similar to a jam session. The point is to jam. You can't mess it up if we're all aligned on what we're doing here Umah: I like that. I wonder if it's a perspective thing in terms of what messing it up looks like. Has there been, for example, a time where a group's been particularly rowdy or it's been quite heated discussion, and whether you or the facilitators had to make a decision to step in? Or do you, facilitators as more of an observer and let the group go the direction they're going? Jeff: I like a little chaos. It's, it's tough. I do mostly focus on how is everyone else feeling with it. We don't wanna have a very rowdy group, so we do try to not get too lit around here. But yeah, every now and then, if it does get very heated, I'm like, "Hey guys, let's take a breath. Let's pause here for a second. Take a breath, and then we'll go back into it." So it's, generally speaking, it would be the main issue with facilitation. I do think we need certain people to lead the charge on it always. So say for the one that you went to in Toronto, right? We had 155 people last week, and so we can't have that many people at one table. So we split into smaller groups, and each group has its own semi-moderator, and there's different ways of doing that. So the Toronto group does moderators, and I think they do a phenomenal job, and they're irreplaceable by being open, and it helps to have someone, like everyone knows, okay, this is our moderator, this person's just gonna keep us on track. But then our Vancouver group, the way the host there, Shania, she said it, she's, "These are adults. They're self-sufficient, and they can manage the group on their own." That's what the introduction is for, and then they'll moderate themselves because when we give that agency to the group- Mm. Umah: How many have you got attending these sessions around the world? Jeff: Globally, we have about 800 a week. We're opening more all the time. We had one opened in Taipei in Taiwan, and then we also have another one in Vietnam, and then another one in Spain in Malaga. The goal that we're looking at is we want to put this in every city. Anyone who wants these conversations, which isn't everyone, but there is a certain subset of the population that's looking for these deep conversations, and we wanna be able to make that accessible to them. Umah: What are you hoping they come away with? For example, some people might go for one, some people might be a regular. Jeff: I believe that if anyone wants to do anything, it has to come from within. Mm. So having that awakening where they're like, "Oh, this is the direction to head." I don't believe that a guru makes sense. I'm a big fan of communication. Listening to perspectives, it helps. I don't wanna get too into politics, but say America, everyone's talking about Trump all the time, right? And so there's people who bring up Trump in a negative light every conversation, and it's annoying, and there's people who bring up Trump in a positive light every conversation, and it's also annoying. But if they can come together and instead of dogmatically thinking- This guy's good or this guy's bad. Is there a way that we can think about what he actually is doing or what's actually happening, what's deeper beyond what we're hearing in the news? If I were to long-term think of the goal, it would be a willingness to communicate disagreements or a willingness to listen to people with alternative perspectives to what we would consider normal or what we, what our immediate social circle talks about 'cause we don't want echo chambers. I think that's one of our main issues in society is that we have these echo chambers that no one's breaking out of, and our algorithms are pushing us to go further into it. Umah: For me, this is why what you do and facilitation is really important because we facilitate in corporate environments, but also in the community. It's easing people, the general public, hear perspectives that they might be either uncomfortable with or disagree on. It's helping people sit with discomfort in a safe environment where you're saying it's a discussion, it's not debate. Yes, there's politicians doing their thing, asking for votes. There's people also trying to convince someone to follow their rhetoric, say, but this isn't that. This is for the individual to open up their mind and think for themselves and put ideas together, hear different perspectives. I think it's already very impactful, but I feel the potential for these facilitated sessions with general public has so much of an untapped potential. It helps people go forwards without anger, a bit more calmly. Jeff: I'm a big fan of just being calm and not stressed, and so the more opinions that we hear that we may disagree with or that may trigger us, the less triggered we're gonna get, the more we encounter them. It's completely understandable if you hear something, like, completely outrageous. You're gonna get, like, that initial boost of, "I don't like this. I wanna defend it." But eventually I've seen over the course of this, I can hear these people verbally attacking me or saying I'm a horrendous person, and it doesn't bother me even if it feels like a personal attack on me. Can I listen and is there an actual point to what they're saying that I can actually implement within my life if we can take that away and listen to every piece of feedback? That's a little tough, though because a lot of people have some pretty interesting ideas that aren't useful, and so I would add a c- caveat in that You want to have a strong frame of reality and a sense of confidence in yourself so that you can hear. I do think you need a sense of confidence in who you are as a person, and so that would come through self-exploration. Then you can, okay, is there something worth hearing about here or something worth taking into consideration here? Umah: It's inevitable really that there's gonna be a difference of opinion in any group, even if it was the same kind of demographics. It's different experiences that people have had. Have you seen, for example, people blossom or change, their mindset change, opinions change? Have you seen that within the work you do yourself? Jeff: Yeah. We've had several people who we could call them, say, problematic, right? Like a little bit quick to anger, easily triggered, these type of things, and I have seen them blossom into more or less leaders of the community, and they're able to... Okay, they're able to make fun of themselves. They're more confident in themselves. They're able to, yeah, hear all these opinions without getting triggered anymore, so it's been beautiful to see that. I can see that it's happened within me too. I've heard all these different things. Now I have to actually explore these topics. If I'm gonna have a big mouth, I gotta be able to understand it or learn more so I can, if not change my perspective, understand deeper why my perspective is this way already. Umah: If this kept growing and there was no limit, what do you feel is exciting and keeping you going? Do you have a specific goal that you reach and be proud of and say, "Yep, I've got to this point"? Jeff: I'm not sure how familiar you are with the Dune series. Have you read it? Umah: Yeah. Okay. I've not read it. I've seen it, and I've played the game. Jeff: Oh, there's a game? Yeah, so I guess the Dune's about this sand world where there's a very valuable powder that pretty much allows for intergalactic space travel. Within that universe, there's people called truth sayers, and so they can hear if anyone's lying. It's a very hard thing to measure, but I think it would be a big win if we actually see politicians, like, nuance perspective, here's why we're gonna do this, and it's not, like, gaslighting. It's to look like we're gonna do this for the good of this community. Here's the drawbacks of it. So just i- if we can see more transparency with politicians or governing bodies and less shaming. Now society is filled with people who more or less know what lying looks like, know what these tools of manipulation that people in positions of power have been using. They're intuitively recognisable. Then people would have to govern for the purpose of the actual people, which is what we've claimed that we've been involved with. I believe, and giving the benefit of the doubt to people in positions of power, I do believe that for the most part they probably think that people aren't smart enough to handle the truth. Like that, that movie where it's like, "You can't handle the truth." Mm. There's someone very well known. Actually, he's not well known enough, but his name is Edward Bernays, and he's pretty much the father of modern public relations. And so he's the reason that we have fluoride in our water. He was Tasked from the smelting company, how do we dispose of this toxic chemical? And it's too expensive to get rid of, so he actually hired a bunch of dentists and health professionals to tell the public that fluoride is good to prevent tooth decay in children. So as a way to dispose of fluoride, they started putting it in the water, and he used public opinion. It's called manufacturing consent. If we can see through these things then hopefully the people who are doing them, they're like, "Okay, look, we're just gonna be straight up with you. This is why we're doing this." That'd be like a long-term thing, and I think it would be organic. I'm Umah: just looking at my bookshelf. There's a book called Bad Science by Ben Goldacre. Have you heard of it before? Jeff: No, I haven't? Umah: I think you might quite like that as a read. Jeff: It's called Bad Science? Umah: Yeah. I read it whilst I was at university, but it's very on topic to what you've said there. Jeff: And this is a bit of a conspiratorial rant, so I apologise for that. Umah: We enjoy that as a different conversation. Jeff: We wanna just go into a group and have a community within society. That's it. Just let me have a nice time. Umah: I like the deeper thought behind it. It is a space where you can ask the questions that you might not wanna ask in front of other people, or you wanna explore a topic further, you might want it broken down, or you just want to get an answer that you're not getting elsewhere. What are other topic headings that you've gone through and some maybe more outlandish or weird and wonderful ones, as well as the ones like empathy and loyalty. Jeff: So generally, when someone's starting a new group, we have a list of all of the topics that we've ever done with all of the jump-off points. And so I, I believe this is honestly Something beautiful, 'cause it's like a, it's this library of every topic and every question that goes along with the topic. It's an interesting thing 'cause it's not the thoughts of any one person, it's just, are these good enough questions to help you start thinking about things from this perspective of each individual topic. And so when someone starts a new group, we generally say that we have five to 10 topics that are just certified bangers. Everyone loves them all the time. Dating is one of them. But then there's also, like, how to live a good life. It's important that we figure what a good life means for us as individuals. Victimhood was always a good topic that we have. Love and hate, life and death, those are standard ones, and people really enjoy those conversations. More outlandish ones, we did the apocalypse a little while ago, 'cause a friend of mine went to OpenAI, and he worked with these guys for a week, and he's like, "Bro, we gotta start buying land. We're all cooked, and we need to figure out a plan for it. We need to move to Norway 'cause they have a system outside of capitalism." Canada would be good as well for it because, like, we're m- more or less a socialist country. We have to figure out what to do, and that's another benefit of we have a community now. You have a community of people who more or less are, like, open to meritocracy and actually, "Okay, what's the solution? Let's figure a solution to a problem," and not just a solution that looks good. The solution is we need paper straws. Who came up with that as a solution? Does it actually help, or did the paper straw manufacturing company say to do that? That was an outlandish one. We did this only in my home group in Hamilton, but we just talked about the Epstein files because that's a big one. Everyone else talked about ego. I remember when I was living in Manila, and side topic, we're gonna talk about the giant worm in Dune. The fourth book, the main character is a big worm, so let's do a philosophy meetup where we just talk about the worm. Wow, really? And, yeah, so we did that. But those are side sessions. We have a side group just for social events, so people do board games, they'll do book clubs, they'll do walks on the beach or whatever it is, 'cause one of our main things is community building. And so we would offer this space where people can help facilitate. Umah: You should really get the games then. There's a board game and the Dune II I used to play. It was a computer game. Jeff: I do love Dune. A lot. Umah: Just before we wrap up, we have a question from one of our previous guests who asks, what crossroads are you at right now? Jeff: With the organisation or just in life generally? Umah: However you like to answer. I'll leave it to you. Jeff: The crossroads within practical philosophy is we need each chapter to be self-sustaining. So the crossroads at the moment that we're looking at, every new group, like the one that we just started in Taipei, we start asking for donations right away. We want philosophy to be accessible, so it's never an actual mandatory, obligatory, you have to pay to show up. But it is an idea where we do need to be able to fund ourselves. And the situation in London, right, you're renting out the space, that costs money- Yeah and that shouldn't be entirely on you to pay. And so us as a community, if this is something that we want, then we need to be able to self-fund. That's like probably the big organisational change that will happen in the next couple weeks. We have this centralised aspect of it that, for the time being, needs to be centralised, and this whole thing started from just a whim, and so we've been learning as we go. And so we're a little bit less, say, professional in that sense. It's easy when it's $30 that I'm paying to rent out a space in Playa del Carmen, but then we're opening new ones everywhere, and I can't actually- so we have to be an actual organisation now, so we have to operate more appropriately like that. I guess personally it's just like with the AI thing, 'cause I run a business, my company makes videos. I've got over a decade of experience making videos, animated videos. If AI's taking that, do I just figure out AI video? And we are starting to move into AI video, but outside of that, do I wanna just leave video entirely and start new things? I'll probably still always be in like marketing/training and communications, but what would that look like? So I- I'm also thinking about just stuff like that with these massive changes that are coming. Umah: And now it's your turn. Do you have a question for one of our future guests? Jeff: What potential societal changes may affect you in the future that you need to look out for? Umah: Good. Thank you, Jeff, for joining us today. Jeff: Thank you for having me, Umah. It was lovely. Umah: We have reached the end of today's episode of Facilitation Stories, the community podcast of the IAF England and Wales. If you'd like to hear more about the IAF and how to get involved, please head over to our website, www.facilitationstories.libsyn.com, to make sure you never miss an episode. We are always on the lookout for new topics to discuss, so if you think there's a facilitator that we should talk to, or you would like to share what's emerging in your world of facilitation, send us an email at podcast@iaf-ew.co.uk. We hope you join us for more Facilitation Stories again soon. Until then, thank you for listening.

May 15, 202632 min

🎙️ FS81 - Abimbola Olajide - Tactile, hands on practice

In today's episode, Olivia is joined by Abimbola Olajide, serial social entrepreneur and Chief of Play, to explore tactile, hands-on facilitation and what it means to work with the whole person in the room. With a background spanning community convening, grief support, and corporate consultancy, Abimbola shares how she found her way into facilitation and why embodied, kinesthetic approaches are at the heart of everything she does. They talk about: ● paying close attention to embodied feeling when listening to stories ● how personal experience led to founding a CIC supporting people through life transitions ● her consultancy grounded in human-centred work, congruence, and her àjọṣe ("let's do it together") practice, using tools like LEGO Serious Play & modelling wax ● how metaphor, play and physical materials open up focus, emotion and better decision-making, even in corporate spaces. Quote highlights "The power of metaphor, but also using tactile with that, just allows people to go from 'fine'to actually 'this is what this model is saying today'... it gets from zero to deep really quick" "A decision doesnn;t have to be 'I need all the data, and then I need to be stressed... I can play about this'. The term would be blue sky thinking, but I call it purple cloud thinking" Links Today's guest: Abimbola Olajide — In Every Season CIC ; Atúnkò https://atunko.co.uk/ & https://www.linkedin.com/in/abimbola-olajide-67a54b63/ Today's host: Olivia Bellas — Coach, Facilitator, Learning Experience Designer https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliviabellas/ To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF England & Wales Chapter: 🎧 https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ 📧 podcast@iaf-ew.co.uk 🌐https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales Transcript Olivia: . so welcome to facilitation stories. how do facilitators end up in the profession? What methods and techniques can we learn together and we discover it all in this community podcast, brought to you by the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Olivia Bellas and today I'm talking with Abimbola Olajide. Abimbola is also known as the Chief of Play. She's a serial social entrepreneur, passionate about the power of tactile play, fostering human-centered connection and growth, and she uses hands-on engagement to rewire mindsets in professional and community spaces. Welcome. Abimbola: Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for welcoming me, and I'm so glad to be here. Olivia: Yeah. I am so looking forward to chatting today, and I know we have that focus area of the kind of tactile, the hands on practices, really looking forward to diving into all of that world. but firstly, I wanna actually just touch in on something. We'll be finding out more about you, but I wanna know today, what's making you smile in your world of facilitation. Just curious about your kind of current landscape, and then we'll get into a bit more about you. Abimbola: Okay, so, today what's making me smile in the world of facilitation I guess the connection to self, and I know that sounds very stereotypical, but I'll, I'll explain as a facilitator. I was at a workshop last week in the London Stock Exchange and there was, This guy, Peter Ra, he was telling us about storytelling and how we capture stories and you know, methods to just tell stories at an executive level. And one thing that really struck me from what he said was, you know, when you listen to a story or when you watch something or just noticing how you feel, and just that feeling and that part, I'm holding my belly area is just above, um, as I speak, but just how you feel, how something makes you feel. And that kind of made me stop and actually feel like, actually, you know, sometimes we. Ignore feelings or put them to the side, or we'll we'll have, whether it's chest tightening or you know, a gut feeling. Those are all indicators of our body telling us something. And him just saying, that actually made me really curious. Like when I listen to things or when I hear things or when I experience things, what's that feeling that I feel? What is it? So I've been really kind of curious. And listening out for that feeling. So that's kind of making me smile. 'cause sometimes it's like, ooh. What's that? Olivia: yeah. What's that? Kind of, either it might be there or it might not be there. Abimbola: Like, oh, what's that? I'm feeling something. Or how come I'm not feeling anything? So that itself, both of those are learning, by the way. 'cause it's discovery. Of myself. And I think when I apply that back into the work that I do, for the most part, if I'm doing work that I'm not feeling anything about, I think that also translates to the work that you do. There will be something not as warm or not quite captivating as it could be. So yeah, just that reminder to be like, oh. What am I feeling here? So that's, what's kind of taken my attention in the last couple of weeks in the facilitation space. Olivia: It is a great reminder, especially as facilitators, 'cause we can get drawn into so many different directions. Mm-hmm. But as you said, you know, what's the body saying about that particular moment in the room or project? Mm-hmm. And actually as you were talking, 'cause I said, oh, you know what's making you smile? And just even me smiling in reaction to what you were saying just felt really great as well. So we don't pause enough, I think. Abimbola: Yeah, yeah, yeah. We don't pause enough. We don't pause enough. Definitely. So. Olivia: So actually was, you mentioned this particular session, The storytelling one. can we just hear a little bit more about that and what, you know, made you be at that particular moment? Abimbola: that's a very interesting story that I'm gonna share more about, but I'll, I'll give you guys like A bit of a sneak peek at it. So I, a friend of mine, so I'm a director in the board of another CIC called connecting stories. So they help women with financial literacy and developing themselves and their careers and also using stories to connect. So. the founder was like, oh, there's this amazing event. Let's go. So what it was talking about was executive presence and storytelling and how you can use storytelling to, capture a lot of things. So whether it's attention or marketing or all of that. And also the, I guess the ethical part of using it for good as well. So really going into how you could use storytelling, but also helping you to, I guess, realize how it works. 'cause there is a science behind it. And that's not a bad thing. But you also then. the ethical thing for me, I think to do is use that for good, right? So to help people actually connect with stories and, you have to connect with it as well. So yeah, that's why I was there Olivia: Well, I guess the, the things you were talking about storytelling, and obviously you touched on that kind of embodiment aspect that was making you smile as well. And I think I'm really interested in how your story has evolved in terms of the nature of tactile work that you do. Mm-hmm. Very hands-on practices. Mm-hmm. Is there a kind of defining moment for you that where some of this particular work you transitioned into? Abimbola: Um, I say there are many defining moments, so I'll tell you the story and then you can see which moments stand out for you. So I would say unofficially, I've probably been facilitating four. Maybe 15 or so years, unofficially, I didn't know it was a term, but I was always the one to facilitate spaces, to host things, to bring people together, to ask the questions, to mc, do all of those things. And then I think almost seven years ago now. I started in every season and that's the CIC that, I, run with, my team. And, it was from a season of bereavement, so grief, and I really wanted to get people's stories. So at the time in my early thirties and I was widowed and I was like, this is a. Journey to be going on. how do other people navigate this season? Surely there must be other people in the world navigating a season of grief. so I started getting introduced to different people and I would interview them. So I, the first series that I started was a podcast where people were sharing their stories of being young and widowed. And then it went on to different types of. Either bereavement or life challenges and transitions. And then six years later the what started out as a podcast and sharing stories to help and to heal has turned into a CIC where we help people and individuals transition through various life seasons. We're always going through a transition of life. For some reason or the other, and we journey with people to do that. And a lot of the time when we think journeying, sometimes that could look like talking. But for in every season, what we've actually found is that artistic practice embodied movement alternative. Kinesthetic type practices in the doing is what's helped. And that's what's helped me. That's what's helped my family. I realized a few years ago that I was more of a kinesthetic learner and I'm like, oh, so there's a. Thing for it, right? So I'm like, just let me get my hands on it. Let me touch it. Let me do it, then I'll figure it out. Right? So I didn't know that that was a thing. And then I realized that, oh, this is the way I learn and I've always been interested in art and trained in expressive arts and also Lego, a serious play and possibly a few other things. And I have a way of using creative means in order to facilitate and hold spaces. So yeah, that's how I've used that. So recently we had a movement session ahead of, mother's Day. We're having a geranium making session where we're actually exploring. the art of nurturing. So what that means. so for Mother's Day, you generally think of mothers and mothering, but not everybody is a mother, but maybe everybody has been mothered, but maybe also. Everybody has nurtured something. So it could be a person you've nurtured. It could be that you've been nurtured. It could be a business that you've nurtured. It could be a pet that you've nurtured, but there is an art to it, and it also could be yourself, like learning how to nurture yourself. So we're exploring that as we make uranium. So, I hold community spaces within every season to do that. And then on the flip side, I have 17 years worth of corporate business experience. And I, I didn't want that to go to waste. So in corporate spaces I also use similar. but different outcome driven methods to help organizations solve problems bring about innovation and align to their strategic goals. So again, using play, using tactile methods, et cetera. So when I say that there is a defining moment. I think , there's been so many in there, but I guess , the biggest one was probably the start of in every season that started the whole journey. But when I look back on my life, there's probably so many other points that have pointed in that direction. So that's why I said I've probably been facilitating for long time, a longer time than I can count. Olivia: Yeah, that facilitation experience is fascinating, isn't it? Because as you say, it's not like a, clear moment or a clear role, it's kind of something that's been natural to you , for a while. And yeah, it seems like there's, , um, the kind of community spaces part of you in every season. Which You said kinesthetic. Abimbola: Mm-hmm. Olivia: Like the doing part to kind of move through any transition we might be in. And I can testify. I went to a fantastic session. Thank you so much. And I'm fascinated actually at how my experience was online. and that was, really helpful in terms of me recovering from an operation and moving through that. Abimbola: And then there's this other aspect where you've brought your many years of kind of corporate experience into, hands on type workshops with teams with, you know, leaders in, different settings. And I wanted to ask a bit more about, some of the principles Can I find out a bit more about those? Yeah, sure. So, in the corporate space I work with Atúnkò. So Atúnkò is the name of my consultancy company. And, I'm from West Africa. My family's from West Africa and Nigeria to be precise. And the direct meaning of Atúnkò is to rebuild and to rewire, and that's what we help. Teams and organizations do. That's literally something I say in one of my videos like a million times. So it's just rolling off my tongue. it's true that's what we help teams and organizations do, and the, the practices that we use have developed from, I guess my, facilitation experience. my love of. Tactile and hands-on, doing practice, also Lego serious play and also expressive arts. So I feel like there is such an intersection because as you can see, I do community work. I also do corporate work. I have an expressive arts background and I also do things like Lego Serious play and other types of facilitation. And I feel that there's an intersect of that world, but what I would really say that. My work is grounded on is, I guess, human-centered principles where I lean a lot on, that empathetic and congruence. Congruence is a really big part of the work that I do. and it goes back to why that landed with me from the executive workshop, that feeling of, Hmm, how does this feel? Does this feel right? Does this feel like the right thing to do? So congruence is a really big part, a big practice that underpins everything that I do. And there's also another practice that I work with and I call it the àjọṣe practice. So àjọṣe, again in my local dialect means let's do it together. So it's a collaborative approach and I don't think. I won't say, I don't think it's a real approach. It's, it's a real approach for me and I've coined it, but it means, you know, it's something where you're journeying together and I guess it's more than just collaboration. It's more of a collective becoming, and so just journeying as you collectively come. Because even where I facilitate a space There's an outcome towards it and I'm helping whether it's teams and leaders achieve that outcome. I also learn from that as well. there is a change within me after each workshop I do. There is something that I've noticed, whether it's, I remember I was in Denmark last month and. It always just gets me, you're in a room with 180 people that you are helping to facilitate this space using Lego. And then, we've asked, okay, build, you know this, or build your tower, and then there's a silence in the room. That's silence. Just gets me each time. 'cause I just think, how are adults sitting here playing with Lego and being completely silent? Like it doesn't last long, but like there is a silence that it just always gets me like, wow. their attention is so focused on what they're doing. So, there's that part of I'm also learning. Within the work that I do and I make sure that I turn things always back to me. What have I learned from this? So I guess when I say that, I just shared practice that collective becoming and also a human centered approach based on my background in expressive arts. Trained in Lego serious play, but also that business experience and acumen that I've had over the past 17 years. And then also the empathetic community spaces that I run. It's a merge of all of those, and I think every facilitator has a work that they do or a method that they use, but also I think no space can replicate that. Everybody's uniquely themselves. So I think my approach is very unique in that way. I'm showing up as congruently as I can in that space. Olivia: Hmm. So, àjọṣe let's do it together. And I love this kind of attention moment or this silence moment you talked about, kind of brief, but focused . With this kind of tactile hands-on work, I'm sure it doesn't land beautifully and easily and perfectly with every workshop you've ever done. what are the ways that you get to that attention silent moment? You know, it, seems like quite a challenge to achieve sometimes. Abimbola: Yeah, I think I've been lucky that in most workshops when people get their hands on the Lego, or sometimes I use other means, so I have an called wax and bricks method where I use Lego bricks and I also use modeling wax. So it's a bit harder than Play-Doh, but it's completely moldable and it doesn't dry out and it's more natural. And what I've done in those sessions is I take sometimes. Multiple tactile things. So some people actually don't like Lego, like they don't like touching it. it's a thing and that's very Okay. So because it is something hard, I bring about something soft as well and something that they can mold and that sometimes helps. So what I sometimes do in sessions where I'm like, I don't know whether this is gonna land or, you know, I've been given a brief about some things. I can bring two alternative means.. , which then people can choose. Which they want, or they can use both, but they're choosing essentially, but we're still going through what we need to do. But they have then a say and a choice in what they want to do. I've never had anybody refuse anything. that's been good. And then when I've worked online, there's a session that I did. It was really powerful and actually it was a practitioners, counselors, psychotherapists, and. I asked them to bring something that they could build with, you know, ice, Lego, or bricks or blocks or modeling clay. And people brought clay, people brought Play-Doh, people bought marshmallows. I loved the creativity, someone brought something else, like it wasn't what you would think it would, but they were still able to build, And actually that session was quite focused on. Playing Your Way to Better Decisions, which is a program that I run, and they were able to do that, like get better decision making from that session using whatever means that they have. So essentially like.. Anything tactile is anything that you can touch. Olivia: So that's about options. So bringing different things because not everyone, it will land that particular kind of object , and I love the marshmallows. I love the fact that people have been so creative with what they already have. So options, but also, like you say, the non-judgment and allowing for time . So. I'm just kind of jumping now to thinking about an actual workshop with you and, you mentioned that modeling wax,, you mentioned sometimes mixing it with Lego bricks, what might actually happen in a session with you? What might those different things, tactile objects, what would they mean for me in the session with you? Abimbola: I mean, they can mean anything, right? I always say that, essentially I feel that you can facilitate with a pencil or a matchstick, right? Anything can be anything. And, there's a quote that says Nothing is. Insignificant. So everything has meaning and everything can have meaning. So depending on the direction of our workshop. So say for example, if it was a play your way to better Decisions Workshop or play Your Way to More Congruent Decisions workshop, we would be using that modeling clay to. Scope out the options that, look at the decision that we're making. Scope out the options, and then choose or not choose. 'cause not choosing is also an option, right? So we'd get to the end of the workshop where we've created and made and shared stories. And then We decide. Or the participant decides. What their choice is. And not making a choice is also a choice, which is quite an empowering choice by the way. But what it does is it playfully rewires you for decision making. 'cause it means that a decision doesn't have to be, I need all the data like this, and then I need to be stressed, and then I need to have decision and then actually. I can play about this. So yeah, we do a lot of, uh, the term would be blue sky thinking, but I call it purple cloud thinking. Right? So you could, it could be whatever it is that you want it to be your decision. You could choose to join the circus. You could choose to move to the other side of the world, like imagination is free. You can use it. So, we would option out all of these with our play materials and then we'll tell stories around it. And I guess just notice how we feel in that moment about the decision that we're. Playing with at the time. And then also it's rewiring because now we can play with that decision. We came in with the workshop with it heavy, but now we're playing with it and actually it means we can revisit it again. And it doesn't have to feel heavy because we don't have to have the final outcome. Now we don't have to make the decision, but we do know that we can play with it. Olivia: What is it that using these tactile methods shifts in us? Abimbola: you know, I have five children there's a lot of play happening and they're at different ages. So I have a teenager and then my youngest is six. and there's a lot of play happening in our house, and I think there's something that happens to us at some point that we forget to play. as we grow up, we think actually we need to make serious decisions. Now we need to be serious in how we do things. But we forget to play. And actually play is a big part of our learning. It teaches us to create, it teaches us to fail. It teaches us how we mock things up and we are building blueprints. To make decisions while we're playing, but we don't do that enough because for the most part, we wanna get a right answer. So when we explore that through play it can bring about a lightness. Sometimes that in itself can feel overwhelming and again, it's a practice, right? You don't do a workshop and then everything changes. And once you've built a new pathway for a decision through play, you have that pathway, right? So you can revisit it again And the more you do it, the more pathways you're gonna build to make your decision making better. So. A lot of the fundamental work that I do with teams and organizations is that play your way to better decisions or play your way to congruent decisions. And it's building a continual and sustainable framework of play that allows you to be able to make better decisions by playing, by failing, by doing silly things. That also brings about insight as well. Olivia: Yeah, absolutely. it's kind of very much a very, Learning lab type space that you are describing very open and for yourself, right. As well as others in the room. So, I'm interested because it does feel experimental in lots of ways, what has happened in workshop spaces that maybe haven't gone quite to plan for you or have been surprises that you've learned from? Abimbola: so when you say experimental, it's like creativity. And for me, I, I love being creative, but I also, I love creativity within a framework and a container. because I think if you're just like, be creative and be free, that doesn't give enough permission actually. 'cause it's too wide and too broad. So, for example, if you say, make something. that's so broad. If you say make something with this paper in five minutes, I have a container to put that in on framework. so I work within frameworks for the most part, and it's creating and sharing and reflecting back. So as long as I kind of stick to that framework, it always works for the most part. Right? Things that have happened within workshops. Good things. I mean, I, I was in a space where I had, not too long, but I asked people to build, what they felt like today and people ended up crying and actually having like a real emotional experience with that through what they had built. So that's always humbling actually to be able to hold a space where people feel safe enough. To do that. Olivia: and then also it's metaphor, right? So a lot of the time. when we see people, how are you? Oh, I'm fine. You are not fine. Not really. Abimbola: you need to be able to stop and have a conversation and draw all of that out. But for the most part, we just brush over a lot of things. But when you talk about a metaphor, it's you, but sitting outside of you. And you can talk about it more clearly and direct. And then when you realize that actually it is part of me, it gets emotional, right? Because you're looking at this mirror. So I think the power of metaphor itself, whether it's tactile I think it works better with tactile because you've built something when you make that connection of how you connect to what you've built or what you've drawn it becomes quite emotional because you then go like. Super deep, real quick. it gets from zero to quick, zero to deep really quick, and you're like, how did we get here? So I think the power of metaphor, but also using tactile with that just allows people to go from, I'm fine to actually, this is what this model is saying today. Oh, this model has an aspect of me in there and this is how I feel. Actually, I resonate with that model. Olivia: Hmm. So Yes. Yeah, that's given me shivers actually just kind of going, oh wow. Like it is that metaphor, that meaning that story coming back to the story again. But like you say, it's right in front of you, isn't it? It's, it's not an abstract. In your mind discussion? Yeah. Abimbola: Yeah. So when things are abstract in your mind, it's one thing when you allow or release that to come out, whether you've built something or drawn something or created something, it's out there so you see it and it becomes more real. There's just something about looking at it, I guess, or feeling it, touching it and being part of that construction. Olivia: Are there more sort of, different materials that you are curious to work with or try? Abimbola: so I did woodwork for GCSE and I am like. maybe I need to go back into woodworking. So if you see, anything, don't, be surprised. It's all tactile, like all the things you can touch. So yeah, maybe that. I just love trying different things and I. What you can do with that and the conversations that you can have with people and their introspection and reflection that you can get with people when they're doing and creating something I've always loved. Creating, even before I knew that I loved creating, I loved the process of creating more than anything. I love seeing something and in seeing what it's become, that transformation process. And I love being part of that, that's actually one of my, um, ways that I. de-stress, like it could even be cleaning at home. Like I'll start reorganizing stuff, I'll start doing stuff, and then I look at it and like, oh, that looks different to how it looked before. Oh, maybe I could do this. And that energizes me. So, I'm currently have my eye on woodworking at the moment, but, watch this space. Olivia: Yeah, already I'm excited about like the range of wood, and it's such a beautiful natural material that I think will evoke so much in the kind of workshops you do. So, I'm kind of thinking about you know, any questions that you might have, not necessarily for me, but we like to have that kind of connection with all of our guests that we invite onto the podcast. So. We're gonna ask next, yeah. Do you have a question that you might wanna ask the next facilitator? Abimbola: I guess, I mean, I, I like reading. I like learning, so I guess I would ask them what have they read? Recently that's left an impact on them. So I think that's universal. So it doesn't matter who you interview. Olivia: yeah. And it's always fascinating that question. I've always scribbled down like, oh, someone's just mentioned this thing and da da da. I ha I unfortunately have lots of books on shelves that I haven't. Touched yet. What's your relationship with books Reading? Abimbola: I love to buy books. Some of them sit on my shelf feeling unloved, but luckily, I have other readers in the house who love books too. This year I've really tried to, like, I've reordered them on my bookshelf in my reading order. You are like, you look on the book. Okay, this is what I'm reading now. Okay, then this is what I'm reading next. Okay. This is what I'm reading and my order changes and I like push other books into the queue. But I've started doing that this year. I listen to a lot of books. So when I drive long journeys, I listen to a lot of books, but I do like reading. I love reading poetry. I think poetry is something that just I, uh, clearly and probably it's probably come through. I'm a reflective person, so I like to reflect and I could, I could find one thing that resonates and I could like ruminate on it for a little bit and just let it enter So I love reading poetry. I had a book club yesterday with, some other Lego facilitators. We were looking at this really cool book called, collaborating with Your Enemies with, Adam Cam and, He was on the call as well, so we got to ask him loads of questions, which is so cool. but that, was definitely a rewire for me. Um, over the last few weeks that I've been reading the book, I, I've been savoring it, like reading little bits, but it just talks about, how you collaborate in spaces that are not your comfort zone. And for the most parts we want to exit and run away, but actually lean into that and stretch. And actually there's multiple shades of gray and there's no one right answer and there's no right way. but there is still a way that you can collaborate with somebody else while being true and congruent to yourself. so I think it's a really powerful book. It made me look at like relationships. That I've had in the past, friendships, family parenting in a different lens. 'cause I'm like, okay, right. So, I was a bit more relaxed, so my kids caught like more squash over the last few days, you know, while I'm still in the book. Olivia: The benefits of reading particular books on those around you. Right, Abimbola: right. So, so I love reading. I love listening to books. I don't get as much time in, in the ideal world, I just sit around reading books, but I don't have that time. But, I do read as much as I can. and I find actually that. As much as I love a book sometimes, or it's been recommended to me and I really wanna read it, if the tone and the writing is not captivating, I'm unable to read it. And that's one thing I've had to give myself permission of recently to be like, I know you wanna read this book, but it's not engaging you in the way that you'd hoped it to be, and it's okay to not read it. Whereas before I was used to like powering through and then it'll be like a year reading the same book and not getting anything from it. But yeah, it's either that or I speed read it. Olivia: These are great tips, which, I'm sure will help many people will help me. I love the ordering. That's so simple, but I hadn't thought of it and it's a really beautiful question that we will share with our next guest and. I will do as well is, to keep our conversation going a little bit when this podcast episode does come out and when it goes up and is shared with others on LinkedIn. I will share with you a question that will have come from another guest. I don't have it with me just yet for us to sort of discuss it. However, I wanna try something which is maybe bringing it to. A kind of conversation that we might have online through chat. And that might be like a nice way to, to keep it going. Yeah, Abimbola: absolutely. I'm curious to hear the question that will come up. Olivia: Brilliant. Well, listen, it's been wonderful to connect with you again today. Thank you for your time, your energy, your stories. And yeah, we shall speak again soon. Abimbola: Thank you. Thank you. Olivia: Thanks for listening to facilitation stories brought to you by IAF England and Wales. We like to collect stories, so get in touch. If you have an idea, the contact info is at facilitationstories.com. There you can subscribe, follow like the show so you get notified of new episodes. This has been facilitation stories.

January 19, 202627 min

🎙️ FS 80 From Facilitation to Hosting: Creating Transformative Spaces with Peter Pula

Todays episode explores the evolving relationship between facilitation and hosting, highlighting how both practices can create transformative spaces for individuals and communities. Peter Pula shares insights from years of cultivating community through participatory dialogue and generative journalism. The conversation delves into the distinctions between facilitation often structured and outcome driven and hosting, which embraces emergence, deep listening, and co-creation. They talk about: The difference between facilitation and hosting The use of time triads and deep listenting in group practice Learning from mistakes and adapting when things dont go as planned Moving from command-and-control to particpatory approaches Quote highlights "I feel like I am participating in the unfolding of human evolution and the evolution of community, and I don't know how that can do anything but make you smile." "And by naming the failure it becomes something else and it becomes… Something powerful… " "Before it was a passion. Now it feels like an essential work." Links Todays Guest The Subsidiarist https://peterjpula.substack.com/ Citizen Studios https://citizenstudios.mn.co/about Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/peterpula/ Website: www.peterpula.com Cultivating Community Gatherings (free): https://www.tickettailor.com/events/peterpula/1786857 Todays host: Sam Moon: Faciliator www.linkedin.com/in/theboymoon123 Edited by: Cassie Austin Leaderful Action To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF England & Wales Chapter: 🎧 https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ 📧 podcast@iaf-englandwales.org 🌐 https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Transcript: Sam Moon & Peter Pula Sam: Hello and welcome to Facilitation Stories, the Community podcast of the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Sam Moon, and my guest today is Peter Pula. Peter is the founder of Axiom News, generative journalism, the Peter Borough Dialogues, and a proud member of the Generative Journalism Alliance. These days, he's mostly concerned with, in his own words, my beloved cultivating community going on six years now, and where I first met Peter during the first few weeks of COVID when I joined an online global gathering of folk exploring how we could be together apart during what was to become very uncertain times with long periods of lockdown. Peter crafted a space from which people shared experiences and stories where deep relationships began to form and has continued to do so amongst the community that first got together and others who have joined since. So honoring that my own facilitation journey has been shaped very much through Peter's commitment to life given approaches of facilitation, it is an absolute pleasure to welcome you here today, Peter, and on that note, and before we get into some juicy questions, please introduce yourself, who you are and what you get up to in your world of facilitation. Peter: Who am I? I think I will say today that I am a person who deeply cares about the wellbeing of humanity. I'm a person who's. Gravely concerned with the prevailing trends at the moment, and I believe that hosting and facilitating people in dialogue that brings to the surface. Their deepest gifts, talents, intentions, and passions in a way that encourages us to be differently together, might at one time have been a nice to have and now it's a need to have. So I'm fully committed to the practices of facilitation and hosting. With the view to, well, for me it's a calling and a critically important one. And that's why I'm glad to be here talking with you, Sam. 'cause we've travelled for a number of years. We've got a lot of, water under the bridge, a lot of experience under our belt. And, we've traveled through some of those crises together in community held in a certain way. And so I think we could say that's also what I'm up to. Sam: Thank you, Peter. You put that, in a really lovely way. And we've got some questions that we're gonna explore together, but if I can just invite you to expand a little bit more on, your experience of facilitation and hosting and how you have made a distinction between the two and how you hold those. Peter: When you look to the definition of facilitation and facilitator, there's not much there that I wouldn't say also applies to hosting. I think in a lot of practices though, there are some differences, and it might be sort of a spectrum where my idea of the practice of facilitation is that when facilitating, we are inviting people into a fairly, predetermined process and trying to bring them along to more of a predetermined outcome than you might be if you're hosting, it might be a learning outcome, for example, we want, by the end of this process for everyone to be able to say, speak French or to understand a business process or to have come to some understanding about how to better manage their relationships with their peers. And then way on the other side of the spectrum on hosting, I think there we are then trying to surface what's most alive for each person in the room. With a view to exploring and discovering almost endless possibilities. But, then ensuring that each one of the possibilities that actually wants to manifest is nurtured in a way, by the way, we dialogue and connect and decide so that they actually can come to fruition. I think there might be a little bit more wildness and willingness in hosting than there is in facilitation, I think they're arts that are closely related, they're in the same family. And I know as hosts sometimes there are moments where I absolutely must facilitate almost with an iron fist. Knowing how and when to make that call is part of the hosting art. Sometimes a super clear process is necessary. Sometimes a process set is co-created by the participants who have some skill in how to be present to one another is also necessary. So I don't think it's a, it's not an either or, it's a spectrum and there is a relationship between the two ideas. But I feel like in practice they are slightly different ideas. Sam: I really like how you describe, the wildness and willingness, that can take you into the labyrinth of hosting and discovering what's alive. Whilst also what you are saying is recognizing that facilitation process where it needs to be tighter is also about recognizing when it's important to do that around certain things, rather than being wedded to a certain way of doing something, it's about understanding when one needs to come forth, and in terms of where your, start from and where you want to go. Peter: If I could, Sam, there might be one other distinction, and it would be interesting to test this with your listeners and their experience because, I don't move in circles where we describe what we do as facilitation. So I could be completely wrong about this, but there has been some discussion in the hosting arts world around one of the suggestions that, in hosting, it's considered a very important principle that as a member of a hosting team, you also participate in dialogue, and in many facilitative sessions, it seems important that the facilitators stay observant and outside of the dialogue. So I'm just wondering if that's a distinction that holds true, or if it's not actually the case. Sam: I think it's a really good question, Peter, and I think there are different views within that, depending on the ideology that it's coming from. And I know there is that conversation that takes place around, is a facilitator neutral or not. And there's clear opinions on both sides of that, but I think in terms of the experience that we've had together and in those spaces, I would agree that the host becomes more part of that conversation and is involved in the dialogue. But it's about not influencing it. And I think for me, I probably stand on the side of that, lean more into using questions to draw things out rather than put myself forward. Peter: Right. Sam: I also find that when I put myself forward, it can deaden the air a little bit as well. Take the life out because, unless invite invited to teach, don't teach. Peter: Yes. Beautifully said. Sam: So what I wanted to kind of touch on, what is it in your world of hosting and facilitation that's making you smile at the moment? Peter: Well, you know, Sam, you mentioned in your introduction, this space we've been holding together for the last five and a half years. It's come to be known as cultivating community and for whatever reason we've been, that's every fortnightly on Fridays. For five and a half years, we've seen probably 600 different people join that space. There's a core group of, maybe 12 or 15 that come very, very regularly, and another extended group of maybe 45 or 50 that drop in, come and go, who, you know, take comfort in just knowing that the space is there. It's the group of us has started to talk about how, not only have we become a community spread across several continents that are quite committed to the community and to each other, it's, also, been spoken that it's also a practice field for how we be in community differently. From that, I've had the delight to hear from a number of members of that community. Their lives have been changed by being part of that, to such a degree that they're also bringing these practices, into their own communities and morphing and changing them to suit their own skills and ways of doing things like improv, for example, these are adjacent practices that, work to the same principles and grow together. And that group has been in so much practice for so long. It's a blessing for me, one, to be part of the community, but two, to see the effects it's having on people's lives and in the world. And three, because we're in practice so much, I can also as a host, fully participate in it. And it is for me, a healing place to be. I feel like I am participating in the unfolding of human evolution and the evolution of community, and I don't know how that can do anything but make you smile. Sam: It's certainly, yeah, absolutely It does, it is a place that gives life and gives energy. And with that, your view, were talking about the effect that it is had on people. Tell me a bit more about that and what it was around the way in which you have been facilitating, hosting that space that you think may have enabled that or created the conditions for it to have that effect on people. Peter: Yeah, and we haven't really come up with a really smart, clever way to talk about it, but we've used the idea of time triads, and for your listeners, we can maybe just describe that quickly, like we bring people into small groups of three, every person has three minutes to respond to the question of the moment, which, you know, we've got a few ones that are pretty solid, pretty tight, but we also sense into what the question is for each small group. So these are 90 minute sessions. We usually get three to four rounds of small group time triads. In which each person has three minutes to respond to the question for that particular small group without being interrupted by the two listeners. We can go pretty deep into the practice of relational presencing and what it actually means to be present to a person who's speaking without being distracted by the need to maybe cut them off so someone else can have their turn, or because you're curious about something or because something they've said triggered you. We could go for hours talking about the method if you like. So that round of these small groups and then people come outta these small groups and they're reflected as a whole, but what's alive for them now? Not a report, but a reflection of what struck them about that, time together. It's a process by which people come into contact with their inner teacher, and find their own voice, speak it in all their strength and beauty, and then take turns witnessing another, and then another. Do the same. So the complexity of the field is like tremendous. I think over time it's become something of an island of coherence. I guess another really important piece about the methodology is that it is something that happens at a consistent and regular time and has done so for a very long time. So it becomes a structural, stable point in people's lives, which makes it something they can count on, something that helps 'em co-regulate, makes it easy for them to invite others, gives them some sense of, stability and constancy. So, you know, those are some of the architectural pieces of that. And then there's the idea good questions or provocative questions. Like every small group, every time triad, presences a question that we have come to define as being these three things sufficiently ambiguous, deeply personal and anxiety producing. And you can ask a question like, at what crossroads do you now find yourself? To the same group a hundred times. Every time their answer will be different and it will be somewhat evolved from where they were before. And if a community continues to visit those kinds of questions together, people experience tremendous personal shifts. And find themselves in relationship enough with other people to take their next courageous steps into whatever it is they want to bring alive in the world, wherever they are. And that's the sort of effect we're seeing, like people are bringing this kind of work into their churches, into their workplaces. They're shifting the way they interact with their colleagues at work. They're even changing narrative practices. They're becoming less and less comfortable with the command and control paradigms in which most workplaces work, which denigrate and disregard a lot of what people have to bring. So when you develop that kind of like experience, coherence, relationship, assuredness, because you finally got to the root of what's important to you. You move in the world differently and that changes the world. You become a, a resonance center of your own Sam: Yes. And from sharing that space with you and being part of that space, that's something that I've witnessed and experienced myself. And often people will come out of a conversation, and will be feeling I didn't realize I was going to say that Peter: Yes, Sam: I didn't realize I was going to feel this and that, has a kinda real, sort of magical experience, which then people return to. And so the things you are talking about there in terms of the conditions that you are creating is that it's kinda regular, it's consistent using the sort of a method and approach of time triads, people come back and report on what they experienced. And it's on regular time and using the questions that have a structure are the things that create a container for that space, create an energy for those things to emerge and link into what has shaped the hosting practice in many ways. What was it that helped you get into that work? Tell me a little bit about your journey into that. How did you discover this way of working? Peter: I was thinking about that and there's a couple ways into the story and it seems like I always tell it differently, but, I started in news and in a strength-based environment and that led me to the point where I was leading an organization that had, between 12 and 17 people working for it at any given time. I started to realize being the leader of an organization was not something I was that interested in doing. In the old way of command and control, set the intention and take the hill, that didn't suit me at all. So I started to, given that we were doing strength-based journalism, we started to see the kinds of life-affirming patterns that you can actually start to sequence out through powerful questions. And the journalism was lifting up what people wanted to create in the world, telling a story about it, and then people would come to their assistance and then something would change, and that would be our next story. So I started to come into contact through that work folks like the asset-based community development movement and the appreciative inquiry movement and practice, and appreciative inquiry, of course, is an organizational strength-based organizational development model, which is fundamentally democratic. So I started to take some of what I was learning there, and then of course, appreciative inquiry, things like open space started to show up in the art of hosting community. And it struck me that this is a completely different way, this is a life affirming way you can lead an organization. Like you either trust the people you work for or you don't. And if you don't trust them, you're probably gonna command and control. If you do trust them, you can create different structures, you can facilitate different kinds of interactions that actually bring to the surface all the best that every person in the building has to bring to the purpose under which you're gathered. And that's what got me into it. So we turned what was then Axiom News into what became World Blue Democratic Workplace for seven years. Eventually we decided not to continue with that certification because we didn't feel their standards were high enough. You can run an organization in a deeply democratic way that cuts out the need for so much bureaucracy and so much control that because the people in the room who are committed to the cause, finding ways to work together in their own ways actually cuts through a lot of the nonsense that gets in the way. Like even the great Peter F. Drucker made the case that 90% of what we consider management is actually interference. Facilitating dialogue and connection and collaboration in the kinds of ways we can, and the ways that we are, can fundamentally change the way organizations work and the way people experience where they work. And that's what got me into it. So I tried these things out in organizational settings, a number of nonprofits as well that I was connected with and involved in. And then, um, COVID hit and uh, Sam: And here we are. Peter: And here we are. Sam: Yeah, and what you are, what I'm experiencing in terms of as you're sharing that and describing that and articulating that is how deeply powerful it is, it's not this one directional or one dimensional way of working. There's a real existential kind of aspect to that and a power to that. And the words that sort that I picked up was, trust. In terms of learn your journey of that and trust in people. And going back to where you were talking about where the hosting side of things can be wild and wooly. I can imagine and from the experiences I've had myself when I've delivered in a hosting way, trust plays a key factor in that as well. In terms of any facilitation. Peter: You gotta trust yourself. You gotta trust the room. You gotta trust the people in the room as a group, and you gotta trust the process. And the moment you don't, the thing collapses and you've gotta command and control it. It's almost like a spiritual practice, trust and trusting the people and trusting the room and trusting the process. It can take some intestinal fortitude, but once you see it work, you can have faith in it. Sam: Absolutely. So that's really interesting. What I was gonna ask there is what's the courage that someone needed to move into that space of trust rather than, I remember when I first started out in facilitation donkeys ago in particular youth work, I would have a session plan and I would work on that session plan and it would be dah, dah, even if it wasn't working, it's like, no, this is the session plan. Peter: Right. Sam: Tell me a little bit about your experience of that trust and kind of the courage that's needed around that. Peter: The name Blair Singer's coming up for some reason, but I ended up being in a thing that he was facilitating years and years and years ago, and he had this concept of as ising. And so when things started to go really wonky for me in a room, I figured I'd give it a try. And it's just like, I would just say, okay, wait, we can all sense that something's not right here. Sam: So is that is in, did you say? Peter: As is. Sam: As is. Peter: I don't even know if that makes sense, but that's what he called it. Just to see things as they are. I was hosting or facilitating and it just felt like something was wonky, something was not working. So I simply said, okay, does anyone else feel like this isn't working? All the hands go up, right? Sam: Wow. Peter: I say, okay, let's go into small groups of three and find the two people in the room, you know, the least. And let's just, without judging or critiquing what anybody in your small group says, just say what you're experiencing right now. And so they did that. And then people said, well this is my experience. Another person said, that's my experience. And what was interesting you hear four or five people, you realize they're all having a very different experience. So there's not one problem. So it becomes very complexified Sam: And what happens from there? Peter: This is something else that I think has been key for me is that I would stand in front of the room and say, well, and sometimes you have their hosting team, so you sit with the hosting team, maybe while the community's in their small groups, the hosting team sits aside and says, what's a good question for us? What's the question that wants to be asked now? Or you can also go back to the room when they come back and say, all right, what's a question that we'd like to sit with now? And then people start popcorning them up and then you whittle it down and then you find out what question the room wants to be asked, Sam: Right, Ok. Peter: and then you're back on track. So I mean, in that there is some structure, right? Sam: Such a beautiful way of shaping something as a, what do I do when things don't go to plan, when all my anxieties are kicking in? How can we reconnect with the group that we are with? Peter: There's a lot of letting go of your ego in that. Like you can go, oh, I had this brilliant plan. I was up all night thinking about it, maybe even many nights. And you, gotta let it all go and say, okay, well. 'Cause people do want the thing to work. And they do want to get something out of it. So there's a lot to work with there. And it could be that the thing's gone wonky 'cause you got in the way. So get, get out of the way. Sam: And there's a freedom there, isn't there? a freedom that you're creating. You're creating an agency. Peter: and then everyone thinks you're some kind of jedi san. But the fact of the matter is you just buggered it up and got outta the way. Sam: Yeah, and there's so much reflection afterwards from that as well, in terms of the learning. Peter: There is, it's very powerful, because each person has their voice. A friend, a colleague of mine by the name of Peggy Holman, who's a brilliant facilitator and fantastic thinker on these things, she says people resent feeling processed. Sam: Right. Peter: So if you stay with your process and it's like they feel like you're putting 'em through a spiritual meat grinder, it's right and proper that they would rebel against that. I think it's right and properly they rebel against that. So hold space for the other thing to happen that trusts that they also want this to go well, they also want to get something out of this. And your job is to, okay, if, if that path is blocked, then sit in a circle and think about what the next path is. Sam: Yeah. And there's a courage and a presence to notice that. have to Peter: But I think you have to have the kahunas to give it a try once. Sam: Yeah. And be ok. Peter: And even if it doesn't work, I mean, have a debrief because you're gonna learn something from it. Sam: Yeah. And I guess, what you are, you are touching on there is that being okay to fail in the process Peter: Yes Sam: And by naming the failure it becomes something else and it becomes Peter: Something powerful. Sam: Something more powerful, 'cause then people experience that together and in collaboration. Yeah. That is really beautiful, I mean. I guess in terms of like, one of the other questions and you know, in a way you've, you've answered it was what fluff ups have you learned from, in the practice, because this art of hosting creates more space for that I guess. Peter: I talk about the wild and the woolly of the hosting, and I think you can get, I mean, I have gotten so excited about just the process and the connection that, there have been times when I have not brought enough context at the beginning. So, I remember one event, we were like on the third morning, a guy who was actually staying at my house as a guest, said to me, I think, Peter, you need to just get in front of the room and tell us what the hell we're doing here. Sam: That's interesting. Peter: There's a bit of context and , you know, there's another, you know, just recently, like after all these years, Sam, you know how it's important to start on time. Start together is the thing, like whatever time that is, we start together and we started this thing and it was one of these digital things and people started to trickle in. So we'd started an opening circle where the dialogue guidelines had been given and then four people were in it. Then there were seven people, then there were nine people, and it just turned into a rodeo. So in order for the wild and woolly to happen, you have to remember to set the frame, and that's context and very important to begin together. So even after all these years and all the mastery available, it's still easy to miss some key points that just go wonky. Sam: I love that in terms of the reflection on that and the root to it and reflecting back on, do people know why they're here? Peter: They don't. Sam: And sometimes people don't know why they're here, but if you started in that togetherness, everybody's starting from that point, almost whether they know why they are there or not, they get to learn that together because that's where you started from. And we are coming towards sort of the end of, this lovely conversation. Peter, and I'm going to ask, from the last, podcast that went out, Olivia asked her guest, Julia Slay for a question to bring into this conversation. And her question was, how has your practice as a facilitator evolved and changed? Peter: You did send this ahead of time and I've been thinking about it and I don't know if my answer is, but this is what's come up in my contemplation of that question. I used to believe that hosting, facilitating was a better way to conduct joint human endeavor and joint activity, and I think that was fairly light. I'm feeling now that it's a necessity. So there's a valorizing in what it is to be a host facilitator. You know, in the industrial age, management and accounting we're the thing. I think in the age we're heading into, it's hosting facilitation, and narrative arts. Hosting, arts and narrative arts that are essential to human wellbeing and thriving. So I'd say that I'm taking it far more seriously. Before it was a passion. Now it feels like an essential work. So, that's what came up for me in contemplation of Olivia's question. Sam: Peter, thank you for that really thoughtful, beautiful response. Peter: I think maybe in, part of the like, span of history we explored, and the nature of your questions. And I think also Sam, 'cause we've known each other for so long now, we have a lot of shared experience. A great deal of, uh, coherence was made for me. So I'm having a sense of coherence and wholeness, which I think is actually the point of this hosting, facilitating. The idea is to create the conditions so that people can feel this sense of wholeness so they can be assured of themselves in a world that's gone crazy. Yeah, meaning coherence, wholeness. That was my experience. Anyway. How about you? Do we have time for you to say Sam: I have enjoyed this interview. It is my first podcast, as part of the new crew, and I think coming in with, you know, the anxieties of doing something kind of new for the first time and recording for the first time. I think what I'm taking away and what meaning it's having for me is in terms of, is the fun of the conversation. Peter: You got a knack for that. Sam: And I, it's almost like studying more what I have. Being involved in, I guess this is a unique conversation because we know one another and we've, shared a practice as to someone that I would be interviewing that I wouldn't be familiar with. So I think this is quite a unique experience and involved in the conversation and the shared experience of it. So it's given a new kind of a deeper understanding and a different way to explore what it is, that happens in that space as well. So I think taking away your kind of, you know, a deeper perspective of what's been experienced. Peter: Very nice. Thank you. Sam: So that brings us on to, my final question, and that is to invite a question from you for our next guest who we don't know who it will be. Peter: So let's just go with the old classic Sam, and invite your next guest to respond to, at what crossroads do you find yourself with regards to your work in the world? Sam: Beautiful. That'll, uh, give whoever it is, something to chew and ponder over. Peter: Possibly even a good place to start. Sam: Many of our conversations is exactly where it starts. So, Peter, with that, it is been a, absolute pleasure, kind of speaking with you today. Peter: Likewise Sam, always. Sam: Thank you for joining the IAF podcast. And, uh, thank you and be well. Peter: You're welcome. Thank you, sir. Sam: So listeners, we've reached the end of another episode of Facilitation Stories, the community podcast of IAF England and Wales. If you'd like to find out more about the IAF and how to get involved, all of the links are on our website, facilitationstories.com, and to make sure you never miss an episode, why not subscribe to the show on whatever podcast app you use? We're always on the lookout for new episode ideas, so if there is a fabulous facilitator you think we should talk to or something interesting emerging in the world of facilitation you think listeners need to hear about, send us an email at podcast@iaf-ew.co.uk We hope you join us for some more facilitation stories again soon. Until then, thank you for listening.

December 5, 2025Episode 7934 min

🎙️ FS79_Julia Slay & Ending Sessions Well

In today's episode, Olivia is joined by Julia Slay, founder of Facilitation 101, to explore an often-overlooked part of facilitation: how we end sessions well. With 15+ years' experience across social policy, consultancy and learning design, Julia shares her journey into facilitation and what sparked her growing fascination with powerful endings. They talk about: Why endings matter,and common mistakes at the close of sessions — rushed checkouts, lack of closure, and clunky feedback moments. How to design meaningful endings, using buffer time, reflection, grounding and action planning. The power of circularity too. Extending the ending beyond the room, with follow-ups and reconnection sessions.Plus creative closing practices, from body-based grounding to sound and movement. Quote highlights "A strong ending creates a feeling of completeness." "Reflection without action feels unfinished." Links Today's guest: Julia Slay, Founder, Facilitation 101 https://www.facilitation101.co.uk/courses?tag=Intensive https://myfreelancelife.substack.com/?r=b48m9&utm_campaign=pub-share-checklist https://www.linkedin.com/in/julia-slay-aa02b240/ Today's host: Olivia Bellas - Coach, Faciitator, Learning Experience Designer https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliviabellas/ To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF England & Wales Chapter: 🎧 https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ 📧 podcast@iaf-englandwales.org 🌐 https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales Transcript Olivia Bellas Welcome to facilitation stories. How do facilitators end up in the profession? What methods and techniques can we learn together? And we discover it all in this community Podcast, brought to you by the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Olivia, and today I'm talking with Julia. S. Julia is the founder and director of Facilitation 1 0 1, which began in 2023 after a simple request for a two hour session, which turned into a three day intensive. This is the course that now distills everything she wishes she'd known when she first started facilitating previous to all of this. She held a range of different roles, across social policy and charities, meaning now 15 years of experience designing and leading workshops, strategy sessions, and learning programs. So everything from away days and team development to full strategy. Retreats and international events. And in my opinion, also I must follow on LinkedIn for her generous and human sharings on navigating the world of facilitation. Julia, it's great to have you. Welcome. Julia Slay Oh, lovely to be here. And that was a very kind, generous introduction as well. Wow. Yeah. Thank you. Olivia Bellas Well, welcome. Welcome. So really looking forward to chatting today, and I know that we have a focus area. Mm-hmm. Which we will get into. So that focus area is looking at endings in workshops and why they're valuable, how we can do them. But for that, I wanted to kick off with, something that makes you smile. So thinking about your world of facilitation at the moment, what's making you smile? Julia Slay Mm, well, lots of things. I often feel like I have somehow landed doing a job that doesn't really feel like work. And surely that's like the dream. Well, it is for me anyway, that it's, , each day mostly. There are some small exceptions that mostly I feel really. Energized, focused, joyful with the work. But something that does always make me smile is when I'm running the training side of the work, I do the facilitation training through facilitation 1 0 1, and I'm in a room with really brilliant facilitators who often come from quite a wide range of disciplines, and they bring in their experience and I get to see and learn from them. Which is, which is kind of the. For me, one of the secret joys of running training is that you are learning all the time as well. And there was a course I ran a couple of weeks ago and someone who comes from a kind of theater background and has done a lot of work with, um, theater of the Oppressed was running an activity with the group and I just. Had a smile all over my face. She did an incredible job. And I kind of walked away thinking, yeah, I mean, I got to learn something new today that I've never seen before, and I absolutely loved it. So that, that brings me a lot of joy in my work at the moment. Olivia Bellas Hmm. Yeah, so you get the opportunity to, to have multiple smiles because of all of those, different perspectives of facilitators you are encountering. And actually, I'm quite. Intrigued by that. So you had someone from a theater background. , What other kinds of facilitators are you encountering? Julia Slay Yeah, well it's, it's getting much more diverse. Mm-hmm. I would say a year ago I was primarily working with and training people who were freelance. So, uh, self-employed, , people who often had a combination of kind of coaching, consultant facilitator roles. They had what I would call capital F facilitation. So they were kind of identifying and marketing themselves as a facilitator and much more. Now, certainly in my orbit, I am meeting people who. Talk about themselves as using facilitation skills, but they are not necessarily,, freelance and they're they're often more kind of internal. I have had people recently coming on training from the navy, from big tech companies, from um, you know, kinda team leaders and senior managers who are thinking a lot about, , the way they run their team meetings and their away days. I'm really enjoying seeing people connect with the skill and, , making connections between the work they do and facilitation skills and being able to see how. Powerful it could be when they brought it into their orbit. And I've also, I guess, I mean I do, as you said at the beginning, I do a lot of LinkedIn posts. I spend quite, quite a lot of my time on there, and I have really enjoyed. Getting more international exposure through that. Um, and, and seeing and learning from people who are applying facilitation in very, very different contexts. Um, some brilliant facilitators in, uh, New Zealand, in North America. We had a conversation a couple of weeks ago about some facilitators in Mexico who you had connected with, and I'm very keen to get their names from you as well. Quite a lot in South Africa and in India. So I'm really, I, I feel like. You know, I'm very exposed to a, not even Eurocentric, like British centric way of thinking about facilitation. And I think through LinkedIn I'm . Learning a lot more about different, , countries, different , cultures and how they approach facilitation as well. Olivia Bellas But you made a really interesting distinction between facilitation as a skill and I think probably. There's also the facilitator as a, a job or a role as, as well. , So I think it's, it seems like people are noticing the value of those skills in particular a lot more, , which is really, really exciting. And. And so how, how did you get here? Very interested in that. Lots of different paths and journeys I know facilitators have had, , to get to where they are. . Can you say a bit about . Yours? Julia Slay Yeah. Well, I. It, it was, I think, I think I know very few people. In fact, I dunno if I know anyone who woke up one day and was like, I wanna be a facilitator. So I think like lots of people, I kind of came into it by accident and was using the skills before I really knew the word existed. But, , I came through two roots. I think one was, well, maybe three. One was I had done a lot of work in my. Twenties working in a kind of think tank and consultancy, running training and workshops. So a lot of those workshops I would never have used the term facilitation. We talked about kind of hosting round tables and running events, but really we were trying to make them much more participatory to bring in structure, to bring in, you know, interesting ideas about how to prompt thinking and dialogue. So there was the kind of training, and I did some train the trainer training at that point in my life. And then I did some coaching training and went quite deep into team coaching and quality improvement coaching. Um, and that to me, there's like a very fine line between group coaching and facilitation. You know, that's quite blurry . , So those were I guess, the two skill sets that felt very facilitation adjacent. And then, , when I left my last kind of quote unquote proper job, which was at the Greater London Authority, so the GLA kind of policy role there, I went freelance and was labeling myself as like a strategy research policy consultant. Actually what people started employing me for was facilitation. And uh, people started saying, can you facilitate this away day? Can you facilitate this strategy process? Can you facilitate this community of practice? And one day I remember changing the signature on my email and thinking, you know, I didn't even know this word existed two years ago, and now apparently I am one. So it was almost kind of. By by accident. I guess it was the main skill I was using as a consultant, and I do think a lot of people who are freelance consultants are using facilitation skills, whether or not they call themselves a facilitator, that is like a really core skillset for them. Olivia Bellas I think a really interesting point you made was that exactly, there's lots of people that are essentially doing this kind of thing already without necessarily knowing it and giving it a name. And actually you mentioned the GLA, which is where we actually met and we're working there. And similarly. Working in social policy, community engagement, doing this work around better conversations and kind of dynamics between groups, but not, not necessarily having a label. Julia Slay And, and I would say not necessarily having as much skill or structure as I would've liked. I certainly, I definitely look back now at some of the engagement events, at some of the workshops, at some of the away days, we were kind of running ourselves and think. If I knew now, then what? I know now, there's a, I mean, I would've done things very differently and I think having these skills when you are working in organizations with teams is so. Powerful. And um, and also at a board level, I mean, I did, I've sat on a couple of different charity boards and NHS as a kind of non-exec director, and I sometimes think about how formal and quite stale those meetings can be and how just some very simple. Facilitation skills that bring a bit of kind of like structure or powerful questions or moments for people to pause and reflect could really transform those spaces. I mean, it is a big, , focus of my work at the moment is trying to. Bring facilitation skills into organizations . Olivia Bellas I love that that aspect of, you know, helping people navigate essentially who, who need that skill, but might not necessarily know it yet. And actually coming onto that, then coming onto those nice techniques and sort of tips, . Let's start going into this idea of workshops and, um, facilitated spaces and how actually we end them well, because I think there's a lot,, that we can talk about in terms of how we start well, and you know, all those different activities that we can get excited about in that core middle section. And then there's that ending part. Which I know I'm guilty of, have maybe not dedicated enough time to, so that's what I'd love us to dive into a bit more now. Yeah. What's, what's kind of bubbling for you at the moment in terms of the power of endings in workshops? Julia Slay Hmm. Well, you are right. I mean, I have become kind of mildly obsessed with this topic and have, uh, looked, you know, looked and reflected on a lot of my own endings of workshops and trainings and events. And I'm also a regular participant. I mean, one of the ways I try and. Keep my practice fresh is by being a participant in lots of other spaces where I can be facilitated by different people. So I've started, I've got a lot of kind of creativity and inspiration from some of those people as well. And I guess the reason I became so fixated on it is because I have had some really bad experiences of endings and they weren't catastrophic, but they were probably quite. Common. So, uh, let's go through Yes. Some of those, yeah, I think we identify so well. I would say that they're, they're probably things that every, I don't, I know that on, on a bad day, my workshops would run like this as well. You run late, so not. You don't actually run late, but the session que, you know, it goes on and on and squeezes your kind of ending checkout time quite tightly. Mm-hmm. So you might find yourself just with kind of three minutes to go to try and do a bunch of stuff. So I think it can feel well, I think. A bad ending for me feels quite rushed and, , not spacious, which is how I like my work to feel for people I guess relaxed in some ways. If you have an ending that isn't closed, well, it can feel like you're kind of untethered. Like we didn't close everything that we opened. Um, there isn't time to process and reflect collectively. There might be individuals might well walk away and be reflecting there themselves, but there hasn't been a kind of collective moment, which is quite important in the way I facilitate. And I'm really influenced by some of the neuroscience behind this, and in particular something called the peak end rule, which shows us that what people remember from events is the highs and the ends. And it is, it is. That, which I think has really got me thinking about how do I make sure that the endings are really powerful. So I, I am kind of. Struck by if, if part of the intention of your work is to create an impact and I think the work that I do, which is often around a kind of more structured workshops and events, then the ending does really matter. And there, I think there are several things that you can do to create a really powerful lending. And it kind of depends partly on what you're doing. The thing I all, I'm now trying much more to avoid is that kind of very rushed, three minutes at the end on Zoom, where in a panic I might say, okay, one word in the chat or one emoji and how you're feeling leaving this session. Olivia Bellas And then it's just kind of over and which has its place, right. The checkout, those checkout words are lovely, but like you say, it's about, is it about ring? How do you ringfence that time, you know? Yeah. . And how much time would you give it? I, I guess depending on,, the session. Julia Slay Um, yeah, that's a good question actually. I mean, it does, I think, well, how do you ringfence it? One of the things I've started to do, two things I've started to do, I have found quite helpful. One, is to just be much more generous in my planning around how long to leave for the, for the ending. So in a one hour session, for example, online, I might angel leave 15 minutes and, and if I, if I ended up with 10, I'd be happy. The other thing I've seen people do and I quite like doing now, is using buffer time. So in a workshop plan, deliberately planning in buffer time for either q and a extra breaks if people need them, a session to go on a bit longer or a bit more to at the end. And I don't think I've ever been left. Too much time at the end. So my assumption is always, if there's time it can be usefully spent, right? Like it's like a helpful thing. And if you can finish five minutes early, actually they're gonna be love you. Yeah. They're gonna love you. It's like having a snow day at school or something. People are like skipping out. Think I've got five minutes to make a cup of tea or hang up my laundry. Um, so. Yeah, I think I, I am more and more conscious about trying not to rush things or to do, I mean, one of the many activities I would do as part of a kind of ending section would be a checkout, and I think with the kind of one word in the chat, or share your reflection in the chat, it can be very effective if you don't have time to go around and hear people, but actually they don't have time to read it. So often what I find is people are sharing these brilliant insights and we, as the facilitators are left. With them and we can read through them and go, oh, that's lovely. That's really interesting. But they're often just pinging it in and then heading out of the room. So it feels like for me, part of the intention of a checkout is that it's collective sense making and a moment of collective connection. And if I'm doing like add something in the chat, they're not getting the benefit of that necessarily, unless they're being really diligent and staying and reading through everything. Olivia Bellas So there's a, there's a connection part,, a social part I guess, remembering who's there, how we sort of started this very kind of human aspect. I'm just thinking about. Um, the value of what meaning has been made, you know, kind of a learning transfer aspect I suppose that might more sit with training or is there a differentiation? Julia Slay Well, yeah, , I do think, I feel quite strongly, and I know other facilitators will have different views on this. I think, I feel that there is always collective learning. From almost any kind of session. And I don't, I don't think that's limited to training. I think that often we learn through hearing other people articulate things that are different to us or that validate something else, or sometimes it's naming something we hadn't that, you know, we hadn't even found the words for yet. So there is, I think. In every, we are using the word session quite loosely here, but it could be a meeting, it could be a team away day, it could be, um, a planning session could be almost anything really. But the chance to talk about both, like the process and the content feels like an opportunity to deepen learning and to. Yeah, I, I think to, to have a more kind of reflective space that mm-hmm. Is, is about learning, is about connection is about, I think about this sometimes with my quality improvement hat on, where I used to coach teams in the NHS kind of an hour a week in a GP practice, and we would always do a review at the end of the one hour meeting, which was just a very quick in five minutes. What went well about the meeting and even better if, and everyone would share their, what went well and even better if, and through that we were making these micro adjustments to how we worked as a team. And how those sessions were useful for the team. So it didn't have to be a big whole scale three month review, although you could do that. It was this kind of like slight tweaking, recalibrating, and a chance, uh, to just make things a bit a bit better. So I think I sometimes do think about it as both the process and the content. So, um, a checkout and a, and a process of reflecting can be, , both about. What did I learn today? What insights am I taking away? What reflections am I taking away? And how did I feel this session went? What might we do differently next time? And I think there is often, for me, because I'm a coach and I know you are too, I quite like to combine reflection with action.. So that there's a reflective component and then there's a kind of, what action am I taking away, or what's my next step? I also think there's a bunch of other logistical stuff that you do in an ending that's quite important. So there's stuff around kind of what's happening next, like where is, you know, what is the kind of next stage of this, if at all? , There's kind of sharing materials. Often I think we forget that participants we are with this is, I'm more in the space of if you're facilitating groups who aren't already in a team or organization. They often are like, we wanna be connected and we forget that. We need to give them the space to have that conversation and figure out what they wanna do, where they wanna take their, their connections, if at all. , You might be running an evaluation. So often when we rush out endings, the evaluation or the feedback is the first thing that gets cut. Olivia Bellas I'd say probably some of the fluff ups I've had in terms of not ending as I would've liked to, are around this kind of feedback bit, , like it feels clunky to me. It feels like we've just sort of shifted from me and us to you, or you know, suddenly there's this kind of weird moment of like, oh, right now we are looking at the session, and what was the workshop actually? Julia Slay Yes. Yeah. And I think that's, and I think sometimes doing feedback or evaluations can feel quite well, it's like an admin task. It's an admin, yeah. Everybody gets their phone out and they scan the QR code, or they get the piece of paper and the pen and it's a bit quiet and it does shift the energy and the mood. People might have been in this lovely, you know, reflections and connection space, and then suddenly you're like, and here's the feedback form. And I do think it's really important to do it in the session because your data quality is so much better. , It's interesting which way round would I do it? I do a little bit of the kind of process evaluation, so what went well? And I usually do that before the final checkout. I might, for example, if we've had a bit of a group agreement at the beginning, might revisit that and say a bit of kind of like, how did we do against this? Which bits do you think we really stuck to? Which bits might we have slipped a bit on? What might you change for next time? So I probably would try and do that before I then did. And what's your final checkout? So I try to leave a checkout for the very, very end, and then I might just do one final. Grounding activity, and this is where people have such different skill sets. You know, I ran a training on, I ran this first day of a trauma informed training that I'm doing with a group of psychotherapists. We ran it this week and they did a final grounding activity that was very somatic, very physical. It was a kind of body scan. That's not the kind of thing I ever really do because it's, it's not really part of my practice. But I do sometimes you might cringe at this, I do sometimes read out like a poem or I might do something more physical, like a game. Like there's a lovely game, like a hand sink clap game. Oh yes. Which is a really lovely way to like build energy and just bring a bit of like movement back in at the end. Uh, but again, you need time for these things. So you'll often be thinking someone, actually again, the theater person who was in this training I ran in November, she ran a fantastic activity at the end of one of the days, which was building a sound machine of facilitation. So it was like, oh, it was so cool, and it was like, for a minute I was like. The, is the group gonna go for this? Because she was inviting people up to kind of make a motion and a noise, and there was about five seconds where I was like, Ooh, where's this gonna go? And then someone jumped in and then they all piled in and it, yeah, the energy just went from like 50 to a hundred in the space of 60 seconds, and that was all it took really. Olivia Bellas Amazing that, this, brilliant, sound activity and the poem that you mentioned. Yeah. You know, we might put these at the start, right? Like they actually feel, like things that might be more familiar there when actually putting them at the end, or even thinking about topping and tailing, is there value in connecting that beginning and that end? Julia Slay Well, it's interesting you say that because I, I mean, I said I've become mildly obsessed with this. One of the many things I've become a bit obsessed with is the concept of circularity and or what in improv and comedy they call reintegration. So where you bring something back from the beginning at the end. Right. And I love this concept. I came across it, I did some training, last month in Berlin with chaos pilots around experience design, and they introduced this concept of circularity so that you do something at the beginning of an activity, at beginning of a workshop or an event, and then you bring it back at the end. So in the training, they had this kind of little yellow. Airplane that you wrote an intention on and something just cut kind of a couple of prompts and then at the end we came back to that. So it's just a very, it's a very simple way of doing. It doesn't have to be, uh, elaborate. On um, Tuesday when, when we ran this trauma informed training, uh, one of the facilitator, one of the trainer team got people to write down anything. They just wanted to park things that they just wanted to leave outside the space. And she gave them envelopes and paper and they put what they wanted to park in the envelope and they gave the envelope to her. And at the end of the day, she gave it all back and it was this lovely moment of like. Actually, and, and I really have done that activity before and really experienced it as a participant, as like it mentally just shut off some of the noise. It was really powerful. Olivia Bellas Oh, I love that. So you literally just put it in an envelopes and it's held by the facilitator during the duration and then it's. Given back and that's it. It's just as simple as that. Julia Slay Yeah. And someone, someone was like, I don't even know if I wanna open. I'm not gonna open it now. You know, which is, you know, fair enough. Yeah. But it's be powerful. It's the physical embodiment of, of things. Right? Like it's one thing. And I do think it's also very powerful to say out loud, uh, I want to park X. Yeah. But there is something I think even more powerful about physically writing it down, putting it aside and saying, I'm gonna come back to that at. Whatever, 5:00 PM today. And it's just, it's there and it's, you know, parked and the, and this kind of concept. I mean, that is, I think all just generally parking stuff and having a way to give people a chance to say, this is on my mind. I need to just go with that is very powerful. But this concept of circularity I really love because I think it does do. Just help you achieve. One of the key things I think I'm looking for when I run workshops or events or training, which is uh, com kind of a completeness, a kind of, and it's not to say things have to be tidy or neat, uh, they, but it's, it's the kind of anchoring effect of bringing something full circle. Olivia Bellas It's quite sort of reassuring, satisfying. Intentional as well, I'm just remembering I did one accidentally but I got that feeling as a facilitator. So I had started the session and, . Had a picture up actually of just my hand, you know, with, with kind of five digits. And it was really just to remind me that I wanted in my intro to say five quick things about me and move on. And then at the end we ended up doing that debrief that I think, you know, where you draw around your hand and each finger is a of reflection prompt. And although that was accidental, there was something that like has that sensation as well for the whole group. Participants and facilitator and I guess I, that just made me think a, another thought there is this sort of worry, fear of like ending, which might be another unraveling, you know, like how can we end well without it possibly going into a another direction. Julia Slay Yes, and I am always aware, I mean, I can. I have heard facilitators talk about that as a fear before, and I think sometimes there are, there are certain phrases or words that I would probably avoid bringing in right at the end. Like, is there anything else you wanna talk about? But I think there is something interesting because when you run the kind of process review reflection stuff, or you do a checkout that's more learning orientated, I think implicitly in the way we structure it, there's a boundary around it. So even if someone says something quite revealing or challenging in terms of process feedback, like, oh, I actually didn't think we did that very well, or, I'm feeling a bit frustrated by the way this happened. , It's like the group understands we're not necessarily going into that now. This is like insight and information, but we are not necessarily open up. So I think that there, if it's phrased and framed in the right way, it's naturally quite contained, even if stuff comes up and you think, well, that could be like a two hour conversation. Whereas, yeah, I definitely have been guilty in the past and try not to do now. Saying to the group, and it almost sometimes can slip out. You know, you, you've done your checkout and then you kind of go, oh, is there anything else? And you're like, no, no, don't do that. I think with teams who are connected to each other, uh, that can come up a little bit more. So someone will be maybe right at the end after they've done a checkout, oh, but we didn't talk about this. Or should we talk about that? And because they know they're gonna see each other again or later It can just feel slightly different. , There's also something I think about acknowledging that. When we close a session, right, and we kind of end the session, but people will still be processing and reflecting sometimes for hours, days, and weeks afterwards. So their ending might not be for two weeks time. Um, and I'm curious, I've seen some facilitators try to. Accommodate that by extending the ending and sometimes kind of sending an email a week or two afterwards saying, uh, would love to hear where your reflections landed on this. And it's almost like part accountability coach, part acknowledgement that they might have still processed quite a lot of insight post session. , Or something I've started doing in the training I run because I had an experience of it that was really positive is, you know, you do a three day training and then. Two months later, or maybe six weeks later, have just like 45 minutes online to come back together and just do a bit of a kind of recap and review. So acknowledging that there's lots of things that bubble up and learning and processing doesn't end when we shut the Zoom. And how can we think about our ending as a more extended version of that? Yeah, absolutely. The ending isn't necessarily just in that time that you've all spent together. Olivia Bellas It can carry on and if you have scope to reconnect, brilliant. , That's not always the case. , Of course, and like you had said,, that next steps piece, , it will feel like it might, need to be heavily discussed with the client and where are they coming into it, , and that kind of ending, , might need to be sort of shared a little bit with, with, with others as well. So I, I've actually got, a question and then I'm gonna ask you for one, so Uma and Sam, who were the other hosts, and I had a chat recently and we were saying, . Wouldn't it be nice to, , get some of our brilliant guests to share a question they'd like to pass on to the next guest? So I'm gonna do that and ask you that, but first I've got a question that we wanted for you. So we're gonna start, and it's actually really connected to what we're talking about right now. , So the question we were thinking about was, , what meaning. Has been made for you, if any, as a result of the conversation we've just had now? Julia Slay Interesting. Yeah, I think I, there is something I, um, mulling over about the very practical timing aspect and. How, how long is the right amount of time to spend on an ending? And that's like just hit home for me a little bit about, , how long would it take to do something really meaningful? Could you do it in three minutes actually I dunno if it's quite the word meaning, but yeah, yeah, absolutely. I mean, we can talk about the value of closing well, how we do it, but like you say, being really clear actually about it, having that dedicated time Olivia Bellas Okay. So what question would you like to ask our next guest who, we don't know who it is yet, so it's a kind of, it's a surprise for everyone. Is there something. Julia Slay I, I would love to know how their practice as a facilitator has changed as they have gone along their facilitation journey. So how has their practice evolved and changed? Olivia Bellas Love that. You know, I mean, it's almost a question I'd love to ask every facilitator I meet because I, I can see in myself the way it's totally changed over the years. Yeah. And I am very curious about that journey for others too. . And how it could, um, be fast sometimes and slow other times, you know, that sort of rate of change is just,, different every time. Julia Slay Yeah. And how we unlearn things. I mean, I think there is some assumptions maybe that I had at the beginning of my facilitation. Career inverted comm when I first started, which I would, which have certainly changed and things I used to do that I thought were really important that now I, I hold much more lightly. Olivia Bellas So, yeah, I'm very curious to, to listen to the episode and see what they say, what gorgeous that is. A lovely point of circularity actually. They're bringing in something from before. I think that's a lovely activity to do. Oh, well thank you so much for that question and the conversation today. Thank you. I know that's helpful for a lot of people. Julia Slay Thank you. That was really lovely conversation. Olivia Bellas Thanks for listening to Facilitation Stories - brought to you by IAF England and Wales. We like to collect stories, so get in touch if you have an idea - contact info is at facilitationstories.com There, you can Subscribe, follow, like the show so you get notified of new episodes. This has been Facilitation Stories

November 21, 2025Episode 7828 min

🎙️ FS 78 – Relaunch Episode: Meet the New Hosts; Umah, Sam, Olivia

In today's episode, the Facilitation Stories podcast returns with a brand-new hosting team — Olivia, Sam, and Umah — who share their stories, inspirations, and hopes for the next chapter of the podcast. They talk about: Why they joined the Facilitation Stories team and what excites them about podcasting as a way to connect facilitators and share learning. How their diverse backgrounds — from healthcare and construction to creative arts, community engagement and youth work — have shaped their facilitation practice. The power of collaboration and curiosity in creating spaces for reflection, learning, and human connection and what underpins their hopes for this podcast series And, of course, an important conversation about pets, TV guilty pleasures, and favourite biscuits! 🍪 "It's about creating space where people can make sense of their own stories — and find belonging in shared spaces." "Sometimes, facilitation is about slowing down, thinking, and making time for the conversations we don't usually have." Links Today's guests are the hosts themselves: Olivia Bellas https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliviabellas/ Sam Moon https://www.linkedin.com/in/theboymoon123/ Umah Ganeshalingam https://www.linkedin.com/in/umah/ To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF England & Wales Chapter: 🎧 Facilitation Stories website: https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ 📧 Email us: podcast@iaf-englandwales.org 🌐 IAF England & Wales: https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales Transcript Helene Hello and welcome to Facilitation Stories, the community podcast of the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Helene Jewell and for the last time I am introducing the podcast because I'm going to be passing the baton onto this wonderful new team. We have Sam Moon, Olivia Bellas, and Umah Ganeshalingam. In this episode, you're going to hear Sam, Umah and Olivia talk about their hopes for the Facilitation Stories podcast, some of the work they all do, the kinds of things they're interested in hearing about, and the conversations they're hoping to have. And it just leaves me to say thanks to everybody that I've worked with on this podcast. Pilar Orti, who started the whole thing, Nikki Wilson, we worked together for ages and it has been absolutely fantastic working with both of them and to Rena Kosh as well, who does all the graphics and stuff that go out alongside the podcast and pretty much everybody else that's been listening, all the guests we've had over the last few years, it's been fantastic. Umah Thank you, Helen, and thank you to you and the team for everything that you've done today and handing it over so nicely to us. Helene Good luck to you all. Sam We'll be standing on the shoulders of giants. Thank you Helen. So I'll kick off with the question. What brings you here, Olivia, to the new crew, why was it important for you to be here? Olivia Podcasting as a format really works for me, so it's definitely a medium that I enjoy for work, for fun. The idea of being part of a crew, a team, building a podcast is really, really exciting to be a bit more behind the scenes. I remember I was at the IAF conference in April in Birmingham earlier this year and seeing this call out to see who's interested. And that was one reason. And then the other reason was actually I tend to collaborate a lot. This year, I haven't been really up until that point and was like, oh, what's missing? And it was that feeling that I was actually, as a facilitator, doing lots of solo work, which I think has value sometimes, but I was really missing more closer collaboration with others. Yeah. What about you, Sam? Sam I think it's curiosity, which is often very much my kind of North Star towards things and serendipity and an interest in being with others, exploring and discussing what I enjoy and the room and the space to do that with others, and also an excitement and interest in talking about, talking with and sharing conversation with other people who are in the facilitation world. And I think just the opportunity to play with those ideas and experience other people's experiences. Learn a little bit about this realm of podcasting, which I'm not massively familiar with myself. I'm here with openness to the curiosity of what is possible. Really. So Umah, come to you. What brings you here, and why was it important for you to be involved in the IAF podcast as a as a new crew member? Umah Mine all started with a conversation with Paul, where I had joined as a IAF member and as part of the intro, he spoke to me about the IAF, the podcast and said, oh, if I'm keen, I could be involved in it. And almost the day I joined as a member, I say, yeah, I'll happily get involved with the podcast too. And then it was about finding other people to do it with us, and he mentioned it at the conference, which unfortunately I couldn't attend, but I'm hoping to attend this one. Coming up, in terms of my why at work, it's quite delivery. Whereas this for me is a place where I could slow down a bit, have the space and time to have conversations, think about why we're doing things. Is our approach the right approach? How do other people do things and do a bit more of that philosophizing really, that we don't always get to do? But the thing is, by exploring this with both of you, with our guests in the future, and also the audience who's listening in, it's just really good to get different viewpoints and build that community. I think that's quite key for me. Olivia I think it's really interesting around sometimes we well, we often get caught up in the doing and the delivery side of things, and it is about looking at what is it we do. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. But yeah. What's my follow up question. Is there a kind of area of facilitation that you're particularly interested in, or is it more about sort of your discovering, you know, through your practice. Umah I've had quite a few different career changes. So I started off as a clinician and I was seeing pediatrics and adults with hearing and balance difficulties. And how you communicate is key in terms of the impact on their the diagnosis, the management of it. And it's how can we make them feel comfortable, give them that space to explore and ask the questions. So it's facilitating them through this process, right. So I initially started with patient experience journeys that kind of facilitation. How can we make the process better. And then afterwards I had a career change, went into construction and it became more about customer experience or passenger experience when I did airports. It's interesting that you asked me that, Olivia. So before it was the journey, whereas now it's the community, the group. What's the common? People have different needs and different things to attain. At the moment, lots of people are off in different directions. What is the commonality? It's changed that way for me. How about for you? What's your area of practice right now? Olivia And that's a good point right now adding that bit. I think it does change quite a lot. I've also dipped my toe into quite a few different working worlds. I've come from creative sector, arts culture, worked with artists a lot, and I've brought that into government spaces, charity spaces, public dialogue and also thinking about making teamwork more enjoyable, easier. But I bring a lot of play. So a lot of that kind of creativity, which is naturally how my brain works. But how do we use that as a way into the workplace? I mean, there's a lot of science and evidence that backs up that using playful approaches Really helps us in terms of fresh thinking. So I'd say at the moment I do use a lot of serious play in my work. I do use a lot of other kind of practices like walk and talks, visualization. So that side of things is where I'm focused right now. Umah Yeah. Sam, we've spoken a lot about, for example, our why. What is it that you're hoping that us together on the podcast is going to do? Sam That's a good question. My kind of world of work has been twenty five years or so in youth and community, sort of focused. So a lot of my facilitation is kind of through that, through that lens. And I'm earning the last year or so have gone full time freelance by myself. So I've been on a journey of figuring out what it is that I do in that new world. So I'm very much on that story of kind of discovery, but finding myself working a lot in the sort of community Subcommittee film co-production, lived experience, but also being drawn and developing work around kind of impact through means called ripple effect mapping. I'm very much pulled into different things and then began to get get interested in what makes me smile and what creates the energy. So I'm still very much in this discovery stage, but it's also interesting as a kind of work through things is having to remember to be me and follow the things that I like to do and create and facilitate in the way that I wish to facilitate and follow my own path. It's very easy to kind of be looking at all the amazing things that other people are doing and going, oh, that looks great, I should be doing that. And you forget to actually do the things that you do well. Focus on those on those things. And when I remember that and lean back into the things that are me and that I do, the world opens up and I find myself in spaces doing really exciting things and creative pieces of work, which then lead into to other things like this in terms of the opportunities the podcast brings and what we'd like to explore. I'm really interested in speaking to a whole range of different types of facilitation, and really looking at ways in which people can talk about what they're passionate about and what's important to them. But I'm also interested, because of my own passions in facilitation within the community world and other sort of sectors, like that kind of creating space where we're all able to talk about facilitation without competing with another facilitation style or another kind of way of doing things, because I think, well, I'll kind of start off, I might become precious about a certain way of doing things, and then I'll learn another way of doing things and think, well, actually, this really complements this way of doing things. And then you begin to see the gaps in everything that you do. I'm looking forward to creating a space where we can see how things complement one another, and that the enjoyment and what we get from it is shared with each other. Olivia I agree so much with what you said, like, it's really exciting to hear because I think with facilitation, as we know, it's quite unusual, mostly how people have ended up doing this type of work. I hear the kind of stories of like a, you know, just as we've shared now, really quite different. And so those roots there are fascinating, and they reveal a lot and give you permission to do the things that you just said, Sam. Well, I'll try it like this, but then I can layer it with this and I can look at something else. Yeah. Facilitation exists in so many different ways, and that's what I'm excited about diving into and getting those stories in the least expected places. And with the people that maybe we hear less from. I suppose in facilitation is doing big work, but maybe quiet work as well. So yeah, would definitely love to hear from people who probably don't even call themselves facilitators, but maybe identify with some of the things already said. Sam Umah, what comes to mind for you of what you'd like to experience and might be possible for the podcast? Umah I'm quite interested to look at the breadth and depth of the different things that we have available to us, what's worked, and understanding what are the true challenges that we face. We do lessons learned, and it's quite nice to get a chance to ask detailed questions of right. So when that was a challenge, what did you do? And then delve into that. And through that conversation you unlock her. Well, maybe we could maybe we could try this. It becomes it evolves doesn't it? So it becomes a new way of doing things. Let me reiterate my process. I've done this workshop many times. Never once has my workshop ever gone the same way. Different people, different outcomes, different ways of doing things. Even the three of us together, we haven't covered everything. So that's why we bring guests in hearing from audiences. What is their reveal? Something that I've not thought of yet. Sam To go a little bit deeper with a follow up question on that is what is it about your world of facilitation? What is it that makes you smile about it? What is it that gives you a spring in your step about facilitation? Umah One thing personally for me is the variety I get to learn about new sectors when I'm facilitating. I could be sector agnostic and really get something valuable for them when I'm in the session, it helps piece the world together for me. I like the variety, I like learning. We're all lifelong learners. I really like that. And exploring what there is. It's seeing when someone is hesitant to say, should I put this idea forward? And you can see that they're a little bit uncomfortable. So we facilitate as facilitators, and they build the confidence and courage to put their idea forward. And then I see them see their team members contribute and grow that idea. Afterwards, they might take it away. They might develop it. You know, we're bigger than the sum of our parts type thing. So for me, that's really what makes me smile. Sam How about you, Olivia? What gives you a spring in your step about facilitating or your world of facilitation? Olivia So two things jump to mind. So firstly, I guess it's that sort of very unknown space that I'm realize I'm quite drawn to. So a lot of the facilitation work that I have done, when it's kind of in the community engagement space, it's very unpredictable. It can feel kind of complicated and complex and messy sometimes, but it's work that I really enjoy because I enjoy that kind of sense making part of it. And it's it's weird because it's definitely a kind of uncomfortable maybe space, but I really love navigating it, whether it's in the moment delivering or before that. When you're designing and you're like, what? How is this even gonna work out? And then it somehow the pieces come together. I guess it's also like you were saying as well, how that unknownness is experienced and transformed with the others, with the group then, because we all get that sense, don't we? I also just love the fact of what makes me really, really smile is that I can just go for it and really try things out. A lot of the time with safety, of course, within the group, but sometimes I've come away and kind of go, wow, I'm really glad that we tried this particular route with the group today, and it felt right to do it then. Pushing those boundaries of exploration, of creativity just really suits me as a facilitator as well. Just sharing like we are right now, because I think sometimes if we're honest, this kind of work can feel a little bit lonely. And I think just being really honest when there are fluff ups as well, it's just like it's not all brilliant. Like there's things that are like, uh oh, that was really weird or uh oh, gotta do that again in a different way, you know? And so I'd love to hear more of that as well in this podcast. What went well but what hasn't. And actually, like, can we just share that because we're all going through it. So I think that will bring smiles to probably many people's faces. Yeah. Sam. Sam So what makes me smile, I think, is that I enjoy the freedom, particularly coming from full time employment and then deciding to move into freelance and self-employment and all the uncertainty that comes with that. So I think there's an aspect of that in terms of not knowing what I'm going to be doing is quite exciting as discovering what I am going to be doing. As I'm figuring that out and things come in. I do a lot of work with stories and lived experience and also story creation. And the ripple effect mapping work that I do is very much held within stories and appreciative inquiry, and the nature of that creates a lot of energy and a lot of connection, creating spaces that nurture relationship and spaces in which people are in relationship with one another is often a joy to experience and be part of. And what also makes me smile is creating space where people can make sense of their own stories by telling their stories, creating space where people can hear other people's stories or hear other people speak from where they're at to make sense of how they are feeling and make sense of what's going on for them. It's just always a privilege to be in a space that the impact of that and the power of that gives people their own agency in their own sort of citizenship. Kind of in that space as well. So I really, really enjoy that. And also I might do work, which is more around what might be termed as hosting, and that's about creating space for the collective wisdom to emerge from the room. And that's what shapes the decisions. I like creating spaces where I might not know what's going to happen and how it's going to happen, and being able to create space to work and fail, but be human in those spaces as well and be open going, okay, this isn't quite working, is it? And be able to name that within those spaces. So shared learning experience as well, that ongoing learning experience for me and listening to the tone of the group rather than listening to myself. It's really lovely being in those sorts of spaces. Olivia I've heard it a little bit, but this hosting difference, and if you could expand a little bit on that, like what? What would you say is, is there a host and a facilitator might be different things or do they overlap? Sam We can talk about what it means to me, and I'm and I'm conscious that we can get into some semantics here where where I start to define what facilitation is is, isn't. When I'm using the word hosting. For me, it's around where facilitating space for the collective wisdom of the group or the people you're with, and the energy naturally arises to be able to shape what might emerge, rather than what might be a more linear, focused thing. That sort of hosting approach, maybe within appreciative inquiry, relational relational practice. So it could be as simple as why was it important for you to be here? Or what is the crossroads you're at at this moment in time? And we speak to those questions and then take that back into the room and what is shared and what struck people then might shape the next question. And so it's a form of practice, but it's that gray space. And I caveat that with everyone will possibly have their own version of what that means for them. Olivia That's so helpful. Thank you. I could feel myself going down a rabbit hole. I don't know if we want to jump into something a bit silly. Sam But we did have a few personal trivia questions, the first of which was what do we do for fun? Umah I have a puppy. He's a Saluki from Abu Dhabi, and for me he is the definition of fun and any time spent with him, I really value it. I quite like gaming, strategic games, board games and going for walks, which he definitely enjoys too. How about you? Sam So I'm also quite. You made me smile. And we could we could quite actually easily just take over the rest of the podcast with this, with this now which is a danger. But I was going to say what I do for fun is board gaming. So for anybody who's listening to this podcast who's not a gamer, I'm not talking about monopoly. For those who may be uninitiated, early entry games might be things like Ticket to Ride or Carcassonne or Settlers of Catan. I meet up with a bunch of friends locally, and we just really enjoy playing board games together, and occasionally we'll book an Airbnb and play games for an entire weekend and enjoy that. So that's what I do for fun. Go to the gym quite a lot now, and that might not be fun for most people, but it helps. I find it really good head clearer for me just to kind of hit the gym every now and then and go for a run. Olivia, what do you do for fun? Olivia Oh my goodness. Well, just listening to you both my cat whilst we're on the pet vibe. Ziggy she is very cool. She's fun for all the family. The other thing that came to my mind though, I don't feel like I do it loads and loads. It's just moving around and traveling actually. So whether that's within my kind of closest sphere or beyond. As my kids are getting a bit bigger, I'm sort of noticing, oh, I can actually venture out a bit more for fun. It's quite funny. It's around trash TV, so I'm gonna dive into it. I don't really watch TV as a as a general rule, but our household has just got into traitors. I felt quite uncomfortable about watching people be essentially quite like, duping each other and being quite mean to each other. Right? Because, you know, they've got to play the game. So this is kind of like a game where you're tricking people or trying to. Umah There is a game, there's a game called Mafia, which is this . Olivia So so you're watching these people like lying to each other. I found series one a really hard watch. Didn't bother with series two or three because I just thought I'm not going there. And then series four is on and it's the celebrity one. And as I'm watching it this time, I've got really into like all the biases, actually that are popping up. People are just making really weird decisions based on what, you know, because no one's actually got really any evidence. And so then it's brought up this kind of now it's more like an anthropological. Umah Yeah, exactly. It's societal. Olivia Exactly. Why are they saying that? It must be this guy? Because he's the smartest guy. What have you based that on? It's starting to come up. There's a few articles that people are going. Why isn't the media actually talking about a lot of the stuff that's happening, like first impression bias? You know, there's the kind of groupthink that happens. And, you know, you can start to relate this all to the work that we do. Umah Exactly how it comes through in the workplace. Olivia Absolutely. And so, you know, there's you can go really, really deep and into analyzing traitors, the TV show and seeing the parallels just with real life. And that actually you just look at these people and you think there are aspects that we enact as well. Just wanted to mention that as a kind of, you know, yes, it's a reality TV, but it's it's fascinating. Have a read of what's online around this kind of bias, because it's actually it's actually a little bit worrying that this is all sort of happening live on UK TV, and not a lot of people are talking about it yet. Umah Because it's a microscope, isn't it, into behaviors and you look into it and then some of them might be quite not reflective, but you see an exaggerated version of it. Olivia Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. Do either of you have trashy TVs? Umah I don't, I watch K-drama, but not trash TV. Sam Sorry. What's a K-drama? Umah Korean TV series. They're amazing. Sam Oh, right. I'm not familiar with that. My trash TV habit is I'm now a sucker for Deadliest Catch on Dmax, which is the reality TV. There's twenty two seasons of them, and it's about the folks who go crab fishing on the Bering Sea, and it follows a handful of boats that go out and catch crab. It's on for like two hours every morning, and I watch thirty minutes of it whilst I have my breakfast. And bit by bit, I've just started to get to know the different characters. What I find fascinating in terms of observation of people is mainly men who are on the boat, dominantly men. I'd say ninety nine percent men, but just in terms of kind of how men are with one another in that environment, toxic masculinity and fear. And in each episode, you'd see the nuances in terms of how they evolve as people. I find myself tied to that little routine each morning as I start to find out about these fishermen, you go out and catch crab. Umah I'll watch a clip after this. Recommend me a good episode to watch. Sam I couldn't do that at first. I really didn't like it because I was put off by the toxic masculinity of it. Shall we finish with the most important question of humanity, as far as I'm concerned, is what's your favourite biscuit or snack if you don't do biscuits. I've introduced mine, but also say how I use this in facilitation myself. So my favourite go to biscuit would be a hobnob. Probably a chocolate hobnob. I also use this as an icebreaker exercise by inviting people to go around the room, shake hands, introduce themselves and say, what's your favourite biscuit? And I'm always struck in when I do this thinking, oh, this is going to be a little bit trite, a bit superficial, but what happens is everybody starts telling biscuit stories. And so the reminiscence that comes out from this activity is quite something. So with that, Olivia, what's your favourite biscuit? Olivia Um, you know, just basically every biscuit on the planet. I like biscuits a lot, so I like auburn custard cream, jammy dodger. Like it's just. Yeah, I couldn't pin it down. But interestingly, as a warm up, I've experienced it. Rather I've been a participant and it was about sandwiches. And we also had to draw parallels to the sandwich that we've chosen in terms of describing our mood as well. And again, I find these ones that, you know, I still can't work out where I am with like warmers or icebreakers or whatever you call them, because there are some that don't work very well and some that work better. But I do find that anything that's like this, that's quite comforting. Sometimes it's just, you know, what was the last thing that made you smile? And that's usually going to be a positive start. The simpler the better, I think. But I'd love to come back to this because I know many people are very like, I am not doing an icebreaker. Umah Yea, different preference, isn't it? Olivia Yeah. What about you, Umah? Umah Well, favourite biscuit again, Sam. It was really good that you mentioned that people start reminiscing because straight away one came into my mind and that was the malt biscuit, the one with the cow on and when I was a kid, whenever I was poorly, my mum would give me two of those. It was a bit of a comfort, like a blanket around me, and it felt so nice. I like that icebreaker. So, Olivia, what's the headline of what listeners can look forward to? Olivia Circling back to the start of our conversation, we're interested in stories where we discover a bit more about how facilitators got to where they are. No one studied facilitation at school, did they? Like in a very formal way or pain like this pathway that's set. So understanding that and hearing more about all the different types of facilitation, that's what we can definitely look forward to that we're all committed to drawing out in the future conversations we have. Umah Sam. Sam Absolutely. People can look forward to a variety of stories, a variety of guests, and I think we're already shaping it is quite a human space creates a feeling of belonging and connection. It'd be great if we can create a sense that we're in the room with the listeners, and the listeners are in the room with us. Umah Yeah, I think that's beautiful. For me, I would just build on that, really, and say shared enjoyment, the nerding out on different methodologies like you've already touched on hosting and facilitation, the difference just really getting into some of the semantics actually, and exploring some of that. I think you said it beautifully there, Sam, as well. So thank you. And I feel that's a really nice place for us to end our first episode together as your new host. Umah Thank you for listening to Facilitation Stories, brought to you by Umah IAF, England and Wales. Umah Subscribe, follow and like so you can get notified of new episodes. If you have a story or an idea you'd love us to explore, you can reach us at Facilitation Stories. Umah This has been Facilitation Stories.

May 20, 202541 min

FS 77 Facilitation in the Agile Space with Farah Egby and Çiğdem Saka Jackson

In today's episode Helene speaks to Farah Egby and Cigdem Saka-Jackson about Agile. They talk about: Agile as a set of working practices that prioritises people over processes and tools; Farah and Cigdem's previous work and journeys into Agile facilitation; The roles and functions that the "Scrum Master" and "Kanban" play in Agile; Roles and techniques in Agile facilitation and tips on how to do it; "I think you need to care. You have to be a caring person. I definitely don't believe it is, it is a rule book and just a set of applicable guidelines. You have to care about the people you work with and the team you're working with". How Agile can be applied in different contexts including personally. "There are things that you can also apply to your own life individually, you can stop and have a moment to reflect, even if you don't do it with a formal process". Links Today's guests: Farah Egby: https://www.linkedin.com/in/farah-egby/ farah@tuntara.co.uk Cigdem Saka-Jackson: https://www.linkedin.com/in/%C3%A7i%C4%9Fdem-saka-jackson-7885a111/ cigdemsaka@gmail.com To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF and the England and Wales Chapter: Facilitation Stories website: https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ And to email us: podcast@iaf-englandwales.org IAF England and Wales: https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales The Facilitation Stories Team Helene Jewell: https://www.linkedin.com/in/helenejewell/ Nikki Wilson: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolawilson2/

March 25, 202539 min

FS 76 Chapter Chat with Andrew Spiteri EME Regional Director

In this episode Helene talks to Andrew Spiteri, Regional Director of the IAF Europe and Middle East Region. Andrew tells Helene about himself as a facilitator, the kind of work he does and his background with IAF. He became regional director at the start of the year and shares a bit about the work he has been involved in so far, his roles and responsibilities as director, and what he would like to see in future for the region and beyond. He tells us about the regional conference in Romania in November 2025 and about what he most loves about facilitation. You can contact Andrew at: rep.europe@iaf-world.org And Helene at helene@jewellfacilitation.com To contact the podcast team: podcast@iaf-englandwales.org Transcript H.J Hello and welcome to Facilitation Stories, the community podcasts brought to you by the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. I'm Helene Jewell, and this episode is one of our quarterly chapter chats, where we talk to people leading other chapters in the IAF global community. We ask them how they see the status of facilitation where they are, and the history priorities, current projects and aspirations for their chapter. My guest today is Andrew Spiteri, IAF endorsed facilitator, consultant and elected Regional Director for the Europe and Middle East, EME region of the IAF for 2025-26. Andrew accompanies diverse groups, associations, entities, NGOs and also faith based organizations, and also often works in international settings, helping groups in collaboratively formulating vision, strategy and action planning activities. Andrew comes from Malta, is a resident in Brussels, and is in Italy for long stretches during the year. Welcome Andrew. A.S Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for having me. H.J Every time I speak to you, you're globe trotting somewhere. A.S That's right. Yeah, that's right. H.J So tell us a little bit about you as a facilitator, and the kind of work that you do? A.S That's, it's always difficult because to start, because it's, it's so fascinating facilitation. And I think I was doing facilitation for many years without actually knowing it was facilitation. So I love to help groups work together, and what I really love is to give space to each and every person, because to manage to help that everyone contributes. Because I really believe everyone, even those who are apparently not well prepared, well suited or appear to be like a lot of the time. But I think everyone has a gift to gift and facing that challenge of helping take away all what, what blocks this, this, this participation, and creating climate where people can collaborate is really something I love, and so that's what I try to do in my facilitation. I work a lot with groups, associations, sometimes even with companies, but I would prefer normally NGOs or even associations, which could be very small or very big, international, with all the challenges of culture differences and cultural differences and even age differences. So, yeah, that's a bit what I'd like to do, and what I do usually. H.J Brilliant. And I think that thing about doing facilitation, before you know, it's called facilitation, is definitely a common theme, certainly, I think, back on all the podcasts we've recorded, and I think that's one thing that comes out in nearly all of them, fascinating. Okay, and so very international. What language do you facilitate in? Mostly, is it English? A.S Yeah, basically it's English. Not only, I know English, Italian, Maltese, evidently. So sometimes I do it in Italian. It depends on the group. I've just come from, Vienna. I had five sessions, very intense, and basically they were all in English. I had simultaneous translation in German. Most Viennese understand very well, and even speak English quite well. So it depends on the context, on the place, on the client, let's say, on how you organize. Yeah. H.J Wow. Sounds like you have a very diverse practice, which must be completely fascinating. A.S I remember once I was, like, two years ago, I was in Poland, and so this organization, sort of, they were, they knew a lot of Italian more than English. So I had two headphones, sort of from one headphone I would speak, a headphone with a microphone, and I would speak in English, sorry, in Italian. And they would they would hear me and translate in Polish. And from the other headphone, I would hear what the other people were saying in Polish translated into Italian. So it was like good, yeah. H.J Wow, that's the ultimate in a simultaneous translation. Blimey. Okay, so I should add multi-talented linguist to your list of skills, by the sounds of things. So I'd like to know a bit more about you know IAF and I know you've been involved for quite a while, so when did you become a member of IAF? A.S So that, yeah, yeah, it will go back to what you were saying before that for many years, or for many for some time, most of us actually don't know we're doing facilitation. Probably it's because facilitation is so new and even so not known so much. So I found myself in Italy for a long time helping organize big events, but not just the logistical part, but especially the content part, not the content in the sense of Creating Content content, but in helping like the group using their content to work together. And I was continually searching for, I was sure there was some sort of thing, some organization, some shared knowledge on this. And then when, finally, in 2018 I moved to Brussels, I got to know about the IAF Belgian chapter, and I was really excited. They have, they have, and it's still ongoing, a monthly meetup in Belgium. And it's, uh, being so particular in Belgium because, especially Brussels, because it's a real international city, because of all the institutions, NATO and the EU and 10s of 1000s of people who basically speak English as a common language. So the IAF chapter does all its things in English. And I started frequenting that. And I remember I never missed a meeting. It was like so important. And then in 2019 there was the Milan Conference. And so it was set then from then onwards, I nearly immediately became a member and and prompted onwards. It's history. It's sort of, it went on now. H.J Once you start finding out about all these things that go on within IAF and the wider community, you sort of slowly become more and more involved. Nice. And I realize, although I'm going to ask you in a bit about your role as regional director, I'm not actually sure, are you part of a particular chapter, given that you sort of, you're a little bit of a nomad. You move around quite a lot. A.S Yeah, actually, I still am part of the Belgian chapter. Actually, I got elected together with others on the IAF the Belgium board, so I'm a member in absentia, because, I mean, I know they meet regularly. I don't have lots of time, but I do give them all the support needed, like all the others, actually, but I have a soft spot for Belgium, I must confess, evidently, yeah, so, so that's, that's what I do. H.J Great. So officially, part of IAF Belgium. And what kinds of things have you been involved with? So obviously, you've been going, you know, you started going to the meetups in Belgium, and it sounds like you went to the Milan Conference. What else have you been involved in, either as a participant or part of organizing? A.S So, so yeah, these official meetings. I mean, the Belgian reality is quite interesting, because the meetups are like, there are two or three different types. Like the basic is where there is someone who specialized in some methodology or something he's been doing, or she's been doing for many years, and they hold a session where they share all their knowledge. And another type of session would be where there's someone who's learning, maybe a new method, and would create a safe space, where they use us as guinea pigs, sort of and, and then at the end there's also, there's always a debrief. And then the in both of these, it's so interesting, because you get to widen your knowledge of how to help groups with facilitation, yeah. Another point I forgot to mention, in my activities, I am finding myself staying quiet for long stretches in Italy, because most, some, most of my clients, are in Italy, actually. And the Italian chapter, I'm very much in contact with them. I know them, most of them, personally. They've just had this Friday and Saturday, their annual conference. It was a real big success. I had a work in Vienna, so I couldn't go there. But last year I went. It's always a really interesting event. So they don't hold monthly meetings. But for example, I got to know there is a group in Padova, in Padua, which meets every two months. They call it Facilitator Playground for one morning, and they do many the same as we do in Belgium. So every time I can, I go up and stay with them and support them, participate. So yeah, it's giving this back up is really essential. Because in these meetings, you find big community building between facilitators. You find a pool of learning with shared knowledge between facilitators and you and encourage each other, you get to know, maybe you get to know, people with whom you could actually work later on. But on the whole, you become friends with others, and I think that's a real big it's something. It's not nothing. It's a when we help each other, and you get to know differences, which can become a gift, because you widen your your personality, your knowledge, your approach to things, yeah. H.J Yeah I really love that about the IAF and just the sort of wider community as well, hanging out with other people that really love to talk about facilitation and, and all its kind of broad, you know, broad aspects, different aspects of it, and, and, yeah, you're right. You sort of, you do start to make friends and start to build up those relationships, and it's really nice. And I think, well, I guess for you, particularly, working across different countries, actually, you get to sort of have a foot in a couple of different camps, which must be nice, so true. And I really like the idea of the I think I've heard them called, like, Facilitation Labs, that kind of thing, where you talked about, with Belgium, you bring a sort of something to try out with the group. That sounds really interesting as well. A.S It's because we're all in different phases of our professional life. There are those who maybe are already quite expert in some some methodologies, and have had many experiences, you know? I mean, one thing which really strikes me about facilitation is that often we describe it as an art and a science. And I think with these things, we do exactly that, and we learn that. So science is quite precise, and you need to get to know precise things. And there are aspects of facilitation which are very functional, very specific. But it's also an art, and an art you cannot foresee it. You you do it only by experience. You can learn by experience because you never, you cannot say, okay, there will be 10 people, and I will do this, this and that. There are always so many variables and unforeseen things. And how do you respond to that? So experience helps, sharing experience helps as well, and training in this thing is really important, H.J Definitely. I think that's one of the things I love about it. You're never quite sure what's going to happen, and I know that terrifies some people. Okay, so I want to ask you now a bit more about your, the fact you are the director of the Europe and Middle East region, and I think you started, or you stepped into that role at the beginning of the year. I just wanted to know what, what that entails, what are your main responsibilities? A.S Okay, I'm still trying to find out. I mean, we're still in the end of March, so just the first quarter. First thing, I'm still alive, so that's quite something. I find there are two faces of this responsibility, of the service. So one aspect is like the grassroots, sort of helping all those facilitators in our region in any way possible where they need help, evidently, but help is such a big word, and it has so many different possibilities and connotations, so this would be one aspect. And the other aspect is representing all these facilitators in our region with their wide diversity, I think we're one of the, not the, but definitely one of the most diverse regions and all of IAF and so representing them on the wider world context, where we meet as a board, as a global board where we set directions for IAF globally. And in this sense, bringing this specific characteristic, which is ours as a gift to the rest of IAF, and also learning and and receiving the gift of the others and their cultures, their ways of approaching things, and sharing and and, and trying to bridge that with IAF regionally. I think it's, it's a very interesting experience. Yeah, these two aspects. H.J And quite challenging, probably as well. Because, I guess when I think about it, we are a very diverse region. I mean, you know, Europe and Middle East in itself is a mixture of quite a lot of different countries and cultures. So that must have a few challenges as well, I presume? A.S Oh, definitely, definitely yeah. For example, soon we're going to have Facilitation week now, and evidently, finding a slot during the year where that could be ideal is not, is not so simple, because we have so different, how do you say, cycles, different cultures and then the holidays and weathers and things which are which characterize then our actions and and how we organize ourselves as societies. And for example, in Europe, or if you say we're going to hold something in August, people would say, Oh, forget it. I mean, it's a non-starter, but if you do that in India, it could be probably quite good, or in other parts of the world. So when we meet as globally, like even when we meet regionally, actually, we're really challenged to live by what we preach and be good facilitators so that we find consensus and try to understand better what is the best solution by hearing each other well. H.J Yeah that's really interesting, sort of practicing what we preach, I suppose, and living that experience of being part of that sort of quite diverse group, and perhaps that helps us think about, you know, groups that we're actually working with, hadn't thought of it like that. So it's March, and you've only just really started the role. Is there anything particularly significant that you've been involved in so far, or is it still very much Finding your Feet? A.S No, definitely. One very significant and very important thing which I've been involved in is the annual face to face board meeting which the global board does. So we usually meet on Zoom. Previously, it was once a month. Now we've decided to do that once every quarter, and there are other meetings as well. So it's not that just once every quarter, for example, very soon we'll have this, we call it The Big We, where we as a global board, meet with many other people who are normally quite involved at a local level in bringing about and helping facilitation worldwide. So it's not just four times a year we meet. But usually all these meetings are on Zoom. So having a global face to face meeting is so important because, evidently, meeting face to face, it has its own characteristics. You cannot equate it to a Zoom meeting. Both are good, but they have differences. And so it's so nice to actually physically meet those people with whom you work with and get to know them. Get to know them much closer. Get to know what they like, how they go about, what are their characteristics, what they like, what are their challenges and together, maybe find out how we can dialogue and bring about, help each other in those challenges. Yeah, it was, we've just had this three weeks ago in Lisbon for basically three days, and it was so enriching. So personally and even as a group, I would believe, from what I heard afterwards, very, very enriching. H.J And that's the global board, and so presumably attended by regional directors from other regions as well. Who was there? A.S Yeah, definitely. So we had one type of member would be the regional director. So apart from myself from Europe and Middle East, there was one from Asia, who's actually from India right now, but it's such an enormous region, and actually we dream of eventually trying to find a solution, like creating more regions out of that region, because it's like half of the world. But anyway, myself and the Asian representative, a representative from Oceania, a representative from Africa, Central and South America, and then the North America. And then, apart from these regional directors, there was the executive committee. So that would be the chair, and the Vice Chair, where the Vice Chair actually is currently, is our ex Regional Director, Tamara, most of you know her. We had a representation of the executive administration, because we're based right now in Canada as an office. And then we had some directors for specific competencies, like, for example, we have one for learning and all the certifications, one for big events and activities, one for communications and one for member experience. So, so we're, we're quite, quite a group, and but it's, it's really interesting, because you learn a lot from each other. H.J Yeah, and it's really, really good to kind of hear or get a bit of a flavor of what that global boards and what IAF at a global level actually looks a bit more like as well, because obviously we perhaps focus on our chapters or even our region, but we are part of that much larger organization as well. So aside from that place in the global board, we also, and I say we because I am also on the Europe and Middle East leadership team. We had a face to face get together in Istanbul in November, didn't we? And that was us creating an action plan. So I guess that's the sort of, perhaps other side, or one of the other sides of your role is leading the leadership team. A.S Yeah, and that's, that's very nice, because we as a region are organized with this. So normally we're organized at chapter level. So in a nation or a space, a geographical area, 5-10 members put themselves together and create a chapter, and they help each other. They do some training activities, some social activities, some learning activities, as I was saying. And normally, we meet regularly, once a month, with all the chapter leads from all the region. And it's very enriching. Some can come, sometimes some can come another time, but it's always really enriching. Now to help these persons, to help all our members, we created some years ago, a leadership team, sort of some members who have experience and who can help the regional director. So with the regional director, there is this team, and my experience before and even now, is that we really work together and try to find out solutions, try to understand what's happening where there is necessity of health, and how to promote as much as possible, even outside the the idea of of the practice of facilitation. So like two things, helping those who are already members, and helping spread the notion, the idea of facilitation. H.J It's a really nice group to be part of as well. For me, who tends to mostly stay in the UK, it's nice to be part of such an international group. And I'm surprised you have time to do any work. A.S Even I H.J So thinking, thinking forwards about, you know, your next couple of years as regional director, what are you looking forward to, either personally or for the region? A.S Well, definitely for the region, I'm really passionate about trying to help as much as I can. And as much as we can, because I think here I can speak for all the team, and I think we are really helping each other in the sense we really want to do those two functions I was mentioning before. Like trying to help facilitators in all the region and growing them as well, because we know that if people join IAF, then they can help the local, the local and the global community with what they bring inside and learn and from an international experience, all the knowledge which there is to learn and take, to apply to your work, to your situation. So it's always a two way exchange. So one, really, one big thing I wish is to help as much with with the team, with the leadership team, to help as much as possible this aspect of our members. We I don't know you are going to ask this later on, but I can already say it, we're like 600 roughly, IAF members in our region, which makes us quite one of the big, big regional groupings, very varied. And we have, I don't remember well, but at least 40 different languages across our regions, and I don't know how many time zones we have. So there's a very big different culture and social situations, but with some very common trends, like, because human interactions are, in some ways, are always the necessity to help people listen to each other, to create space for the other, to appreciate differences, to work at solutions and where people can feel comfortable with them and fully represented. These are common trends which and necessities which cut across all the region and probably all across the world. So we have a lot of things to learn from each other, and even how we face them, what solutions we bring, even sharing those is already very enriching. H.J And that is so true, isn't it? We do think about that diversity, because it's quite obvious, I suppose, as you say, there's 40 different languages. I had no idea there were that many languages, and all the different members and different cultures and time zones, et cetera. But actually, there is so much that brings us together, and so many commonalities as well. And I guess when you get together, you meet those people, whether it's online or, you know, in real life. You sort of notice more I suppose, you start to talk about those things and what brings us together and what binds us as a community I guess. A.S Yeah, so true. H.J The other thing I wanted to ask you about is your hopes, anything else in terms of your, what you'd like to see? A.S Yeah, so I'd love to see facilitation getting a wider spotlight on it. From a social point of view, culture point of view, I think we're very young. 30 years is just a few three decades so, but we have lots of responsibilities, because I think many social problems, many work problems in other organizations, could really benefit from our help and from the way we can contribute to better understandings between persons, to better work between persons within organizations, any type of organizations, better understand reception of gifts and sharings between each other more well, all these things, I think, could be put on spot a bigger spotlight. What is the contribution of process? How can a process help us be better? Or I would word it in this way, processes have proven to help us be better, to be more functional, to arrive at better, more solid solutions. So why don't we learn from these? Why don't we learn from Why don't we put that on a spotlight? and all that is necessary to make those processes happen, like the ground rules most people like, forget that we need to be prepared for a process. They imagine that it's a machine. You press the button and out comes the coffee. But like, so all this, my great desire, my great dream, would be that this gets more appreciated, gets more talked about. People desire it, understand it. Understand this necessity, and we grow our membership so as to give an answer to this necessity. H.J I hadn't really, I mean, it's, it's, we all know that facilitation is not that well understood, I suppose. So I think, yes, shining a spotlight is so important. But I hadn't really thought about the fact it's young or that 30 years, three decades, is young, I suppose, compared to lots of other occupations, that was something that hadn't really occurred to me. So it's interesting hearing you describe it as that. I wanted to ask you about something specific, and that is the regional conference I believe we have at the end of this year. I know it's still in its infancy a little bit, but could you share a little bit with us about the conference? A.S Yeah, definitely. I mean, the concept of a regional conference is very important for us. Conferences by chapters are so good, I think. As I was saying, just a few minutes before, the Italians have just finished theirs. It's always a big success, more than 100,120, 150 people passed by. It's something which really invigorates the community, gets people to get to know about facilitation. It puts facilitation in a spotlight in that region, in that area, in this country, in the chapter. So it's always a big thing done already in a Chapter wise. I remember I personally helped organize, together with Marie from Belgium and we were in three working on this project. And we did a very small but in, it was the first time, Forum we called it in Belgium, and I think it was so important because we kick started a process. So now talking about a regional conference, it is definitely more challenging, because we, you open up, you expect more people. But it is also more, it produces, it can give more because it can help even in this wider beyond regional confines exchange and putting a bigger spotlight on facilitation. So this year, this coming year, we've had our colleagues from Romania who have been so great. The Romanian chapter right now is doing a golden moment. They have got many, many members, increasing every, every day, basically. So and they're really enthusiastic, even though it is a big challenge, but they decided to go in for it. So they're talking about something around the first weekend of November, if I'm not wrong, the dates are being confirmed in these days, but we're definitely talking about November in Romania, and it's a it's the main topic will be about facilitation, and in a wider sense, what use it has, Why, how it can be used, and what benefits it gets to both to those who need it and also to those who are participating. So yeah, and we're really enthusiastic. There is this team. We met them recently, their young team, working with great enthusiasm. And I think it's going to be a very nice event. H.J Yeah, I'm quite excited about it, and I know from having spoken, we did a chapter chat with Bob Dan a little while ago, and obviously I've spoken to him a few times, and I know he just kind of exudes enthusiasm. So I'm hoping it's going to be a very exciting conference. A.S Yeah, I remember in a very small experience, the local one I was mentioning before, in Belgium, with Marie and Laura. It was such an invigorating experience. And we had like people who were in Consultancy or a facilitation for 20 years and even more. And then we had these young professionals, maybe working with a big accountancy firm, but doing like serving small or medium sized companies who were really keen to know about the principles of facilitation, because they really needed to put them in practice. And when you put these people together, and everyone is learning from each other, and everyone is practicing, and we did this in a small scale, in Belgium, you can imagine what happens when you do it on a regional level. H.J Yeah, sounds fascinating. And, you know, quite fantastic to think about all those different people coming together. And of course, we have our conference coming up next month as well, the England and Wales conference. A.S I'm coming H.J Yay. I was gonna say that's exciting enough, but it sounds like actually, we have got a few people coming from outside the UK, which always makes it really exciting. So I look forward to seeing you there. A.S I will, and even me. I look forward to seeing you there and all the others. H.J Fantastic. So just one last question to wrap up this podcast. What is one thing that you most love about facilitation? A.S Oh, this is, I love this question, because I think it's a bit what we started off with. I love it when I see people fulfilled, because they have managed to work together well, not withstanding the challenges. Probably they would have started thinking at the beginning that they would not have achieved anything with the type of people there with, they were going to work with. And I really love it when you see the expression of their faces and the way they're speaking at the end of the facilitation, and you see that something has happened. We don't know exactly what, but yeah, there are concrete things which have come out, but something more profound in every person has happened. They've become friends, they've become but it's beyond that. They've, something happened which we are in a difficulty, actually, to formulate well, but that type of reaction, I really love it, and I think it's one of the things which really I like about facilitation. H.J Brilliant. Thank you so much for sharing that. So we are going to draw the podcast to a close. Thank you so much, Andrew, for joining me. A.S Helene, thanks. It's been a real pleasure. H.J It's been lovely to talk to you. I just wanted to quickly ask how people could get in touch with you if they want to? Do you have an email address that you could share? A.S The official email address is rep.europe@IAF-world.org H.J Brilliant. Thank you very much, and we will put that in the show notes as well. Thank you very much. A.S Thank you and all the best for all the listeners. And thank you as well for doing all this. Outro H.J So listeners, we've reached the end of another episode of facilitation stories, the community podcast of IAF England and Wales. N.W If you'd like to find out more about the IAF and how to get involved all of the links on our website facilitationstories.com H.J To make sure you never miss an episode, why not subscribe to the show on whatever podcast app you use. N.W We're always on the lookout for new episode ideas. So is there a fabulous facilitator you think we should talk to? H.J Or something interesting emerging in the world of facilitation you think listeners need to hear about? N.W Then send us an email at podcast@IAF-EnglandWales.org H.J We hope you'll join us again soon for more facilitation stories. N.W Until then, thank you for listening.

February 18, 202543 min

FS 75 Race Ahead for Facilitators with Bianca Jones, Cat Duncan-Rees and Paul Brand

In this episode Helene talks to Bianca Jones - Award Winning Mental Health & Anti-Racism Training Provider, MHFA England Associate and Founder & Managing Director of EDP Training, Paul Brand- Facilitator and Management Consultant, Director at Risk Solutions and IAF England and Wales board member and Cat Duncan-Rees- Facilitator and founder of Curators of Change and also an IAF England and Wales board member. She starts by asking Bianca to talk a bit about the work she does and what led her to develop EDP and the Race Ahead training She asks Cat and Paul about what led the IAF England and Wales Leadership Team to ask Bianca to deliver this training course online in October and about their key takeaways. Cat and Paul talk about the RA4F special thread at the IAF England and Wales conference Facilitate 2025 this year and where the idea came from? Bianca shares some examples of specific impact or changes she's seen in a facilitator's approach after attending Race Ahead Bianca gives some more details her session at the conference and the training course she is offering the day before. All the guests then talk about why a focus around racial equality at the conference is important and why active race awareness matters in facilitation and what anti-racism might look like for facilitators. The guests also talk about their hopes for longer term initiatives in teh facilitation communicty around anti-racism. To book onto the RA4F course on 24th April 2025: To book onto the Facilitate 2025 conference To contact Bianca - bianca@edptraining.co.uk To contact Cat - cat@curatorsofchange.com To contact Paul - paul.brand@risksol.co.uk To contact Helene: Helene@jewellfacilitation.com To contact the conference team: conference@iaf-englandwales.org Transcript H.J Hello and welcome to Facilitation Stories brought to you by the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Helene Jewell, and today we're going to be talking to Bianca Jones, Cat Duncan-Rees and Paul Brand. Bianca is an award winning mental health and anti racism training provider, MHFA England associate and founder and managing director of EDP training. Paul is a facilitator and management consultant, Director at Risk Solutions and IAF England and Wales board member and Cat is also a facilitator, founder of curators of change, and also an IAF England and Wales board member. Welcome everybody. So nice to see you all. Okay, so we've got a little bit of introductory stuff out of the way. I am going to dive in with my questions, and my first one is to you, Bianca, tell us all. Tell us about the work that you do. B.J Oh, thank you so much. So I am Bianca Jones. I run a company based in Bristol called EDP training, which stands for Empower developed people, although we deliver training all over. We are eight years old, and we started by delivering Mental Health First Aid training. I retrained with Mental Health First Aid England, and through my work, I saw that there was massive inequalities in the workplace with black and brown people or racially minoritized individuals is the language that I will use, and I wanted to do something about it. So I started pulling together the race ahead suite of courses all around race, equity and allyship, to help people really understand what they're being an ally to. And that's been since 2020. We've been delivering our race ahead suite of anti racism and allyship courses . H.J Great, and what kind of people come to these race ahead training courses? B.J So first of all, anybody can sign up, because we have digital options as well, and anybody who's interested in kind of racial inequality. But we started focusing at corporate organisations, so mainly businesses, but I work with so many different types of organisations, small organisations to really, really large you know, with over 500 people, we work with charities as well, nonprofits, and we have lots of different options for if it's just an individual that wants to do some training, they can access our digital self-led options. And then we also have a train the trainer, because other trainers wanted to be able to train in this course and be able to deliver it as well. So we started that in 2022 in September, I believe. So we've currently got 15 other instructors out there that are delivering the race ahead suite of courses as well, but we tried to have lots of different options to make it accessible for anyone that wants to learn about this very important and vital subject. H.J Wow. So it's not just you. In fact, there's quite a large group of you then. B.J Absolutely taking over, spreading the message with the mission of race equity and allyship. H.J Fantastic. Okay, and I've met you before, along with some of the IAF leadership team, because you delivered your race ahead training course to us, didn't you? And so I'm going to turn to Kat and Paul now to just remind us, or remind me, and let everybody else know how this came about. How did the IAF leadership team come to engage Bianca and be participants in her training course? P.B We started having a conversation about a number of things to do with racial discrimination and minoritization out of the back of our two most recent conferences. And we were looking at a whole range of stuff about, you know, how racially balanced was our actual community? How comfortable were people from different backgrounds in that community? And we had some conversations, you know, because not everybody was entirely comfortable. And people had some experiences they thought, well, that could have been a lot better. And really, we started to think about whether we should have some kind of initiative across our community of IAF England and Wales and friends, that we could invite people to join, to do some self work in this area. Think about how it affects our work as facilitators. And we thought that the first step we should take was as a leadership team, or at least parts of the leadership team actually engaged with that ourselves, and we had a contact who knew Bianca. And so about eight of us had two or half day online sessions with you, and started to think about that as the kernel of something we might spread more widely, and I think we'll talk about later in the podcast. So yeah, but very much the sense of, well, we had to start with us before we start thinking of leading something with other people. H.J And Cat I know you were involved in a lot of the conversations that led up to this, and for you, I think it was something that was very important that we did. Wonder if you could tell us a bit more about that and how we got to where we got to? C.D Yeah, absolutely, really important Helen. I think for me, just picking up on what Paul sort of said around the conference, I think this first really started to come to light post COVID I think it's important to say when we started to bring people together. So there's a heightened awareness anyway, coming out of that post COVID period, and the world is looking and feeling very, very different. And, you know, we did a hybrid conference in Birmingham few years ago, we went on to do another two in Birmingham. We've got conference coming up this year, but over the previous three conferences, there's been a steady kind of build up of us trying to diversify that community, invite people in to do some very different sessions to really push the boundaries in terms of what we mean by inclusion for the facilitator community. I think, as well, and maybe this is a whole other podcast in itself, that idea of neutrality and how can we as facilitators really genuinely stand for, stand alongside those who are from minoritized communities, Race being one of those minoritized communities. So some of the feedback from conference has been quite hard to digest. We know we haven't always got it right, but as Paul said, what we really want to do is start with ourselves as a leadership team and a board in order to be able to have the knowledge and the insights that we need to confidently be able to get alongside people who are coming into our spaces. I say our spaces, actually we want it to be, you know, their space, and for them to be really much a part of it. And how can we also challenge back in the broader facilitated community, because there is a huge lack of awareness. And I think that's something that's taken me a little bit by surprise, my own lack of awareness in that, not just the lack of awareness of other people, but as I'm growing in confidence and awareness of why this is so important, it's helping me to have the confidence to be able to challenge others. And I think that's where we're at now in terms of conference, and not just conference, actually, Paul will talk a little bit more about that. It's, you know, what we're committed to as a community over the next 12 months and beyond, in terms of really pushing that and diversifying things even further, and helping people to understand why this is so important, whatever spaces they're in. H.J And before we jump into talking a bit more about conference, actually, I just wanted to quickly ask both of you about your key takeaways from the training, because I know if I go back and think about part of the training there was a bit of an action plan at the end, and I go back and I think about all that. I think wow, there was a lot in there and for me personally, I learned so much. But I just wondered if I could ask each of you, maybe Cat first and then Paul, for a couple of your key takeaways from Bianca's training? C.D Yeah, I think my key takeaway was, one of them was, you know, really that commitment and willingness. In terms of a training session, you know, the people who came to those online sessions in themselves, or quite a diverse group of people in terms of gender, race, age, was notable as well and experience, you know, longevity as a facilitator, and how long people have been working in this space. And I think it was just brilliant to be in a space where people could be themselves, bring their questions and challenges and their lack of insight. And I say that for myself as well, and have a really open conversation. But I think the takeaway from that overall is how sensitively and how brilliantly Bianca supported us to do that and looked after her own well being in that. Because I think there's a fear for me of getting it wrong. But actually, you know, that's why we are where we are. I think I've been driven by that fear, personally, of getting it wrong, and therefore that drives you to a place of inaction, whereas actually, you know, and the other takeaway is that it's better just to do stuff, to jump in, be alongside. Yes, we are going to get it wrong, but actually it's better that we're going in and having those conversations and doing that than not acting at all. But having that awareness that Bianca brought to us has really, really helped with that. And you know, my commitment to that is to go down the route of, you know, continuing the training personally, and hopefully doing the train the trainer. H.J And Paul, a couple of key takeaways from you ? P.B The one that struck me very hard in the stuff Bianca did with us. And here I'm feeding partly off a similar conversation a few years ago with another Association I'm involved in and some of this became very familiar, is I am the archetypal un-minoritized person. I'm a middle aged, white, educated male, you know, I have, I have the sort of trifecta of advantages in life, in some sense. And it always strikes me in beginning, what Bianca said about just how hard work, general life can be if you are minoritized in any way. And we're talking particularly about race in this case, just because of the constant chipping away of places and language and society and expectations and things that people don't even quite realise they're doing in terms of, I mean, microaggressions is the thing we're talking about that have become so embedded in our language, in our society. But if you're on the other side of them, it's not that any one of them, you know, lays you out flat, it's the constant wear. And starting to get people more aware of, particularly people who, like myself, are not minoritized in any way or in largely way, of the fact that that is very real and very present for people is actually a huge step, I think, in starting to educate yourself. And it's no more complicated than the idea of putting yourself in the other person's shoes. And you know, how complicated is that? And yet many of us never have to, because it's not us who's suffering it. And I think also support what Cat was saying. I think a lot of people, whether they're dealing with race or any other minoritization, they become paralysed with the idea that, well, I don't, I don't know how to approach this, and they end up doing nothing. And I think there has to be a willingness in convening a space to talk and have this conversation that actually you're going to make a mistake at some point. In the sense that you're going to do something, and somebody of a different colour or minoritization is going to feel it, but it's better than doing nothing and so and just washing it back under the carpet of your life and saying, Well, you know, maybe I don't have to do anything about this. And so we get into this idea that, well, we need to start with us. We then need to think about the spaces we convene, and what we can do as IAF England and Wales to make those more inclusive, safer, more open to this kind of conversation. And then, of course, the third layer, which, of course, is the ultimate goal, is that the people from our community who come to our spaces to think about facilitation and development, that they go out into the world, and they are more able to not only be more sensitive to racial minoritization issues, but then also move on to in a number of different ways, actually becoming a force that acts against racial minoritization in the way they run their session. So that may be very overt, or it may be very subtle, just in terms of not letting things slide when they happen in a session. And maybe we'll talk about our ideas for that a bit later on. H.J Thank you. I just wanted to come back to Bianca, actually, and just obviously, you get a lot of feedback I'm sure, from all of your different training sessions that you do. How do Cat and Paul's comments and key takeaways stack up against what you normally hear? Is that the kind of thing you normally hear? Obviously, these are specific, perhaps to the facilitation community, but in general, what kind of feedback do you get? B.J The difference with this course, with the eight folks, was that you're all facilitators, you're working with groups. So the feedback was very much the confidence came out about people being able to challenge or having the language to challenge. And we go through a tool called the Four Ds, which is by a company called Pearn Kandola. So we go through, how to kind of challenge if we hear anything, and just more aware of being able to spot microaggressions. So that came through on the feedback is the confidence increase for people to actually action. So not just being passive, but actually going into action and feeling like actually they could pick up something in a group, and they could gently, maybe challenge someone to think about what they've just said, and actually noticing if somebody's being excluded or someone's being left out, and just having a little bit more awareness around the dynamics of race and racism, and how that can manifest and play out in a group. So there was more of that kind of feedback that came through from the group in October. It was nice to see, though, that I've seen a lot more action in this group, a lot more willingness and want for action. H.J That's interesting. Why do you think that is? just putting you on the spot there B.J Oh, I think it were, I think facilitation in itself, the group that we had, are probably more active than some other groups. I think the willingness and what happened over the two half days as we bonded as a group as well, we kind of galvanised each other. I think that was really, really helpful. And I just think there was a general interest in this, and the willingness piece was there, higher than maybe some other groups that I've worked with. H.J Interesting. Okay, thank you. And I really enjoyed your course. It opened up so many new things for me. So thank you. Right to my next question. Then Paul has touched on this a bit already, and I just want to bring us now to thinking a bit more about the conference, because there is a race ahead for facilitation thread at the IAF England and Wales Conference, which is called Facilitate 2025 and that's happening in April. And so I just wanted to ask Cat and Paul, what is this special thread, and where did that idea come from? The leadership team has done this training course. We've all been or eight of us went on Bianca's course. But what about the rest of it? How does this feed into the conference? C.D Over the last three years of conference, we have, as I've said, already pushed the boundaries in terms of diversity and inclusion, and we have very proactively welcomed people into the community and into conference from a whole range of different backgrounds who would never have potentially even identified themselves as a facilitator in the first place, let alone being part of a community of people like this. And as I said earlier, you know that some of the challenges that that's then raised, obviously, if you're inviting people into a space and you're inviting them in to deliver sessions on on topics around race or inclusion or equality or whatever, then you know you have to expect that there's going to be some learning from that. And so you know, over the last few years, there's been a lot of feedback, a lot of learning. We've gone down the route of doing the training with Bianca, and we've decided that this year we will put at the heart of the conference, and we're putting the emphasis on anti racism. That's not to say that everything that you will experience at conference will focus on anti racism, but I think what's really important to us is that as an environment, as a space, over the two days, we are challenged to make people feel really welcome, regardless of their background, but in particular, those black or brown people that are coming into the space, because that has been a challenge for people in the past. So that needs to cut across the whole conference. But alongside that, we are hoping or aiming to have at least a quarter of the sessions. So in conference, we generally have four different tracks, four different themes. It's the same this year. But rather than have one track that focuses specifically on anti racism, we've decided that we will blend that. So whatever the track is, people have the opportunity to deliver a session that will focus more explicitly on issues of race and racism, and our aim is that we would have at least a quarter of the programme that will focus on those topics. Now, as you can imagine, this is quite a big, bold step, and while we've increased the number of sessions that people have delivered around issues of diversity and equality over the last few years, we probably haven't hit that kind of like, you know, a quarter of the programme is tackling those issues, so that's our commitment. But anything that we can, we can get included in the programme that focuses around race and anti racism would be, would be brilliant. So we're actively encouraging people to submit sessions with that as a focus. Obviously, the challenge to that, then back to us as a community, a leadership team and a conference organising team, is how we make sure those people are supported in that space as well. So that's something that we're giving some thought to as well. But in addition to that, Bianca will be there on the programme, and will also be delivering some sessions specifically around anti racism and race awareness. So we would really encourage people to sign up to those sessions as well. Bianca is also going to be running her race awareness course. That's an additional offer to the actual conference itself, but we've booked the venue for the day before. So we really, really encouraging people from the facilitator community to book onto Bianca's course the day before. Obviously, there is a cost for that. Bianca can't deliver this stuff for free, but that is being promoted as part of the, there are other sessions as well that you could opt to do on the day or the two days before the conference, but, but Bianca's course is one of those as well. P.B We had the conversations about, well, what can we do at conference? And that's sensible, because conferences are our biggest space that we convene with 100-120, maybe more, this year, facilitators for two whole days. So at the conference, there will be a presence of this theme, if you like, in some sessions directly with people like Bianca. There might be some sessions where someone is doing a session on personal development, and they just weave this in as one of the points. It then is also gonna be present as Cat said, we're doing a pre-conference training day with a number of courses being offered, one of which is the opportunity of the course that we did with Bianca, but in a day. But we wanna set all of that in a longer conversation, because this isn't something you know, you go to a session at conference and that's it you're done. This is a longer conversation. And just as we convene the space of conference, and we convene the space of meetups, and indeed this podcast, we want to spend some time, at least a year, probably longer, opening up a space for facilitators to join us on this journey. To quite likely offer them to do Bianca's course as well, so there's a common base. But then to carry that on in an ongoing conversation as a community about personal experience, personal successes or failures in the area, advice and that kind of thing. Because this isn't something that people, even facilitators hear about, learn something, put it into action immediately. It's a longer process of sculpting and shaping what you do now so that it works better in this area, both in terms of your awareness of what may be happening in racial minoritization in your sessions, but also what you might be able to do about it, and that's a piece of self work as well. So what we've done is EDP 's original course is called race ahead. So we've talked with Bianca about doing some very small tweaks to that to make it very tailored for people who are facilitators, and we want to convene a number of opportunities with Bianca, for people to go through that training, but as a group of facilitators. So everybody in the cohort is facilitators, and then to join the wider conversation, not just at conference, but at other places. And that will be a rolling thing. So for some people, they might be able to, you know, do the course with Bianca in February, March, do some other reading, join a conversation. They might continue that conversation at the conference. For other people, going to a session at the conference might be their starting point. And so we're looking forward into the rest of this year and on, where we might continue to welcome people in, invite them, possibly to do the training with EDP, so there's a common language for having the conversation and then could join some kind of conversation platform, and then we'll see where we go from there. Because this is a, you know, a life journey, trying to get people to bring this into their practice, into their personal lives, into what they do with groups and communities. And that takes a bit of time. So we're going to have this initiative called RA for F, race ahead for facilitators, and we know we're going to do in the first part of the year. We're thinking about what we might do in the longer term. H.J Great. Thank you. So it's really interesting to hear the kind of backgrounds and the hopes and the, you know, the context for all of this. Bianca then I just wanted to come into a bit more of the detail. So session at the conference and the training course before the conference. So perhaps let's talk about in the conference, what kind of thing will you be doing there? B.J So we are still confirming the details, but as Paul said, for some people, that might be their first introduction. So we're still trying to keep this at a level so that everybody can have a common understanding because what we want to do is bring everybody to a baseline. So we will be focusing on understanding racism in all the ways that it can manifest, acknowledging it, accepting it, being able to challenge it as well. Language is something that we're going to touch on, because that's something that a lot of facilitators are nervous around, is using the correct language and not offending people. So we will be touching on what we call racial literacy as well to give people confidence to talk on this topic. Because if we haven't got the confidence to talk about it, we end up silent, and that's part of the problem. Part of racism is that silence. Microaggressions, so what they sound like, how we can challenge them, how we can pick up on them, and some strategies as a facilitator to support the person that has delivered the microaggression as well. And then allyship and a full understanding of what actually that is for facilitators, because, as was touched on, facilitators can get into spaces and groups that maybe there isn't a full representation of black and brown people. So there's that opportunity there as well to really demonstrate allyship during the group setting, but also in your brand and your practices, the way that you design your training, we will go into as well for representation and, yeah, creating safe spaces as well. So it'd be more around, what is racism? How does it manifest? What can we do about it? And also, what can you do in your practice as a facilitator as well. H.J And that's within the conference. And what about the training course? Then before the conference, the day before the conference, we've got a whole day, and that presumably, is a much more meaty offering. And as Cat said, this is an addition to the conference, so it's at an additional cost. Can you tell us a little bit about what we might get from attending that training session? B.J I was so excited about this one. So this is our one day race ahead course. This is the very course you folks have been on as well. And this is where we go into a little bit more detail about systemic racism, the history of racism, the context, really, of how we got to where we are today, which a lot of people, as Cat and Paul have said, are not aware of the history in England, in particular, of how we got to where we are today, or that this is still an issue, or a massive issue. So we'll look at a lot around context, a lot around terms. You've heard me say people of colour, global majority, racially minoritized, so we go into a deep dive into terms. We focus a lot more on microaggressions, just because that's the most common thing that you will hear in group settings, in organisations. And then we do a little bit of an allyship reflection of where we are as an ally individually, and where maybe our organisation, our brand is, our personal practice is in regards to allyship and how does it demonstrate it? So we do a lot of what we're doing at the conference, but more of a deeper dive, more meatier, and it's in the classroom, so we can actually have that face to face, those conversations, which is where the learning actually comes from. It's those juicy conversations. So I'm really excited and looking forward to taking a group on that journey with me. H.J Fantastic and I should just say you don't have to go to the conference to be able to attend the training course that you are putting on the day before the conference. It is in the same venue, though, and also, I believe that the idea is that if you can't go to this training, there will be some other opportunities in the future, that I know are sort of being discussed after the conference. I don't know if you could say a bit more about that, Bianca ? B.J We've got so much going on with this thread, and I think it's really exciting, actually, because there's nobody else in this space that is doing anything like this, and, you know, kind of putting a focus on racial equity. So I think you folks are creating a movement, and I think it's important, because facilitators have that power, positions of power. So I'm really excited. So we've got, we're hoping to be able to put on some awareness in race equality week, which is in February. So hopefully we can do that something then. We've got the day before conference, and then post conference, we're going to be hopefully putting on some more dates for people to attend as well. And then we're hoping to be able to chivvy everybody onto one platform to continue the conversation, which I already have in place with kind of learning videos on there for people to access, and also to be able to access them of the course content and models for them to kind of refresh themselves if needed, or if something happens, maybe refer back to the training. But the main thing is that there will be a discussion area where people can talk to each other, and I'm trying to sort that out at the moment exactly how that would work. But we want a space for you folks to be able to continue your community around this and support each other and share best practices, as well as share challenges as well. H.J Brilliant. There's a whole suite, or, as you say, a whole movement of stuff going on. Okay, so just thinking then about, you know, us as facilitators, and we've talked a little bit already about facilitators in particular, working in this space, or just making sure that they have inclusive sessions and how they kind of respond to different people in groups. But how do you Bianca approach creating a safe and open environment for facilitators to explore these kind of sensitive and important topics, because I know, as Cats mentioned, sometimes we're a little bit concerned that we might say the wrong thing. I know I'm speaking for myself as well, that, you know, I might say the wrong thing. And you've talked a little bit about language, but how do we make sure that, you know, there's a safe and open environment for us to actually be able to ask those questions and talk about this stuff? B.J Absolutely and I think that psychological safety piece is so important on this topic. The main challenge that I hear from people that are maybe a little bit reluctant is usually due to fear. Basically, they're a little bit scared of the topic, scared of what's maybe going to be asked from them in the day in the classroom. So we start by kind of letting people know what they're going to be going through, what they're going to be experiencing from the off, so that there's no fears around that. In our group agreement, we use that for, obviously keeping the group safe as well. We do a lot of pre work, so you folks would have experienced the pre training, so you have some information and knowledge before you join us in the classroom, which works really, really well to dissolve some defences, to get rid of some of the fear and to make people comfortable, as well as an introduction to myself as well. And during the classroom session, you know, we really make sure that it's a safe, open, inviting space, mutual respect for everybody in the session, and letting people know that this isn't a space for judgement. It is a space for learning. And we are all on a journey, and I do not know, you know, absolutely everything, even I can get things wrong, and that's okay, the fact is, the willingness and that we're all here. So a space of learning, rather than a space of any judgement. H.J Nice. And I know you've mentioned that willingness before, so I guess that's a key part of that, being willing and open to sort of do that learning. And then I suppose the important thing, which we have talked a little bit about, is about that kind of impact or future change. And I was just wondering if you could share an example of a specific impact or change that you've seen in a facilitators approach after attending race ahead? B.J Yeah, really good question. Because, of course, we can go on the sessions, but it's about that what we're doing after. Now, I mentioned a model that we use called the Four Ds by Pearn Kandola, and this is about challenging microaggressions with four different strategies. And the feedback that I've had sometimes, you know, years later, is someone saying we had something happen, somebody accidentally, because they are often accidentally, you know, unwittingly, coming out of our mouths, and then we've offended somebody. But they were able to not only respectfully help the person to think about and reflect and reframe what they have just said, but also support the person that had just received the microaggression as well. So I get a lot of feedback that, oh, I had the confidence to deal with that. I didn't just walk away. Because, of course, I hear the other side of the coin of people and facilitators saying, Oh, something happened and I really wish that I said something, but I didn't. And it's that regret that I hear a lot as well. So I'm hearing a lot about action, a lot of confidence in people being able to actually challenge things and use the right language. And some feedback from the actual course that you folks did as somebody actually put in their review a couple of weeks later, that they've shifted from a Do No Harm mindset to actively seeking ways to reduce harm and address inequalities. And I think that's a beautiful sentence that came out of your session, that somebody shifted from that mindset as well. H.J Oh, fantastic. That's really good to hear that there's some actual tangible, you know, things that people have said they will do, or have started to do, and that you've been able to receive that feedback as well. Okay. And Cat and Paul coming back to you then a little bit. Why is active race awareness important for facilitators? P.B As a general thing when we talk about facilitation, and in the IAF we have the competencies and the ethics things, we talk a lot about making safe spaces and balance in a room and all the voices being heard. And I think if we are, for some reason afraid, now we would call out someone who was talking too loud or someone who's being aggressive, but if we're then afraid to call out or at least move, you know, move the room slightly, if somebody's doing something that is in some way racially biassed, or is an aggression towards someone because of their race. If we have that fear, then we're actually not doing what we claim to be able to do and want to be able to do with the room. And so it's important for facilitators, first, to be able to overcome the fear of inaction. And from what Bianca has just said, get out of that, well as long as I don't cause a problem well, you know, it'll be alright. Into actually, no, I can be confident about this. I do have language and things in my toolbox of facilitation which will enable me to respond to an imbalance in power in the room that's coming from race in the same way as I would if it was from aggression or gender discrimination, which you might feel more confident about. So it's overcoming that fear. I think the other thing is that we also need to be slightly, you know, sort of multi tool people as facilitators, because there's a big difference between, say, you're going and doing you're doing one session with a group, and you realise there's, there's actually some significant racial minoritization going on in the group, and that's one of the, one of the dynamics that's going on in the group. There's a great difference in what can you do if you just have one session with the group, to what can you do if this is a longer term relationship where you might be involved in, you know, a deeper change, and it's almost being open to being able to act in either of those scenarios. Obviously, what you may be able to do if you're only there for the day may be more limited, but not doing nothing is still important. H.J Thank you. And Kat? C.D I think that the community of facilitators is very broad, because I think there's been an evolution over the years, maybe in terms of people coming into that facilitator role or community. And I think a lot of people have, or maybe continue to facilitate very much at that process end of things which can often be detached from people and humanity. You are going in, you're helping an organisation or a company, or whatever it is to you know, look at their processes, the way they do things, to be more efficient, to say whatever it is, it can be quite sort of practically focused. But I think certainly over the last few years of introducing new people to the community, what is becoming. And for my own experience of facilitation, I come to it through a much more kind of social route, social impact route. So the tools of facilitation for me are very much around, how can we bring together diverse groups of people? How can we bring together people around topics and issues that are you know, it's not just about the process itself. It's about how it's about the relationships. It's about how people interact in the space and outside of the space. And I think for me, personally, I struggle a little bit on that kind of, where are the boundaries of neutrality within that. It's much easier to be that at that process end and not to influence process, because you're not the process expert, but when it comes to the human end of it, and the social impact and the human experience that people have, and the fact that a lot of us are facilitating in spaces around environment, social issues, community, disability, it is harder, in fact, I would say, impossible, for us to go into any space like that, from from a place of neutrality. And as the facilitator, we hold a lot of power in terms of, you know, being able to welcome in different perspectives, or even to challenge back. I think, you know, when things are not, not feeling comfortable. And I think for me, you know, I've learned to be quite intuitive. Look less at process and and really listen and feel what's going on for me and my body, my gut, and think, actually, this doesn't feel right. And why isn't it? Why? And really search with that a bit more. And I think for some elements, and Paul's already alluded to that around maybe disability, around gender and stuff. It's easier because it's a bit more in our face, or has been, you know, over the years, that there is a greater awareness of that, whereas with the race, it's easy to walk into a room full of people who are white and not even notice the lack of brown or black people. But actually, if we have that awareness, we are in a stronger position, you know, even at that kind of process corporate level, to say, okay, is this really representative of your workforce? You know, do you not even employ people who are black and brown, you know, where are those people in the same way that you might go into an organisation, particularly around, you know, in my experience around disability, whatever, and say, Where are the people with the direct lived experience of what you're doing? H.J Thank you. And to you Bianca, why is active race awareness so important for us as facilitators? and what does anti racism look like for us? so specifically thinking about us as facilitators. B.J A lot of what Cat has actually touched on, I think we can't ignore the power. We can't ignore the fact that facilitators can access places and spaces and groups that maybe black and brown individuals are lacking in representation. Says that real power that role model piece as well, and I think as an ally, you can do a lot. And I think Cat just mentioned, we're really confident in things like gender inequality and more so around disability as well. But what we do know is that when it comes to race, it's the one that kind of people are feel less relatable to. It gets left out alot, it gets left behind. You know, when I consult with organisations, they often talk about all the great work that they're doing around gender inequality, and then when we talk about race, they're like, oh, it's like, they forgot that one, and people will just leave it alone, which is part of the reason why I called my suite of courses race ahead to just emphasise the putting a focus on race equity. But for facilitators, I think it's really important because of that role model piece as well, and just that influence. If you are constantly facilitating with groups that stretch, that ripple effect is quite exciting that you can have. And it might seem to people, oh, well, that's really small, but actually no, because it's all those little actions of demonstrating allyship through your own practice that will have that ripple effect out into the world, making a difference. I think it's really exciting opportunity for facilitators to be able to learn about this as well. H.J Thank you so much. Hopefully this will inspire. I think that's our hope, that this will inspire more people, more facilitators, to want to know, you know, what they can actually do. And on that note, we've talked about the kind of the next things that are happening. There's a lot going on which we're all very pleased about, but how do people find out about it? So I'm going to ask Paul this question, how do people find out all about the conference and the stuff that's going on in the conference? P.B We hope to be able to put up, we've put the conference stuff up that's now up on invent bright. If you look at the IAF England and Wales LinkedIn channel, you'll find information posted in there regularly. So the conference is up and running. When we get going with RA for F we will also be advertising opportunities to perhaps make your journey start with the training with EDP, whether it's online in advance or after the conference or on that day before the conference. There are multiple places you could go. Watch the IAF England and Wales LinkedIn particularly. Look at the bottom underneath this podcast. There'll be some links in there. He says confidently, if not, email me at paul.brand@risksold.co.uk H.J Bianca, how can people contact you? What's the easiest way? B.J The easiest way and to directly come to me would be to drop me an email. It is my name, Bianca@EDPtraining.co.uk , so that's Echo Delta Copper training.co.uk . H.J Thank you. I'm very impressed you can remember, is it the NATO alphabet? So I never remember the names that go with the letters. Thank you B.J The phonics H.J Phonics. Thank you and Cat, how do we get in touch with you? C.D Yeah, my email is Cat, cat@curatorsofchange.com but you can also, if you've got queries specifically around conference, email the conference@iaf-englandwales.org H.J So just to clarify and reassure everybody, all the notes and links and everything else will be in the show notes below. So that'll be links for how you can book onto the conference, how you can book onto Bianca's session, her training session, the RA for F training session, before the conference that will be the 24th of April. And then the conference itself is the 25th and 26th of April 2025 and all that information will be available to you all. And thank you so much for joining me, everybody. It's been really fascinating hearing from all of you and reflecting actually on the training course itself and everything that I learned as well. So thank you for joining me. Outro H.J So listeners, we've reached the end of another episode of facilitation stories, the community podcast of IAF England and Wales. N.W If you'd like to find out more about the IAF and how to get involved all of the links on our website facilitationstories.com H.J To make sure you never miss an episode, why not subscribe to the show on whatever podcast app you use. N.W We're always on the lookout for new episode ideas. So is there a fabulous facilitator you think we should talk to? H.J Or something interesting emerging in the world of facilitation you think listeners need to hear about? N.W Then send us an email at podcast@IAF-EnglandWales.org H.J We hope you'll join us again soon for more facilitation stories. N.W Until then, thank you for listening.

January 21, 202521 min

FS74 Representation and Lego with Camilla Gordon

In this episode Nikki talks to Camilla Gordon, a process facilitator , about representation in Lego and her new "Figiverse" project. They talk about How Camilla uses Lego Serious Play in facilitation The lack of representation within Lego 'I had people of colour seeing these more representative Lego pieces and had really emotional reactions to it, because people have never seen themselves in these pieces' 'It has become so normalised that particular identities don't get represented in different spaces' Improving representation and access to more diverse Lego pieces 'recognizing that these forms of representation shouldn't be separated from the more traditional Lego pieces, but actually should be a core part of those packs' Camilla's new "Figiverse" project including how it started and future plans A full transcript is below. Links: Today's guest: www.Camillagordon.co.uk www.Figiverse.co.uk To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF and the England and Wales Chapter: Facilitation Stories website: https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ And to email us: podcast@iaf-englandwales.org IAF England and Wales: https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales The Facilitation Stories Team: Helene Jewell: https://www.linkedin.com/in/helenejewell/ Nikki Wilson: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolawilson2/ Transcript N.W Hello and welcome to Facilitation Stories, the community podcast of the England and Wales Chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name's Nikki Wilson, and today I'm going to be speaking to Camilla Gordon. So welcome, Camilla. To get us started would you like to tell us a little bit more about you and what you do. C.G Sure. So I am a freelance facilitator, and I'm a process facilitator. So focused on getting groups from A to B, I am what I would call sector agnostic. So work across a range of different sectors with lots of different clients and groups from unaccompanied children, refugees and asylum seekers all the way through to corporate boards, and part of my approach in doing that work is trying to facilitate processes that are more inclusive, kind of recognizing power dynamics and hierarchies and rooms. I'm really clear that I'm not a D&I facilitator. For me, that's just the core part of how I work, rather than it being a kind of defined piece. And so, yeah, I do lots of kinds of work, lots of different places, lots of different processes. N.W Great. And so the focus of today's conversation is Lego. So how and why do you use Lego in your work? C.G So I'm a Lego Serious Play facilitator, or what I usually like to say, I'm trained in Lego Serious Play. I say that because I use elements of Lego Serious Play in my work. But I'm not wedded to it in a strict way, in relationship to the process and how it works. I like to take bits and pieces of different methods and tools to make it work for the group, and so use Lego in a range of different ways within the different processes that I run from using Lego Serious Play in its most formal sense, but also using Lego as a tool to explore different parts of conversations and in different ways. N.W And so while you like to use some Lego, I believe you noticed there was something that you didn't like about it. So could you tell us a little bit more about that? C.G Yeah, definitely. I started using Lego Serious Play about seven years ago, and one of the first things I noticed was the lack of representation within Lego. I saw lots of yellow faces, I saw lots of yellow hands, but I didn't see any representation of black and brown heads and hands. I didn't see any representation of disabled people. I didn't see representation in many ways, in the Lego that I was using. Following on from that, I spent a lot of time looking for some of those pieces, looking for ways to bring representation into my kit, because the groups that I work with were because the groups that I work with are from a huge range of different backgrounds with a huge range of different identities. And on that journey, I realised part of the reason I didn't have that in my kit to begin with was because very little of it existed in the world. I ended up on Lego resale websites, talking to Lego dealers, and while there were a few representations of black and brown heads, a lot of them were double printed with happy and angry on either side. And I was very aware of the stereotypes and tropes that come along with racial stereotypes, and I didn't want to feature that in my kit. And in the end, I had to get them custom printed, so I bought a whole load of heads with the formal colour being reddish brown or medium Nougat, which is the term the colour definition from LEGO. I had to get them custom printed. And obviously, recognizing representation isn't just about racial representation. I also spent a lot of time looking for other identities that could be represented. And looked at things like wheelchairs. They were also very hard to source and had only been released in one kit. And they were five pounds each for the ones that I could source and they were very hard to find. Looking for other forms of representation, things such as hijabs, different elements of different religions, different elements of different identities, they were virtually impossible to find. And so it became a bit of a mission for me to try and find more pieces like that. And I came across a statistic. These numbers are not the actual numbers but it was something along the lines of 8 to 10 times the number of yellow and white heads represented to the number of black and brown heads represented. So there was a huge disparity in relation to those pieces. Part of the reason doing this was so important to me was there is a perception that yellow is a neutral colour and that yellow represents everyone. When I get asked this question, I usually respond by asking, there is an American cartoon, The Simpsons, and they are all yellow. What ethnicity would you say the Simpsons were? Usually I get a very clear answer back, if I don't, then I ask which of the characters in The Simpsons aren't yellow? And then we find characters like the shopkeeper Apu. And then it becomes even more clear that actually that isn't a neutral colour. And time after time after time in my workshops, I had people of colour seeing these more representative Lego pieces and at times, I've had, you know, really emotional reaction to it, because people have never seen themselves in these pieces. I've had young people in wheelchairs who have never seen themselves in these pieces, and I regularly hear things along the lines of, it's me, I've never seen this before, through to young people who have taken away models of themselves and keep them on their on their shelf, because they want to keep that in sight for them, because they have never seen it. And part of the reaction when I talk to people is less about seeing themselves, but the realization that they have never seen themselves because it has become so normalised that particular identities don't get represented in different spaces. N.W Okay and so, I mean, obviously you were already taking some action within your own kit, but then you've now decided to actually take this forward and do something wider and bigger. How did you decide to do that and to do something more with the work that you'd already done? C.G Well, this has been something that's been set on my mind for two years, but I was really keen that other people should have access to these sort of pieces, from the perspective of particularly Lego Serious Play facilitators, to broaden the representation within their kits. But beyond that, I use Lego mini figure pieces at the start of almost all my workshops, whether or not I'm using Lego Serious Play in order for people to be able to build representations of themselves. What has come out of that is the number of people requesting those pieces and asking where I got them from, because they want access to them. And so over a period of time, it became really clear that people did want these pieces. And so I decided that it was important for these pieces to be on offer, not just for Lego Serious Play facilitators, but for facilitators in general, and if and when individuals want them, for families, for people who are not facilitators, and for youth groups who work with a range of identities in their spaces. And it was hearing from individuals again and again that they wanted access to these pieces that was this sort of catalyst for me moving forward with this and trying to make it happen. N.W And so how did you decide how you'd approach taking it wider, as it were? I mean, so you said that before you get custom printed figures in the designs that you want, how did you decide to kind of approach taking it wider? C.G Well, something that has changed over the last few years is Lego has improved the range of pieces that they offer. While they don't always feature in their kits, you can order them directly. N.W Right. C.G And so in me being able to access more pieces, it meant there was an opportunity to pull a range of pieces together to make, to make a product, to make something that would be beneficial to groups of people recognizing that these forms of representation shouldn't be separated from the more traditional Lego pieces, but actually should be a core part of those packs. As I say, I don't think we should be adding things on, they should just be the norm. Yeah, and so that was part of how I went about it. I did a lot of research around what pieces were available, and a number of pieces are actually no longer available. I had a number, I have a number of heads, black heads that feature Vitiligo. I can no longer find those on the Lego website. I also came across a piece with a cochlear implant on the hair, I had to order those from a Lego dealer because I could no longer source them directly from Lego. And so there's been a lot of different moving parts, but for me, it was about the research piece and looking at how we could bring the different parts together into something that was accessible for people to be able to purchase, and also gave the opportunity to give kits to youth groups and organisations who potentially wouldn't be able to afford them otherwise. N.W Okay and so what you're going to be offering is complete kits with this range of different pieces within them to people to purchase and potentially some to for people to get free if they're not able to afford them. Is that? Is that right? C.G Yeah, so the the business is called Figiverse, and there are curated packs of different size, generally ranging from for groups of 6 to 8, for groups of 14 to 16, for groups of up to 30, that include a range of mini figures, a range of heads and hands, and also different accessories. Other products that are on the market generally offer per one mini figure, one accessory. But really for this to work as a product, you need more than that, because you want people to have the choice in how they represent themselves. And so generally the kit, so for our kit, for 14 to 16 people we have over 100 accessories in that pack so that people really can choose, and they are designed to be used by facilitators. And so they come with a set of base plates so people can present their models. And come, you know, in a carry bag, trying to think about these products from all different angles to make them as usable as possible, and a number of different use cases for facilitators to be able to to use them effectively from the get go. N.W Okay, great. And so for listeners' benefit, we're actually speaking at the end of November in 2024 how and where have you got to so far with this project? C.G Great question. Well, so hopefully today, I'll be launching the website, and, broadly speaking, seeing what, what the response is. Ideally we would see in the next few weeks, in the run up to Christmas, what sort of things are popular, and then doing a bigger launch for January, wanting to make sure that we're getting it right in terms of what people want, but also being really clear that these products aren't Perfect. All the elements that we would want represented aren't there, and so over time, keen to improve that range. So while right now in the product development, we have what we can get, we're actually very limited by those things. And I've tried to find ways right now to improve that. So creating flags, like pride flags, for example, to try and represent identities from a range of different perspectives and ways. So those are currently made by me using decal but hopefully moving forward, they would be more professionally developed. So at a very early stage in the whole thing, but trying to work with a good enough mentality to try and get out there. N.W Okay, and so I was going to ask a bit about what's coming next. Well, obviously, just actually launching the website. And then you said that you've got a kind of bigger launch plans for January. Have you got any particular ideas of what you're going to do with that? C.G Yeah, I think for me, I would like to really expand what can be offered, primarily because I want to get this into more spaces for more people to be able to access. Right now, you've got the core kits. Other options that I'm looking at are things like office parties, renting a kit, organisations are really keen to move away from alcohol based social events because they're not inclusive, and so using this is a bit of a tool for that, offering rental options. But also if people want to create their models and then keep them also offering things like guest books for weddings, where people want to build themselves as a wedding guest and keep a really wonderful part of their day for them. Also options for things like subscriptions, so facilitators can keep updating the kits that they have, and getting new accessories, and maybe going seasonal accessories. So I think there's a lot of different options that are quite exciting to think about, but again, trying to start with the basics to see, to see what happens really from here. N.W And do you have any thoughts about how you will kind of prioritize what the next stages of development will be? Because obviously, you've said there's this whole range of options, and you're starting with that kind of good enough core where, how would you decide what to do next with each of those? C.G Broadly, the next few weeks will dictate a lot of that, where the interest is. At the moment, I haven't gone for kits that are smaller than sort of 6 to 8 people. I've had a lot of interest from parents, from people who look after young people, and so potentially looking at an offer there, but a lot of it is dictated on capacity. At the moment, it's just me roping in a few friends when we can, and also keen to have a look at the sustainability side of things. At the moment, 20% of the kits, up to 20% of the kits are from, include pre-loved Lego pieces, and so we'd love to play around with that, but again, right now, it's seeing what happens now, what the interest level is, and then working with that to try and build products and offers that work for the audiences that we're talking to. N.W And I guess what you're saying about pre-loved and sustainability part of the issue with that is that a lot of these things don't exist in the pre-loved market at the moment. And so you're, you've maybe got the core kits that are the more easily available pieces, and then I suppose the more that this grows, you've got more chance of being able to get pre-loved pieces. And so, I mean, you've probably hinted at this already, but what are your hopes for the project, and what help do you need to get there? C.G I think my hopes are that one day, when I take a kit such as this into a group, there'll be no reaction to it, because people will have seen these pieces, they'll be used to seeing all of these pieces in every Lego kit, and that would be my ideal one day. That might be quite far away at this point. But also, I would love for this conversation to keep going, particularly with Lego, to see if there are opportunities to work together or to really look at the range of pieces that they have and how that can be expanded in relation to other forms of identity, particularly beyond racial identity, as I think there's a there is a huge focus on racial identity, but there are also plenty of other identities that aren't represented in lots and lots of different spaces. So having more access to pieces that represent that kind of wide range of identities is really important to me, and so I'd like to keep the conversation going. If people wanted to get involved, it'd be great to have those conversations. Get in touch, join the mailing list, but also, if you're a facilitator and you're looking for something you can bring into your workshops, do think about picking up a kit. They are great for things like introducing people, but also for opening conversations around diversity and representation. I have also used them for things such as building teams. What, how would you build your ideal team? What do each of these people need and look like? And so I think there's a range of things and as I said, representation is a core part of this product. But actually, the reason I developed the product is because it's a really, really great way to open conversations with people that aren't related to representation, and these pieces are just a part of that in the way that all of the other pieces are. N.W Okay and so if listeners want to know more about this project or about you and your work how can they find you and find the project? C.G So Figiverse has its own website, which is figiverse.co.uk . I'm also hoping by the time this goes out, that there will be some social media presence. We'll see about that. But you can also find me as an individual. My website's Camillagordon.co.uk , find me on LinkedIn, and would love to chat more and find out from people what they think about this as an idea. N.W Brilliant. Well, I'm sure there'll be lots of people keen to get in touch and sort of know more about it. Sounds like a great project, and we'll put the links in the show notes as well so that they're easy to find. But thank you so much Camilla, it's been great to chat to you about this. C.G Great thanks. Nikki. Really appreciate it and excited to be able to share a bit more and a bit further and wider about the project. N.W Brilliant. We'll be looking forward to hearing more. C.G Thanks H.J So listeners, we've reached the end of another episode of facilitation stories, the community podcast of IAF, England and Wales. N.W If you'd like to find out more about the IAF and how to get involved, all of the links are on our website. Facilitationstories.com H.J And to make sure you never miss an episode, why not subscribe to the show on whatever podcast app you use? N.W We're always on the lookout for new episode ideas. So is there a fabulous facilitator you think we should talk to? H.J Or something interesting emerging in the world of facilitation you think listeners need to hear about? N.W Send us an email at podcast@IAF-Englandwales.org . H.J We hope you'll join us again soon for more Facilitation Stories. N.W Until then, thank you for listening.

November 19, 202436 min

FS73 Reflections on being Chair of IAF England and Wales with Jane Clift

In this episode Helene talks to Jane Clift about her role as the Chair of IAF England and Wales. They talk about: How Jane got involved with the IAF and the facilitation community "the game changer for me was coming to my first IAF conference,I had never met so many people interested in facilitation" How Jane became the Chair of IAF England and Wales Highlights and challenges since becoming the Chair The importance of the IAF and community events "I think there's been a recognition in our chapter, in our community, we can all learn from each other." And future plans for both the IAF England and Wales chapter and Jane A full transcript is below. Links Today's guest: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jane-clift/ Email: chair@iaf-englandwales.org To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF and the England and Wales Chapter: Facilitation Stories website: https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/ And to email us: podcast@iaf-englandwales.org IAF England and Wales: https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales The Facilitation Stories Team: Helene Jewell: https://www.linkedin.com/in/helenejewell/ Nikki Wilson: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolawilson2/ Transcript H.J Hello and welcome to facilitation stories brought to you by the England and Wales Chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Helen Jewell, and today I'm going to be talking to Jane Clift, consultant, coach and facilitator and Chair of IAF England and Wales. Welcome Jane. J.C Thank you very much, Helen. I'm very happy to be here. H.J So I've got lots of questions for you, mostly about your role as chair, but before we do that, it'd be really nice to hear a little bit more about you as a facilitator and the type of work that you do. J.C Very good opening question there. So I have facilitated in quite a wide range of contexts, and I think I was doing it before I knew it was called facilitation. So I'm currently have my own business, but I've also worked a great deal for organisations, originally in sort of technology and consulting roles. So I think I was setting up and running workshops well before I knew that there was a term called facilitator, or that facilitation was a thing. So I would say that my practice started very, very organically, very organically. It's H.J It's funny, if I listen back to all the different podcasts we've done, we've done, I would say that that kind of thing is a real thread through all of them that people have kind of come into facilitation accidentally, organically, or discovered that it is called facilitation after they began doing it in the first place. J.C Exactly, yeah, something that I've also, I've always really loved stationery and stationery shops, like I really, really enjoy going into rymans and places like that. So obviously, when you're working as a facilitator, you have got the best reason in the world to be stocking up on colourful stationery craft materials. So there's something about that aspect of it that I don't know, just I've always really, really liked that idea of bringing, like, colourful stationery or objects into the workplace and having a reason to use them. And that reason is facilitation. H.J I love it. That's a great reason. I am also a self confessed stationery nerd, so I totally, I'm totally on board with that. Is there a particular type of facilitation that you enjoy doing, or that you feel is your kind of forte? J.C So I've done a lot of facilitation around agreeing, like a strategy or a road map, or like, identifying things that are getting in the way. So one of the areas that I've actually facilitated on quite a lot is risk management, which is really an important topic if you're doing large scale programs or projects, which I've done quite a lot of in my career. So I actually really like that as a topic, whether you do that in person or online. I have done quite a lot of those workshops where you end up with a room covered in pieces of paper, covered in sticky, you know, in post its and so forth. But during lockdown, like many people, I became very adept at online facilitation, and that's probably the space that I've worked in the most over the last few years, and I, I really, really like that, and I'm amazed that it works, because you're connecting up people that can be all over the world, and you're just in this virtual space, and yet you can, you can make magic happen if you can facilitate it well, and I find that an incredible and unexpected gift that came out of lockdown. Having said that, there is nothing like the energy of being in a room with people. I also absolutely love that I had the great pleasure of being facilitated myself recently, large scale workshop, 30 of us in a room, all talking about something, and it was just so much fun. So I'm not sure I've really got a niche. I'm quite a versatile person, but I tend to be better with topics that are a little bit more creative or future oriented, or that are kind of attached to something that's happening right now. Hence the interesting risk. H.J Ah, interesting, okay, and it's, yeah, also good hearing about that adaptability, which I think also flows through a lot of facilitators, practice or facilitation, and yeah, that whole movement online. I think it is amazing sometimes, as you say, to think how people can be connected online, but somehow, well, it's not somehow the magic happens. It's because we're brilliant facilitators. J.C It is because we're brilliant facilitators and we can create a safe and a fun space. It's, it is incredible, and it's also something that you almost don't realise that you have a gift for until you get that feedback. Oh, that was great workshop. Oh, we made, you know, we made progress, or I felt I could speak up. During the lockdown, I volunteered as a facilitator for action for happiness, and I ran a monthly session, and each month we get to, oh, I've got to do that session again. Oh, like an hour and a half, and I go into it, and I had a co facilitator, and we'd be part way through the session, and the magic would start to happen. And you could feel, because lockdown was a very tough time for many people, and you could feel the magic of facilitation happen. You could feel people relax, open up, and at the end of the session, we'd always do this check in, and everybody without exception, every single one of those sessions we ran, people said, Oh, I feel better. All my energy levels have lifted, or I feel relaxed. And I just thought, wow. H.J Yeah. And you get that real kind of lovely feeling in your body where you think, oh, yeah, this, this is, this is good. This is why I do this. Okay. And so you talk about, you know, your work, and then sort of almost discovering, I guess, that you are a facilitator, or that that's the thing that you can call what you do. When did you get more involved in the kind of the facilitation community and the IAF in particular. J.C So like many people who facilitate, I had been doing quite a lot of facilitation, without much formal training or orientation and without any awareness there was a facilitation community. So what kind of got me into the IAF was I, I'd been doing some team, like away day workshop, and I had, this is classic me, by the way, I kind of reinvented the wheel, not realising that there were lots of methods out there and and like ways of doing things. And after I did this workshop and probably kind of gave it far too much effort, I thought I actually need to get learn some technique here. I've got the interest, I've got the motivation, I've got the aptitude. I haven't got enough technique. So I went and did some training with ICA UK. I did, I think that their group facilitation skills course. And I think the trainer was Martin Gilbraith, who, at the time, I think, was very much a leading light in the IAF. And I joined the IAF, and then I kind of washed in and out of it a little bit. And when I started to get more involved was at one of the London meetups. That's, I think, when I started to become more actively involved. Realised it was a community. Realised that you could come gather, meet other people who facilitate and talk about facilitation. Wow, amazing, it's a thing. H.J A big network of geeks where we get to talk about all of these tools and techniques and stuff and stationery, probably. And so you discovered, I guess then this community, what kind of drew you in more, what kept you going to, you know, maybe the London meetups or ? J.C I really like, I like being part of communities. So even though I have my own business, I do like to collaborate with other people. I do like to be connected to other people. It's quite important for me. So there's quite a lot of community attached to coaching, which is another area I'm involved with. And I think once I identified there was community attached to facilitation, I was just interested in finding out more. And the meetups were definitely really good for that. And then the game changer for me was coming to my first IAF conference. I don't think I'd ever met, I had never met so many people interested in facilitation, all in one space. And also the diversity of practice was really, really, it was really inspirational for me. I had been toying with some more creative practices, not necessarily having the confidence to implement them. And at that conference, I saw people that were just going, you know, all in on their more creative facilitation practices. And I was like, wow. So I think it was that very first conference which really said, thought, these are my people, these are my tribes. We're all different from each other, and yet we've got this thing in common. And so it was the creative thing, a kind of curiosity about people, and I think another common thread was this desire to, desire to make an impact in the world, but in quite a practical way. H.J It does, I recognize that feeling of finding your people and just feeling really comfortable in a space, whether that's a meetup or something bigger, like the conference, and just thinking, oh yeah, people get what I'm talking about. And, yeah, that, yeah, making a difference I think is, is part of that, isn't it? How can we spread the word a bit? How can we share our, share our inner geekery, our love with other people? Okay, so pulling you further in, then you've been chair for the last couple of years, since January 2022, I think. And so how did that happen? J.C Well, I have to say I wanted to get more involved in the IAF, and I think I stood for the board, and I guess I didn't intend to be chair, but I'm one of those people who I think it's called situational leadership. I don't choose to be a leader unless I feel in a context I am the best person to be that leader. So so I don't have, I don't have a burning desire every day to lead, but when I'm in a situation where I think in this context, I'm the best person to lead in order for us to get a good result, that's when I get involved. So that's I think, in with that group, when I became, when I joined the board and joined the leadership team, I was, I felt I was the best person, or the one who had had the capacity and the willingness. There was plenty of other people who had the expertise to do it, but I had the capacity and the expertise and the motivation to be the chair. So that's why I became the Chair. And it's been incredible, incredibly interesting thing to have done. H.J So that's interesting, that kind of sweet spot of having all those things come together at once, as you say, the capacity and the sort of, you know, the space and the skills to actually do that. And so thinking the responsibilities is quite a it's a big deal being the chair, especially of, you know, a group of people that are all volunteers all coming together, you know, all sort of, all having their own day jobs as well. What have been your main kind of responsibilities, I suppose, as a chair, knowing a little bit about having done the role already? J.C So the responsibilities are quite varied. The way I've worked as the chair is, there's a lot of structuring of the leadership group so that we can work effectively. So I guess there's an administrative element to it, and there's also an aspect to it where you're trying to move things forward in what you feel is the general direction that the group is interested in, whilst being mindful of the fact that everybody is indeed volunteering their time, and that, you know, it's a volunteer organisation, with fairly sort of Slim, slim but stable financial capacity. So it's it's been, for me, about like moving us forward, taking us further away from that sort of post COVID environment, where I think many organisations, you know, they had to get back on their feet, and I think you had steered the leadership team beautifully through the incredible challenges of lockdown. And I think I've been able to pick up from where you left off, continue the great work. And I think move us into an even, you know, into a stronger position. And definitely, I feel we've fully recovered from lockdown now, and I think evolved somewhat as well in some really, like, great, sort of great directions. And I think we've also, and I've done this quite frequently when I've been in leadership roles, is I've tried to sort of streamline. And so sometimes with all organisations, particularly ones where a lot of people are very ideasy, you can spread yourselves too thinly, you can chase hairs, you can have an inconsistent practice because you're trying to do too much because you've got so many ideas. So I think one of the responsibilities of the chair is to sort of say, yes, these are all brilliant ideas, but where, where do we feel we can really make the most difference? Where should we? Where should we focus our energies to have the greatest impact? So that's definitely one of the, one of the responsibilities of the Chair is to sort of provide that, that leadership to, but to, you know, to acknowledge all the great ideas, but just to say, right what are we actually capable of doing as a leadership team, as an organisation, given it's entirely volunteer led. H.J And especially maybe with a group of facilitators, you know, we do tend to like ideas, don't we? We've got all sorts of, you know, things that we think should happen and could happen, and so I guess containing them then and making sure that, yeah, some are driven forward, some aren't lost, and people are still on board with with all of what's going on is definitely quite a challenge. And thinking, also back to my time as chair, it felt like that was a period of, as you say, in COVID, treading water, just making sure that things sort of carried on really but definitely your era has been much more of a moving forwards, progressing, improving things, I think. Thinking then about highlights, I suppose, things that have really stood out for you, things that have gone really well. What are those? J.C The highlights for me, from my time as chair the sort of the red carpet event every year is our conference. It's so much fun. It is two days of learning, connecting, getting totally out of your comfort zone, talking about facilitation, meeting your community, making friends, being grateful, thanking everybody for all that they're doing. So the two conferences in the time that I've been chair, they've both been really, really wonderful events for me, and I am so grateful for being part of them, even though, as Chair, I'm actually quite second hand to the conference because it's organised by a different group. But when I'm there at the conference, I have felt this is such a celebration of facilitation, it really is. And I've also been really pleased I've brought new people to the conference and introduced people to the leadership team and so forth. So that's the red carpet events. I've absolutely, also really loved our leadership away days. And in fact, can you just describe them different? Yes, we're calling them retreats now. I also love, yes, our leadership retreat. So they've been absolutely wonderful events as well. And I remember thinking, Oh, I'm going to be facilitating facilitators, uh oh. So I remember that was thinking that was quite the challenge. And yet, you know, I think we've, I think I've been involved now in three of the retreats, and I think they've all, they've all gone well, and I've learned a lot about facilitation from, from running those, from designing those sessions, and from also witnessing people in our leadership team facilitating sessions within the session. So they've been really wonderful as well. And I guess I do love the in person activities, like I do love being in a room or a space with other people, so any opportunity to do that has been great, and I think inspired by meetups that I went to in London, I'm now based in Sheffield, and I've also kicked off like a facilitate Sheffield group. I'm not sure I would have done that had I not had the experience of being a chair. I've just realised sometimes it's just like, shall we do this? Shall we try and get something moving? And that's been really interesting as well, that sometimes you've just got to have a go. H.J Oh, that's interesting. That the Sheffield meetup sort of grew out of your position as Chair, if you like. It's interesting thinking about that facilitating, facilitators bits? I totally Yeah, that really makes sense to me. That whole, you know, you, it's really good to see other people and experience other people's facilitation, but at the same time, I think possibly we are the worst participants, but it is nice to kind of get together and have that, have that all sharing of how we do things as well. I think it's quite inspirational. J.C It's really, really inspirational for me. I find the diversity of people's practice, of their life experiences, the fact that people come from different parts of the UK, and we've all converged, actually, I think it's been in Manchester or Birmingham. So we've kind of all come together. I find that very, very interesting. And everyone's paths into facilitation have been quite different. So so for me, I kind of find those sessions are very opening up, and afterwards I go away and I've learned something that's often quite significant for me and I've then carried forward with me. So I'm not going to those sessions and think I'm going to boss everyone around. It's been, they're very collaborative. H.J Definitely. No, that's been my experience as well, that feeling of collaboration. So what's changed, you know, quite a lot, probably in your time as chair, from this period of, you know, COVID, where things weren't moving forwards very much perhaps. What are the main changes you think you've seen in the last couple of years with the IAF England and Wales leadership team and board, but maybe beyond that as well? J.C So there's been quite a lot of changes. I think facilitation itself as a sort of professional and area of expertise is more understood, known, celebrated and in demand than it's ever been. That's quite interesting. I think in the time I've been chair, I'm, I have a tendency to want to structure things, so I probably have brought in some structure more, perhaps some more structure than there was previously. And I've, as I said, maybe done some of that streamlining activity. And I think everybody that I know in IAF England and Wales is really keen to, you know, expand our community, welcome more people in ,work on the diversity. I think that we are slowly becoming more diverse. We acknowledge that there's a lot more to do in that space, but there's a sort of appetite and a sort of momentum around that now, we're not just talking about it, we're doing something about it. So, for example, most of the leadership team have now taken part in anti racism training, which is, you know, really, really important. So I think perhaps we were a little bit more focused than we were. The other thing that I think changed is, and I think you 100% laid the foundations for this. I think we are more tightly or better aligned with the EME region for IAF. So I've participated in our, the regional like leadership team meetings, and they've been very interesting. And I think there's been a recognition in our chapter, in our community, we can all learn from each other. And when we've had people come to the conference from other other chapters that survive other geographies that's been really, really interesting and inspirational. So we can, we can learn so much from each other. And we've also, I think also we as a chapter have been able to do a little bit of support for other chapters as well. So that's been really great, too. So I guess I'm just trying to summarise what's changed. So I think a little bit more structure and focus, and also, yes, totally recovered from COVID and the lockdown era, and I'm feeling we probably contracted a little bit during that time period, as many organisations did, I feel we're now expanding. H.J It's really interesting that Europe and Middle East Regional link as well, because I personally really value that diversity and looking outside, you know, our chapter, and seeing what other chapters are do, are doing, and, yeah, forging those links is a really, really nice thing to be doing I think. J.C It's a wonderful opportunity. One of the things when we hear, it's easy to look at the news and think, Oh, so many bad, bad, dark things happening in the world. What I find is when you connect with people from other geographies, other cultures, when you form those links, when you extend your community, it just makes all those bad news stories, they seem a little less important, because on a very practical, like, I don't know, day to day basis, or you kind of you're ignoring all that. You're reaching out and saying, no, there is, there are, It is worth doing this stuff. It is worth connecting. It is worth still believing that we can change things through our facilitation practice. You know, I just, I like the aspect of it. I find, actually find this, I find this idea of being part of a global community, I find it very optimistic and positive. H.J It's almost quite, quite a skill, I think, to be able to find that optimism. Because, as you say, you know, there's a lot of doom and gloom around but I really like that way of thinking about things. Find the kind of the good stuff in, you know, all that's going on around us. Okay, and then flipping that on its head, however, with any role, with any you know group such as we are, there will have been challenges. What have been the main challenges? In a few minutes? J.C So one of the challenges has been my own time. So I have my own business. Sometimes I'm working full time, and then I'm supporting this activity in my free time. So that's been a personal challenge for me. The other personal challenge for me is with my desire for structure and focus, I've had to really temper that, because I have had to learn, and it's been really, really good for me, that we've got to let the ideas flow. We, people need that space to let the ideas flow, to connect. We can't, I've got a tendency to go straight into right what are we all going to do? Action, action, action. And that doesn't work with this community, because that, they that's not how this community operates. So it's been, for me that's been a tremendous learning curve, and I am now much, much more respectful and aware of that need to sort of have a lot more flow before you sort of, so that's been, that's been, as I said, it's been that's been quite challenging for me. And. And then, equally, it's also challenging that with the best one in the world, we are all volunteers, and everybody's time, you know, time constrained, or they have things going on in their personal lives which may inhibit their ability to do things, even if they're highly motivated to do that. And we are trying to be smart about this now, work at how we can outsource some of the more rote activities to to, like virtual assistance, so that we can, almost, like, use our time in a more clever and a smart way. And what I'm thinking, what are the other challenges have been? Well, it's always, you know, I think this is something we all suffer from, is, and I'm the, I'm also guilty of it is, is trying to do too much. H.J And it's, I think, that bit about us all being, you know, we're all all volunteers. We're all doing this in our own time. We're all doing it because we are invested in our community, and we want it to be better, and we want more things from it, and we want it to still be the fantastic thing it is. But actually, you know, there's only so many hours in a day, and and then finding that time to do that, and the energy, and then collaborating and coordinating, coordinating that with with a whole heap of other people all around the country is, you know, it's definitely not an easy task. J.C It's not easy at all. And I think at one point I was trying to, sort of almost like fly solo too much, and doing too much on my own. And then this year I've been really busy. And I, it was actually, this is a kind of a sort of, you know, people make New Year's decisions. So one of my decisions for 2024 was whatever I'm trying to do in life, I want to do that in collaboration with others. So I've been a much more collaborative leader in 2024 for our chapter, and I think that's been really beneficial for the chapter. So rather than thinking, I can, I'll do all this stuff on my lonesome, I've actually asked people to come in with me, and I think that's been much more successful for the chapter and for me, and again, it's another sort of smart way of working and sort of not being that kind of lonely leader marching up the mountain on their own. It's much better if you are, if you're doing stuff in small groups or with a partner. So that's just been a personal learning for me and a decision and a change of a change, like a change of sort of operation. H.J So it sounds like there's been quite a lot of learning, you know, over the last couple of years for you as chair and probably for all of us as the leadership team as well. Thinking then about, you know, all that hard work that goes into making this stuff happen, and the IAF leadership team and the, you know, England, Wales, and the wider community, what do you think that that we kind of bring to people, you know, what? What's, what do people get from it? J.C I think the most important thing that we offer is community. I think, I think many people who work in the facilitation space, I don't know if it's solo entrepreneurs, you know, or small businesses, and I think creating a community that's actually really easy to connect to, you can be in our community, don't have to be a member. You know, many people aren't members. It doesn't matter. The important thing is that there's a community that you can be part of, and we offer different ways of connecting. We have our online meetups, we have in person meetups, we have our conference and then I think what I've I've seen happen which is a very beautiful thing to witness. I have seen people who I know have only met through the conference or through the community start to do collaborations together, which shows you that these relationships are really, really building and developing and supporting people professionally. So I think that community thing is, we never did anything else, that's that's, for me, is the most important thing. But the second thing, I think, is really important, is sharing practice and acknowledging when we see good work and supporting practice. And it can be really something quite practical like, has anyone done this type of thing? Can you recommend an exercise to do this? How do you price something so, so it can be, like the very practical things, but it can also be, I mean, at the conference, quite a lot of people will showcase something that perhaps they're still working on, in terms of offering it out to clients. It's a place where you can do some experimentation. I think that's just, I feel we are very much a community of practice, and I just think that's another huge benefit to all of not just the paid up members, but everybody in our community that we can support each other to develop practice, and we can learn from each other's practices. H.J And it feels like that community, or our community, is growing all the time, and the more it grows, the more you discover new things. And you think, Oh, I didn't realise that was a thing that's interesting. I want to know more about that. And like, it doesn't seem that there are any edges to facilitation most. It's like just a constantly changing picture, which for me is someone who's got a fairly short attention span, I think is great. Always like, Oh, I've found something new to do, to learn about. So what do you think, then, is next for IAF, England, Wales and the broader community, whether members or, you know, not members. J.C We've done quite a lot of work on, like, quite futuristic visioning, and I think we slightly rode back from that, because it almost became something that was inhibiting our more immediate development and growth. So I quite like the fact that we've been a little bit more realistic about our capacity. And we've kind of, we're focusing on a few things we want to do really well. So one of them is this wonderful podcast that I'm on today. H.J Of course. J.C We want to support all of our meetups, online and in person. We want the conference to be a great success, I think, we, we obviously want to continuing offering this. It's very hard to sometimes crystallise it, but this informal kind of community support. I think, where I think there's potential is I think we could actually promote ourselves or promote the practice of facilitation more on social media, and perhaps be more structured about that. I would really like to use the, we have the IAF Global website, which is currently being updated. I would like to see that also used as a vehicle to promote, share, practice and support the community. I feel there's quite a lot of things we can do around diversity and also connecting up with our global community. So these are some of the things I find interesting and exciting, and I feel we could do more in these spaces, we could perhaps do more to support other chapters in our region as well. So there's some of the topics, I think, Oh, that's interesting. I feel my energy rising when I think about that. So there's quite a lot of opportunities. And it's just there's, again, there's so many opportunities and ideas, and there's only so much time and so much money at the bank. So so I think lots of opportunities, but we have to take a realistic perspective on it as well. H.J Opportunities tempered with a bit of fear, bit of can we actually do this stuff? And your time as chair is coming to an end at the end of this year, I think. So what's next for you? What are you going to do with all those spare hours? J.C So I have really, even though it's been very challenging and time consuming and sometimes frustrating, I've absolutely loved the opportunity to be a situational or servant leader for this chapter. It's been a wonderful opportunity for me. It's reconnected me with a lot of leadership practice that I hadn't really done for a little while. So so I'm really keen to stay involved with our chapter and stay on the leadership team and support a new chair, whoever that will be in 2025. I also want to continue developing my own facilitation practice. And I think the thing that's come out of it for me, there's two things, one more opportunity to do leadership in life, and I'm pretty confident I want to replace, replace, I'm definitely going to be pursuing, probably a trusteeship with another organisation as I think that's a really nice segue from from what I've done here, but a slightly different way of doing that. So I like to be busy, and I, I like to serve. I don't want to say be too idealistic and optimistic, but there is something wonderful about feeling that you are doing some good public service, or some good service for others without it being a huge strain on yourself. It's really good to know that you are committing some personal time to some activities, which we hope are going to do good in the world. H.J Thank you so much for talking to me today. I've just got one last question, and that is, how can we get in touch with you? So if people want to talk more to you, what, how should we get in touch with you? J.C The easiest way to get hold of me is via LinkedIn. I've got a LinkedIn profile and I'm on LinkedIn very frequently. That's guaranteed. And you can also reach me by the email address for the chair. H.J We'll put any contact emails and your LinkedIn link in the show notes afterwards. J.C Brilliant. H.J Thank you so much, Jane, and I will see you soon. J.C Thank you very much. What a wonderful opportunity to be interviewed by you. Thank you so much Helen. H.J So listeners, we've reached the end of another episode of facilitation stories, the community podcast of IAF, England and Wales. N.W If you'd like to find out more about the IAF and how to get involved, all of the links are on our website. Facilitationstories.com H.J And to make sure you never miss an episode, why not subscribe to the show on whatever podcast app you use? N.W We're always on the lookout for new episode ideas. So is there a fabulous facilitator you think we should talk to? 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