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Talking Money, Masculinity and Medicine. An alternative but non-controversial and informed perspective. Video versions are available on my youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@KhuramMalikme Sign up to my Discord at: www.patreon.com/KhuramMalik

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The Hidden Crisis Destroying Modern Men's Lives

The hidden crisis destroying modern men isn't what you might expect. From overworking to addiction, men are silently suffering behind carefully crafted masks of success. In this powerful conversation, we explore why men are struggling to find genuine connection and love in today's world, and how the absence of safe spaces is creating a generation of men who feel forced to shoulder their burdens alone.Discover why addiction isn't just about substances, but often stems from a deeper void that many men are desperate to fill. We uncover how societal expectations, cultural pressures, and the breakdown of traditional support systems have left men without proper outlets for emotional expression.This raw and honest discussion delves into personal experiences with addiction, healing, and the transformative power of authentic connection. Learn why creating safe spaces for men isn't just important - it's essential for the wellbeing of our entire community.Whether you're struggling yourself or know someone who is, this conversation offers insight into the hidden pain many men carry and reveals potential pathways toward healing and genuine connection.#howtomatureasabeliever #spiritualawakening #substanceabuse #substanceabusecounseling #co-occurringdisordersCHAPTERS:00:00 - Pre-Cap01:06 - Younis' Bio02:32 - The Love of a Father08:46 - Men and Self-Development Challenges10:36 - Interacting with other modern men12:18 - Navigating Identity Crisis16:14 - Absence of a Father Figure18:19 - Complaining to Allah20:40 - The Power of Dua25:25 - Discovering Your Gift27:40 - Men and Emotional Love28:50 - The Impact of Overworking29:33 - Understanding Submarining32:40 - Women's Microaggressions Explained38:30 - Why Women Lack Awareness of Men41:00 - Creating Safe Spaces for Discussion46:50 - How to Create Safe Spaces48:45 - The Danger of Judging Outcomes50:00 - You Never Lose with Allah52:05 - The Peak of a Man's Life54:27 - Characteristics of a Safe Space01:01:57 - Final WordsJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

9 min

Effort vs Luck: Why "Just Work Harder" Is a Dangerous Myth

It's the age old question of why some people succeed over others despite the efforts being equal. Why does Allah choose success for some and not for others, and how much does willpower and His leave play a part in all of this?The notion of "just work harder" as a recipe for success is not just misleading—it's dangerous. In this video, we delve into why this mantra oversimplifies reality and overlooks the crucial role of divine will in our achievements. Maybe it's the time we stopped measuring success solely by worldly accomplishments. Reflect on how every slice of bread involves a chain of events far beyond our control, pointing to a greater power at play. It's time we stopped judging others for their perceived lack of success and began recognizing the profound wisdom of surrendering to a higher will, as shown by teachings from Sufi scholars. Join me as I challenge the capitalistic mindset and advocate for a spiritual understanding of true success. Ready to rethink what it means to achieve? Dive into this conversation on spirituality, personal growth, and societal values.CHAPTERS:00:00 - The Power of the Creator02:48 - Personal Responsibility08:35 - Success as Allah Defines It09:18 - Success in the Eyes of Allah09:33 - The Impact of Judging Others09:45 - Bringing Allah Back into the ConversationThat's the question.Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

8 min

Travel's Lost Wisdom: What You're Missing Now

They say travel is supposed to make you wiser, and perhaps that was true for hundreds if not thousands of years, but is it true anymore?In this video, I offer an alternative perspective as to what may have been the true crux of why travel used to make people wiser and why that is not the case anymore, as well as perhaps a new kind of travel experience that we should all consider that can hopefully achieve the same.In a world where every city seems like a carbon copy of the last, the transformative power of travel seems to have faded. Once, travel was a journey into the unknown, offering stark contrasts and fresh perspectives. But now, with global monoculture on the rise, we're left with familiar brands and routines, no matter where we roam. Maybe it's the corporations we should question, as they define our travel experiences and limit our cultural exposure. It's time we stopped and considered if we're truly connecting with the world or just moving through it. Maybe it's the personal stories and shared human experiences that hold the key to wisdom we seek. Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: [Patreon Link]. Let's explore these ideas together and redefine what it means to truly travel.#HumanBehavior #SelfImprovement #CulturalExchange #ModernTravelWisdom #CulturalUnderstandingCHAPTERS:00:00 - Travel Makes You Wiser01:20 - Travel's Impact on Wisdom06:10 - Strategies for Gaining Wisdom08:20 - Personal Development TechniquesJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: / khurammalik

12 min

The Surprising Impact of Food on Your Personality

We have come to know the effect of food on our physiological state but have we ever considered how food affects our emotions and even our spiritual state?That is what I explore in this video based on an interesting interaction with a friend at an iftar one day.I delve into the surprising connection between diet and behavior, exploring how certain foods can trigger emotions and alter our personality. Through personal stories and insights into spiritual and traditional medicine, discover how our eating habits might be fueling our stress, anxiety, and even social interactions. Maybe it's the processed, spice-laden meals that dull our perceptions and heat up our tempers. This isn't just about food—it's about reclaiming control over our mental and spiritual well-being. I share my journey towards understanding this shocking diet-behavior connection, emphasizing the need for simpler, more mindful eating practices. Join the discussion and explore how we can all strive for peak performance while embracing a lifestyle that's both enriching and spiritually fulfilling.CHAPTERS:00:00 - How What We Eat Affects Our Personality01:26 - Personal Story06:05 - Ibn Khaldun’s Diet & Environment Insights09:53 - Diet's Impact on Perception and Emotions11:25 - Holding Onto Truth and Wisdom11:46 - Simple Diet for Spiritual Well-BeingJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

47 min

A British Muslim Revert Story ft. Kevin Turton [Part 2]

It was nothing glamorous said brother Kevin Turton about his reversion to Islam in the early 2000s at the ripe age of 18 years old.Therapeutic is how I would describe this episode in a conversation about how brother Kevin came to Islam and what were the events that led up to it, but also how that ties back to our self-identity and self-esteem and what he has learned and observed along the way.Very timely with regards to the events that are going on in the world right now.Kevin embraced Islam in the most unexpected way—in the back of a car. From a typical British upbringing to finding a new self-identity within the Muslim Ummah, this video delves deep into the trials and triumphs of being a Muslim revert.Navigating self-esteem and religious manipulation can be a challenge. Maybe it's the moments of sheer vulnerability or the encounters that shape us. This story isn't just about converting; it's about the journey of finding one's place, battling internal conflicts, and ultimately embracing a new faith that saved him.Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: [Patreon Link]#MyJourney #CatholicismToIslam #MuslimRevert #SelfEsteem #SelfIdentity #Ummah #BritishMuslims #PeakPerformance #ReligiousManipulation #DrAsifMunaf#AuthenticSelf #LifechangingStory #EmbracingIslam #JourneyToIslam #IdentityExplorationCHAPTERS:00:00 - Intro02:29 - Your Journey to Islam09:11 - Meeting Yusuf Pauls10:38 - Becoming Muslim17:48 - Parents' Reaction to Conversion21:09 - Importance of Love in Islam21:40 - The Adhan encounter22:55 - Learning from the Local Sheikh24:20 - Owning the Room with Confidence25:22 - Building Self-Esteem as a Muslim27:30 - Mindset Transformations28:14 - Embracing Authenticity31:18 - Keeping Doors Open for Others34:50 - The Story of Dave's Journey38:55 - The Best of People in the Ummah41:05 - Importance of Cheerfulness43:17 - Positive Outcomes in Life44:54 - Living in a Fear-Driven Society46:07 - Understanding the Fear of God47:05 - Allowing Allah to Guide YouJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

31 min

How One little trip to Umrah changed my life ft. Kevin Turton [Part 1]

Brother Kevin Turton, a revert of more than two decades now shares how a reluctant visit to the Kaaba completely changed his perspective on life in so many ways not least how he used to orient salah around the day but now orients the day around the salah.Listen to this wonderful story of how his umrah trip came about and how it created a profound and unexpected shift in his mind and also listen to the backstory between myself (Khuram) and brother Kevin on how we met, went our separate ways and then re-bonded once again.In this revealing video, brother Kevin delves into how Umrah changed his life forever. Let's be honest, sometimes we find ourselves caught up in the daily grind—work, obligations, and the relentless pursuit of success. But what happens when you take a step back and embark on a journey that shifts your entire perspective? Maybe it's the spiritual awakening that comes with visiting sacred sites or the profound realization that life is more than just material gain.From feeling unprepared and unworthy to experiencing a life-altering shift, brother Kevins share his personal story of transformation. The encounter with Mufti Menk in Medina, the overwhelming emotions at the sight of the Kaaba, and the newfound sense of peace and purpose are just the beginning. Join brother Kevin and I as we recount the unforgettable experiences that redefined his priorities, turning my daily routine on its head. This isn't just a tale of religious devotion but a journey towards peak performance, self-discovery, and understanding the essence of British Muslims' spiritual quests. Dive into the conversation about religious manipulation, the pursuit of authenticity, and the balance between dunya and deen.Want to be part of more insightful discussions? Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: [Patreon Link]. Let's explore these profound topics together!#LifeAfterUmrah #IslamicPilgrimage #UmrahReflections #JourneyToPeace #OvercomingAnxietyCHAPTERS:00:00 - Intro01:59 - Life-Changing Umrah Experience09:46 - Sales Anxiety and Depression10:33 - Understanding the State of the Nafs12:49 - Drawing of Souls Concept18:10 - Modern Slavery Issues22:14 - Perspectives on Breakthroughs24:15 - Economic Awareness Over Time29:33 - Inward and Outward Reflection30:50 - Making Inward ChangesJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

11 min

Why You MUST Read This Book on Rumi & Shams of Tabriz

There are probably plenty of who have already recommended this book, but I just wanted to share my own thoughts and my experiences with reading this book as to why I think this book should be read by everyone and anyone that has an interest in the spiritual aspects of Islam.I reflect on my unexpected journey through Elif Shafak's "The 40 Rules of Love." Let's be honest—Rumi and Shams of Tabriz aren't just figures from history; they're profound inspirations for British Muslims and seekers of spirituality today. Maybe it's the allure of Sufism that draws us in, or perhaps it's the timeless wisdom that resonates in our modern lives. As I delved into the intertwining stories of Rumi's transformation and his friendship with Shams, I found myself captivated—unable to put the book down for days. But it’s not all smooth sailing; the outer narrative can feel tedious and brings some controversial themes. Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: [Patreon Link] and let's explore together how Sufism, religious manipulation, and peak performance intertwine in our lives. Trust me, this book could change your perspective!#Sufism #CulturalHistory #OttomanEmpireHistory #IslamicPhilosophy #RumiCHAPTERS:00:00 - Discovering The 40 Rules Of Love04:16 - The Sweet Blasphemy Story06:45 - Understanding The Interregnum Period10:31 - Book Recommendation: "The Heart of Islam"Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

7 min

When Everyone Else is Winning but You

Do you feel like everyone else is getting ahead but not you?Why is Allah rewarding the ignorant and the badly behaved when you yourself have been so good?You have been on the good path and trying to get close to Allah yet all those people that are heedless of Him somehow seem to be getting ahead.It just doesn't seem right does it? Well, if you're feeling that way, then I may have the answers you have not been able to find anywhere else.In these sets of thoughts that you will be hard pressed to find hardly anywhere else, I challenge the notion that material success equals divine approval and encourage you to find solace in being close to Him, even if it means not being materially wealthy. Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: [Patreon Link] #BritishMuslims #PeakPerformance #ReligiousManipulation #DrAsifMunaf #SpiritualSuccess #TrueWealth#MorallyCorrupt #CloseToHim #SuccessInIslam #SpiritualSuccess #DistillByKhuramCHAPTERS:00:00 - How to Make it to the Top01:13 - Look at the People Around You03:18 - The System Rewards Bad Behaviour06:38 - Change is ComingJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

40 min

Lost Wisdom: Why the Heart, Not the Brain, Thinks ft. Sakib Hameed

The belief that our brains are the sole seat of thought is a misconception perpetuated by modern science. In our latest deep dive, "Lost Wisdom: Why the Heart, Not the Brain, Thinks," we unravel the ancient understanding that the heart is the true organ of cognition. Drawing from the rich traditions of Sufism and Islamic teachings, we explore how spirituality and the heart's divine subtlety shape our thinking and connection to Allah.It's time we stopped viewing knowledge as mere data to be memorized. Instead, we must see it as a transmission of wisdom that aligns our hearts with divine truth. Maybe it's the entrenched systems of religious manipulation and societal norms that have clouded our understanding. By examining how the heart's noetic function transcends the limitations of reason, we challenge the Western emphasis on the brain as the center of intellect.This is part II of the podcast series with Sakib Hameed. Part I was about Life in Turkey.Sakib moved to Turkey to spend time with his Shaykh and there he has been learning about the actual seat of cognition in the human body which is the heart.In this episode he talks to us about what the Islamic understanding of knowledge and intellect actually is which might surprise many of us#IslamicIntellect #HeartCognition #IslamicPhilosophy #IslamicThinking #IslamicCHAPTERS:00:00 - Intro1:35 - The Observer Effect7:30 - Background in Engineering8:52 - How Do We Know What’s True11:37 - Arriving at a Central Truth13:41 - What is the Aql (Intellect in Islam)19:21 - First Pillar of Islamic Education - Adab25:15 - What Should People Do33:25 - Somebody Else’s Problem34:38 - Depression37:18 - Putin’s IcebreakerJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik

33 min

Life in Turkey vs the UK: Revealing Comparisons Ft. Sakib Hameed

Sakib Hameed, a qualified Aeronautical Engineer and a holder of anInternational Sales & Marketing Management BA opted to emigrate to Turkey in Nov of 2022. Sakib is British born and bred and in this episode he shares some of his experiences of how life is different out there as compared to the UK and what he has learned and observed in the last couple of years out there.In this thought-provoking video, we delve into a revealing comparison of masculinity in Turkey vs. the UK. Join us as we explore how societal norms, cultural expectations, and lifestyle differences shape the concept of manhood in these distinct regions. Many British Muslims are grappling with a crisis of identity, often feeling constrained by the societal and legal frameworks in the UK. Contrasting that, our discussion extends to life in Turkey, where despite economic hardships like 200% inflation, there's a palpable sense of resilience and community spirit. Maybe it's the cultural fabric or the strong sense of hospitality, but Turkish society somehow retains its warmth even in challenging times.We also touch upon the influence of popular culture, such as the Turkish series "Ertugrul," and its portrayal of genuine masculinity—a far cry from the superficial alpha male trope often seen in the West. Sakib and I discuss how concepts of honour, responsibility, and community service define true masculinity and how these values manifest differently across borders.Join us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: [Patreon Link]#CulturalComparison #IslamicCulture #BritishExpatLife #ExpatLife #CulturalNormsCHAPTERS:00:00 - Intro2:17 - Inflation in Turkey9:16 - Do people in Pakistan know you10:38 - Masculinity in Turkey16:14 - UK vs US Culture20:50 - Inflation Impact22:25 - Council Tax in the UK29:20 - Resistance from Muslims29:56 - Leisure in Islamic History31:48 - Modern HolidaysJoin us in Discord by signing up via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/khurammalik