You Need a Coach B*tch

Let’s dig into why New Year's resolutions often crash and burn, shall we? Spoiler alert: it’s that toxic cocktail of all-or-nothing thinking and perfectionism that trips us up every time. In this episode, we’ll call out those self-sabotaging habits and serve up a fresh perspective: compassionate goal-setting. Because guess what? Beating yourself up won’t get you anywhere. Instead, we’ll focus on finding that deep, juicy, intrinsic motivation to create changes that actually stick.What we explore:• Understanding National Quitters Day and its implications for resolutions • Exploring the "fresh start effect" and its motivational power • The dangers of all-or-nothing thinking when setting goals • Shifting from rigid goal-setting to practical, achievable steps • Embracing failure as an opportunity for growth and learning • Challenges of habit formation for neurodivergent individuals • Finding motivation beyond novelty through intrinsic values • Strategies for maintaining engagement and consistency over timeEpisode 87:Are your resolutions just self-criticism disguised as self-improvement?  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-need-a-coach-b-tch/id1623805363?i=1000641297688 Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

This episode is all about pulling back the curtain on a transformative year—messy, unpredictable, but deeply necessary. Here's the tea: the path to fulfillment isn't about hustling for achievements or chasing perfect relationships. It's about you—your desires, your boundaries, and your willingness to prioritize your own damn happiness.What you'll hear:🔑 Understanding what you really want: After years of putting others first, finding clarity about my own desires was a game-changer.🛑 Setting boundaries that stick: From honest convos with my husband about holiday plans to saying "no" to family expectations, small steps = big shifts.🎾 Embracing new hobbies just for fun: Tennis, anyone? Stepping into joy without tying it to work feels revolutionary.🧠 Navigating neurodivergence: How tools like breathwork help me stay present and manage life's curveballs.💔 Processing loss: Reflecting on losing a loved one and a friendship while learning to honor my needs and emotions.🌈 Reigniting my coaching biz: Reclaiming authenticity, championing inclusivity, and building with curiosity at the center.This isn’t just my story—it’s an invitation to think about how you can unapologetically claim your own well-being. Because let’s be real if you’re not showing up for yourself, who will? Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

Why is it so hard to forgive? In this episode, we unravel forgiveness's complex, deeply personal nature. We shed light on the concept of releasing the futile hope that the past could be different, a crucial step for moving forward. We explore the delicate dance between wishing for a different past and accepting it, emphasizing that true healing can occur even in the absence of forgiveness. Delving into the necessity and challenges of forgiveness for personal peace, we acknowledge that thriving without forgiveness is entirely possible. We also spotlight the importance of sincere apologies and accountability, stressing that these elements are vital for mending relationships and fostering genuine healing. Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

Harnessing the power of the future and the past, we delve into the process of building new beliefs for lasting change. Imagine the satisfaction of reaching a six-month goal and aligning your present actions with future success. We discuss how to cultivate new, positive thoughts about yourself by leveraging past accomplishments as evidence. Practical steps include writing down new beliefs, challenging counterproductive thoughts, and recognizing moments when you've already demonstrated the qualities you strive for. Commitment and consistent practice are key to achieving the transformation you seek. Tune in to gain insights and actionable strategies for personal growth and lasting change. Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

In this episode, let's explore the crucial distinction between self-compassion and self-pity, inspired by Dr. Kristen Neff's transformative work, "Self-Compassion." I dive into how to treat ourselves with the same kindness we'd extend to a dear friend or a child, especially when life throws its inevitable struggles our way. Learn practical strategies to cultivate self-compassion and understand why it's essential for our well-being. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to embrace kindness towards ourselves, even when the going gets tough. Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

In this episode, I navigate the crucial topic of setting achievable goals, particularly through the lens of my recent ADHD diagnosis. Reflecting on past ambitions rooted in ableism, I unravel how those unrealistic goals led to burnout and share my journey toward more sustainable and compassionate goal-setting practices.  By challenging the idea that we need to set  "impossible goals," I discuss the significance of focusing on the process over the end result and how critical it is to tailor our timelines to our current life circumstances.  Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

This episode is a sanctuary for those grappling with tough decisions, offering an embrace of self-compassion as we discuss 'picking your pain'—a mantra for intentionally choosing our challenges and the life we yearn for. Join me as I unpack the complexities of juggling personal crises with staying connected to those we hold dear. We confront the inner critic that often amplifies our doubts, sharing insights on how to nurture our emotional well-being amidst the trials we face. There's a candid exploration of how skills honed in one aspect of our lives, like managing finances, can ripple into unexpected areas, fostering resilience and adaptability. Listening to this episode, you're invited to step away from the pursuit of perfection, instead prioritizing self-care and embracing growth at your own sustainable pace. Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

This week's topic is all about having the courage to show up in our fullness. Leaning into you means not being afraid to feel anything that might come up as a result of being more true to who we are more often and in more spaces. Join me as I talk through the inspiraton for this episode right from my very own life.  I also provide a framework for you to get closer to yourself so that you can truly be the best support system for yourself as you lift the veil on who you are deep inside.  Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

As the year unfolds, I've been wrestling with an uninvited companion: my inner critic.  But instead of trying to kick it out, I found that getting to know it—understanding where it's coming from and why it's so relentless—can actually change the game. In our latest episode, we navigate the tricky terrain of self-criticism, exploring its roots and the societal pressures that feed it. It's about turning that criticism into constructive, critical thinking and celebrating our wins just as much as we scrutinize our setbacks. If you've ever felt like you were your own worst enemy, this conversation is an invitation to a more compassionate self-dialogue.This episode isn't just about understanding our inner critic; it's about learning to live with it more harmoniously. I'll share how I've been practicing grace and compassion towards myself, even when I fall short of my own lofty expectations. We talk about strategies to reframe the inner critic from a backseat driver to a silent passenger—one who's along for the ride but not dictating the journey. Join me as we discuss practical ways to cultivate a kinder internal conversation, embracing curiosity as a tool to shift our perspective. By the end of our talk, you'll have a fresh outlook on how to manage that inner voice, making way for a gentler, more forgiving approach to the challenges and triumphs of everyday life. Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult

Have you ever considered that the right question might just be the key to unlocking your potential? Journey with me as we harness the art of inquiry to change the quality of our thoughts and emotions. For anyone struggling with overthinking, I share strategies that are both gentle and effective in reshaping your mindset. Get ready to be your own coach. From personal anecdotes to actionable self-coaching techniques, this episode is an invitation to deepen your self-awareness and strengthen the most profound relationship you'll ever have: the one with yourself.  Where to find me: Connect with me on Instagram Check out my website Sign up for a free consult