You Are Not A Frog

Hosted by Dr Rachel Morris | Burnout Podcast

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive. You studied for years, you’re really good at what you do but you’ve noticed that you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you’ve spent years working towards. Here’s the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don’t have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable. It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again. Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it’s like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she’ll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

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June 15, 20261 hr 8 min

Masking, Over-Functioning and the Shame That Keeps You Stuck

If you've always felt like everyone else got an unwritten handbook about how to behave at work - and you've had to figure it out yourself, one interaction at a time - this episode is for you.This week, Rachel’s in conversation with Kirstie Pickles: vet, autistic ADHD professional, and EDI advocate. Kirstie was diagnosed as an adult - after years of masking in a high-stakes clinical role, performing competence while running on empty underneath.We talk about:What masking really costs - not just after one hard day, but across a careerNeurodivergent burnout: why it is different from regular burnout, and why the usual advice doesn't workThe shame of late diagnosis - and what it means to finally have a name for itWhat colleagues and leaders can do to make workplaces work for everyoneYou don't need a diagnosis to recognise yourself here. A lot of us in high-achieving, high-pressure roles have neurodivergent traits we have never had a name for. We just learned to mask through it.Our ingrained programming tells us to keep performing, keep adapting, keep looking like we're coping fine. But that performance has a cost - and it will affect your next decision, and the one after that.Different is not defective.🎙️ Listen to the full podcast: http://youarenotafrog.com/episodes/324📩 Join 20,000 professionals: https://youarenotafrog.com/welcome/🐸 Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:FrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community🟦 Learn More About Our Training

June 8, 202619 min

Why You Can't Switch Off (And It's Not About Workload)

Burnout in high stress jobs isn't always about doing too much; sometimes it's about a belief you were never taught to question.You finished your day, finished (most) of your tasks, and you still can't switch off. Most people assume that's a workload problem, but the reason people in demanding roles like medicine can't genuinely rest isn't about how much they've done - it's about what they've been conditioned to believe about rest itselfIn this episode, Rachel introduces the Superhero Delusion: the conviction that the rules about rest apply to other people. Not to you. She explores how that belief was built, why burnout recovery starts with understanding rest differently, and what sustainable work actually requires.We cover:Why you can't switch off - and why workload isn't the real reasonThe Superhero Delusion: the conviction that the rules about rest apply to other people, not youHow the belief that rest has to be earned gets installed - and who installed itWhat sustainable work actually requires (and it isn't more discipline)This episode is for you if you're the person who has to be on even when you're officially off. Who takes annual leave and spends the first two days mentally finishing the handover. Who lies awake replaying the list of things that didn't get done - and is still asking whether any amount of done would ever feel like enough.📩 Join 20,000 professionals: https://youarenotafrog.com/welcome/Mentioned in this episode:🟦 Learn More About Our Training

June 1, 202654 min

The Occupational Hazard Every High-Achieving Leader Needs to Know About

Getting a complaint from a colleague is one of the most destabilising things that can happen to a high-achieving leader. Not because of the process, but because of what it makes you ask about yourself.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Pallavi Bradshaw, Medical Director at the MPS, to talk about something that doesn't get named nearly enough: a complaint from a colleague isn't a patient or client complaint. It feels very different and can be devastating if our ingrained programming tells us that we have to please everyone all the time to feel good enough. And so unless you start to frame it differently, it will affect your next decision, and the one after that.This conversation genuinely produced an a-ha moment for me. It may change how you carry the next time it happens.We cover:Why colleague complaints feel categorically different - and why that makes complete senseThe question underneath the complaint that drives so many decisions afterwardsWhat Dr Bradshaw has learned about supporting doctors through formal grievances at the MPSHow to stop a complaint from becoming something you carry permanentlyThis episode is for you if you're the person who had to have the conversation nobody else would. Who had to make the call that someone disagreed with. Who lies awake replaying a decision you had to make - and is still asking what it says about you.🎙️ Listen to the full podcast: https://youarenotafrog.com/episodes/323/📩 Join 20,000 professionals: https://youarenotafrog.com/welcome/🌐 More resources: https://youarenotafrog.com/Dr Pallavi Bradshaw is Medical Director at the Medical Protection Society (MPS), supporting doctors navigating complaints, grievances, and the more challenging parts of medical leadership.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:🟦 Learn More About Our TrainingFrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community

May 25, 202627 min

Why Imposter Syndrome Isn't a Confidence Problem

Imposter syndrome is something we often don’t talk about openly, and the standard advice - build your confidence, reframe your thinking, remember your achievements – rarely addresses the real cause.In this Quick Dip, Rachel shares a piece of feedback she received years ago that still stings and uses it to unpick what imposter syndrome really is: it’s not a confidence gap, it’s not a skills deficit, but something much more personal.She talks about why working on your confidence alone will never be enough, what's actually driving that voice that says you're about to be found out, and the one thing that actually shifts it.Key TakeawaysImposter syndrome isn't always about competence or confidence - it can be the system gaslighting you, impossible self-imposed standards, or just the very human experience of feeling not good enough.A 2025 meta-analysis found that 62% of healthcare professionals experience imposter syndrome - this is a profession-wide pattern, not a personal failing.What actually moves the needle is saying it out loud to someone who responds with empathy and recognition.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:🟦 Learn More About Our Training

May 18, 20261 hr 1 min

Why Your Workload Keeps Growing Without You Agreeing To It

If you constantly find yourself picking up tasks that nobody else will do, staying late to cover gaps, or slowly absorbing more and more without anyone asking you to - this episode is going to name exactly what's happening.Occupational psychologist Leanne Elliott joins Rachel to unpack why over-responsibility isn't a personality flaw; it's what happens when you don’t have absolute clarity on what tasks are definitely part of your role – and, more crucially, what tasks aren’t.They explore why conscientious professionals in under-resourced settings are most at risk, how the 'if I don't do it, who will?' question keeps people stuck, and what you can actually do this week to start auditing what belongs on your plate and what doesn't.Key TakeawaysRole clarity is a recognised psychosocial risk factor, and when it's absent, taking on extra work feels like the only option, even when it's pushing you towards burnout.A simple daily audit - writing down tasks that drained you, that weren't in your role, or that you did out of fear rather than responsibility – can give you the data to have important but calmer and less personal conversations with your team about your roles.Rest and recovery are not the same thing. Knowing your recovery activities and protecting time for them is a skill, not a luxury.Resources Mentioned:The Twenty Questions: How do I know if I’m a workaholic?Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:FrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community🟦 Learn More About Our Training

May 11, 202631 min

What to Do When Your Career Map No Longer Fits

You know something needs to change, but you just have no idea what, how, or where to begin, and your lack of a plan may be starting to feel like failure.In this Quick Dip, Rachel unpacks why the belief that you need everything mapped out before you're allowed to move is the very thing keeping you stuck, and introduces the AB-Z method: a simple framework that replaces the impossible task of knowing your whole future with a far more manageable one.This episode is about how to craft your work, not how to leave your job completely or blow everything up, but how to get a genuine say in the shape of your working life - one honest step at a time.Key TakeawaysYou don't need the whole career plan - you need A, a sense of Z, and B - the very next step.Z is not a job title. It's how you want to be: internally, and with the people you love.Recovering from burnout is not the same as arriving at Z. The absence of burnout is a step, not a destination.Comparing your Z to someone else's is one of the most reliable ways to stay stuck.Crafting your work and career can happen alongside your current role, not instead of it - and it can start at any grade, any stage.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:🟦 Learn More About Our Training

May 4, 20261 hr 8 min

How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle That's Burning You Out

If you have ever ended a clinical day exhausted not from the medicine itself but from the weight of everybody else's feelings, this episode might hit home.Josh Connolly, resilience coach and author of ‘It's Them Not You’, joins me to explore why many healthcare professionals take on so much of the emotional load for everyone - and how that pattern almost always began long before medical school.Key TakeawaysPeople-pleasing at work usually has roots in family roles from childhood. The 'high achiever', the 'mascot' and the 'scapegoat' all carry those patterns into adult professional life.Holding space for someone is not the same as absorbing their emotions. The moment you start feeling what they feel, you have crossed a boundary - and your ability to help them actually decreases.When you are about to say yes under pressure, ask: 'Who have I become right now?' If the answer is your childlike self desperately seeking approval, that is the moment to pause.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraResources mentioned:It's Them, Not You: How to Break Free From Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story by Josh ConnollyThe Shapes AcademyMentioned in this episode:🟦 Learn More About Our TrainingFrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community

April 27, 202626 min

How to Stop Doing Everything

If you’ve ever thought to yourself ‘if I don’t do it, no one will’ this episode is for you. You tell yourself something important will go wrong if you don't do it all - but what if that's not what's actually driving your decisions?In this Quick Dip, Rachel suggests something uncomfortable: that the decisions running your workload might less to do with patient safety than they are to do with who you believe yourself to be.Because the question 'if I don't do it, who else will?' is often not about the risk of harm to patients, customers or colleagues – but more about the question ‘who am I if I don’t?’.And learning to spot the difference between the two will give you back some choice over your workload.Resources MentionedThe Shapes AcademyYou Are Not a Frog: The Over-Responsibility Trap seriesPart 1: Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on YouPart 2: When ‘Can You Help?’ Doesn’t Feel Like a QuestionPart 3: How to Stop Feeling Guilty When It’s Impossible to Do Your JobGet more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:FrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community🟦 Learn More About Our Training

April 20, 202657 min

5 Reasons Your Ideas Keep Getting Overlooked (And How to Fix It)

You're working hard, doing excellent clinical work, and genuinely trying to make things better for your patients - so why does it feel like no one's listening? So many healthcare professionals hit a wall where their ideas get talked over, their proposals stall, and their careers plateau, even when their track record is strong.In this episode, Rachel is joined by Sam Pearce and Sally Powell, co-founders of Impactful Women, to talk about political intelligence - what it actually is, why it feels uncomfortable at first, and how building the right relationships strategically (and with integrity) is the real skill that gets things done in the NHS and beyond.Key TakeawaysYour career is your responsibility - waiting for someone to notice you or advocate for you is the most common career trap there is.Influence is relational, not hierarchical. The person who has been in the department 15 years with no senior title can have more sway than the clinical director.Decisions get made before the meeting. Building relationships and having conversations in advance isn't manipulation - it's how things actually work, and others are already doing it.Resources MentionedDiary of a CEO podcastImpactful Women websiteImpactful Women on LinkedInFree resource: 10% BraverGet more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:FrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community🟦 Learn More About Our Training

April 13, 202615 min

How to Stop Feeling Guilty When It's Impossible to Do Your Job.

Every day in healthcare, a meeting ends, and a problem that was never formally handed to anyone lands on the person who cares most - you.If you've ever walked out of a room carrying something that somehow became yours without anyone asking, this Quick Dip Episode gives that experience a name, explains exactly why it keeps happening to people like you, and gives you the language to start pushing back on it.Listen to other episodes in the Over-Responsibility Trap series:Part 1: Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on YouPart 2: When ‘Can You Help?’ Doesn’t Feel Like a QuestionLearn more about The Shapes Academy here.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:🟦 Learn More About Our Training