
How to Raise Champions: John O'Sullivan on Youth Sports, Coachability, and What Scouts Really Look For
Are you building a champion — or just chasing a trophy? In this episode of Winners Find A Way, Coach Trent M. Clark sits down with John O'Sullivan, author, speaker, and founder of Changing the Game Project — one of the most influential voices in youth sports development today. John is a former Division I soccer player at Fordham University, a master's-level researcher, and the author of five books on youth sports, coaching, and athlete leadership. His work has been recognized by the US Olympic Committee and major sport governing bodies around the world. He co-hosts the Way of Champions podcast with Jerry Lynch — nearly 500 episodes with guests like Phil Jackson and Steve Kerr — and his latest book, Captain: The Athlete's Guide to Being an Exceptional Team Leader, is now available everywhere. This conversation covers the full landscape of what it actually takes to develop athletes — and what so many coaches and parents get wrong. John and Trent dig into the difference between information and knowledge, why curiosity is the number one trait of elite coaches, and how the "me culture" of college sports is trickling down to youth programs. They talk about parents, pressure, social media, NIL, and the moment a coach stops talking to an athlete — and what that silence really means. This episode is a reminder that winners are not people who never face setbacks. Winners are the ones who learn, adjust, lead, and find a way. In This Episode, We Discuss: Why the best coaches in the world share one common trait — curiosity What John's new book Captain teaches athletes about leading from any position How the "me culture" in college sports trickles down and why kids struggle to transition to team-first environments What scouts actually ask about when they watch your kid play The real role of parents in youth sports — and how to be the fan your child needs Why coachability is a decision, not a personality trait The inner voice: how to train the coach inside your head Individual sports vs. team sports — and why every athlete should experience both Key Takeaways ✨ Curiosity is the common denominator of elite coaches John has interviewed Hall of Famers, Olympians, and championship coaches for nine years. Every single one is still curious. The ones who plateau decided they already know everything. ✨ Great teammates are always in demand Scouts don't just watch the stats. They ask: How does this kid treat the worst player on the team? Character traits like humility, coachability, and selflessness are skills — and they carry into every team you'll ever be part of. ✨ When a coach stops talking to you, the end is near Coaches invest their energy where it counts. Three "yeah buts" and they redirect to athletes who are coachable and worth the oxygen. ✨ Train the voice in your head The late Jim Lehr said it best: the most influential coach in your life is the voice inside your head. If that voice was a person, would you be friends with them? ✨ Begin with the end in mind Before signing your kid up for a travel team, ask: What do I actually want sports to give them? Then find a coach and program that builds those things. Resources Mentioned: Captain: The Athlete's Guide to Being an Exceptional Team Leader by John O'Sullivan & Jerry Lynch Way of Champions Podcast Changing the Game Project — https://changingthegameproject.com The Matheny Manifesto — referenced in conversation The Talent Code by Dan Coyle — referenced in conversation Connect with John O'Sullivan: Website: https://changingthegameproject.com Podcast: Way of Champions Book: Captain — available on Amazon Connect with Trent M. Clark: Website: https://www.trentmclark.com/ Leadershipity: https://www.leadershipity.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Leadershipity LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trentmclark/ Book: Leading Winning Teams — https://leadingwinningteams.trent-clark.com/bookrecording79












