
Conservatives Pretend To Be Things They Aren’t
There is a difference between being something and wearing the costume. A strong person doesn’t need a Punisher sticker on their truck. A smart person doesn’t need to use big words they can’t define. An athletic person doesn’t need to wear someone else’s jersey to feel like an athlete. A patriotic person doesn’t need a flag the size of a bedsheet hanging off the back of their house. People who are the thing don’t need to advertise it. People who are not the thing can’t stop advertising it. That pattern is not random. There is decades of research explaining exactly why it happens, who it happens to, and why the symbols never stop getting louder. What Wicklund Found In 1982, psychologist Robert Wicklund at the University of Texas at Austin, along with his colleague Peter Gollwitzer, published research on what happens when people feel a gap between who they are and who they want to be. They were studying what they called self-defining goals. These are not ordinary goals like losing weight or learning to cook. These are identity goals. The kind of person you want to be at your core. Strong. Intelligent. Masculine. Patriotic. Moral. Successful. The things that form the foundation of how you see yourself and how you want others to see you. Wicklund and Gollwitzer found that when people feel incomplete in a self-defining area, they do not respond by doing the work required to close the gap. They respond by acquiring symbols that represent the identity they have not earned. They called it symbolic self-completion. A person who wants to be seen as masculine but doesn’t feel masculine will buy the boots, the truck, the gear. A person who wants to be seen as intelligent but hasn’t done the work will buy the books, share the quotes, display the credentials of other people. A person who wants to be seen as tough but knows they are not will put a skull decal on their vehicle and a tactical flashlight on their belt. None of those symbols make the person more masculine, more intelligent, or more tough. But the brain doesn’t care. The symbol fills the gap temporarily. It provides a shortcut to the feeling of being complete without requiring any of the effort that actual completeness demands. Wicklund found that the bigger the gap between who you are and who you want to be, the more aggressively you pursue the symbols. The louder the costume gets. The more flags, the more stickers, the more hats, the more yard signs. The volume is not a measure of commitment. It is a measure of the gap. The Social Recognition Trap But the most devastating finding in Wicklund and Gollwitzer’s research was not about the symbols themselves. It was about what happens when other people acknowledge them. The theory showed that self-completion efforts require social recognition to work. The symbols are not for the person wearing them. They are for the audience watching. Wicklund and Gollwitzer found that the sense of progress toward a self-defining goal is dependent on the acknowledgment of others. You don’t feel complete by putting on the hat alone in your bedroom. You feel complete when someone else sees the hat and treats you like the person the hat represents. Follow-up research made the finding even worse. When a person’s symbolic display is socially acknowledged, when people like the post, comment on the flag, affirm the identity, the person experiences a premature sense of completeness. Their brain registers the acknowledgment as evidence that they have already become the thing they are pretending to be. And once that sense of completeness kicks in, the motivation to actually do the work disappears. The symbol doesn’t just cover the gap. It prevents the gap from ever closing. Every time someone likes their flag photo on social media, the brain registers patriotism achieved. Every time someone affirms their political post, the brain registers intelligence confirmed. Every time someone compliments the truck or the tactical gear or the MAGA hat, the brain registers strength validated. And every time that happens, the actual effort required to become strong, intelligent, or patriotic becomes less likely. The symbol did its job. The brain is satisfied. Why would you do the hard thing when the easy thing already feels like the real thing? This is why MAGA supporters accumulate symbols at a rate that looks pathological to everyone outside the group. The hat. The shirt. The flag. The bumper stickers. The profile picture. The yard sign. The truck wrap. The coffee mug. The phone case. The belt buckle. Each symbol is a deposit into an identity bank account that has no real balance. And each one, once acknowledged by the group, makes it less likely that the person will ever do the actual work of becoming the thing they claim to be. The Costume Economy Now look at what MAGA actually consumes and ask yourself whether any of it is real. They watch WWE, which is scripted fighting. Not because they love martial arts or combat sports. Because real fighting has consequences, and scripted fighting lets you feel the thrill of victory without the risk of getting hit. They watch Fox News, which has been proven in court to broadcast content its own hosts did not believe was true. Not because they want accurate information. Because real news challenges their worldview, and Fox tells them what they already believe. They cover themselves in military imagery despite never having served. Not because they support the troops in any material way. Because the symbols of military toughness fill the gap left by never having actually done anything difficult or dangerous. They plaster their trucks with American flags and patriotic slogans while supporting politicians who attack the democratic institutions those symbols are supposed to represent. The flag is not about the country. The flag is about the feeling the flag gives them. Everything they consume is a costume. And Wicklund’s research explains exactly why. Every item in the costume is a symbol that covers a gap. And the more gaps there are, the more symbols are required. Why the Costume Gets Louder E. Tory Higgins, a psychologist at Columbia University, published research in 1987 on what he called self-discrepancy theory. His work identified three versions of the self that exist in every person’s mind. The actual self, which is who you really are. The ideal self, which is who you want to be. And the ought self, which is who you believe you should be based on external expectations. Higgins found that when the gap between the actual self and the ideal self grows too large, the result is depression and disappointment. The person feels deflated. They feel like a failure. When the gap between the actual self and the ought self grows too large, the result is anxiety and agitation. The person feels like they are falling short of what is expected of them. Both of those emotional responses drive the same behavior Wicklund identified. The person does not close the gap through effort. The person reaches for symbols. And here is the critical connection. The emotional distress caused by the gap is ongoing. It does not go away when the symbol is acquired. The symbol provides temporary relief, the same way scratching an itch provides temporary relief, but the underlying condition remains. So the person needs more symbols. And louder symbols. And bigger symbols. And more visible symbols. That is why the flags keep getting bigger. That is why the bumper stickers cover the entire tailgate. That is why they need you to see the hat, the shirt, the yard sign, and the profile picture all at the same time. Each symbol provides a smaller and shorter hit of relief because the gap underneath it is growing, not shrinking. The more symbols they accumulate, the further they get from doing the actual work. What Is Underneath the Costume Strip away the flags and the stickers and the hats and the jerseys and the merch and the profile pictures and the yard signs and you find the same thing every time. A person who wanted to be strong and isn’t. A person who wanted to be smart and isn’t. A person who wanted to matter and doesn’t. A person who wanted to be respected and hasn’t done anything worth respecting. The symbols are not proof they are that person. The symbols are proof they are not that person. You never see a real fighter wearing a WWE shirt to the store. You never see a real soldier covering his truck in military stickers. You never see a real athlete walking around in someone else’s jersey on his day off. You never see a genuinely intelligent person trying to impress you with vocabulary they can’t use correctly. People who are the thing do not need to advertise it. Their lives are the proof. MAGA’s entire identity is cosplay. And underneath every costume is the same thing. Weak people pretending to be something they are not. And getting further from the real thing every time they put on another piece of the costume. Sources Wicklund, R. A., & Gollwitzer, P. M. (1982). Symbolic Self-Completion. Lawrence Erlbaum Associates. Gollwitzer, P. M., Wicklund, R. A., & Hilton, J. L. (1982). Admission of Failure and Symbolic Self-Completion: Extending Lewinian Theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 43(2), 358-371. Gollwitzer, P. M., Sheeran, P., Michalski, V., & Seifert, A. E. (2009). 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