Life is pretty tough, and we're all just trying to get through as best we can, so what if there was a weekly resource that was fun and informative that could help us get through life's obstacles and opportunities? Welcome to The UNLOCKED podcast, the weekly podcast where I share conversations with thought leaders, authors, entrepreneurs and other inspiring people to help you UNLOCK the best version of yourself and tackle life's obstacles and opportunities. If you're new here, I'm Ricky Locke, a Confidence Coach, Professional Speaker and award-winning magician (oh and a new father too!) Whether you are feeling stuck in life, need to improve your confidence or just looking to get through that next part of life and tackle your most recent obstacle, this is the podcast for you. Ready to get unlocked and live the best version of yourself? Hit that subscribe button and join me every Wednesday for a brand-new episode!
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December 7, 202545 min
115. How to Use AI as Your Ultimate Competitive Edge with Earl Waud | How to use AI
115. How to Use AI as Your Ultimate Competitive Edge with Earl Waud | How to use AI In this episode, Ricky Locke sits down with AI educator, author, speaker and “Hindsight Mentor” Earl Waud to explore how artificial intelligence can help you think bigger, act faster and transform your life and business.If you’ve ever wondered:“Is AI going to take my job?”“Will it make me less human?”“How do I actually use this stuff without feeling overwhelmed?” ...then this episode is for you.Earl shares how a near-death experience reshaped his mission, how he became a bestselling author using AI, and how he now teaches entrepreneurs, speakers and creators to use AI as a superpower rather than a threat.Together, we dive deep into:What AI really is (in simple terms)How to stay ahead in the new AI-powered worldThe skills that will matter most in the next 5 yearsWhy people who use AI will replace those who don’tHow to keep your voice, authenticity, and humanity while using AIThe four pillars Earl teaches to help people gain their ultimate competitive edgeWhether AI will replace creative jobs (editors, designers, writers)How to use AI daily in practical, stress-free waysEarl’s favourite tools, prompts and productivity tricksHow AI can help you write books, create content and build your brand fasterThe truth about deepfakes, fake news, and the future of trustWhy curiosity, courage and communication still matter more than everThis episode will shift the way you think about AI, from something to fear, to something that can unlock your potential and elevate your success.Key TakeawaysAI doesn’t replace humans, it replaces people who don’t use it.Your competitive edge will be your ability to prompt, adapt and apply AI.Authenticity isn’t lost with AI, it’s amplified when you train it in your voice.You are one tool, one prompt, one skill away from transforming your business.The future belongs to the curious, not the fearful.Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!
October 31, 202554 min
114. 5 Ways to Use Humor to Connect at Work with 7× Emmy Winner Beth Sherman | How to use humour in presentations
114. 5 Ways to Use Humor to Connect at Work with 7× Emmy Winner Beth Sherman | How to use humour in presentations In this episode, comedy writer and humour strategist Beth Sherman, a seven-time Emmy Award winner known for her work on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, Letterman, and The Tonight Show shares how humour can transform communication in professional and personal settings.We explore how to use humour not to entertain, but to connect, build trust, and communicate with impact. Beth explains why “truth is funny,” how to find your authentic comedic voice, and the importance of reading the room. She also breaks down what makes humour inclusive, how to balance professionalism with playfulness, and why humour truly is a love language.Together, we discuss practical ways to use humour as a communication tool, from leadership to public speaking and how anyone (even non-comedians) can develop a more relatable, engaging style at work.Chapters00:00 The Power of Humour in Professional Settings04:40 Beth Sherman's Journey to Comedy Writing08:03 Inside the Writer's Room: Collaboration and Competition12:03 The Pressure of Deadlines in Comedy Writing17:09 Finding Humour in Truth and Specificity24:49 Using Humour as a Love Language in Communication29:52 The Power of Acknowledgment in Communication34:19 Choosing the Right Humor for Professional Settings38:02 Using Humor as a Tool for Connection41:22 Finding the Balance: How Much Humor is Too Much?44:15 Quickfire Humour Tips and Misconceptions About ComediansKey TakeawaystakeawaysHumor should be used to connect with others.The best humour reflects truth and authenticity.In a writer's room, collaboration is key to success.Deadlines can foster creativity in comedy writing.Self-awareness enhances the effectiveness of humor.Humor can diffuse tension in professional settings.Truth is the foundation of effective storytelling.Humor is seasoning; it should complement the main message.Understanding your audience is crucial for humor.Using humour can demonstrate resilience and approachability.Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!TRANSCRIPT
April 2, 202555 min
113. 10 Tips to Build a Thriving Business with Faye Cornhill | Challenge Your Beliefs & Unlock Success
113. 10 Tips to Build a Thriving Business with Faye Cornhill | Challenge Your Beliefs & Unlock Success In this episode, Faye Cornhill shares powerful tips to help you grow with confidence, attract high-paying clients, and challenge the beliefs that may be holding you back. Whether you're a solopreneur, wedding business owner, or creative entrepreneur, these mindset shifts and business strategies will help you overcome fear, redefine success, and take your business to the next level. Don't let self-doubt stop you—embrace your potential and start thriving today!Connect with Faye at:www.fayecornhillcoaching.co.ukwww.theweddingbusinessclub.comwww.livesinfocus.org.ukChapters00:00 Introduction and the Power of Belief03:01 The Catalyst for Change09:12 Early Entrepreneurial Spirit15:19 Support and Belief18:32 Challenging Societal Norms23:21 Creating Your Own Path27:38 The Power of Beliefs29:33 Embracing the Temporary30:28 Breaking Free from Societal Expectations36:12 Pushing Through Challenges49:00 Challenging Limiting BeliefsTakeaways-Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your dreams.-Challenge societal norms and create your own path to fulfillment.-Being true to yourself and making choices that align with your values is -key to finding purpose and success.-Fulfillment can be found in both entrepreneurship and being a stay-at-home parent.-Beliefs have a significant impact on our lives and businesses. It's important to choose empowering beliefs that support our growth and success.-The belief that everything is temporary can help us navigate both the good and the bad times. It reminds us to keep striving during the good times and to persevere through the difficult times.-Societal expectations should not dictate our choices. We have the power to choose our own path and pursue our goals and dreams, even if they go against societal norms.-Pushing through tough times and challenges can lead to personal growth and a sense of accomplishment. We are capable of more than we often give ourselves credit for.-It's important to challenge our limiting beliefs and question who is telling us that we can't achieve something. By taking action and saying 'yes' to our aspirations, we can overcome self-doubt and achieve great things.Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!Ricky (00:00.098)When you feel low emotionally and physically, that is when you are most susceptible to believing things that you don't believe are true. Like you can do those things. I'm not saying you have to go and do crazy things like climb mountains or whatever, but you are capable as your beliefs will let you be. And so why not change that? Like why not instead of, yeah, but I couldn't do that. Says who?Ricky (00:43.406)Welcome to the Unlocked podcast, Faye Cornhill. How are you? I'm really well, thank you. Thank you for having me. Pleasure. Yeah, finally, after boiler attempts to get that replaced and I lost my voice, I think it was on the other time, wasn't it? I had no voice, couldn't do the recording. So we're finally here now after years of talking about this. So this is an absolute pleasure, Faye. There'll be a lot of listeners that listen to my podcast that will recognise you. But for those who don't know who you are, Faye, tell us who are you? Do you know what? When people introduce themselves asreally slick, like one -liner, I think, they've got it down. So for anyone listening, I don't have that down. So prepare for the waffle. I am a business coach. So I help people grow and scale their businesses. A very, very quick potted history is that 15 years ago, I started my first business, which was my wedding photography business. I just plucked the idea.literally out of thin air and started a business and it kind of went quite well. It went really well in fact and that sort of unbeknown to me grew into something that enabled me to help and support other people to do the same. I now run four different businesses all kind of with roots in the wedding industry. I ammum to two teenagers, can't believe that. Where did the time go? I live in the countryside, I have two dogs and I quite like watching films and chilling on my sofa. That's nice, that's nice, that's not waffle at all, that's lovely. Yeah, that's very good. Well, I'll you, I'm really interested to get you on here because for a multiple of reasons really. Obviously we've known each other for about four years now, I think, through the wedding business club and through...Online shows, remember those days? Wow. When we were in lockdown, they were good. That was good that and obviously the BBC as well. So one of the things that I'm really eager to talk about is your journey. And particularly on this podcast, we talked to like amazing individuals of how they've got to where they've got to start to unlock that or unpick that and understand what it takes for someone to get to just extraordinary, awesome things. And I'm genuinely intrigued about your journey, because I think it will be a similar pathway to me one day. You know, some of the thoughts and feelings that I'm having right now aboutRicky (03:01.324)children and how that can massively throw off your plans and your dreams, but also still in, you know, we still got to keep it on track. Right. So I'm genuinely really interested about this. Go back to early days. You obviously have had a wonderful career through you can us a little bit about, you know, obviously full time employment and obviously creating a bit. So let's talk a little bit about your story from being young. Was it a dream or did you aspire to go into photography? Never photography. No, I was.I always, always had this feeling that I would have my own business. And I don't really know where that came from because I don't come from a family of entrepreneurs. know, a lot of people say, I learned what I know from my dad or from my mom or from my grandma, but actually nobody in my family was self -employed. In fact, quite the opposite, I would say. I come from an upbringing of actually really hardworking people.all who worked hard for somebody else. And I think that is inspirational in itself. My dad worked for his whole life for Clark Shoes. My dad was an engineer. He was also a part -time fireman. And he worked, yeah, making the tools that make shoes that are on our school kids' feet. And he worked for them for years. And I have to say, I think I found that in equal parts.inspirational, like someone can stick doing the same thing for that long. And also inspirational not to actually repeat that because I get bored really easily and the idea of going to the same place of work every day. mean, my dad would have started there, I guess when he was like 16 when he left school and left at retirement age, the thought of that kills me actually. I don't think I've thought what it takes to do that.So I wasn't, I haven't been brought up to run businesses in my sleep, but I was always really curious about the idea. I remember as a kid, I would sell stuff in the playground, like not bad stuff. I went to a nice little village primary. Dodgy DVDs and stuff like that and videos. actually the first thing I ever sold was headed letter paper. And so we bought a computer.Ricky (05:25.366)which was a big, big deal for our family. I mean, it couldn't do anything apart from like write a document and print it. And even that was quite bad. And it had clip art. And I would sell to my friends, like, do you want a dolphin or would you like a butterfly? And I would write their name and I would print them letterhead. And then they could write their thank you letters for their Christmas gifts on fancy letterhead paper. And so I made some cash from that, which was fun because...You know, I didn't pay for the ink or paper. Nice. was good. was good. overheads then. I've always been deeply curious about making money. And I don't think it comes from a place of materialism. I've honestly never really been materialistic. I wasn't as a kid. I'm not now. I say I'm less now than I ever have been. But I just thought it was a really fun game.thought it was really fun. you know, what I grew up in a, in a West country, like very normal place to grow up, a very normal upbringing where people worked hard for their money and you went on your week holiday in the summer. And I always found that really interesting, like how life works and how money works. Interesting. I'm quite particularly interested in this, like, cause again, similar thing, you know, I mean, one of my earliest business.ventures was to give Christmas cards to all my paper round, know, come up with the idea of my brother of like, you know, if we like, you know, really give a great customer experience, good service, you know, we're nice with friendly people, you know, and we give them all little Christmas cards, we'd have this little competition where we get who get the most tips, you know, and being very young, you know, it's a great little venture, right. But I'm always intrigued to understand like, where does this come from? You've mentioned that there was no one in your family that bone, you know, even the same with me, you know, no one.I don't even have anyone I think in the couple of generations who kind of create their own business. I'm the first person that creates my business. So it's interesting. Do you think that a lot of that is because of the conditions of the environment that we're part of? Was there any friends or family members, not close family members that might have influenced you with that? Or do you think it was just something you were born with? I think I learned very quickly that I could influence people by what I said. And so very early on I was at drama school.Ricky (07:47.93)I was in plays and shows and at Christmas I'd be embarrassingly standing up and singing for the family. so at the same time as being really curious about money and business, I learned that I could influence people by what I said and what I did. My school reports all say like, it's very hard to be cross with Faye because she kind of makes me laugh. And I learned, I knew I was really aware of that.I could get myself into a hole as quickly as I could get myself out of the hole. And so I think it was almost like being rewarded for that particular skill that I was honing as a child. Like, you know, the saying, the gift of the gab, that's what my grandparents and my parents would have said about me at a young age. And I just, I just enjoy conversations. I enjoy speaking to people. You know, I worked in...corporate world for long enough to know that I didn't want to work in it any longer. But I still got that rush and that thrill of like, I've worked really hard for this relationship. This person is on my side. And what I say to them now will dictate the result in my paycheck. And like it or not, that's how it works. And it worked in my favor most of the time.It's like you were very early on then learning the art of rapport and getting people to feel connected with you, which is obviously, I mean, from where you are right now, right? You've got this massive following. You've got this massive community which people feel
March 27, 202543 min
112 How to Improve your sleep with Ryan Snell of Unstoppabl | The key to high performance
112 How to Improve your sleep with Ryan Snell of Unstoppabl | The key to high performance In this week's episode I am joined with Ryan Snell of Unstoppabl and we dive into the critical role of sleep in enhancing high performance, discussing the alarming statistics of sleep deprivation and its economic impact. Exploring the health risks associated with insufficient sleep, including its effects on decision-making, productivity, and overall well-being. We discuss the importance of understanding sleep's functions and the significance of maintaining a healthy circadian rhythm to optimise sleep quality and health. We also discuss the challenges of modern life and how they impact our sleep and overall well-being and how to align with our natural circadian rhythms, offering practical strategies to improve sleep quality.Find out more about Ryan at https://unstoppabl.com/about-unstoppablChapters00:00The Importance of Sleep in High Performance02:55 Sleep Deprivation and Its Economic Impact06:07 Health Risks Associated with Lack of Sleep08:53 Understanding Sleep and Its Functions11:55 The Role of Circadian Rhythm in Sleep Quality15:03 Navigating Modern Life's Challenges16:28 Understanding Circadian Rhythms18:39 Strategies for Aligning with Nature20:20 Creating a Sleep-Conducive Environment22:55 Setting Boundaries for Better Sleep25:31 Optimizing Your Sleep Space28:41 Investing in Sleep Quality29:15 The Impact of Caffeine on Sleep30:52 Parenting and Sleep Challenges34:04 Mental Health and Sleep35:18 Practical Sleep Tips for Parents39:02 Taking Responsibility for Sleep ImprovementtakeawaysOne in five people are not getting enough sleep.Sleep deprivation costs the UK economy around 40 billion pounds annually.Lack of sleep can lead to poor decision-making and productivity loss.Individuals getting less than six hours of sleep lose about six working days a year.Sleep is crucial for recovery and overall health.Arianna Huffington's experience highlights the dangers of sleep deprivation.Circadian rhythm plays a vital role in sleep quality.Sleep debt cannot be recovered; it accumulates over time.Prioritizing sleep is essential for personal and professional success.Healthy sleep habits are foundational for long-term health. We need to switch off from constant attention demands.Modern life challenges our natural rhythms.Aligning with circadian rhythms can improve sleep.Morning sunlight exposure is crucial for alertness.Creating a sleep-conducive environment is essential.Setting boundaries helps improve sleep quality.Avoid screens for at least 30 minutes after waking.A cool, dark, and quiet bedroom promotes better sleep.Regularly assess and update your mattress for comfort.Simple strategies can lead to significant improvements in sleep. Investing in a good mattress is crucial for sleep quality.Caffeine can significantly impact sleep; a cutoff time is recommended.Parents should maintain a consistent wake-up time regardless of sleep quality.Napping can help offset sleep deprivation, especially for parents.Mental health is closely linked to sleep quality; lack of sleep increases anxiety and depression risk.Setting boundaries around work and technology use is essential for better sleep.Morning sunlight exposure can help regulate circadian rhythms.Creating a calming bedtime routine can improve sleep quality.Nutrition and hydration play a vital role in overall health and sleep.Taking responsibility for sleep habits can lead to better health outcomes.Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!
March 5, 202553 min
111 How to become an olympian and The Link Between Mental Health and Performance with Leon Taylor | Best self improvement podcasts
111 How to become an olympian and The Link Between Mental Health and Performance with Leon Taylor | Best self improvement podcasts In this conversation, Leon Taylor shares his journey from a challenging childhood to becoming an Olympic diver. He discusses the importance of pursuing meaningful goals, the challenges of maintaining motivation, and the significance of commitment over fleeting motivation. Leon emphasizes the mental state required for high-performance diving and the balance between individual and team dynamics in synchronized diving. He also reflects on the importance of identity beyond sports and the impact of external pressures on mental health. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of mental health, particularly in the context of competitive sports. They discuss personal experiences with mental health challenges, the evolution of diving codes, and the importance of physical movement for mental well-being. The dialogue emphasizes the need for athletes to prioritize their mental health and the significance of savoring moments in life. The speakers also reflect on the legacy they hope to leave for future generations, encouraging a balanced approach to performance and fulfillment.Connect with Leon Taylor at https://leontaylor.co.uk/Chapters00:00 The Pursuit of Meaningful Goals01:57 Journey to Becoming an Olympian10:38 The Challenge of Consistent Motivation11:40 The Importance of Commitment Over Motivation15:58 Mental State on the Diving Board23:50 The Balance of Individual and Team Dynamics28:39 Navigating Mental Health Challenges30:55 The Evolution of Diving Codes35:02 Breaking Barriers in Competitive Diving36:42 The Link Between Mental Health and Performance40:23 The Importance of Physical Movement for Mental Health46:30 Finding Ease in a Fast-Paced World51:10 Leaving a Legacy for Future GenerationsTakeaways-Give people the chance to not give themselves a hard time.-The pursuit of goals can sometimes feel meaningless.-Physical activity started early in life for me.-I didn't know the Olympics existed until I saw them on TV.-Training for the Olympics requires immense dedication and sacrifice.-Motivation can be fickle; commitment is more reliable.-The environment you train in shapes your performance.-Mental state is crucial when performing under pressure.-It's important to evaluate performance without catastrophizing.-Your identity should not solely be tied to your sport. Navigating mental health requires honesty and communication.-Physical movement significantly impacts mental health.-The evolution of diving codes opened new opportunities.-Breaking barriers in sports can change perceptions.-Mental health issues are common among athletes.-Savoring small moments can enhance overall well-being.-It's important to find ease in a fast-paced life.-Athletes should not solely focus on outcomes.-Legacy involves imparting wisdom to future generations.-Fulfillment comes from the journey, not just achievements.Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!
February 26, 202549 min
110 10 Vocal exercises for a more confident voice | Mastering Vocal Techniques for Confidence with Kaffy Rice Oxley of Voice Confident
110 10 Vocal exercises for a more confident voice | Mastering Vocal Techniques for Confidence with Kaffy Rice Oxley of Voice Confident In this episode voice coach Kaffy Rice Oxley discusses the importance of vocal training, breath control, and the science behind voice production. The dialogue explores how first impressions are significantly influenced by vocal qualities, the mechanics of the vocal instrument, and practical techniques for improving vocal performance. Key topics include the role of diaphragmatic breathing, the significance of pauses in presentations, and effective breathing exercises for vocal endurance. We delve into various vocal techniques and exercises aimed at enhancing vocal performance and resilience. We discuss the importance of vocal warm-ups, hydration, and managing stress to maintain vocal health. The conversation also touches on practical tips for public speaking, including how to handle nerves and dry mouth, as well as daily routines to keep the voice in top condition. The speakers emphasize that confidence in speaking can be developed through practice and awareness of vocal techniques.Find out more about Kaffy at https://www.voiceconfident.com/or connect at https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaffyrice-oxley/Chapters00:00 Jaw Release and Vocal Freedom01:18 The Importance of First Impressions02:35 Understanding Your Vocal Instrument04:57 The Science of Voice Production07:25 Breath Control and Its Significance12:43 The Role of Diaphragmatic Breathing16:27 The Power of Pausing in Presentations20:49 Resetting with BiSpec Technique22:08 Breathing Exercises for Vocal Endurance23:44 Vocal Warm-Up Techniques35:15 Maintaining Vocal Resilience41:46 Managing Dry Mouth and Nerves45:57 Daily Voice Care RoutineTakeawaysJaw release techniques can help loosen the jaw for better vocalization.First impressions are heavily influenced by vocal cues, accounting for up to 38% of initial judgments.Everyone has the same vocal instrument, and with training, anyone can improve their singing ability.Breath control is essential for effective communication and vocal health.Diaphragmatic breathing is crucial for maintaining a strong and stable voice.Pausing during presentations can enhance audience engagement and reduce speaker anxiety.The BiSpec technique (Breathe in, Smile, Pause, Eye contact) helps reset the speaker's focus and connection with the audience.Understanding the mechanics of voice production can improve vocal performance.Breathing exercises, such as box breathing, can enhance vocal endurance and control.Practicing breath control can alleviate anxiety and improve overall vocal quality. Vocal warm-ups are essential for preparing the voice.Articulation exercises can improve speech clarity.Hydration is crucial for vocal health.Chewing gum can stimulate saliva production.Avoid whispering as it adds stress to the vocal folds.Confidence in speaking can be learned and developed.Daily voice care routines can enhance vocal performance.Understanding vocal placement can reduce strain.Managing nerves can prevent dry mouth during presentations.Using varied vocal tones makes communication more engaging.Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!Speaker 1 (00:00.278)So jaw release is good, so you have to sort of let your face go soft, that's right, and then sort of manually, so you're finding this gap of your jaw, and you're gonna sort of manually open your jaw with your hands, so kind of go.Am I doing this right?No, no, right, so don't, yeah, there was massage, but to release the jaw, so put your, put the balls in and then just relax your face and you're gonna literally, manually open your jaw.okay. Like that?Yeah, with your hands. then if you do that few times, then when you talk, you will feel that your jaw feels looser and you're able to talk more freely as well.Speaker 2 (00:40.302)Yeah, yeah, I can feel it. It's like a bit of numbing sensation as well, but it's more open.can open your mouth and you can have a nice rich tone, a breath supported tone and you're articulating correctly. The sounds that we make are made in all different areas of the mouth depending on which muscles and everything they're using.Speaker 2 (01:18.478)Research shows that first impressions are formed within the first seven seconds and vocal cues are a substantial part of this. Studies indicate that a person's voice can be up to 38 % of the initial impression made during a conversation, which includes qualities like tone, pitch and speech rate. So because this is really important, let's have a little bit of discussion about our voice. Welcome to the show, Cathy Rice Oxley. How are you?I'm good, thank you Ricky, I'm all good, yeah, nice to be...to be here. Yeah, lovely to have you here. So, Cathy, obviously you're a voice coach at Voice Confident. Tell us just a little bit about what that is that you do.in all areas of voice training and as you say the voice is something that people do judge us on and if people are going to judge us on our voices then really we want it to be something which really represents us advocates for us that we like the sound of ourselves because you know if you don't like the sound of your own voice your voice allows you to give physical manifestation to your thoughts so if you don't like your voice then that's going to you know put barriers between what you're thinking and how you're able to communicate with people so yeah so I help people with their speaking voices and also withall of the presentation things around, that's all the non-verbal, the posture and the gestures and the face expressions, everything else that we're doing when we're speaking and communicating with people.Speaker 2 (02:35.63)Brilliant, and I'm really, really interested in this because, I mean, we've known each other for almost a year now. And obviously when I met you, there was lots of like synchronicity, synergy, however you want to describe it, because we both do presentation training. And one of the great things that we often talk about is in the Confident Club, we talk about the tools in the toolbox and about how we can make more impact. And I think it's just something that we often see in presentations that people just...We speak in that kind of modulated tone in that same voice and just we believe that that's all we can speak about and that's all that's how we speak. But my question is this, Kathy, could I sing like Beyonce?That's a really difficult one. I'm tempted to say... You are male, so this is a difficult one. But you're actually right. So your voice is an instrument. We've talked about this. Your voice is an instrument. Your voice can do amazing, amazing things. Most people with their spoken voice, they're only using a fraction of what this instrument is capable of. And I always say to people, have to think that your vocal instrument is the same as...all the great singers, all the opera singers, Beyonce, Whitney, you your vocal instruments the same as all the great singers who've ever lived, all the great actors, all the great impressionists. mean, think of all the actors we know on TV that can show up in completely different ways just by changing their accent and the voice and the way it's produced. We all have the same vocal instrument. So it's just a series of, you know, muscle movements and, you know, things interacting in this very complicated instrument and habits, physical habits. So yeah, you can pretty much learn to do whatever youwant with your voice. Singing, absolutely everybody can sing. It is physical, it's just a case of learning how everything works and learning to produce things in a certain way. So all this, can't sing, I've never been able to sing, rubbish, everybody, everybody can sing and everybody should sing because it's really good for you, it's good, it's good for the soul to sing.Speaker 2 (04:27.15)Oh, thank you. You fulfilled my dream now because I used to believe like, you know, like it's one of those things like, you know, you're from Lincolnshire. You can't you can't sing, you know, in those tones that you have. obviously, yeah, absolutely. We can write. We've all got the same thing. So I'm interested to talk about. know that this is a big impact. So first, let's just talk a little bit about the science here because unconsciously I'm speaking right now. I'm not even having to think about it. It's just coming out. I might be, you know, adding a few phrases or a few inflections and stuff like that to make it more of an impact. But what's actually happening right now as I'm speaking? What is thescience of what's going on.Well, you've got lots of things going on. Your system is supporting your voice. You've got a steady flow of air, which is passing your vocal folds, which are housed in your larynx, and that's making the sound. And then you are curating that sound using your articulators in your mouth. So your tongue very heavily is involved in almost all of the sounds that we make, but your tongue is interacting with movements of your lips and your jaw. You've got your hard palate, your soft palate. You've got various different types of resonance. So the sound itself is being madebut it's being changed into speech sounds with everything here. that's a lot of science chat for you there Ricky.That's all.Speaker 2 (05:40.172)Yeah, so that's my fault thing. What's that elaborate on that? So to create like a visual picture for me in my mind, what does what is that?So you've got vocal folds and they are sort of mucous membrane, they're vibrating very, very, very quickly. So as the breath comes through, it's to do with the rate that they're vibrating and they stretch and relax. So when we have them stretch, this is the higher pitch and then when they relax, we get the lower pitch. So there's a lot going on. Also our larynx moves up and down, you might not be aware. There's a lot of very complicated movements. But as you say, see, most of the time we're not thinking about this at all.probably you are a singer or you're using your voice professionally, you don't tend to think very much about what you're doing. If an actor, say, needs to develop a new accent for a film or something, they will work with a speech coach and they will look at the whole thing. They will look at how the breath is coming through, they'll look at the position of the lines, they'll look at the placement of the sound in the mouth, they'll look at which areas of resonance they're using, because all different accents.or do things in a slightly different way. So when people put on an accent, for example, it's not just a case of making the sounds differently in their mouths. There's a lot more to it than that, right down to the movement of the legs and what you're doing with your vocal cords.Right, brilliant. obviously, there's a lot going on there that obviously we're just not thinking about unless we're actively, you know,
May 29, 202417 min
109 Introverts, Extroverts And The Balance of Ambiversion with Ashley Griffiths | Ways to improve your confidence
109 Introverts, Extroverts And The Balance of Ambiversion with Ashley Griffiths | Ways to improve your confidence In this episode, Ricky Locke interviews Ashley Griffiths, a video expert and NLP practitioner. They discuss Ashley's struggle with being an ambivert, finding balance between introversion and extroversion, and the power of silence. They also explore the strengths of introverts and the importance of embracing growth and change. Ashley shares his journey of self-discovery and offers insights into how to connect with him.TakeawaysBeing an ambivert means having both introverted and extroverted qualities.Introverts can be excellent public speakers and have their own unique strengths.Silence is powerful and allows for deeper processing and understanding.Finding the balance between introversion and extroversion is an ongoing process.Embracing growth and change is essential for personal development.Chapters01:06 Introduction and Background2:06 Discovering Ambiversion034:18 Balancing Introversion and Extroversion06:55 The Power of Silence09:08 The Strengths of Introverts10:41 Struggling with Finding Balance13:06 Embracing Growth and Change15:18 How to Connect with AshleyFind out more about Ashley and his podcast here https://ashv5.podbean.com/Or head to https://subscribepage.io/Lm3DfVPatreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Chloe Wilmot, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!Ricky Locke (00:00.987)Hey, welcome to another episode of the mini series of the Unlocked conversation cards with the Diary of a CEO conversation cards. Today, I am joined with my good friend Ashley Griffiths. Hello, mate. How's it going?Ash (00:14.158)It's going fabulous. How about yourself Mike?Ricky Locke (00:16.763)Always fabulous, especially talking to another podcaster and video superstar media expert. My long list of words for you there, but yes, tell us a little bit about you and what is it that you do?Ash (00:31.054)Well, I quite like your intro actually. So, right. So what is it I do? Ultimately, I work with clients to get them out of their heads and out into the world. So dropping all the shoulds, all the musts, have to's, I need to be a guru, I need to sing, I need to dance. And I help them focus on who they are.what they're all about and then getting that across via video and out into the world so they can market their business and start attracting more of the sort of clients that light them up.Ricky Locke (01:06.427)I like that. Very nice. Very nice. Well, I'm looking forward to this one. So obviously we met through the wonderful van der Voel, sorry, I should say the van der Voel, Vaga, van der Voel, and through NLP because we're both NLP practitioners. So this will be a very interesting conversation. Are you ready for your question, Ashley?Ash (01:16.972)Yep.Yes, we are in date.Ash (01:25.71)Oh, I'm a little bit nervous, but let's do it. Let's do it.Ricky Locke (01:28.219)All right. Here we go. So your question is, what is the unobvious thing that you struggle with?Ash (01:38.7)Oh my life.Ricky Locke (01:39.195)What is the unobvious thing that you struggle with?Ash (01:42.702)The unobvious thing I struggle with.Ricky Locke (01:45.083)Yeah.Ricky Locke (01:48.571)Deep question that one.Ash (01:48.782)Okay. I suppose. Yeah. I think actually, I think the people are often surprised. Anyone who's met me, anyone who's been in a room with me, anyone who's seen my videos are often surprised to find out that I'm not a natural extrovert. I'm actually quite shy. Um, I recently discovered, well, recently, probably less two years ago that I'm an ambivert.Ricky Locke (02:10.243)Oh.Ricky Locke (02:18.829)Oh, okay. And just for clarity for listeners, what does that mean?Ash (02:19.278)So there are time.So I have both strong introverted and extroverted qualities. So that's why when you see me on video, if you see me in front of a class or a workshop, I'm bouncing around, I'm confident, I'm talking to everybody and all of that. But what you don't see is the next day I don't talk to anyone. Okay. So I need that space, but I also need.Ricky Locke (02:29.659)Okay.Ash (02:50.606)that environment where I can be social, where I can be around people, where I can be that center of attention and loud and bouncing around. Um, and I was just thinking about this yesterday actually, cause on Monday, um, one of my other hats that I wear is I work with kids that don't go to school. And Monday's quite a people -y day. So I'm talking to people from half nine in the morning.Ricky Locke (03:18.715)youAsh (03:19.566)all the way through until, yeah, seven o 'clock at night. And then on Tuesday, you're lucky if you get a word out of me until about four o 'clock in the afternoon. I literally just sit in a kind of daze until around lunchtime. And then I'm like, suppose I should probably talk to people again now.Ricky Locke (03:40.275)Nice, yeah. So interesting then. So where do you think that comes from then?Ash (03:47.118)What the ambivalent, I think I've always been quite insular in nature. I was always quite shy, but I was always fascinated with people. Always. And I liked observing and I liked sitting and I was often thinking, I'm not going to say anything unless I've actually got something worth saying. Um, so I, especially at school, I'd often sit, watch, and then whenever I was ready, I would pipe up. Um.But yeah, I was, I was very shy as a child. Very shy. Um, the work that I do now, all the public speaking I've done, if you'd have said that even to my teenage, possibly even to my 20 year old self, that I would be doing that, I'd have been like, shut up. There is no way I'm doing that in front of all those people. Nah, thanks. It was too, it was too high stakes. Um, so I think there was probably a self -esteem. Um,issue there for sure. Um, but over time, I think it just changes. I think you, I think one of the common misconceptions as well regarding that regarding introversion, extroversion, ambiversion, whatever is that to be a good public speaker, you need to be an extrovert. I think that's, that's some of the best public speakers in the world have been introverts. Um, so I think it's.Ricky Locke (05:04.539)Yeah.Ricky Locke (05:10.043)Yes.Ash (05:13.582)And also I think sometimes, you know, we live in a world that's determined to make everything binary. And it's just not that simple. I think we can flip between the two quite comfortably. I know I do.Ricky Locke (05:19.161)Yeah.Ricky Locke (05:23.131)Yeah. Yeah.Ricky Locke (05:28.187)Yeah, we have a belief in the Confident Club, same as you, that we believe some of the best speakers in the world are introverted people. But quite often the society norms is that you've got to be this great gregarious person on stage, you know, like Tony Robinson, you know, like, but actually it's the more measured approach, the people that have gravitas that can hold a room, you know, in the power of a pause.Ash (05:37.292)Hmm?Ash (05:43.246)Meh.Ash (05:50.7)Hmm.Ricky Locke (05:55.931)and taking people on a journey. Introverts, I think, are absolutely fantastic. So the fact that you have a balance, it's like a superpower. It's like your Clark Kent Superman, isn't it? I can kind of flick between the two. So that's a really good skill to have.Ash (06:09.838)I think again, yeah, with the, with the introversion, I like just kind of like come back to a point you said there about the silence, really the power of silence. I think we live in a society where that is being drastically diminished. Um, if you look at say social media with the way videos are put out, where you've got literally fit in your life story into a 30 second clip and the way that people edit that it's like, sounds like they're being bloody remixed.Ricky Locke (06:16.315)Yeah.Ricky Locke (06:39.611)Yeah.Ash (06:39.854)There's no room for the words to breathe. And, you know, purely from a processing power, a brain processing power, we need that time to let the words sink in and like figure out, okay, does this actually mean something to me? So silence is super powerful. I think in my teaching career, silence was crucial because sometimes teachers, I think like, okay, well,Ricky Locke (06:55.961)Yeah.Ricky Locke (07:00.555)Yeah.Ash (07:07.95)I asked a question nobody's answering. I'll go, Oh God, do I need to do something now? And it's like, no, let them think.Ricky Locke (07:14.139)Yeah, you, yeah, you've inspired me to think, I think about doing it. I do it like a video, like a podcast video. I sorry, like a little video on LinkedIn. I'm just sitting in front of the camera, not saying anything because the weight and the strength of what that could do to just be present in my own thoughts. But yeah, I mean, who was it? They were they, they are brilliant. They shared.great post which was the word listen and listen is is silent just the word silent just jumbled up into different letters I thought yeah that's right it's very powerful isn't it that wonderful pause and I love the idea of what you just mentioned there about the the two extrovert introvert that you can both achieve the silence on both partsAsh (07:46.188)Yeah.Ash (08:07.502)Absolutely.Ricky Locke (08:08.571)So it's kind of like, yeah, there's strengths in using both, isn't there? Interesting.Ash (08:13.134)Oh, massively, massively. I think again, it's the, with, with, uh, with say a public speaking or when, w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w w wRicky Locke (08:28.409)Yeah.Ricky Locke (08:36.731)Yeah.Ash (08:41.902)You need to really emphasize that it's important to be listening right now. And even with the tone, the way that you're delivering that it's much more measured. And then there are times where you just going to get super excited because I really need to share this. And you know, you know that time when you know how it is when you get really excited about something, right? Absolutely. Absolutely. It really depends on.Ricky Locke (08:46.299)Yeah.Ricky Locke (08:58.331)Yeah, it's like cats and dogs, isn't it? From back on the NLP thing. Yeah, cats and dogs. Yeah, yeah, yeah.Ash (09:08.11)It's fitting the right words and the right energy to whatever you're trying to deliver. Um, and yeah, there are times where I'll be bouncing around the room, super excited and talking a million miles an hour. And there's other times where it's like, right now we need
May 22, 202413 min
108 Unobvious Struggles And Asking For Help with Bev Holden | How to improve your confidence
108 Unobvious Struggles And Asking For Help with Bev Holden | How to improve your confidence In this episode, Ricky Locke interviews Bev Holden, co-founder of the Clear Thinking Partnership. They discuss the unobvious things that Bev struggles with, focusing on confidence and asking for help. Bev challenges the concept of confidence, stating that it is not a real thing and that she doesn't believe she needs it to accomplish tasks. She also shares her difficulty in asking for help in certain situations, often due to a fear of judgment or a desire to maintain a certain perception. The conversation highlights the importance of questioning societal conditioning and living in the present moment.TakeawaysConfidence is not a prerequisite for success; it is a concept that can be challenged and redefined.Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it is an opportunity for growth and connection.We create our own conditions and constraints in life, but we also have the power to question and change them.Living in the present moment allows us to let go of past and future worries and focus on what truly matters.Chapters00:00 Introduction to episode01:00 Background02:40 The Unobvious Thing: Confidence05:21 Struggling to Ask for Help10:57 Takeaways and ConclusionFind out more about Bev & Kate at Clear Thinking at https://www.clearthinkinguk.com/Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Chloe Wilmot, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!TranscriptRicky Locke (00:00.61)Hello and welcome to another episode of the mini series of the Unlocked Conversation Cards with the diary of a CEO Cards, where I interview a guest and ask them a question. I'll have a deep dive and connection with them today. I've got a very special friend. I've mentioned this wonderful lady on the podcast many, many times, but welcome again. I think second, third time, maybe. I'm not sure, but welcome to the show. Bev Holden, how are you?Bev (00:24.283)Thank you very much. I'm really good, thank you. Thank you for having me. Again.Ricky Locke (00:27.37)Oh, good to see you again. And I feel like we have many conversations like this. It feels like just like a normal office meeting. Bev, tell the listeners if they haven't heard of you, who are you and what do you do?Bev (00:39.071)Yeah, so I am Bev Holden. I'm half of the Clear Thinking Partnership. We make people think by what we do, so we facilitate and we coach. And when I say we, it's me and my partner, Kate. And we've been doing what we do since 2007. And we are approaching our 17th birthday on Thursday. So, cards, candles, fanfares. Thank you very much.Ricky Locke (01:02.658)Happy birthday. Yeah. Happy birthday. Well, yeah. Have a wonderful time. Make sure I have some cake. Bev, as part of the series, the ideas I'm going to ask you a question. And for clarity, you have no idea. Well, this question is we've not prearranged anything before this.Bev (01:07.587)Thank you.Bev (01:17.343)No, is that like one of those tricks where you say, I don't know you, do you, and would you like to pick a card? Yeah, okay. But no, genuinely, and I've never seen the card, so this is a complete mystery.Ricky Locke (01:20.53)I'll pay you later. Yeah.Ricky Locke (01:27.218)There was a big smile on your face like, should I say yes or no? Okay. All right. Bev, here is your question. Are you ready? What is the unobvious thing that you struggle with?Bev (01:30.155)What?Bev (01:33.728)Yes.Bev (01:40.071)Oh my goodness, what is the un- Who asked that question?Ricky Locke (01:44.35)It was Max Lugavere. I couldn't tell you who that is though. Unfortunately, I'm not sure.Bev (01:48.835)What is the unobvious thing? Ah, okay. Okay, so the unobvious thing. So it is something that... So it's not a real thing because I don't actually believe it's a real thing, but it's a thing that people talk about quite often and it is confidence. So the reason I say it's not a real thing is I don't think I need confidence nor does anyone else to be able to do something. It's kind of a made up concept. But I noticed that...people will say that they see me as being very confident in certain situations and that they are not. So they're fearful of certain situations that don't feel as though they could handle it, but they see me doing it. And their assumption is that I don't feel, we'll call it lacking in confidence or wobbly or unsure or anything. So I think probably that's the first thing that springs to mind because I wouldn't saybut I notice it sometimes. And it's one of those things that it's not a debilitating thing at all. And I don't acknowledge that it exists. And actually that's been a really good strategy for me. So, you know, when people say, and you probably come across this quite a lot in the work that you do, and people say, I'm nervous or I haven't got enough confidence to do that, particularly in presenting and speaking.And I have never ever, apart from once, acknowledged that might be a thing for me. And so it's not become a thing, which I think is just, it's really interesting how our brains work around this stuff and how we turn the thing that we think into something that is real and we act as if it's true. So it's not so much a struggle thing, but it is just something that I notice and it catches me unawares. So I will be doing something that I'm reallyordinarily sure of and then I just have a sensation or a feeling and it would be very easy to misinterpret that feeling and think that it's a bad feeling but more often than not I get it right and I interpret the feeling well so it doesn't get in the way of me doing what I do. I'm just thinking if there's anything else that I ask me the question again.Ricky Locke (04:08.234)Yeah, sure. Yeah. What is the unobvious thing that you struggle with?Bev (04:16.819)Mmm. Gosh.Ricky Locke (04:21.197)It's a different one, that one, isn't it?Bev (04:23.187)It is a tough one. And so I also think it might be contextual. So there are situations I think where I maybe find it difficult to ask for help if I'm struggling with something. Interesting, the struggle word, that was in the question. But if I am finding something difficult, depending, there are some situations where I have almost a default reaction, where I go, ah.this is a time to ask for help from other people who may know better or have more experience to share or who I can just rely on and lean on. And then there are some situations where I think, oh, probably people would expect me to be able to handle that and so I shouldn't ask. And it's that whole thing of maintaining a perception that people might have of you. But it's not true. And it's much easier to go through life, I think, without all those masks on.but I don't always remember that. It's all very well thinking you know what the dream is, but living the dream is something different. So I think that might be something. So asking for help at the right, asking for help consistently and being interested in what the people see that I can't see in myself.Ricky Locke (05:37.838)HmmRicky Locke (05:44.99)Yeah, particularly what is it about asking for help that is the struggle?Bev (05:55.159)I think it is maintaining that perception, you know that judgment that we often do to ourselves where we think, oh I should know better, I should know this. It's not even necessarily that I think other people will think, because I'm a terrible mind reader, I think most of us are. So I can't possibly imagine what it is that somebody is going to be judging me on. But it's that I think that's the thing.thought that creeps in and it's the, I should know better, I should know how to do this. And that is probably the thing that stops me from asking for help. But it is an interesting question because it's making me think about times when I've rushed into going, right, help me now, I'm stuck, I'm struggling, I don't know what to do. And people's response is always so helpful and so encouraging.Ricky Locke (06:32.535)Yeah.Bev (06:50.955)that there's never any need to say that you can't, to believe that you can't ask for help.Ricky Locke (06:56.654)Does that come to a surprise then, when people are so eager to help you? It's like, well, why was I worrying about this, asking for help when people are so actively wanting to help?Bev (07:07.792)Yeah, I still think it's conditional though. It's conditional on me not judging myself first. But it's a lovely surprise and I think it's something that I know is true because people, humans like being asked to help other humans. I think we're wired generally to be helpful. And also I think...It's great to feel that you can be somebody else's superhero. There was that bit of research, wasn't there, about people who do good deeds for others, get that real superhero sense in themselves. So it's not just we're totally generous and giving, we actually get something in return from that, apparently, self-affect. Yeah, it makes us feel good. And I think it's about human connection and...Ricky Locke (07:47.102)Yeah, it makes us feel good.Bev (07:54.667)And vulnerability, it takes us down that path of thinking about being vulnerable and how that endears us to other people because then you're a lot more accessible and people don't feel as though you're quite so unattainable.Ricky Locke (08:09.234)Yeah, totally. Yeah. There's a whole thing, isn't it? And I totally get that what you said about conditioning society, the way we're brought up, suck it up, Ricky, you know, or those sort of things. It is challenging, isn't it? Especially if you're in a very low point as well, where you might not have the courage to ask for help, because it's difficult situation that you're in. And that's, that can be a huge struggle. Yeah.Bev (08:34.911)Yeah, and if you're carrying around a judgment where you think it's weak to ask for help. So, so I think that probably is a thing that people, because I think I do talk to people quite often about just, you know, who around you could help you, you know, ask those people for help, who have you got in your network, who are the people at your table who support you. And yet, as with many of us, or even just speaking for myself, it's not always easy to take your own medicine.Ricky Locke (08:39.135)Yeah.Ricky Locke (09:04.865)Yeah.Bev (09:05.571)That's actually why I love doing the work that we do because often the stuff that we say and the stuff that we think when we're supporting someone else is often really good advice for ourselves and we're surrounded by that all the time so we have lots of opportunity to challenge our own assumptions don't we and to think of things differently.Ricky Locke (09:15.893)Yeah.Ricky Locke (09:21.302)Definitely. Well, this is exactly why like I love doing the podcast because talking to people like yourse
May 15, 202435 min
107 Embracing Wonder and Amazement in Life with The Digital Circus Life Podcast | Living a Life Aligned with Your Values
107 Embracing Wonder and Amazement in Life with The Digital Circus Life Podcast | Living a Life Aligned with Your Values This week, I'm shaking things up by sharing an episode where I was the guest on The Digital Circus Life podcast. I share my journey of breaking free from a small village mindset and pursuing a fulfilling life of wonder and amazement. We discuss the desire to be on stage and make a difference in people's lives. We emphasise the importance of learning, taking action, and embracing failure as a learning process. We talk about living a life aligned with our values and constantly striving for growth. I also reflect on the idea that there is no defined endpoint in this journey, but rather a continuous pursuit of a fulfilling life.TakeawaysEmbrace a mindset of wonder and amazement in lifeDon't be afraid to fail, as it is a learning processLive a life aligned with your values and prioritize fulfilmentConstantly strive for growth and be open to new opportunitiesThere is no defined endpoint in the pursuit of a fulfilling lifeChapters01:00 Breaking Free from a Small Village Mindset03:49 Creating a Fulfilling Life of Wonder and Amazement10:31 Embracing Failure as a Learning Process15:40 Living a Life Aligned with Values32:11 Reflecting on the Journey and Encouraging Younger SelfFind out more about Yellow Tuxedo and about building your online ecosystem.👉https://www.yellowtuxedo.co.uk/so-you...💛Get the YT newsletter in your inbox 👉https://www.yellowtuxedo.co.uk/stay-i...Patreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Chloe Wilmot, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!Ricky (00:00.078)My life was very much a case of, and no offence to my mum and dad at all, it was very much a case of a small village mindset of, you'll go to school, Ricky. They didn't say you won't achieve much, but university wasn't on the cards, because the money wasn't there. It would be like, Ricky, you might go to school. You've got to get a job, Ricky. You've got to get some money. And I could see my life being played out in that way of, it'll be very small, in a sense, comfortable. And I was always the, why? I don't like that.When we first met Ricky Locke on Instagram, we knew he was someone we wanted to be involved with. This was about three or four years ago now. And ever since that, we've done quite a lot of projects together. So it was fascinating today when chatting to him to hear things we'd never heard before. The desire to be on stage, to perform, to entertain people started at a very, very young age when no one else in his family was a performer or doing anything like that. And how...He wants to fail. He's happy to fail. For him, it's just a learning process. And for someone who truly believes that, it was fascinating to kind of hear that perspective. If you've never met Ricky before and you don't know who he is, then his links are in the description below. And if you're new here and you're watching this for the first time, please do subscribe to our channel. It means so much to us as a small business, as we grow and we're trying to achieve what we're trying to achieve. Thank you so much for watching. Please allow me to introduce you to...Ricky Locke. Right, Ricky, you know I'm one of your biggest fans. We've known you since pretty much the beginning of the Yellow Tuxedo adventure. So it's real privileged to get to talk to you today on the Digital Circus Live podcast, but we have to start at the beginning. And the beginning for everyone is we're trying to understand what you're trying to achieve, whether it be for your personal life or your business, or the blend of both of them together, life.What are you trying to achieve at this point? At this point? At this point? It's a fantastic question. Amazing question. So what I'm trying to achieve. Well, I guess there's a plethora. There you go. Nice word there. Plethora of different things. Loads of different things to achieve. I think in the last two or three years, it's probably niching it down into something that's wholesome, that's fulfilling, that...Ricky (02:20.686)creates wonder. The biggest thing I think every day is that, and we've mentioned this before about this question, is this action going to produce the outcome I'm looking for? So everything I do, I have to ask myself that question, but I just have this massive, you know, a bit like a glass thing, you know, the glass, is it fill in my cup? You know, I think that's everything I'm trying to achieve. So whatever it is that I do, whether it's, you know, interactions in life, whether it's personal life, business, magic, confident club.is it filling my cup? And if it isn't, then it's not part of that achievement in life really. So I think that there's a lot of things that I could kind of digress and go on further. But the main thing really, I think is to achieve just this fulfilling life of amazement and wonder. And, you know, I think one of my things I'm very conscious of is that I am, you know, I'm in my early 30s and I'm very, so old. Yeah.I'm very impatient because I'm a millennial, you know, I grew up with the world of, you know, internet and everything. So I'm very impatient. I want things fast now, you know, that kind of thing, because I don't know where life will be. So I do try to, you know, make everything intentional, the old 4 ,000 weeks, you know, of an average human life. So everything I try to do, I guess, to achieve, your answer question would be a fulfilling life. Yeah. So would you say your cup is a pint glass or a shot glass? I think we know the answer already.I'd like to say it'd be like a porn star martini glass. That'd be quite fun. Exotic. That is way cooler, isn't it? Yeah. It doesn't take too much to fill it up. There we go. No. You know what? I read this. So obviously with my daughter, I read this. Is it the Fox, the Mole by Charlie magazine? Oh, the boy and the horse. Yeah. With an Oscar as well as the video version. That's right. Yeah. And I think one of the questions was, is I think the horse says to the little boy, is your...glass half full or half empty and the boy says, I think I'm just grateful to have a glass. It's great, isn't it? You know, like I think I can't remember the answer, the question now, but what was your question, Emily? There we go. I was getting off the side track. It was how big was your cup? I was going to say who cares? Just tell us what you want to tell us Ricky. We're enjoying listening. Yeah. Do you know what? I think, I think the cup never ends and I think that's because my interesting life, I'm sure it, I think it's a polymath.Ricky (04:43.726)is the word I've correct me if I'm wrong. Maybe you can edit that in if not. I think a polymath is somebody that is just interested in everything. Yeah, I'm fascinated with the wise and and the house of everything. So I think when I look back in my life and everything I've ever done with with magic, with playing instruments, with doing things and just learning stuff, I'm on this massive journey about learning. I love learning, I love growing. So I'm always interested in things. You know, curiosity, I think, is a massive value to me. So I think this cup is just growing all the time as I get older.Who knows, maybe it will get to the point where I turn 60, 70, and then, you know, like old people just put the sign on the door saying, do not disturb, do not talk to me. Maybe that'll be it. That's my question. In the pursuit of filling up your cup, which from the kind of high level feels very good, fulfilling purpose, direction and everything else. But also that means you're taking action all the time. That means you're trying to find things to fill your cup.And that means actually who's designed, you know, you have said it's a porn star, Mark Seeley, a bottomless brunch. This is bottomless, Ricky. So, so how do you know when you've achieved it? So one of the things about goals we all know is you need to be able to benchmark it. You need to be able to know when you're achieved it. So how, when does that stop? I mean, you've just talked about being old and shut in the door. So are you ever going to have achieved it? Yeah. So this goes back to, I remember like back in.corporate days before I went full time in the business. We did this like define your purpose day, you know, which I think is incredible. You know, it's a really good thing. And one of the key things like they get to do is like a timeline of like key moments in your life that you remember. And one of the moments that I think very similar to you, this will be Alan, is that some of the key moments in my life was always in front of an audience. So as a very young person, I play music, you know, I play guitar in my room. I'd learn. And weirdly enough, when likeIf like someone knocked on the door, like an electrician or someone like to come in, I remember I'd like crank up the volume a little bit louder, you know, a little bit loud to play. And it wasn't as a narcissistic thing to like show off. It was kind of like, oh my God, you know, I'm in front of an audience, that kind of thing. I want to show how amazing like things we can do, you know, like playing guitar and stuff. Funny enough, that electrician came around quite a lot, actually. But anyway, a long story short, yeah. But another one was like, you know, I remember winning the talent show when I was aboutRicky (07:10.638)15, 16. And I love that adrenaline being in front of an audience. And I remember when I was in my corporate days being a coach and a trainer, national trainer for Argos and being in front of an audience. Magic. I'm in front of an audience. The Compton Club, we present people. And I remember distinctly, you've just made me think about it, laying on my bed when I was younger, I had a magazine called Total Guitar. And there was a big... Thank God he said Total Guitar and not something else there. Yes. Total Guitar. There was this big spread right in the middle and you could pull it out.And it was a black and white photo. Now in hindsight, I'm guessing now, I don't know who it was at the time, but I'm thinking it was probably Kurt Cobain, like from Nirvana. And it just looked like the back of him standing on stage, probably in front of Reading Festival, just seeing this audience. It was black and white phone. I used to have it on the roof of my bedroom. So when I was laying down, I could look at it. And from an early age, I think there's always been that sort of a kind of legacy, I think, that what I want to do is to,
May 8, 202424 min
106 How to be your authentic self with Alan Braithwaite of Yellow Tuxedo | The Diary of a CEO conversation cards
106 How to be your authentic self with Alan Braithwaite of Yellow Tuxedo | The Diary of a CEO conversation cards In this mini series of The Diary of a CEO conversation Cards, Ricky Locke and Alan Braithwaite discuss the common misconceptions people have about Alan and how it makes him feel. They explore the importance of being authentic and prioritizing fun in social situations. They also discuss the expectations people have of public figures and the responsibility to be polite and genuine. The conversation highlights the power of making a positive impact on others and spreading positivity in everyday interactions.TakeawaysBe authentic and prioritize fun in social interactions.Recognize and challenge misconceptions about yourself.Understand the expectations people may have of public figures.Spread positivity and make a positive impact on others.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone01:07 Question: Common Misconception About Alan03:02 Being Authentic and Prioritizing Fun05:27 Adapting to Different Social Situations08:29 Misconceptions and Expectations10:52 Authenticity and Responsibility12:31 Expectations of Public Figures16:00 Impact and Significance18:59 Desired Impact on Listeners21:39 Spreading Positivity and Making a Difference21:45 ConclusionPatreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! You are all amazing!Come Join the UNLOCKED community where you can receive...Early access to episodesPatron shout outs and recognition at the end of every episodeExclusive backstage content and bonus episodesAsk me anything - have your questions answered onlineShape the future of the podcast with your requests.(Optional - become a sponsor of the show!)Exclusive giveaways and HUGE Discounts off my online courses and so much more...To be a Patron and support the podcast just head to this link or head to https://www.patreon.com/theunlockedpodcastI can't wait for you to be a part of this journey!Free ResourcesFREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my websitePODCAST MERCHANDISE!!!It's officially here! Woohoo! You can now buy your own UNLOCKED podcast notebook. The perfect addition to share your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration from the podcast. Available here!A new episode is out every Wednesday. So make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on any episodes coming soon.And, if this episode brought some value to you, or even a smile, then please leave a review or a rating. That would be amazing!Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy this episode and I'll join you next week for another episode of UNLOCKED!TranscriptionRicky Locke (00:00.785)Welcome back to another episode of the Unlock podcast in my mini series where I dive deep into the diary of a CEO conversation cards to unlock some deeper levels of connection. And today I've got a great friend and a returning guest, Mr. Alan Braithwaite.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (00:16.594)Thank you, mate. Love being like this doesn't feel like a podcast I'm just having a chat with my mate Ricky. Do you know what I mean? And if it's just fab to be with you as alwaysRicky Locke (00:22.035)Yeah, I know.Well, as my brain was going, just going to go off the cuff here and introduce, and I'm brave about it, I felt like then I need to probably post edit this and go, explosions there, you know? I think, yeah.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (00:32.934)Always explosion. Is there anyone who doesn't need more explosions in their day to day? Surely we all doRicky Locke (00:38.409)Well, I agree. Yeah. Especially on a Thursday morning when, like we said, we could do a bit more energy, right? Anyway, Alan, as the premise is, we've got a question for you selected for you. Now, obviously you have no understanding, no awareness of what this is about. You got literally no idea. So, and that's just off the cuff. Yes. Brilliant. Brim. Yeah. It does sound, doesn't it? Like a, like a magic trick. Like you have no, you know, anyway.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (00:45.282)Yes.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (00:57.67)Yes, correct. I can confirm Ricky the magician. I can confirm. I do not know what you're about to doRicky Locke (01:07.177)Alan, I've got a couple of questions selected, so we'll see if we get time and have some fun, but are you ready for your question? All right, here we go. The question is this. What is a common misconception that people have about you? And how does it make you feel?💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (01:11.891)Yes, mate. Let's do this.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (01:24.05)Oh, common misconception about me and how does it make me feel? Um, I think I can answer the feel part before the misconception part. So the feel part is quite easy. I spend quite a lot of time kind of in my own head, thinking, working through stuff, I enjoy it a lot. So I think the feel part is I don't feel anything about the misconceptions. Cause I think if there is a misconception, it's usually because of what I'm putting out.Ricky Locke (01:34.617)Okay.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (01:52.494)Um, so I'm, I'm kind of okay, but I own that misconception, if that makes sense. So, so there's no point me feeling unhappy about what someone might think about me and everything else. The other part is, and there are misconceptions which I'll come to, because I understand what I put out years and years and years ago, like decades ago, when I was younger, I remember.You know what you'll know? Well, I say you'll know what it's like. You may know what it's like. There was always your mates, right? When your mates were with you together, when you were with your mates, your male friends, right? You'd be like that. The second anyone was with their girlfriend or a girlfriend was there, everything changed, right? Everything changed. And I remember sometime in my early 20s, late teens going, why does everyone change?Ricky Locke (02:28.213)Yeah, yeah.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (02:34.25)Why wouldn't you want to be the same person regardless of whether you're girlfriend, because that means either your mates aren't getting the genuine you or your girlfriend's not getting the, or they're getting a version of you. Right. And, and, but I understand the kind of topics and conversations and language might be subtly different, that's different, but fundamentally there were people who were massively different. Right. And I remember looking at them and you know, everyone's in their own life. It's fine. And I remember thinking, I don't want to do that. So, um,other than a few subtleties, pretty much I'm the same person with my friends and Emily, now my wife, which comes back to, I guess, the misconceptions part is I feel sometimes there's a misconception about me, but so because I'm rather gregarious and loud, the, the more kind of deep thinking overthinker I don't always think comes out because I don't want it to, because I want to prioritize fun.Um, so I, I wonder, I wonder, I don't really know. No one's ever come up and when I was wrong about you, Alan, I wonder if that kind of the, the deeper side of me that I may keep for conversations like this doesn't always come out and some people may have that misconception, but fundamentally I've made a choice to be like that, so I'm okay with it. Does that make sense?Ricky Locke (03:49.253)Mm, yeah, brilliant. Yeah, a little bit. Yeah. So to tell us a little bit more about that, then. So does it does it affect you? So just to clarify again, like, how does that make you feel when people have that misconception?💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (04:03.626)It doesn't make me feel anything because I've chosen to be in certain a certain way. And because their misconception will be based on what I'm putting out. So I'm kind of, I don't feel anything. Sometimes I might go, okay, I probably need to be a little bit less of a joker for a period of time. And perhaps a bit more kind of this kind of conversational Alan. Which interesting, if you get me by myself, you tend to get, if I'm with Emily.then Emily's the straight person and I'm the joker or the dickhead, whatever you want to call it. And I'm okay with that because I feel there is an element, a balance and in a conversation like this, it's like when we do the digital circuits, we have walk on music, right? So when we open the doors on Zoom and everyone comes into music, if Emily's there, I'll be kind of singing, dancing. I'll bring my microphone down, pretend I'm a superstar DJ or an Oasis or something. If Emily's not there.Ricky Locke (04:37.482)Yeah.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (04:59.73)I actually feel a bit awkward and go, oh, hello, everyone. Welcome, welcome along, you know? So it's, I guess it's just a bit like that, but going back to how I feel, no, I'm okay. Because I think these are conscious choices I'm making and neither of them are, I'm gonna say bad, but I don't think that's the word. Neither of them are not nice versions, if that makes sense. They're all the same version. I just sometimes put that switch up more than that switch and bring that switch down.Ricky Locke (05:04.352)Yeah.Ricky Locke (05:08.973)Yeah.Ricky Locke (05:23.341)Yeah.Ricky Locke (05:27.229)Yeah, like a thermostat, isn't it? Like you might have to heat up a little bit, cool it down a little bit and tailor it a little bit, but it's still you.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (05:28.983)So I don't know if anyone...💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (05:35.306)Yeah, yeah, of course. I mean, it's got to be the same like as a magic show, right? You know, you're not going to go on stage as a magic show and give the deep thinking Ricky Locke. You're going to give the presenter Ricky Locke, right? It doesn't mean the deep thinking Ricky Locke, the kind of specific version of yourself, the self-improvement doesn't exist. And it will be kind of intertwined, right? But you've dialed that one up, that Fermistats up to 100.Ricky Locke (05:40.035)Mmm.Ricky Locke (05:50.175)Yeah.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (06:04.694)conversation like this, dial the performance down a little bit and just maintain this. And I guess that's it. So like I say, any misconceptions outside of that, I probably don't even really know about, you know, and I don't mean this in a flippant way. I don't care because I'm happy with who I am, 99% of it. So, which I've put a lot of time and effort into being happy with who I am and making sure that people are getting me and things like that. So, yeah, I think that's where I'm at with that.Ricky Locke (06:10.955)Yeah.Ricky Locke (06:17.854)Yeah, yeah.Ricky Locke (06:21.272)Yeah.Ricky Locke (06:32.865)So just so to explore that, I totally agree. So like in Tesco's when I walk around the hours, I'm like, hey, it's magic, man. I'm picking up my chicken and my protein. Hey, no, of course not. It's like really grumpy. I quite often tell a lot of my customers, if you meet me around in Tesco, it's because a lot of people who book me where I live, I'll say, yeah, if you, if you see me in Tesco, I'm probably going to be in my pajamas. I'm like, who are you? You know, you know, because you have to. There's that human element, isn't there, of like.the separation. So is there then just to explore that, is there a misconception that people believe that what I see, so the Alan I see on Zoom, I'm going to believe that that's the Alan I'm going to see in Tesco's or in the shops or at the school, the drop off. Do you think that that's what people see or do you think they have that understanding of, well, he's a bit of a miserable bugger, wasn't he? Like he's not the same that I know from digital circus.💛 Alan @YellowTuxedo (07:22.886)No, I get that. And actually the school runs are really good example of that. So we do the school run twice a day, we park in the park, we walk through the park, and there's a large amount of parents and children and everything else. So you don't want grumpy, Alan, you don't want kind of, don't want to talk to people, Alan. And also we're a big believer in like representing your business and your brand and all opportunities and all everything else. 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