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One of the most powerful (and underused) tools for emotional healing is creative self-expression. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're diving into the powerful intersection of creativity, art, relationships, and mindset — and how you can use your unique voice to alchemize pain and struggle.This episode is for anyone looking to improve their emotional resilience, self-awareness, and connection to others through the healing power of creativity. I’m joined by my favourite writer, IN-Q — an Emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, best-selling author of Inquire Within and The Never Ending Now Poetry journal. IN-Q has written songs with artists like Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus and Mike Posner, and he was named to Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He hosts writing workshops around the world, and works with brands like Nike, Spotify, Google and Lululemon to help their teams tell their stories and find their authentic voice.Tune in to hear more about:How creative expression can help process trauma, anxiety, and lonelinessWhat’s causing our current mental health crisis?Why creativity and storytelling are the most underused tools in the mental health toolkitThe wellness modalities that IN-Q taps intoThe impact of technology and AI on our mental healthWhat is happiness, and have we commodified the pursuit of it?How to cultivate more compassion and connectionReconnecting to community in a lonely and isolated worldHow to set healthy boundaries without isolating ourselvesTaking responsibility for our emotions in relationshipsCo-regulating with your partner and establishing non-negotiablesOvercoming the fear of creating or sharing your workI hope this episode helps you reconnect with yourself and your playful creativity.Follow IN-Q on Instagram and his website in-q.com. Get IN-Q's book Inquire Within and The Never Ending Now Poetry Journal. Listen to The Never Ending Now album.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. May is mental health awareness week, so we’re diving into mental wellbeing and anxiety, and how to stop it from holding you back. Tune in as we throw it back to Dr. Lauren Cook’s “anxiety hierarchy” framework that helps you measure your level of anxiety when faced with challenges, so we can face our fears without letting anxiety, avoidance, and control stay in the driver's seat.Dr. Lauren Cook is a therapist, consultant, speaker, author and founder of Heartship Psychological Services. Specializing in anxiety, she helps people and couples work through generalized anxiety, phobias, social anxiety, OCD, and more. She has a podcast called The Boardroom Brain, and has written three books, including the “Generation Anxiety: A Millennial and Gen Z Guide to Staying Afloat in an Uncertain World”. Listen to our full episode with Dr. Lauren  here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Dr. Lauren:@dr.laurencookDrlaurencook.comOrder Generation Anxiety: A Millennial and Gen Z Guide to Staying Afloat in an Uncertain World Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Money stress is everywhere right now — rising interest rates, the cost of living crisis, inflation, layoffs, and a looming recession — we’re all feeling it. But the truth is, even in financially prosperous times, money can be a point of shame, anxiety, guilt, and avoidance for a lot of us. Your money history and money story shape your financial security throughout your life — but you can rewrite that story and heal your money mindset.In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology of money and how to heal your relationship with it, so you can stop toxic financial habits, rewire your mindset, and *actually* build long-term wealth.We called back returning guest, Jessica Moorhouse—Accredited Financial Counsellor, bestselling author of Everything but Money, host of the More Money Podcast, and a leading voice on personal finance and emotional literacy in financial wellness.This isn’t just another budgeting or investing 101 episode… it’s a mindset shift that can set you up for success in your personal finances and your close relationships. Whether you're  struggling with debt or making $250K, this conversation will help you stop self-sabotage, understand your unconscious toxic beliefs, and make an actionable plan toward financial security.Tune in to hear more about:The emotional roots of money anxiety, guilt, shame, envy, and fearUnderstanding the 3 toxic money patterns that keep you stuck (avoidance, money worship, and relationship codependence)The impact of shame and judgment in your financial journey — and how to break that shame cycleHow ADHD and neurodivergence can affect spending, saving, and money organizationHow your attachment style impacts your financial behaviour and the way you deal with money in relationshipsThe #1 mistake most people are making with moneyActionable advice for building wealth if you’re in debt or low incomeHow to manage setting up an emergency fund VS paying off debt VS investingHow to recession-proof your financial plan right nowCheck out Jessica's book, Everything but Money.Follow Jessica on Instagram, YouTube, and her website.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The majority of our communication is non-verbal... that means our body language is doing all the talking. So we’re throwing it back to some game-changing advice from negotiation expert, Fotini Iconomopoulos, breaking down how you can leverage your body language to influence and negotiate better — at work, and socially. Fotini’s been helping people get what they want, both personally and professionally, for decades. Through her keynotes, workshops and virtual courses, Fotini helps teach the negotiation and communication skills required to navigate any scenario. She teaches MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University, and is the author of the book “Say Less, Get More: Unconventional Negotiation Techniques to Get What You Want”.We hope this episode inspires you to go after what you want and ask for what you deserve!Listen to our full episode with Fotini here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Fotini:fotiniicon.com/instagram.com/fotiniicon/linkedin.com/in/fotiniiconomopoulos/Get Fotini’s Book: Say Less Get More Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This episode is for anyone who's tired of outdated dating “rules” that don’t reflect who they are and how we actually connect in 2025. I’ve recently dipped my toe back into the dating world, and the amount of toxic “rules” and overly-perscriptive advice floating around online is wild.So today, I’m sharing my hot takes and unconventional dating perspectives to prioritize authenticity, connection, and your dating goals — without all the games.Whether you’re dating for fun, looking for your forever person, or navigating something in between, this episode is a guide to more connected, conscious, and actually authentic dating. If you feel drained by casual dating culture, the fast food nature of apps, mixed signals and fuckboy energy, and attention-seeking games… keep. listening.We’re debunking relationship myths like:Why “keep the first date short” might be killing genuine connectionWhy women shouldn’t always wait to be pursuedWhy “play it cool” and “keep it casual” isn’t always the vibeThe truth about when to have sexShould you talk about your exes on a date?When you should consider exclusivityHow to use intentional conversations, clarity, vulnerability, and feedback to create deeper intimacy Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of earth day, we're taking a look at the cost of fast fashion, our consumption habits, and how we can become more sustainable consumers.We're throwing it back to this perspective-shifting advice on overconsumption with Conni Jespersen, as she explains the impact of overconsumption on our confidence, wallets, and the environment, and how self-accountability for the lifespan of every product we purchase can help end impulse shopping. Conni is an educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find. She has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Conni:@artinthefindartinthefind.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

There’s a lot going on in the job market right now, with a looming recession, mass layoffs, and AI changing the way we work. Whether you’re stuck under a micromanaging boss, navigating office drama, dealing with return-to-office mandates, or questioning your entire career path… it’s a lot.But we gotchu. Back by popular demand, we’re joined by Emily Durham—aka Emily the Recruiter—career coach, content creator, and host of The Straight Shooter Recruiter Podcast. With millions of views across TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, Emily is known for her no-BS advice on how to land your dream job and deal with workplace dynamics like a boss.Whether you’re strategizing how to survive a toxic workplace, burnt out and job hunting, or managing conflict on the job, this episode will help you reclaim your power, boost your career confidence, and future-proof your career in a rapidly changing job market.Tune in for an informative and hilarious conversation about:How to spot a toxic workplace (and what to do if you’re in one)When to quit your job vs. stick it out—especially in an uncertain job marketThe myth of work-life balance and how to set boundariesDealing with the most common types of bad bosses (looking at you, micromanagers & mood killers)How to give your boss constructive feedback (without it backfiring)Smart ways to deal with workplace drama and toxic coworkersHow “authentic” you should be at work—without hurting your careerAre work besties trust-worthy? What to do when back-to-office mandates hitHow to stand out and stay relevant as AI reshapes the job marketListen to our first episode with Emily here.Listen to The Straight Shooter Recruiter podcast Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube.  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Do you ever feel paralyzed by indecision, stuck in a loop of self-doubt, decision overwhelm, and perfectionism? Welcome to the club! We know what it’s like, and what it takes to get unstuck.Whether you're facing a career crossroads, struggling to start a creative project, or battling the incessant inner monologue of your monkey mind, this episode is here to help.I’m joined by my friend and brilliant coach, Sasha Patpatia, a multidisciplinary artist, writer, and board-certified career coach for creatives. Sasha has helped me navigate pivotal moments in my career, and equipped me with mindset tools I still use to move from overthinking to action.Some brain chemistry-altering quotes from Sasha in today’s episode:“It is only the friction between where you are and where you want to be — which is called tension — that shuts us down and makes us feel stuck.”“Our definition of success is doing what I said I would do, with clarity, focus, ease & grace.”If you're feeling stuck, lost, or burnt out, join us for a deep look at how to overcome mental blocks and move forward in alignment with your purpose.Tune in to hear more about:✅ How to get unstuck, use stuckness as data, and take consistent action.✅ Overcoming decision paralysis with a three-part choice and decision reframe (that takes the pressure off!). ✅ Dealing with self-doubt and monkey mind: Navigating excuses and negativity bias without judgment.✅ The myth of motivation: Stop waiting for the “right time”!✅ Reframing our idea of success and failure✅ What’s behind creative burnout?✅ How to find the right career coach✅ The power of emotional regulation, + a combined approach of mindset coaching and somatic bodyworkJust remember, ready is not a feeling, it’s a decision. You’ve got this.Follow Sasha: https://www.sashapatpatia.com/For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of earth month, we're taking a look at our consumption habits and how we can lower our carbon footprint in a way that's actually sustainable.So we're throwing it back to tactical advice on sustainable living, with "accidental environmentalist" Jules Grieve. It's easy to let perfect become the enemy of good (sustainability is a game of progress over perfection) so we cover doable ways to cut out plastic and reduce waste, the truth about recycling, and how to change our water consumption. Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America’s leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills. She’s CityLine’s eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada’s biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she’s showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Julia:@prelovedjulesjuliagrieve.cagetpreloved.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Feeling constantly busy but not actually making progress? Struggling with overwhelm, burnout, and an endless to-do list? Honestly, same.I’ve been stuck in an overwhelming cycle of too much work and not enough impact, so I started experimenting with different productivity hacks—and this week I’m sharing one that’s really helping.We’re diving into the 80/20 Rule—also known as the Pareto Principle—a game-changing productivity method that helps you work smarter, not harder by focusing on the tasks that actually move the needle.The Pareto Principle isn’t just a theory; it applies to work, relationships, finances, and general productivity so you can ditch busywork and operate in your zone of genius.Ready to break free from the grind? Tune in to hear about:✅ How to apply the 80/20 rule to your work and daily tasks✅ The difference between being “busy” vs. being productive✅ How to identify and prioritize high-impact tasks to maximize your productivity and efficiency✅ How to stop wasting time and operate in your zone of genius✅ Why urgency doesn’t always mean importance✅ How this principle improves relationships, finances, style, and moreI hope this helps you take back control of your time and break free from burnout!For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube