P.S. Younger Self

Hosted by Chris Oh

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Apr 2026

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Bi-monthly interview podcast hosted by former corporate New Yorker turned citizen of the world with a voracious appetite for personal development. Chris Oh speaks with inspirational entrepreneurs, creatives and thought leaders from around the world on how we can all crush our fears and optimize our lifestyle to live our most fulfilling lives, and always on our own terms. New episodes drop on Mondays. Learn more at psyoungerself.com.

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April 6, 2026Episode 13016 min

Why You Still Fall Back Into Old Patterns (Even When You Know Better

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I know better… so why do I keep falling back into the same patterns?” — this episode is for you.In this conversation, host Chris Oh, walks through a few real, recent moments where she didn’t like how she showed up — not because she wasn’t self-aware, and not because she didn’t know her standards — but because she still reacted in ways that didn’t fully align with them.And this is something we don’t talk about enough.Because breaking old patterns isn’t just about knowing what to do differently.It’s about understanding what’s happening underneath your reactions — especially in moments where you feel activated, frustrated, or out of alignment.In this episode, we explore:why you still fall back into old patterns even when you know betterthe gap between awareness and actually living by your standardshow your nervous system and past conditioning shape your reactionswhy certain moments feel disproportionately triggeringhow your personal values are directly tied to your identity — and your behaviorThis is a deeper look at why change doesn’t happen through surface-level “fixes,” and why real transformation requires building the internal capacity to respond differently in the moments that matter most.Because your patterns aren’t random.They’re often signals of:what you valuewhat feels threatenedand where your current capacity hasn’t fully caught up to who you’re becomingIf this episode resonates, I’ve created resources to help you go deeper:✨ Free Standards WorksheetA self-guided tool to help you identify unconscious patterns, recognize your activation triggers, and begin shifting into alignment with your standards.Download for FREE here 👉 https://stan.store/psyoungerself📘 Living By Your Standards WorkbookA deeper, structured experience designed to help you:understand your activation patternsbuild real-time awarenessand practice responding in alignment with your values and identityGet the workbook here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

December 29, 2025Episode 12917 min

Living By Your Standards: Reflecting on the Journey

Your standards aren’t failing because you lack clarity or discipline. You struggle to uphold them because you haven’t built the internal capacity to live by them when it actually counts.In this final episode of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh reveals how everything she shared in the series, defining your values, releasing unconscious expectations, cultivating discernment, building self-assurance, practicing clarity, and taking accountability create the internal capacity to live by your standards consistently.You’ll see how these skills aren’t isolated concepts, but an integrated internal system, one that allows you to stay aligned with who you are becoming, even when old patterns, emotional pull, or conditioning resurface.If you’ve followed this series and felt clear about your standards but still found certain moments challenging, this episode will help you understand why, and how everything you’ve learned fits together to support real, lived alignment.In this episode, you’ll explore:➡️ Why living by your standards is about capacity, not willpower.➡️ How values, discernment, clarity, self-assurance, boundaries, and accountability work together to live by your standards. ➡️ What it actually means to stay aligned with your standards in everyday decisions.➡️ How this series equips you to lead yourself with consistency and self-trust✨ Coming SoonThe Living By Your Standards Workbook launches the first week of the new year. t’s a complementary, in-depth workbook for women who felt seen and shifted by this series — and are ready to move from insight into lived practice by strengthening the internal skills that support a standards-led life.💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

December 15, 2025Episode 12818 min

Reassessing and Refining Your Standards as You Grow

Why You Know Your Standards — But Still React the Old WayYou know your standards. You’ve done the inner work.So why do you still find yourself reacting in ways that don’t match who you’re becoming?In Part 11 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down why knowing your standards is just the beginning. The real transformative change actually happens in the moment, not in theory.This episode is for the woman who understands her values, boundaries, and is beginning to raise her standards — yet still notices old reactions and patterns surface under emotional activation.This episode explores: ✅ Why insight alone doesn’t change behavior✅ How our decision making happens from two "Systems" according to Daniel Kahneman’s System 1 vs. System 2 Theory. ✅ Why self-blame keeps women stuck — and why it’s scientifically inaccurate✅ The gap between awareness and action✅ The micro-moment framework by Chris Oh, which is the split-second identity choice where real change happens✅ How identity, not willpower, drives lasting change✅ How self-trust is built through repeated moments of alignment✅ What it really means to live by your standards in real timeChris shares how this micro-moment shows up for her like a brief internal movie scene where two versions of herself appear:➡️ the old self, driven by familiarity and reassurance➡️ the self I’m becoming, grounded in self-loyalty and standardsAnd in that moment, the real question isn’t “What should I do?”It’s “Which version of me am I choosing to lead right now?”💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

December 14, 2025Episode 12718 min

Navigating Relationships with High Standards

Most women think having high standards means expecting someone else to meet them.But the real test of your standards isn’t how someone treats you —it’s whether you abandon yourself to keep the connection.In Episode 10 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down the psychology of unconscious self-abandonment, emotional safety, and what high standards actually look like in real relationships.This episode goes deeper than dating tips.You’ll learn how early conditioning, nervous system responses, and invisible emotional habits shape the ways women shrink, silence themselves, or override their intuition — all while believing they’re being “easy,” “understanding,” or “low-maintenance.”In this episode, you’ll learn:➡️ Expectations vs. standards — why “they should…” beliefs create emotional instability and what standards look like in action.➡️ The subtle ways women self-abandon ➡️ The psychology behind self-abandonment ➡️ Why your nervous system resists self-loyalty ➡️ How to shift from self-sacrificing to self-loyal ➡️ Practical relational standards — using intuition, clarity, and values-based decisions to stay grounded in who you are.💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

November 24, 2025Episode 12615 min

What You Protect Reveals Your True Standards

Most people talk about “protecting your peace,” but few understand how your quiet decisions reveal your personal values, emotional boundaries, and standards.In Episode 9 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh shares a recent real-life moment where she instinctively protected a relationship she deeply values— not out of fear, not out of judgment, but out of integrity.And that moment revealed something powerful:👉 Living by your standards isn’t just what you say no to — it’s what you silently guard.This episode explores:➡️ The deeper meaning of living by your standards➡️ What quiet guardianship looks like when you live by your standards➡️ Why privacy is a form of emotional power➡️ How discernment and restraint strengthen self-trust➡️ The difference between boundaries and energetic protection➡️ How to practice quiet guardianship of what is scared to you, whether that´s relationships, connections, reputation, values, etc. Whether you’re navigating friendships, dating, family dynamics, or professional relationships, this P.S. Younger Self episode will help you understand how your quiet choices shape your life and reflect the values at the core of your personal standards.▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

October 13, 2025Episode 12558 min

End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Reclaim Your Self-Worth

Do you say yes when you mean no? Feel anxious, over-responsible, or disconnected from your true self? In this episode, host Chris Oh sits down with Beatriz Victoria Albina, Certified Somatic Life Coach, Nurse Practitioner, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing, to explore how so many of us—especially women—unknowingly give away our emotional power in the name of love, peace, and belonging.Béa coined the term “Emotional Outsourcing” to describe the pattern of abandoning ourselves to earn safety and approval. Béa helps us unpack:What emotional outsourcing really is—and how it hides behind codependency, people-pleasing, and perfectionismHow it shows up in friendships, family dynamics, romantic relationships, and the workplaceWhy nervous system regulation is the missing piece in breaking free from these cyclesHow to begin reconnecting to your body’s cues, setting boundaries, and reclaiming your inherent self-worthBéa’s science-backed framework blends mindset work with somatic healing to help us stop outsourcing our emotions—and finally come home to ourselves.If you’ve ever felt resentful, burned out, or like you’re “too much” or “not enough,” this conversation will remind you that your worth was never meant to be earned—it was always youGet your copy of Beatriz Victoria Albina’s book End Emotional Outsourcing and start reclaiming your self-worth today: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow Beatriz on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

September 9, 2025Episode 1248 min

The Uncomfortable Truth About Raising Your Standards and Finding Courage to Grow

Raising your standards sounds empowering, right? But here’s the truth no one talks about: it doesn’t always feel good at first. Growth can feel messy, awkward, even lonely, and that’s exactly when most people start to doubt themselves.In this episode, host Chris Oh shares why you will experience these uncomfortable shifts when you begin raising your standards, and how courage becomes the anchor that helps you keep going. You’ll learn how to handle resistance from others, moments of self-doubt, and the loneliness that can come when old relationships or habits no longer align with who you’re becoming.What you’ll hear in this episode:Why growth feels uncomfortable (and why that’s normal)The uncomfortable shifts you’ll notice when raising your standards in lifeHow to build courage, which helps you move through discomfort in personal growthPractical tools to stay grounded when living by your standards feels hardThis is Part 8 of my Living By Your Standards series, where Chris shares practices to help you live authentically, aligned with your values. If you’re just finding this series, go back and listen from the beginning to learn about clarity, boundaries, self-assurance, and accountability before diving into courage.And, if you’re ready to start raising your standards but want some extra guidance, be sure to grab the free worksheet from Chris that will help you spot the difference between expectations and standards in your own life. You can grab it here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself It’s a simple but powerful tool to get started right away.💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

August 25, 2025Episode 1231 hr 15 min

The Emotional Cause Behind So Many Sexless Relationships… 💔

Why are so many romantic relationships emotionally disconnected and sexually unfulfilled, even when love is still there?Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, founders of the Connection Codes framework, uncover the emotional patterns behind disconnection and what truly builds lasting intimacy.In this episode, we explore the emotional root of sexless relationships, how emotional safety unlocks physical connection, and why fear often blocks the vulnerable conversations couples need to have.If you’ve ever felt distant from your partner or struggled to reignite physical intimacy, this conversation will shift your understanding of what deep connection looks like, and how to rebuild it from the inside out.We talk about:Why emotional safety is essential for sexual intimacyHow curiosity creates deeper emotional and physical connectionSigns your relationship is drifting, and how to reconnectWhat “sexual loneliness” is and why it’s so commonHow to break out of fear and emotional avoidancePractical tools like the Core Emotion WheelAbout the Guests:Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are relationship coaches and co-founders of Connection Codes, a proven, science-backed framework that helps couples build trust, emotional literacy, and deeper intimacy.🔗 Learn more: https://connectioncodes.co/Follow Dr. Glenn and Phyllis on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/🎙️If you enjoyed this episode, you might also enjoy episode 98 with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, "Stop Weaponizing Stop Weaponizing Emotions & Build Stronger Relationships": https://www.buzzsprout.com/999415/episodes/13365774-stop-weaponizing-emotions-build-stronger-relationships.mp3?download=true💌 Subscribe for more episodes on emotional growth, love, and modern relationships.📩 DM us your thoughts on this episode @ [your handle]💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

August 5, 2025Episode 12218 min

Why Accountability Is the Key to Self-Trust

Most people think accountability is about punishment or pressure.But what if it’s actually the key to self-trust, clarity, and emotional strength.In this episode, host Chris Oh explores the real reason accountability matters. It is not just for achieving goals, but for staying in alignment with your values, honoring your integrity, and becoming the version of yourself you’re proud to be. It´s essential to live by your standards. You'll learn: What’s really at stake when you don’t hold yourself accountableThe subtle ways your confidence erodes without you realizing itHow accountability helps close the gap between intention and actionWhy self-trust is built in the quiet moments, not big milestonesA fresh lens on accountability as an empowering, self-honoring practiceIf you’ve ever felt out of alignment, lost momentum, or like you're drifting from your own standards, this one’s for you.🧠 Want to go deeper?Download the Free Self-Reflection Worksheet: Expectations vs. Standards → https://stan.store/psyoungerself🎧 This is Episode 7 of the Living By Your Standards series.Make sure to check out previous episodes on [Clarity] and [Boundaries] to build the full picture.💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

July 7, 2025Episode 12157 min

What Every Woman Should Know About Hormones, Periods & Metabolism with Lara Briden

Naturopathic doctor and bestselling author Lara Briden breaks down what every woman should know about her hormones, menstrual cycle, and metabolic health. From your first period to perimenopause and beyond, this conversation challenges the idea that women are “broken” and instead empowers you to understand and work with your female body.Learn how hormonal birth control impacts your natural cycle, why ovulation is essential for long-term health, and how to navigate perimenopause and menopause as a natural life transition, not a medical failure. Lara also explains the importance of metabolic flexibility, the role of environmental factors in hormone disruption, and how to advocate for yourself in the doctor’s office.Perfect for women in their 20s through 50s+ who want real answers and actionable insights about their health.You’ll learn:– Why regular ovulation is critical—even if you’re not trying to get pregnant– How to recognize signs of perimenopause (and what to do)– What most women aren’t told about hormonal birth control– The truth about menopause hormone therapy (HRT)– How metabolic health affects hunger, mood, and weight– The impact of environmental toxins on hormonal balance– How to have better conversations with your healthcare provider📚 Books by Lara Briden:– Period Repair Manual– Hormone Repair Manual– Metabolism Repair Manual (NEW)🔗 Learn more at www.larabriden.com📸 Follow Lara on Instagram: @larabriden➡️ Start understanding your body like never before. Lara’s books are trusted by women and practitioners worldwide. Grab your copy and take charge of your hormonal, menstrual, and metabolic health today.💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerselfLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.