Control, Manage, Influence w/ Tori DaCosta
Tori DaCosta is a businesswoman, coach, author, and speaker who focuses on empowering leaders to lead themselves well. Her work centers on helping individuals create impactful lives through the transformative power of ownership. As a leader in a Fortune 50 company and a mentor, Tori brings insight into the value of learning through experiences as she inspires others to become the best versions of themselves. Mentioned on the Show Learn more about Tori DaCosta and her new book on her website: https://nonamebastard.com/ Connect with Tori DaCosta on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toridacosta Get the book No Name Bastard on Amazon: https://a.co/d/0dYbPV3J Timestamps (00:00:00) – Author and Coach Tori DaCosta sits down with O’Brien McMahon on the People Business Podcast. (00:01:50) – What led Tori to write No Name Bastard. (00:03:18) – How do leaders balance personal struggles and maintaining workplace expectations? (00:05:48) – How did Tori change her workplace culture to make room for employees’ personal challenges? (00:11:43) – The Control, Manage, Influence framework: what can we actually control? (00:14:20) – Why begin the book with the theme of saying “no”? (00:16:33) – What process helps clarify priorities? (00:18:39) – How do you build consistent behaviors day after day, and quarter after quarter? (00:19:18) – Where do people struggle most with saying “no”? (00:21:56) – When is “no” not the right answer? (00:22:42) – Are women more likely to hesitate about opportunities when they do not feel fully qualified? (00:26:59) – What is the story behind Tori’s “But Did You Die?” T-shirt? (00:32:16) – How can we recognize fear faster and engage with it instead of rationalizing avoidance? (00:37:09) – What does “you get what you tolerate” mean? (00:40:12) – How can leaders set boundaries without creating a robotic or punitive environment? (00:43:00) – How can people handle when they feel like the “other” or as an outsider? (00:51:54) – What final message would Tori like to leave with listeners?




