Leading You

Hosted by Julie Hyde | Leadership Coach for High Performing Leaders

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Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership? Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact. There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be. I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up. Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important. Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

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October 12, 202623 min

The Five Years I Wasn’t Sure I’d Get… and Why This Matters to You

Five years ago, in the middle of Melbourne’s COVID lockdown, I heard the words: “You have Stage 3 melanoma, and it’s aggressive.” At the time, I didn’t know whether I would make it to this five-year milestone. Now I’m here. And I want to stop and acknowledge it. This is a very personal episode of Leading You about what these five years have really looked like: surgery, treatment, scans, side effects, hospital stays, fatigue and an enormous amount of waiting. But there has also been so much life. I’ve worked. Travelled within Australia. Spoken on stages. Written a book. Hosted this podcast. Laughed a lot. And some of these past five years have been among the best years of my life. One of the biggest things I’ve learnt is this: You don’t need a crisis to change how you live. In this episode, I explore: Reaching the five-year milestone after my Stage 3 melanoma diagnosis Why I’m choosing to celebrate rather than immediately move the goalposts How serious illness changed my relationship with waiting Why resilience is often much more ordinary than we imagine Letting go of who I was before cancer and creating a life I love now Who gets the best of our energy, and who gets the leftovers Three questions to help you think differently about your next five years What self-leadership looks like when so much is outside your control I’m not going to pretend cancer suddenly made me enlightened. I still worry. I still work too much sometimes. I still get annoyed by things that don’t matter. But I understand time differently now. So I’ll leave you with one of the questions I ask in this episode: If the next five years went incredibly quickly, what would you be disappointed you hadn’t done? You don’t need something dramatic to happen before you build a life you genuinely want to be living. Don’t wait for the crisis to give yourself permission. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:23 Five Years Since Diagnosis 02:42 Googling Prognosis and Resolve 04:04 Living With Ongoing Treatment 06:04 Hope and Celebrating Milestones 09:58 Stop Waiting to Live 13:09 You Are Stronger Than You Think 14:58 Lead Her Collective Invitation 15:54 Three Questions for Your Life 20:32 Choose How You Lead Yourself 22:09 Gratitude and Final Goodbye Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

October 5, 202630 min

Conflict Isn't the Problem. How You Handle it is with Tim Duggan

What if conflict isn’t a sign that something has gone wrong? Most of us would rather avoid difficult conversations if we can. We hold things back, try to keep the peace or, at the other extreme, become defensive and determined to prove our point. But healthy conflict is an essential part of leadership, relationships and innovation. My guest on this episode of Leading You is award-winning author and founder Tim Duggan , whose latest book, Clear Intention: How to Get Better at Conflict , explores how we can become more skilful at navigating something every one of us experiences. Tim shares his CLEAR framework: Clarify, Listen, Explore, Align and Reset , and we explore why preparing for difficult conversations, understanding our own responses and learning to listen generously can completely change the way we handle conflict. In this episode, we discuss: Why so many of us instinctively avoid conflict Tim’s CLEAR framework for navigating difficult conversations How preparing for conflict can change the way we respond What emotional hijacking looks like and why awareness matters The relationship between trust, healthy tension and innovation Why generous listening is such a powerful leadership skill Why not every conflict needs to be resolved Strong teams aren’t necessarily conflict-free. When trust exists, people can challenge ideas, disagree and have robust conversations without making it personal. The question isn’t whether conflict exists. It’s how we handle it when it does. Timestamps 00:00 Why Conflict Matters 00:42 Meet Tim Duggan 02:16 Why He Wrote Clear Intention 04:38 From Avoider to Seeker 05:58 The CLEAR Framework 08:02 Clarify and Prepare 09:55 Event Invitation Break 10:51 Emotional Hijacking Explained 14:35 Healthy Conflict and Trust 18:52 Listen Generously 21:36 Surrender to Listen 24:51 Reset the Story Endings 26:57 First Step for Avoiders 29:13 Wrap Up and Review Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Tim: Website: https://timduggan.com.au/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timduggan1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tim_duggan/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

September 28, 202618 min

The Deadline You Never Agreed To: Why We Decide It’s Too Late

How many things have you already decided you’re too late for? A career change. Starting a business. Going back to study. Applying for a bigger role. Putting yourself forward. Starting again. In this solo episode of Leading You, I explore the invisible deadlines we place around our careers, ambition and reinvention, and how easily we can start treating those self-imposed timelines as fact. Inspired by my recent conversation with Ani, who began her career at 40, I also share my own experience of leaving a 21-year career in finance and starting my business at 39. Because starting again doesn’t mean starting from zero. You bring your experience, judgement, resilience, relationships, mistakes and perspective with you. That is leadership capital. In this episode, I explore: The self-imposed career and life deadlines we rarely question Why success and competence can sometimes make change harder The difference between starting again and starting from zero The leadership capital you carry into every new chapter Why waiting to be noticed can mean handing someone else responsibility for your next move Why we need to consider the risk of staying, not only the risk of changing How to take a next step without needing certainty or a complete roadmap Reinvention doesn’t have to mean blowing up your life. Sometimes it begins with a conversation, an application, an email, a question or simply admitting that what you wanted ten years ago isn’t necessarily what you want now. Perhaps the question was never, “Is it too late?” Maybe it’s: Who decided there was a deadline in the first place? Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:30 Annie’s Late Start 00:59 The Timeline Trap 02:41 Success Makes Change Hard 03:49 Surrendering Competence 05:13 Starting Again Isn’t Zero 08:05 Ask for What You Want 10:12 Too Late Stories 11:42 Lead Her Collective Invite 12:38 Sunk Cost and Staying 13:47 The Risk of Not Changing 14:57 Move Without Certainty 16:17 It’s Never Too Late 17:02 Final Question and Wrap Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

September 21, 202635 min

What If 40 Was Just the Beginning? with Anne-Marie Deieso

What if the timeline you think you should be following has very little to do with what you’re actually capable of? My guest on this episode of Leading You , Anne-Marie “Ani” Deieso, didn’t begin what she now considers her career until she was around 40. After making a deliberate choice to stay home and raise her children, Ani returned to work without a grand career plan. She eventually found her way into mortgage broking almost by accident, entering an industry she knew very little about while battling plenty of self-doubt. Today, Ani is Associate Director for Victoria at Loan Market. Her career has included mortgage broking, business ownership, Macquarie Bank, business coaching and senior leadership. In this conversation, we discuss: Starting a completely new career at 40 Why confidence is often built through action Moving beyond “fake it till you make it” The lessons parenting can teach us about leadership Authenticity, integrity and finding your own leadership style Resilience and learning what you can and cannot control The people and moments that can change how we see ourselves Why fear of regret can sometimes be more powerful than fear of trying Why there is no arbitrary deadline on ambition or growth Ani’s story is a wonderful example of why careers don’t need to follow a conventional timeline. Sometimes you take the next opportunity, learn something about yourself, build confidence and keep moving. Perhaps you haven’t missed your window at all. Timestamps 00:00 Resilience Origins 00:42 Meet Ani 02:58 Starting Work at 40 05:02 Accidental Mortgage Broking 08:16 Family Pressure and Purpose 10:53 Proving It to Yourself 13:02 Lead Her Collective Invite 13:59 Confidence and Recognition 17:11 Authentic Leadership Values 19:26 Mentors Who Backed Her 22:21 Parenting Lessons in Leadership 25:06 Resilience Tested and Rebuilt 32:03 It’s Never Too Late 34:04 Final Thanks and Wrap Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Anne-Marie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-marie-ani-deieso-a7736a57/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

September 14, 202617 min

Why is Asking For Help So Damn Hard?

Why is asking for help so hard, especially when you’re usually the capable one? I recently found myself exhausted, overwhelmed and lying awake at 2:00 am trying to solve every problem in my life at once. When a friend asked a very simple question, “Why don’t you ask for help?” , my immediate response was: I should be able to handle this. And that got me thinking. In this episode of Leading You , I explore why capable, strong and independent people can find it so difficult to ask for support, and what happens when being “the capable one” becomes part of our identity. We look at the relationship between independence and control, why “it’s easier if I do it myself” can turn leaders into bottlenecks, and what we inadvertently teach our teams when we always appear to have everything under control. In this episode, I explore: Why capable people often wait until they’re overwhelmed before asking for help How capability can become part of our identity The relationship between independence and control Why doing everything yourself can create a leadership bottleneck Why receiving support can feel harder than giving it What leaders model when they never ask for help How to recognise your warning signs before you reach capacity Perhaps being capable doesn’t mean being able to do everything alone. Maybe it means knowing yourself well enough to recognise when something is too much, trusting the people around you and being secure enough to ask for support. Ask yourself: What would I ask for if I didn’t believe asking made me less capable? Timestamps 00:00 Podcast Intro 00:50 Why Help Feels Hard 02:53 The Capable Identity Trap 04:20 Waiting Until Drowning 05:53 Control and Bottlenecks 08:29 Receiving and Reciprocity 09:36 Event Invitation 10:33 Leadership Ripple Effects 11:52 Redefining Capability 12:56 Catch the Signs Early 14:05 What to Ask For 16:22 Closing and Call to Action Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

September 7, 202617 min

When Your Voice Gets Louder: The Midlife Reckoning No One Talks About

Have you reached the point where you know you’ve had enough, but you have absolutely no idea what you want instead? I seem to be having this conversation with women everywhere. They’re less tolerant of things they once accepted, more protective of their time, more willing to speak up and less prepared to carry everybody else’s problems or keep doing things simply because they’ve always done them. And underneath it all is a feeling: something needs to change. In this episode of Leading You , I explore what happens when you begin to outgrow a life, identity, relationship or expectation that once suited you. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having a midlife crisis or need to dramatically reinvent your life. Sometimes, you’ve simply changed. We explore: Why becoming less tolerant can actually be useful information How we outgrow identities, relationships and definitions of success Why something can have been right for one chapter and wrong for the next How our relationship with time changes the choices we make Why knowing what you’re sick of is only the beginning Why “I don’t know yet” can be an honest and useful answer The questions that can help you work out what you want next Self-leadership eventually asks us to move beyond “What have I had enough of?” and towards a harder question: “What am I ready to choose?” Your next chapter doesn’t need to arrive as one enormous moment of clarity. Sometimes it begins with a boundary, a conversation, something you stop tolerating or one choice you start making differently. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:31 Sick of the Bullshit 03:02 Outgrowing Your Old Life 06:37 Time Changes Everything 07:40 Small Shifts Not Blowups 08:41 Sponsor Clarity Compass 09:34 From Complaints to Choices 11:04 Space Before Clarity 12:37 Questions to Ask Yourself 14:11 Pay Attention to Your Voice 16:35 Closing and Reviews Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

August 31, 202625 min

Could Having Lunch With 500 Strangers Change Your Life? with Nick Bendel

What could change if you became a little more willing to put yourself out there? My guest on this episode of Leading You , Nick Bendel, set himself an unusual challenge: to have lunch with 500 complete strangers. For an introvert who preferred staying home with a book and a cup of tea, it wasn’t the most obvious choice. But after starting a business, Nick realised that if he wanted different results, he needed to become more willing to connect, initiate and put himself out there. What began as a networking experiment became something much bigger. Over six years and 500+ lunches, Nick built an extraordinary network, developed greater confidence and discovered the power of what he calls social courage - taking action even when you don’t feel completely ready and despite the possibility of rejection, judgement or embarrassment. We talk about why social courage is like a muscle, why confidence often comes after taking action, and what happened when around 95% of Nick’s lunch invitations received no response. But perhaps the biggest change wasn’t his network. It was Nick himself. He became more proactive, more willing to ask and more prepared to create opportunities rather than wait for them. In this episode, we explore: Why an introvert decided to have lunch with 500 strangers What social courage is and how we can develop it Why confidence often follows action How repeated exposure changes our relationship with rejection Why we reject ourselves before giving other people the opportunity to say yes How curiosity creates more meaningful conversations Why small, sustainable actions can create significant change The increasing value of human skills in an AI-driven world How social courage can strengthen leadership, connection and opportunity You don’t need to start with 500 lunches. You simply need to begin. Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Nick: Website: https://www.nickbendel.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-bendel/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

August 24, 202615 min

Who is Your Biggest Competitor? It Might Not Be What You Think.

What if your biggest competitor isn’t another business, another leader or someone offering exactly what you do? What if it’s irrelevance? In a world where customer expectations, technology, workplaces and buying behaviour are constantly changing, being good at what you do is no longer enough. The bigger question is whether the value you bring is still relevant to what people need today - and where they’re heading tomorrow. In this episode of Leading You , I share a snapshot of my keynote on relevance and explore why successful people, leaders and businesses can be particularly vulnerable to becoming irrelevant. Using Kodak as an example, I look at what happens when we become more focused on protecting what made us successful than questioning what needs to come next. I also explore two of the biggest threats to relevance: busyness and playing not to lose . When we’re constantly delivering, reacting and managing what’s immediately in front of us, we stop looking up at what’s changing, out at what our clients or organisations need and ahead at what we need to become. In this episode: Why irrelevance may be your biggest competitor How yesterday’s success can become tomorrow’s limitation Why busyness can make us dangerously short-sighted What happens when we start playing not to lose Why staying relevant doesn’t mean chasing every trend The importance of communicating your value, not simply what you do Why your thinking demonstrates your future value My Relevance Reset: Look Up, Look Out and Look Ahead Time Stamps 00:00 Welcome and Setup 01:02 Irrelevance as Rival 02:07 Kodak Cautionary Tale 05:06 Why Leaders Disappear 06:48 Two Relevance Killers 10:46 Relevance Reset Framework 11:18 Look Up and Position 12:13 Look Out and Communicate 13:24 Look Ahead and Adapt 14:35 Choose Relevance Daily 15:24 Wrap Up and Invitation Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

August 17, 202631 min

Is It Them or Is It You? The Leadership Blind Spot Destroying Team Connection with Kylie Paatsch

What if the engagement problem in your team isn’t really an engagement problem at all? When people become disengaged, it’s easy to look outward - workload, culture, generational differences, competing priorities or the people themselves. But sometimes the more useful question for a leader is: How might I be contributing to this? In this episode of Leading You , I’m joined by executive coach, speaker, facilitator and author Kylie Paatsch to explore why connection sits at the heart of strong leadership, employee engagement and high-performing teams. Kylie shares a confronting moment from her own leadership career when she discovered members of her team had deliberately gone to lunch without her and spent the time expressing their frustrations about her leadership. Painful as it was, it prompted her to examine her own contribution, seek feedback and change the way she led. We explore why leaders can mistake proximity for genuine connection . Regular meetings, emails, Teams calls and constant communication can create the impression that relationships are strong, when the real question is whether your people feel understood, valued and able to be honest with you. Kylie also shares her practical Know, Show, Grow framework from her book The Connection Effect , designed to help leaders better understand their people, demonstrate that understanding through their behaviour and invest in their development. In this episode, we explore: Why engagement is an outcome and connection is one of the things that fuels it How your leadership may be contributing to team disengagement Why proximity and communication don’t necessarily create connection How to ask for feedback without becoming defensive Why protecting one-on-one time matters Kylie’s Know, Show, Grow framework Why connection is a leadership skill that can be developed Timestamps 00:00 Own Your Leadership 00:22 Meet Julie and Kylie 01:54 The Bathroom Moment 07:52 Why Leaders Miss It 10:53 Engagement vs Connection 15:35 The Feedback Conversation 19:48 Protect One-on-Ones 22:09 Know, Show, Grow Model 25:33 Show and Model Care 28:44 Grow Your People 30:24 Wrap Up and Next Steps 31:02 Ratings and Farewell Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Kylie: Website: https://kyliepaatsch.com.au/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kyliepaatsch Instagram: www.instagram.com/kyliepaatschleadership See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

August 10, 202613 min

Self-Advocacy: Why Staying Quiet Costs More Than You Think

What is staying quiet costing you? Self-advocacy is often associated with asking for a pay rise, negotiating a promotion or learning to be more assertive. But it goes much deeper than that. Self-advocacy is your willingness to participate in the decisions that shape your health, career, relationships, business and future. In this episode of Leading You , I explore why self-advocacy is an essential, yet often overlooked, leadership skill and why staying silent is rarely neutral. Every time we choose not to ask the question, seek clarification, challenge an assumption, contribute our perspective or communicate what we really want, we are still making a decision. And sometimes the cost of that decision is far greater than the discomfort of speaking up. I share how my understanding of self-advocacy changed following my diagnosis with stage three melanoma. I was surrounded by highly experienced specialists who understood cancer, but I came to realise something incredibly important: they knew cancer, but I knew myself. Both forms of knowledge mattered. That lesson reaches far beyond our health. How often do we conform because we don't want to create tension? Hope our hard work will eventually be noticed instead of communicating where we want to go? Advocate fiercely for our teams, clients, families and friends while accepting less for ourselves? And how often do we confuse being kind with being compliant? Self-advocacy isn't about dominating conversations, demanding your own way or becoming confrontational. Sometimes it starts with something much simpler: a thoughtful question. In this episode, I explore: Why silence is a decision, rather than a neutral position What my cancer experience taught me about questioning, clarification and trusting yourself Why self-advocacy begins before you ever speak The career cost of waiting for someone else to notice you Why your work can demonstrate your capability but can't communicate your ambition How conformity can stop us contributing perspectives that matter Why kindness, respect and collaboration don't require constant agreement Why we often advocate more strongly for others than ourselves How thoughtful questions can create clarity without creating unnecessary confrontation A simple place to begin if speaking up doesn't come naturally Your voice, perspective and needs deserve a place in the decisions that affect your life. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:37 Why Self-Advocacy Matters 01:33 The Melanoma Wake-Up Call 03:48 Self-Advocacy Starts With Believing Your Needs Matter 05:13 Lead.Her Collective Invitation 06:07 Conformity, Silence and Speaking Up 07:05 Stop Waiting to Be Chosen 08:18 Why We Advocate for Others, But Not Ourselves 09:26 Kindness Is Not Compliance 10:20 The Power of Asking Better Questions 11:00 Where Is Staying Quiet Costing You? 12:37 Thanks and Reviews Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more and register here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.