Leading You

Hosted by Julie Hyde | Leadership Coach for High Performing Leaders

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Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership? Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact. There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be. I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up. Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important. Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

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August 17, 202631 min

Is It Them or Is It You? The Leadership Blind Spot Destroying Team Connection with Kylie Paatsch

What if the engagement problem in your team isn’t really an engagement problem at all? When people become disengaged, it’s easy to look outward - workload, culture, generational differences, competing priorities or the people themselves. But sometimes the more useful question for a leader is: How might I be contributing to this? In this episode of Leading You , I’m joined by executive coach, speaker, facilitator and author Kylie Paatsch to explore why connection sits at the heart of strong leadership, employee engagement and high-performing teams. Kylie shares a confronting moment from her own leadership career when she discovered members of her team had deliberately gone to lunch without her and spent the time expressing their frustrations about her leadership. Painful as it was, it prompted her to examine her own contribution, seek feedback and change the way she led. We explore why leaders can mistake proximity for genuine connection . Regular meetings, emails, Teams calls and constant communication can create the impression that relationships are strong, when the real question is whether your people feel understood, valued and able to be honest with you. Kylie also shares her practical Know, Show, Grow framework from her book The Connection Effect , designed to help leaders better understand their people, demonstrate that understanding through their behaviour and invest in their development. In this episode, we explore: Why engagement is an outcome and connection is one of the things that fuels it How your leadership may be contributing to team disengagement Why proximity and communication don’t necessarily create connection How to ask for feedback without becoming defensive Why protecting one-on-one time matters Kylie’s Know, Show, Grow framework Why connection is a leadership skill that can be developed Timestamps 00:00 Own Your Leadership 00:22 Meet Julie and Kylie 01:54 The Bathroom Moment 07:52 Why Leaders Miss It 10:53 Engagement vs Connection 15:35 The Feedback Conversation 19:48 Protect One-on-Ones 22:09 Know, Show, Grow Model 25:33 Show and Model Care 28:44 Grow Your People 30:24 Wrap Up and Next Steps 31:02 Ratings and Farewell Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Kylie: Website: https://kyliepaatsch.com.au/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kyliepaatsch Instagram: www.instagram.com/kyliepaatschleadership See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

August 10, 202613 min

Self-Advocacy: Why Staying Quiet Costs More Than You Think

What is staying quiet costing you? Self-advocacy is often associated with asking for a pay rise, negotiating a promotion or learning to be more assertive. But it goes much deeper than that. Self-advocacy is your willingness to participate in the decisions that shape your health, career, relationships, business and future. In this episode of Leading You , I explore why self-advocacy is an essential, yet often overlooked, leadership skill and why staying silent is rarely neutral. Every time we choose not to ask the question, seek clarification, challenge an assumption, contribute our perspective or communicate what we really want, we are still making a decision. And sometimes the cost of that decision is far greater than the discomfort of speaking up. I share how my understanding of self-advocacy changed following my diagnosis with stage three melanoma. I was surrounded by highly experienced specialists who understood cancer, but I came to realise something incredibly important: they knew cancer, but I knew myself. Both forms of knowledge mattered. That lesson reaches far beyond our health. How often do we conform because we don't want to create tension? Hope our hard work will eventually be noticed instead of communicating where we want to go? Advocate fiercely for our teams, clients, families and friends while accepting less for ourselves? And how often do we confuse being kind with being compliant? Self-advocacy isn't about dominating conversations, demanding your own way or becoming confrontational. Sometimes it starts with something much simpler: a thoughtful question. In this episode, I explore: Why silence is a decision, rather than a neutral position What my cancer experience taught me about questioning, clarification and trusting yourself Why self-advocacy begins before you ever speak The career cost of waiting for someone else to notice you Why your work can demonstrate your capability but can't communicate your ambition How conformity can stop us contributing perspectives that matter Why kindness, respect and collaboration don't require constant agreement Why we often advocate more strongly for others than ourselves How thoughtful questions can create clarity without creating unnecessary confrontation A simple place to begin if speaking up doesn't come naturally Your voice, perspective and needs deserve a place in the decisions that affect your life. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:37 Why Self-Advocacy Matters 01:33 The Melanoma Wake-Up Call 03:48 Self-Advocacy Starts With Believing Your Needs Matter 05:13 Lead.Her Collective Invitation 06:07 Conformity, Silence and Speaking Up 07:05 Stop Waiting to Be Chosen 08:18 Why We Advocate for Others, But Not Ourselves 09:26 Kindness Is Not Compliance 10:20 The Power of Asking Better Questions 11:00 Where Is Staying Quiet Costing You? 12:37 Thanks and Reviews Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more and register here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

August 3, 202627 min

Burnout, Reinvention & Finding Yourself Again with Jacqui Hawkins

Trigger warning This episode includes discussions of vicarious trauma, suicide, child death, sudden death and breast cancer. What happens when you've achieved the career you once dreamed of... but something inside you knows it no longer fits? In this episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde sits down with former Deputy State Coroner Jacqui Hawkins to explore what it means to walk away from a prestigious career, navigate burnout, and reconnect with yourself after years of putting achievement first. Jacqui shares her deeply personal journey through vicarious trauma, motherhood, breast cancer and reinvention, along with the practices that helped her quiet the noise and trust her inner wisdom. In this episode: What it feels like to succeed in a career that no longer feels aligned. The hidden impact of vicarious trauma and chronic stress. The tension between achievement, identity and inner wisdom. Why changing careers doesn't automatically change old patterns. How journalling, meditation and breathwork created clarity. Why noticing life's "glimmers" can help you reconnect with yourself. Why meaningful change doesn't require you to blow up your life. Timestamps 00:00 Wisdom Within 00:22 Meet Julie and Jacqui 01:50 Chasing the Coroner Dream 03:44 Vicarious Trauma Toll 06:05 Masks and Motherhood 08:33 Lead.Her Collective Invite 09:28 Ego Versus Soul 12:17 Journalling for Clarity 15:10 Breast Cancer Wake-Up 19:18 Finding Glimmers Daily 21:52 Ancient Practices and Coaching 24:47 Get Quiet and Listen 26:48 Closing Thanks and Review Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Jacqui: Website: Lit Within LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jacqui-hawkins-2215a1295 Instagram: @litwithincoaching Podcast: That Day podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

July 27, 202618 min

What are You Trying to Prove? And to Who?

How many warning signs have you ignored because you convinced yourself you could just keep going? In this solo episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde explores a pattern she sees far too often in high-achieving women and leaders... pushing through exhaustion, ignoring the signals their bodies are sending, and wearing over-functioning as a badge of honour. Drawing on her own experience with cancer, Julie challenges the belief that resilience means never slowing down and asks one powerful question: What are you trying to prove... and to who? In this episode: Why high performers are particularly vulnerable to burnout. The difference between resilience and constantly pushing through. How over-functioning quietly becomes our identity. The warning signs your body may already be sending. Why leadership today requires a different way of operating. The questions every leader should ask before their body forces them to stop. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:48 The Push Through Trap 02:34 Burnout Signs and Statistics 07:24 Mental Load and Over-Functioning 09:18 When Your Body Forces You to Stop 10:05 Clarity Compass 11:20 My Wake-Up Call 14:09 Why We Need to Lead Differently 16:58 Questions Worth Asking Yourself 17:31 Final Thoughts Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

July 20, 202631 min

The 3am Wake Up Call | Sleep, Performance and Leadership | with Dr Jemma King

What if one of the biggest factors affecting your leadership isn't another course, another strategy or another productivity hack... but the quality of your sleep? In this episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde is joined by behavioural scientist and performance expert Dr Jemma King to explore the science of sleep and why it's one of the most overlooked drivers of leadership performance. Together, they unpack what really happens when you wake at 3am, how sleep impacts your ability to think, regulate emotions and make decisions, and the simple habits that can help you perform at your best. In this episode: Why sleep is a leadership strategy, not a luxury. What happens to your brain while you sleep. Why so many people wake at 2am or 3am. How poor sleep affects decision-making, resilience and emotional regulation. The role of cortisol, caffeine and circadian rhythms. Practical ways to improve your sleep and performance. Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Dr Jemma: Website: https://jemmakingbio-pa.com.au/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.jemma.king/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-jemma-king-phd-76013328/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

July 14, 202612 min

He Was Singing to His Baby and Didn't Care Who Was Watching

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't a lack of confidence...but caring too much about what other people think? In this episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde shares a simple moment from a morning walk that became an unexpected lesson in self-leadership. Watching a father joyfully sing to his baby daughter without worrying who might be listening sparked a powerful question... How much of your life are you editing because of an audience that isn't even watching? Julie explores why fear of judgement shapes our decisions more than we realise, how self-editing chips away at our confidence, and why authentic leadership begins with giving yourself permission to simply be yourself. In this episode: Why fear of judgement quietly influences our choices. How self-editing affects confidence and leadership. The hidden cost of trying to meet other people's expectations. Why authenticity is one of the greatest acts of self-leadership. A simple question that could change the way you show up. Timestamps 00:00 A Morning Walk That Made Me Think 01:28 The Invisible Audience We Carry 03:42 Where Are You Editing Yourself? 06:05 Confidence vs Approval 08:37 The Cost of Playing Small 10:56 Leading From Authenticity 13:14 One Question to Take Away Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

July 6, 202629 min

How to Be Happier with Declan Edwards

What if happiness wasn't something you had to chase, but something you could learn? In this episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde is joined by happiness expert, speaker and author Declan Edwards to explore the science behind happiness, emotional intelligence and why so many of us fall into the "I'll be happy when..." trap. Together they unpack why achievement alone doesn't create fulfilment, how our emotions influence those around us, and why happiness is less about circumstance and more about the skills we build every day. In this episode we discuss: Why we're pursuing happiness more than ever, yet feeling less fulfilled. The "hedonic treadmill" and why the goalposts keep moving. Why happiness is a learnable skill, not a personality trait. The link between emotional intelligence, leadership and wellbeing. How perfectionism, people pleasing and external validation affect happiness. Why relationships have a greater impact on happiness than success. A simple two-word exercise to improve emotional awareness. Timestamps 00:00 From 75 Skills to 5 00:43 Meet Declan Edwards 01:48 Why We Are Less Happy 04:17 Declan's Personal Turning Point 08:46 Building a Happiness Toolkit 09:54 Sponsor – Clarity Compass 10:39 Happiness Is Contagious 14:49 Leadership's Ripple Effect 17:24 Five Core Happiness Skills 23:26 The Two-Word Emotional Check-In 27:26 Book Launch and Final Thoughts Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Declan: Website: https://declanedwards.com.au/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/declan-edwards-bu-happiness-college/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/declanedwards_bu/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

June 29, 202617 min

Interested or Commmitted? There's a Difference

How many times have you told yourself: "I'm going to do that." "I really should get onto that." "This year will be different." And then… nothing changes? In this episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde explores one of the biggest reasons capable people fail to create meaningful change: the difference between being interested in something and being truly committed to it. Using a simple but surprisingly powerful story about homemade muesli bars, Julie unpacks the psychology behind why good intentions rarely lead to consistent action. She explores the "intention-behaviour gap"—the space between what we say we want to do and what we actually follow through on. Drawing on the research of psychologist Peter Gollwitzer, Julie explains why people are dramatically more likely to achieve their goals when they move beyond vague intentions and make specific commitments about when, where and how they'll take action. Whether it's your leadership, health, relationships or personal growth, this episode will challenge you to stop confusing wanting something with deciding to do it. In this episode, we discuss: The difference between being interested and being committed The psychology behind the intention-behaviour gap Why good intentions rarely create lasting change How procrastination keeps capable people stuck Why language shapes mindset and behaviour The power of specificity, structure and accountability Why clarity matters more than motivation How commitment changes focus, energy and follow-through Leadership habits that stay stuck in "interested" mode Practical strategies to turn intention into action This is a practical, honest and highly relatable conversation about self-leadership, accountability and closing the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Theme 00:16 The Muesli Bars Lesson 02:21 The Intention vs Action Gap 03:27 The 50/50 Problem 05:23 Interested or Committed? 08:01 How Language Shapes Behaviour 10:09 Three Practical Steps 10:22 Step One: Name It 11:40 Step Two: When, Where and How 13:05 Step Three: Meaning and Honesty 15:23 Wrap Up and Next Actions 16:51 Clarity Compass and Farewell Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

June 22, 202632 min

The Flatness No One Talks About. Nervous System, Burnout and Finding Your Way Back with Saru Gupta

What happens when you've achieved everything you thought would make you happy… but something still feels missing? In this episode of Leading You , Julie Hyde sits down with Saru Gupta to explore a reality many high-achieving leaders experience but rarely talk about openly: emotional flatness. On paper, life looks successful. The career is progressing. Relationships are intact. Goals are being achieved. Yet underneath it all sits a quiet sense of disconnection that many leaders struggle to explain. Drawing on her own journey through corporate leadership, burnout, grief, divorce and personal transformation, Saru shares why mindset alone is not always enough. Together, Julie and Saru explore the connection between nervous system health, emotional regulation and embodied leadership, and why reconnecting with ourselves may be the missing piece many ambitious people are searching for. This conversation challenges the belief that the answer is always another promotion, another goal or another achievement. Instead, it offers a different perspective: that sustainable leadership starts by understanding what your body, emotions and nervous system have been trying to communicate all along. In this episode, we discuss: Why high achievers often mistake emotional flatness for burnout The difference between mindset work and nervous system regulation Why constantly chasing the next achievement doesn't create lasting fulfilment How emotional awareness helps us become stronger leaders The signs you may be disconnected from yourself without realising it Why curiosity is more powerful than self-criticism The role of embodied leadership in sustainable success How nervous system health influences performance and wellbeing Practical ways to reconnect with yourself Three powerful questions to help you slow down and listen If you've ever felt successful on paper but disconnected on the inside, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it really means to thrive. Timestamps 00:00 Nervous System First 00:22 Podcast Introduction & Meet Saru Gupta 01:56 Success on the Outside, Disconnection on the Inside 03:38 Chasing the Next High 05:28 Leaving Corporate and the Crash That Followed 06:24 The Whole Self Method Explained 09:12 Why We Avoid Difficult Feelings 12:11 What Emotional Flatness Really Feels Like 14:21 Clarity Compass Break 15:13 Mindset vs Nervous System Regulation 18:22 Why Internal Safety Matters More Than Strategy 18:40 The Whole Self Method Pillars 19:46 Rewiring the Nervous System 21:58 The Ordinary Signs You're Reconnecting 23:19 The Messy Middle and Burnout Recovery 24:20 The Self-Criticism and Burnout Cycle 25:52 Starting with Curiosity 28:14 The Two-Minute Daily Practice 30:34 Three Questions to Ask Yourself Daily 31:46 Closing Reflections and Farewell Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au Connect with Saru: Website: https://sarugupta.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saru-gupta/ Instagram: @iamsarugupta See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

June 15, 202621 min

What Do You Want When Nobody Needs Anything From You?

What happens when a woman becomes so good at responding to everyone else’s needs that she completely loses connection to her own? In this deeply reflective episode of Leading You, Julie Hyde explores a question that stops even the most capable women in their tracks: “What do you want when nobody needs anything from you?” It sounds simple. But for many high-performing women, the answer is far more difficult than expected. This episode dives into why so many successful women lose touch with their own desires, needs and sense of self after years of being rewarded for competence, responsibility and reliability. Julie unpacks the hidden cost of constantly being the “safe pair of hands” — the person everyone depends on — and why that identity can quietly crowd out personal fulfilment, joy and direction. Through stories from coaching clients and insights from years working with leaders and ambitious women, Julie explores: Why high-performing women struggle to answer what they truly want The difference between knowing what to do and knowing what you desire How responsibility, identity and fear bury personal fulfilment Why many women feel foggy, flat or disconnected despite looking successful on the outside The emotional cost of constantly living in response mode The role of people pleasing, obligation and performance identity How to reconnect with yourself without needing to blow up your life Why silence and space are essential for clarity The danger of building a life around “should” Small but powerful ways to reconnect with your own voice again Julie also shares the story of a highly accomplished client who realised she had spent years knowing exactly what everyone else needed from her — but no longer knew what she needed for herself. This episode is an invitation to pause long enough to ask yourself an honest question many women have not considered in years. What do you actually want? Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and Big Question 02:15 Why the Silence Happens 02:41 Client Story Feeling Stuck 04:21 Doing Next vs Wanting 06:42 Three Ways Desire Gets Buried 11:32 The Hidden Cost of Not Knowing 12:25 Penny and Reconnecting 14:39 Three Starting Points 15:11 Silence and Small Questions 18:12 Separate Wants from Shoulds 19:32 Closing Reflection and Choice 21:25 Clarity Compass Invitation 22:07 Thanks and Goodbye Links: Learn more about my group coaching program here Get the Clarity Compass here Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/ Instagram: @juliehydeleads Website: https://juliehyde.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.