How to Get What You Want

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Aug 2026

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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want , Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meeting When you ask for an opportunity When you handle workplace conflict When you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

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August 11, 2026Episode 20512 min

Stop Asking For Feedback The Wrong Way

Send us Fan MailA senior leader wraps up a conversation and asks what they can do for you. You reach for the question you've been taught to ask. Where can I improve, and what are my blind spots?It feels like the responsible thing to say. But that question does something to the person across from you that you don't see happening in the moment, and by the time you realize it, the impression is already set.There's a specific swap that changes what someone walks away thinking about you, and once you hear it, you'll notice how often you've been doing the opposite.In this episode, I'll cover:The real reason that "blind spots" question works against youA better question to ask when someone offers to help you growHow to be intentional about who you ask, and when🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

August 4, 2026Episode 20417 min

The Shift Most New Leaders Never Make

Send us Fan MailThere's a moment after every promotion where you have a decision to make, even if you don't realize you're making it. Keep leading the way that got you here, or figure out what this new role actually needs from you. Most leaders default to the first one without noticing.That default is a negotiation problem, not a personality trait. The way you show up sets the pattern for how everyone around you responds, and if you don't reset it, neither will they.That's the shift most new leaders skip, and it's not automatic just because your title changed.In this episode, I'll cover:Say the shift out loud, to your team and to yourselfAsk more questions instead of jumping straight to answersAnticipate what your boss needs before they have to ask🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

July 28, 2026Episode 20313 min

What To Do When Your Team's Work Missed The Mark

Send us Fan MailYou ask someone on your team for a draft, and what comes back isn't even close to what you had in mind. It's easy to chalk that up to a skills gap, but that's rarely the real problem.I'm breaking down what's actually happening in that gap between what you pictured and what got delivered, and why the fix isn't about micromanaging harder. It comes down to something most leaders skip entirely, and once you see it, you can't unsee it in your own team.In this episode, I'll cover:Notice the pattern behind every "that's not what I asked for" momentRethink whether it's really a them problem or a you problemSee what's actually missing before you blame the person who delivered it🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

July 21, 2026Episode 20220 min

Three Questions That Make Accomplished Leaders Go Quiet

Send us Fan MailI have three questions I come back to more than almost any other with my clients, and every time, I watch a smart, accomplished leader go quiet. Not because they're unsure. Because they've never had to answer it before.I'm sharing what those three questions are and what that quiet usually means. It's rarely about what people think it's about, and once you see it, it's hard to unsee.In this episode, I'll cover:Recognize when you're treating something as fixed that's actually up for negotiationNotice what you're not saying, even when you think you've been clearWalk into your next high-stakes conversation seeing what you've been missing🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

July 14, 2026Episode 20117 min

Nobody Asked If You Were Okay With That

Send us Fan MailThere's a version of negotiation that has nothing to do with raises or job offers. It happens in ordinary conversations, when an agreement quietly becomes something bigger than what you actually said yes to.Most people don't catch it in the moment. They catch it later, and by then they've already started doubting themselves instead of questioning what changed. That self-doubt is doing more damage than the shift itself.I'm breaking down why this happens, how to spot it before it becomes a habit, and what to do the next time you feel that gap between what you agreed to and what you're now expected to do.In this episode, I'll cover:Why scope creep is a negotiation problem most people never label as oneThe difference between doubting your memory and correctly identifying a shiftWhat to do the moment you notice the gap, before it becomes a pattern🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

July 7, 2026Episode 20017 min

Things Nobody Told You About Leading Through an AI Rollout

Send us Fan MailAlmost every company is rolling out AI right now, but far fewer have any idea how to actually adopt it.That gap is where leaders are getting caught. The pressure is to cut costs and move fast, so the message becomes "everyone start using AI" with almost no conversation about how. Meanwhile, your team is picking it up at completely different speeds, and the differences start showing up in trust, in communication, in who's actually still growing.In this episode, I'll cover:Spot the signal that someone's communication has quietly shiftedGet your team adopting AI together instead of at different speedsDecide what to delegate to AI and what to keep human on purpose🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

June 30, 2026Episode 19918 min

The Skill That Stops You From Overcommitting

Send us Fan MailSomeone asks you to take something on, and before they've even finished, you've already said yes. You didn't check your calendar. You didn't ask if it was your job. And three weeks later, you're carrying work you never wanted and quietly resenting the person who handed it to you.That yes was automatic. And automatic isn't the same as generous.This episode is about catching that yes before it leaves your mouth, and saying no instead in a way that's warm, fast, and doesn't cost you the relationship. Learning to pause in that split second is how you stop overcommitting and start getting what you want.In this episode, I'll cover:The hidden cost of a yes you give without thinkingWhy a quick no protects your relationships more than a slow maybeWhat actually keeps you stuck saying yes when you mean no🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

June 23, 2026Episode 19820 min

What to Do When the Answer Is No

Send us Fan MailGetting a no can throw you in a way that doesn't really make sense until you've felt it. You make the ask, it doesn't land, and suddenly you're quiet and a little off your game, and the worst part is how long that feeling sticks around afterward.What you might not realize is that the people in the room feel it too. They're not walking away thinking about what you asked for. They're thinking about how you handled not getting it, and that impression can quietly shape how they see you for a long time. In this episode, I get into why no hits us so hard, why so many of them slip past us disguised as something softer, and how to stop letting a single no knock you off your footing.In this episode, I'll cover:Why a no can rattle you more than it should and what's actually behind thatThe kind of no most people completely missHow to stay steady and keep the conversation going when you don't get the yes🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

June 16, 2026Episode 19718 min

How to Get Into the Rooms You're Not In Yet

Send us Fan MailYou've watched a colleague get tapped for the senior meeting, the stretch project, the introduction you didn't know was happening. And your first thought wasn't resentment, it was confusion. They know how hard you work. They know what you're capable of. So why aren't they picking you?Because people don't live in your head, and if you haven't told them where you want to go, they're not guessing.In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually takes to get access to the opportunities, rooms, and relationships that will move your career forward. It's not about doing more. It's about signaling differently.In this episode, I'll cover:Why the people around you are picking whoever raised their hand, not whoever worked the hardestHow to get clear on what you actually want so you can start framing it to the right peopleThe small actions that get you seen differently without waiting for someone to notice you on their own🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

June 9, 2026Episode 19616 min

The Right Time to Ask Is Never Going to Feel Right

Send us Fan MailYou keep delivering. You keep saying yes to more responsibility. And somewhere in the back of your mind, you tell yourself it's just not the right time to ask for the title, the raise, the recognition you've been waiting on.But on the other side of that silence, your boss isn't waiting with you. They're watching you perform and assuming you're fine.In this episode, I'll cover:Why silence signals satisfaction, even when you're anything butThe 90-day window that determines whether your yes becomes leverage or assumptionThree moves to take in the next 72 hours so you stop leaving it on the table🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

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Stop Asking For Feedback The Wrong Way

The Shift Most New Leaders Never Make

What To Do When Your Team's Work Missed The Mark

Three Questions That Make Accomplished Leaders Go Quiet

Nobody Asked If You Were Okay With That

Things Nobody Told You About Leading Through an AI Rollout

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What to Do When the Answer Is No

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