How to Get What You Want

Hosted by Susie Tomenchok

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Jun 2026

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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want , Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meeting When you ask for an opportunity When you handle workplace conflict When you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

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June 16, 2026Episode 19717 min

How to Get Into the Rooms You're Not In Yet

Send us Fan MailYou've watched a colleague get tapped for the senior meeting, the stretch project, the introduction you didn't know was happening. And your first thought wasn't resentment, it was confusion. They know how hard you work. They know what you're capable of. So why aren't they picking you?Because people don't live in your head, and if you haven't told them where you want to go, they're not guessing.In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually takes to get access to the opportunities, rooms, and relationships that will move your career forward. It's not about doing more. It's about signaling differently.In this episode, I'll cover:Why the people around you are picking whoever raised their hand, not whoever worked the hardestHow to get clear on what you actually want so you can start framing it to the right peopleThe small actions that get you seen differently without waiting for someone to notice you on their own_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

June 9, 2026Episode 19615 min

The Right Time to Ask Is Never Going to Feel Right

Send us Fan MailYou keep delivering. You keep saying yes to more responsibility. And somewhere in the back of your mind, you tell yourself it's just not the right time to ask for the title, the raise, the recognition you've been waiting on.But on the other side of that silence, your boss isn't waiting with you. They're watching you perform and assuming you're fine.In this episode, I'll cover:Why silence signals satisfaction, even when you're anything butThe 90-day window that determines whether your yes becomes leverage or assumptionThree moves to take in the next 72 hours so you stop leaving it on the table_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

June 2, 2026Episode 19519 min

The Career Move No One Else Can Make for You

Send us Fan MailYou see a colleague get the stretch assignment. You think, "Good for them." And then, quietly, "Why not me?"That moment is where most people stop. But that question, "Why not me?" is exactly where a negotiator starts. Research shows 46% of managers don't even know what their people want next. That's not on them. That's on you knowing it first.Getting what you want at work starts long before any conversation. It starts with being clear enough to say it out loud.In this episode, I'll cover:Identify what you actually want beyond just the next titleAsk the right people for perspective, including those outside your direct chainFrame what you want in a way that makes it easy for others to say yes_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

May 26, 2026Episode 19422 min

Office Politics Isn't Dirty, It's How You Get What You Want

Send us Fan MailMost of us hear "office politics" and immediately distance ourselves. It sounds manipulative, underhanded, like something people with questionable integrity do to get ahead. So we opt out. We stay professional, stay quiet, keep our heads down.But opting out is still a choice. And while you're making it, someone else is in the room getting credit for your idea, volunteering to send out your work, and positioning himself for the opportunity you didn't raise your hand for.In this episode, I'll cover:Why refusing to engage with office politics is still a position, and what it costs youThe three-part formula that separates real influence from manipulationHow to make your value visible without becoming someone you're not_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

May 19, 2026Episode 19319 min

Why the Most Prepared Person in the Room Always Wins

Send us Fan MailYou've been thinking about a conversation for days, maybe longer, and when you finally walk in, something unexpected happens. The other person says something that catches you off guard, the energy shifts, and suddenly everything you planned feels out of reach. You end up agreeing to something you didn't mean to, and you spend the drive home wondering how it went sideways so fast.That moment isn't about confidence. It's about preparation, and specifically what happens when the other person in that room did more of it than you did.In this episode, I'll cover:Why "being good on the fly" is a myth that puts even experienced people at a serious disadvantageThe three things to write down before any high-stakes conversation so your past self can anchor you when emotions take overHow your emotions can be used as a tactic against you, and why preparation is the thing that takes that off the table_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

May 12, 202618 min

When to Push and When to Pause in High Stakes Conversations

Send us Fan MailYou're ready for the client presentation, the meeting with your boss, the room full of people counting on you to speak. You rehearsed, you have a plan, and the moment finally comes. But the energy is tight, something feels off, and instead of pausing to read it, you push through anyway. The call goes hollow. And you know it the second it's over.That gap between what you prepared for and what the room actually needed? That's where situational awareness lives. And it's the one thing that separates the people who rise in an organization from the ones who stay stuck wondering what went wrong.In this episode, I'll cover:Recognize when you're running your script instead of reading the roomPrepare for the meeting you might get, not just the one you planned forBuild a feedback habit so it stops feeling like a threat when it finds you_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

May 5, 2026Episode 19117 min

What Imposter Syndrome Actually Looks Like in High Performers

Send us Fan MailSeventy percent of people experience imposter syndrome at some point, and it hits hardest in high achievers. The more capable you are, the wider the gap feels between how others see you and how you see yourself. And the sneaky part is it rarely looks like doubt. It looks like stepping back, staying quiet, giving someone else the floor and calling it professional.That quiet step backward has a cost. In this episode, I'm getting specific about where it actually shows up in leadership and what starts to shift when you learn to catch it.In this episode, I'll cover:Recognize how imposter syndrome actually shows up in high-stakes momentsShift your focus off self-doubt and onto the contribution the room expects from youUse three specific moves to start building the muscle that pushes doubt out of the way_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

April 28, 2026Episode 19019 min

Why Getting Things Done Isn't Getting You Noticed

Send us Fan MailYour calendar is full. You're keeping up, moving fast, and honestly proud of what you're getting done. Then you find out there's a major cross-functional initiative in the works and your name wasn't on the list.It's not a confidence problem. It's not a performance problem. But something is quietly happening to the way you're thinking, and it's costing you visibility at exactly the moment it matters most.In this episode, I'll cover:Recognize the three signs that your mindset has shifted into execution mode without you noticingReclaim strategic thinking even when your schedule feels completely packedTake one specific action this week to start showing up where the opportunities actually are_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

April 21, 2026Episode 18920 min

The Excuses You Make That Are Costing You What You Want

Send us Fan MailYou picked the day. You thought through exactly what you were going to say. And then your boss pushed the meeting and you felt, if you're honest, a little relieved. So you reset the date. And then something else came up. And then again. And before you know it, you've talked yourself out of it so many times that the ask never happens.That's not strategy. It's directly connected to getting what you want, and every time you find a reason to wait, you're giving yourself a no before anyone else even has the chance to say yes.In this episode, I'll cover:How to recognize when you're protecting yourself instead of being strategicWhy there is no perfect timing and what to do insteadHow to create accountability that actually closes the gap between intention and action_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

April 14, 2026Episode 18817 min

The Meeting Mistake That Makes You Forgettable

Send us Fan MailThink about the last time you had something to say in a meeting and didn't say it. Maybe you were waiting for the right moment. Maybe someone else was talking and you thought you'd jump in after. And then the conversation shifted, and the moment passed, and someone else said something close enough to your idea that everyone moved on without you.That's not just a missed moment. It's directly connected to getting what you want in your career. Every time you stay silent, you're leaving other people to define what you bring to the table. And the story they tell about you is usually not the one you'd choose.In this episode, I'll cover:Why silence isn't neutral and what people actually think when you don't speak upHow to shift your perspective so you stop defending your silencePractical ways to get your voice in the room, even when you don't feel ready_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiationLearn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training_____________________Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.💕Susiewww.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok