
Resolving Workplace Conflict Before the Drama Gets Out of Hand with Amy McDowell & Sasha Vaikhman
In episode 275, Coffey talks with Amy McDowell and Sasha Vaikhman about resolving workplace conflict before it grows into a complaint, a resignation, or a lawsuit. ________________________ NEW! Sign up for the Good Morning HR Thursday News Brief to get a quick rundown of HR-related news items that caught Mike’s attention and read his take. Read this week’s and sign up for it here. ________________________ They discuss why workplace conflicts escalate when managers and HR avoid difficult conversations; how facilitated workplace conflict resolution differs from legal mediation and arbitration; when complaints involving harassment or discrimination belong with legal counsel instead of a facilitated conversation; how employers in Europe and Asia already use neutral facilitators to get ahead of employee disputes; running separate one-on-ones that let employees vent, feel heard, and see the impact on their team; the forward-looking question that turns a joint session into brainstorming instead of relitigating the past; modeling active listening and gently redirecting "always" and "never" language; why voluntary participation and employee buy-in drive lasting results; drafting a written agreement with specific, measurable behavioral commitments the employees create themselves; scheduling 30-day follow-ups and deciding upfront whether broken commitments carry consequences; how a documented reset supports progressive discipline without limiting the employer’s right to manage performance; what to do when the process ends in an impasse; and prioritizing facilitated resets for high-value, hard-to-replace employees so HR doesn’t become a full-time referee. For HR teams who discuss this podcast in their team meetings, we’ve created a discussion starter PDF to help guide your conversation. Download it here https://goodmorninghr.com/EP275 Good Morning, HR is brought to you by Imperative—Bulletproof Background Checks. For more information about our commitment to quality and excellent customer service, visit us at https://imperativeinfo.com. If you are an HRCI or SHRM-certified professional, this episode of Good Morning, HR has been pre-approved for half a recertification credit. To obtain the recertification information for this episode, visit https://goodmorninghr.com. About our Guest: Amy S. McDowell and Sasha Vaikhman are the co-founders of Inquiring Minds, a Houston practice providing workplace investigations, early employee conflict resolution, and HR training. Between them they have practiced more than 50 years as employment lawyers, much of it in-house in the energy sector - Amy at what was once Marathon Oil (now ConocoPhillips), and Sasha at Grizzly. Both are past Presidents of the American Petroleum Labor Lawyers Association (APLLA). Amy has spent over 25 years on sensitive workplace matters, from two-person disputes to large-scale investigations, and employers rely on her for findings that are thorough, fair, and defensible. Sasha brings nearly 25 years of legal experience, the last three of them in independent practice as a workplace investigator, alongside her separate litigation mediation practice at MediationMaven.com. The combination lets her approach conflict with rigor and empathy both. Together they’re a good balance. Amy is a soft-spoken diplomat; Sasha is tenacious, with an infectious laugh. Their company mascot is an octopus, because the octopus is a brilliant and creative problem solver (and modest). They don’t take themselves too seriously - just the work. Amy and Sasha can be reached at https://www.iminvestigations.com, https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-mcdowell-8b3815124/ and https://www.linkedin.com/in/sasha-vaikhman-b08650101/ About Mike Coffey: Mike Coffey is an entrepreneur, licensed private investigator, HR consultant, and registered yoga teacher. In 1999, he founded Imperative, a background investigations and due diligence firm helping risk-averse clients make better people decisions. Imperative delivers in-depth employment background investigations, know-your-customer and anti-money laundering compliance, and due diligence investigations to more than 300 risk-averse corporate clients across the US, and, through its PFC Caregiver & Household Screening brand, hundreds more private estates, family offices, and personal service agencies. Imperative has been named a Best Places to Work, the Texas Association of Business’ small business of the year, and is accredited by the Professional Background Screening Association. Mike serves as a board member of a number of organizations, including the Texas State Council, where he serves Texas’ 30 SHRM chapters as State Director-Elect; Workforce Solutions for Tarrant County; the Texas Association of Business; and the Fort Worth Chamber of Commerce, where he is chair of the Talent Committee. Mike is a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources (SPHR) through the HR Certification Institute and a SHRM Senior Certified Professional (SHRM-SCP). He is also a Yoga Alliance registered yoga teacher (RYT-200) and teaches multiple times each week. Mike and his very patient wife of 29 years are empty nesters in Fort Worth. Learning Objectives: 1. Distinguish interpersonal workplace conflicts suited to facilitated resolution from complaints involving harassment, discrimination, or other potential legal claims that require counsel or an investigation. 2. Conduct one-on-one sessions that help employees feel heard and recognize how a conflict is affecting their team. 3. Facilitate a joint session using forward-looking questions so employees generate and own their solutions. 4. Draft a written conflict resolution agreement with specific, measurable behavioral commitments and scheduled follow-up. 5. Prioritize which workplace conflicts justify the time investment of a facilitated reset, including those involving high-value or hard-to-replace employees.















