Ready for practical and positive perspectives on conflict? Join host Jane Beddall, M.A., J.D., to explore ways to preserve and restore harmony by preventing or limiting conflicts that may damage valued relationships and to effectively resolve those that may occur. We will talk about elephants in the room, expanding pies, the problem with cookie cutters, and much more. If you don’t know what those things mean, you will enjoy learning about them. If you do know them, you will be able to expand your understanding with some new points of view to consider. Would you like to learn more about Jane and her 30-year fascination with conflict, her work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach? Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Please visit https://www.dovetailresolutions.com/ or https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/, or start a conversation at jb@dovetailresolutions.com!
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October 15, 20263 min
How many ways to say, “talk less, listen more”?
I was recently reminded of the value of talking less and listening more. There are plenty of variations on that theme.Whichever way it is phrased, it’s worth putting into practice. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
October 8, 202625 min
Matt Wesley on family culture
Matt Wesley joins me on the show today. We talk about his work with families, fostering resilience over generations. We discuss the concept of family culture, the power of grace, and the distinction between fate and destiny. You can learn more about his work and explore resources and writings at his company website: https://www.ascendfamilyadvisory.com/ Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
October 1, 20264 min
“Satisficing” part two: using it in conflict situations
Last time, I said a few words about the concept of “satisficing”. Herbert Simon, a Nobel Prize winner for Economics, coined the term decades ago. It’s a combination of satisfy and suffice. It’s tempting to embrace maximizing – if I look long and hard enough, I will find the best possible option. But there is a cost. How does the concept of satisficing apply to conflict? Different ways. First, we can get frustrated if events, people, or relationships are not rolling out as we wish they were, in our ideal world. We can consider, right off the bat, if that maximizing perspective is serving us well. Second, we can decide that we really want to address a specific problem. If we are set on satisficing, we can consider with some care what we can live with. Third, when we are actually addressing the problem, with one or more other people, we can look at the possibilities. If we are maximizing, we might refuse to agree to a less-than ideal option. Yet, if we are satisficing, we can look at the bigger picture. What is the cost -- to me – of standing my ground, refusing to bend. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
September 24, 20264 min
“Satisficing” part one: understanding the concept
Herbert Simon coined the term “satisficing” – a combination of satisfy and suffice. It’s easy to think that the best way to make decisions is to search for the very best option. If we look carefully and take plenty of time, we will find it. This approach is called maximizing. Simon believed this was the wrong approach. Not necessarily obvious on the face of it. But he understood that the searching itself had a cost, a cost that’s easy to overlook. In contrast to maximizing, satisficing calls on us to consider a few alternatives, evaluate them, perhaps get some advice, and reach a decision. A decision that will satisfy and suffice. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
September 17, 202633 min
Jay Hughes on Family Flourishing: The True Meaning of Wealth
Jay Hughes returns to the show to talk with me about the new book he co-authored with Mary Duke and Stacey Allred, Family Flourishing: The True Meaning of Wealth. We talk about his abiding interest in wealth as well-being, some of his insights on history and philosophy, and practical ideas that any family can put into practice. Jay refers to the book Homo Ludens ( A Study of the Play-Element in Culture ) by the Dutch cultural historian and philosopher Johan Huizinga, which translates literally from the Latin as "man the player" or "man at play". (The book Man at Play , with that exact English title, was written by the German Jesuit theologian Hugo Rahner, Rahner explicitly drew his inspiration and foundational concepts from Johan Huizinga's Dutch work.) The mission of The James E. Hughes, Jr. Foundation is “Advancing the study of family governance and generational well-being.” Many resources are available here: https://jehjf.org/ . Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
September 10, 20263 min
Assuming the worst
When we are in a situation that is mildly unsettling, a little dicey, possibly heading toward a nasty conflict, we can assume the worst about the other person, the situation, and/or ourselves. That assumption does not serve us well. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
September 3, 20264 min
Conflict and the attention economy: Part 2
Last time, I talked a bit about the meaning of the “attention economy”, a term coined over fifty years ago by Herbert Simon, a Nobel prize winner for economics. The idea is that human focus is a limited natural resource. From a conflict perspective, quick thinking rarely serves us well. So, what do we do? First, as with many things, recognize what is going on in ourselves. Second, once we are aware of a growing tendency to embrace speed, we can be more conscious of the value of slowing down. Third, we can recognize that others are subject to these same external forces that are encouraging speed. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
August 27, 20263 min
Conflict and the attention economy: Part 1
The “attention economy” is a term coined over fifty years ago by Herbert Simon, a Nobel prize winner for economics. The idea is that human focus is a limited natural resource. Speedy, reactive thinking is prioritized by our brains when we are exposed to it again and again. And rewarded, in a number of ways, for diving into it. This type of thinking, reactive and not especially deliberate, patient, or careful, becomes more and more comfortable. And the slower, truly thoughtful and contemplative type of thinking is used less. A type of thinking that took more effort to begin with is now seeming even more difficult as we just don’t do it as much. From a conflict perspective, nothing good comes from moving farther away from patient and careful thought to quick reaction. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
August 20, 20264 min
Episode 400: Why I do this
Over time, I have come to see my podcast as a way to give back. Through my own content, I can share what I have learned so far. And I can continue to learn and to share even more. My guests are … no one word sums them up.Insightful is the closest. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
August 13, 202629 min
Rana Gujral on the AI Instinct
Rana Gujral joins me to talk about his book, The AI Instinct: The Future of AI and Human Decision-Making. We discuss whether we humans are paying attention to the right things when we consider our relationship with AI and whether our fear of what we don’t know gets in the way of that. We talk about challenge of cognitive drift, the problem of oracle worship, and what we forfeit with a loss of friction. You can learn more about the book here: https://www.theaiinstinct.com/ . You can learn more about Rana’s work here: https://ranagujral.com/ and follow him on X here: @ranagujral.com. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com ! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/ . Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/
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