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December 24, 2025Episode 29021 min

How To Actually Clear Emotional Tension - Mediation #290

SET THE STANDARD (START HERE) https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo 10 DAY CHALLENGE (BUILD YOUR BASE) https://setthestandard.com.au/10daychallenge NEXT LEVEL RETREAT https://coreyboutwell.com/thenextlevelretreat DM me Here for info https://www.instagram.com/coreyboutwell/ Most guys try to “think” their way out of stress, anxiety, shame, or that tight weird feeling in the body and it keeps looping because the body never got to finish the emotion. This Emotional Processing Meditation is a guided nervous system release to help you move trapped energy through (without overthinking it): lock onto the transition points of your breath, name the emotion, locate it in the body, identify its “texture,” then let it move the way it wants to move (yawning, coughing, shaking, tensing, tears, sound). You’ll finish by bringing safety back online with gratitude + a quick reflection so the lesson lands and the charge doesn’t run your life. 00:00:00 Emotional Processing Meditation (setup) 00:00:33 Drop into the body (sensations + relax) 00:00:59 Breath transition points (in/out awareness) 00:02:07 What “emotional processing” actually is 00:04:21 Identify and label the emotion 00:06:13 Where it lives in your body (locate it) 00:07:06 Texture / object / direction (how it wants to move) 00:08:39 Let the body do the “weird” release (yawn/cough/shake) 00:10:45 Two-part dialogue (what do you need from me?) 00:12:04 Expand it to extremes (move, sound, surrender) 00:13:20 Self-guided release window (keep going) 00:17:00 Tapping both areas (deeper integration) 00:17:56 Capture the thoughts after (quick journal prompt) 00:18:50 Gratitude + safety cues (thank the body) 00:19:17 Closing (reach out / comment / forum) Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

December 7, 2025Episode 28935 min

I Ran A Mens Retreat With No More Mr Nice Guy... here is what happened

💪 NEXT LEVEL RETREAT - SPOTS LIMITED Learn The 3-Day Process To Clear Baggage, Reclaim Power And Lead As A Grounded Man https://coreyboutwell.com/thenextleve... 🎁 JOIN THE FREE 10 DAY CHALLENGE Social Skills That Helped Me Learn Attraction Without Dating Apps By Using Leadership in 10 Days👇 https://setthestandard.com.au/10daych... ⸻ Stop believing the lie that men’s work is just guys crying in a circle. This video breaks down what really happens inside The Next Level retreat and how a strong container turns judgement and isolation into brotherhood and grounded strength. You’ll see how key exercises and emotional releases let men face anger, grief and shame without numbing or exploding, and how that makes them safer, more powerful leaders at home and in the world. If you’ve ever wondered what a real men’s retreat is like, this is your look behind the curtain. 00:00:00 Post-retreat banter, jokes & setup 00:01:16 First impressions of The Next Level weekend 00:02:26 From judgement & comparison to brotherhood 00:03:42 Corey on being judged as a facilitator 00:05:18 Owning projections, defenses & the “real you” 00:08:52 SPACE JUMP: healing conversations with dad/others 00:10:36 Vicarious healing: when one man works, all men heal 00:12:12 Designing the emotional rollercoaster of the retreat 00:12:53 Heist simulation: exposing patterns under pressure 00:14:31 Holding space during the deepest releases 00:16:13 BRAG CIRCLE: claiming king energy 00:18:05 Integrating shadow, power & safety 00:24:08 Tools for regulation, breath & clear decisions 00:27:35 Final takeaways from each facilitator 00:31:11 Closing reflections, hugs & wrap up Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

July 28, 2025Episode 2881 hr 11 min

Men's BIGGEST Dating Mistake That Kills Relationships: Chris Bates #288

Join For The Insider Community- https://www.skool.com/setthestandard The fear of rejection, being too nice, and never making a move… If you’ve ever overthought your way into loneliness, struggled with ghosting, or felt stuck in “nice guy syndrome”, this episode is for you. Corey sits down with dating coach and author Chris Bates to break down modern dating for men: why masculine leadership matters, how to create intimacy without being manipulative, and why being radically yourself is the real dating superpower. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or just done pretending to be who she wants, this conversation will shift the way you date forever. Chris Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/batesdates/ Chris Website: https://www.batesdates.com/ Join Set The Standard (Free Men’s Community) https://www.skool.com/setthestandard/about 1 on 1 Coaching Application https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Follow Corey on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coreyboutwell/ 📍 Timestamps: 00:00 – Why men fail at modern dating 01:30 – Fear, analysis paralysis & vulnerability 03:00 – Creating non-negotiables vs outcome obsession 06:00 – Childhood wounds shaping attraction 08:20 – Hookup vs partnership mindset 10:45 – Dating horror story: when loneliness picks your dates 14:00 – Nervous system mismatch: why she felt off 16:00 – Signs you’re not confident or assertive 18:00 – Masculine leadership & Dom-ish polarity 20:00 – When leading creates tension (and when it doesn’t) 22:00 – Gamifying dating without being toxic 24:30 – Why adult play is the spice of life 27:00 – Dating as emotional gym reps 30:00 – Sh*t tests, authenticity & masculine frames 34:30 – Avoiding the friend zone through intimacy 37:00 – Emotional honesty vs emotional manipulation 42:00 – Corey’s story: attention, ego, and loss 45:00 – Chris’s story: depression, self-worth, and healing 47:30 – Post-divorce dating & leading with truth 52:00 – Radical transparency as a masculine edge 54:00 – No date is wasted — every one is a rep 56:00 – Feminine presence is healing, not validation 59:00 – The nice guy reframe: from pleasing to honest service 1:03:00 – Leadership, purpose & emotional safety in dating Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

July 22, 2025Episode 2871 hr 8 min

How Dads Are Saving Their Family From Work Addiction - Jon Vroman 287

Most high-performing men lead their business like a king but feel lost at home. In this episode, Jon Vroman (Front Row Dads) and I unpack the silent cost of masculine burnout and what it really takes to lead your family with presence, clarity, and calm. We dive into: • Nervous system regulation for fatherhood • Why kids don’t need a “perfect” dad—just a present one • How men unknowingly sabotage intimacy by overworking • Real masculine leadership (without burnout) Whether you’re a dad, husband, or future father figure, this convo will flip your lens on what power looks like in a family. Follow Jon on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jonvroman/ https://www.frontrowdads.com/ https://www.instagram.com/frontrowdads/ Join Set The Standard (Free Men’s Community) https://www.skool.com/setthestandard/about 1 on 1 Coaching Application https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Follow Corey on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coreyboutwell/ ⸻ ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 Masculine leadership starts at home 01:15 Why dads feel more pressure than ever 03:10 Jon’s burnout story: business wins, family disconnect 05:48 What children actually need from their father 07:24 Emotional safety over financial security 10:30 Nervous system = leadership foundation 12:40 Why “nice guys” fail at fatherhood 14:55 When work becomes your escape 18:12 How to repair after screwing up as a dad 21:34 Leading your relationship through conflict 25:08 Masculine embodiment and trauma 28:03 Front Row Dads mission 30:10 What Jon wishes more men knew Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

July 16, 2025Episode 2861 hr 47 min

How To Stop The Nice Guy Pandemic: JR Harvey Kings Community #286

Most men say they want purpose… but they’re actually addicted to struggle. In this episode, I sit down with JR Harvey founder of Kings Community and one of the most grounded, embodied mentors for men in the game to unpack what’s really keeping men stuck. We go deep on: • Why “managing pain” isn’t healing • The nervous system cost of constantly performing • Why men lead best when they stop trying to be liked • The addiction to helping others as a way to avoid yourself • And the real reason your relationship or leadership keeps collapsing This conversation isn’t for the guys looking for more mindset hacks. This is for the men who are ready to actually feel, lead with clarity, and build something sacred from a solid nervous system not from pressure and pretend power. If you’re over the noise, stuck in your head, or feel like the leader version of you is hiding this one will flip the switch. ⸻ 🔗 LINKS TO JR HARVEY Kings Community → https://www.instagram.com/kings__community/ 🔗 LINKS TO COREY IG: https://www.instagram.com/coreyboutwell 1:1 Coaching Application: https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Intro – Meet JR Harvey 01:12 Why Most Men Are Addicted to Pressure 03:45 Nervous System vs Nervous System Games 06:30 The Illusion of “Helping” While Avoiding Yourself 09:01 Leading Without Performing 12:20 What’s Under Your Need to Fix 15:10 Why “Doing The Work” Can Be a Trap 18:02 Sex, Shame, and Self-Betrayal 22:49 Building Brotherhood From Authenticity 25:50 The Real King Energy Men Are Missing 29:30 Final Words for the Men Playing Small Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

July 2, 2025Episode 2851 hr 6 min

How to Remove Trauma - Modern Techniques Steven Jaggers #285

In this episode, I chat with Steven “Jagger” Jaggers Jr (Instagram: @jaggersjr), co‑founder of Somatic Release Breathwork, somatic practitioner, and host of the Mind‑Body Mentor Podcast. We dive deep into how connection heals, the “dirty fuel” of the inner critic, and why emotional digestion is essential for clarity and high-performance. We unpack: • Why integration = connection • How limiting “should” blocks self-awareness • Emotional release vs. emotional containment • Breathing into somatic loops to complete trauma • How somatic safety fuels masculine leadership • Avoiding burnout & info-addiction in healing work Listen on Spotify & YouTube 🎧 Spotify: MindBody Mentor Podcast 🎥 YouTube: Corey Boutwell Want to join our work? Apply for 1:1 coaching → https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Follow Jagger Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaggersjr/ Featured resources • Somatic Breathwork practitioner training & sessions → somaticbreathwork.com (ASU‑accredited) • Free Men’s community “Set The Standard” → https://www.skool.com/setthestandard/about Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

June 16, 2025Episode 28455 min

Why Nice Guys Finish Last! Dr. Robert Glover

Nice guys never ask for what they truly want sexually, emotionally, or in relationships. They overgive, avoid conflict, get resentful, and end up losing themselves and the woman. In this powerful interview with Dr. Robert Glover (author of No More Mr. Nice Guy), we dive deep into: • What is Nice Guy Syndrome • Why giving without receiving leads to frustration • How to lead in relationships without being controlling • The truth about boundaries, resentment and masculine leadership • Why men need embodiment work and nervous system training • How to break codependency and reclaim your confidence • Why Aussie and NZ men struggle with Tall Poppy Syndrome • How to stop being passive and start leading in sex, business, and love This is raw, honest, and packed with tools to shift your mindset, relationships, and personal power. Want to meet Dr. Glover in person at my October 2025 retreat? Apply for The Next Level Retreat here with Dr Robert Glover in Australia Gold Coast October 2025: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/thenextlevelretreat Book a call with me directly: https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Follow Dr. Robert Glover: Website: https://drglover.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drrobertglover Buy No More Mr. Nice Guy on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0762415339 ⸻ Chapters: 00:00 – What is Nice Guy Syndrome 02:20 – Why giving + not receiving = frustration 05:15 – Masculine leadership vs. controlling behavior 08:45 – How women respond to strong male direction 13:10 – Boundaries, integrity and emotional health 17:55 – Borrowed functioning and codependency traps 24:00 – Nervous-system work and group initiation 40:00 – The power of men’s tribes and retreats 48:00 – Why the Gold Coast gathering matters Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

June 15, 2025Episode 2831 hr 15 min

How To Build A Run Club With Viral Content - Noah Rolete RawDawg Runclub #283

Want to blow up your own run club using social media? This episode with Noah Rolete from RawDawg Run Club breaks it all down. We talk about how Noah turned a small idea into a movement using nothing but authentic content, consistency, and a love for running that’s infectious. If you’re someone who wants to build something meaningful, this is the episode to watch. We cover: • How to grow a real community without spending a cent • The exact content that made RawDawg go viral • What makes a run club stand out on Instagram & TikTok • How to stay consistent without burning out • Why most guys play small and never start If you’ve got an idea a brand, a group, a movement and you want to make it go big with content, this episode will hit home. ⚡ Noah’s Links: Instagram (RawDawg Club): https://www.instagram.com/rawdawgclub/?hl=en Instagram (Noah): https://www.instagram.com/noah.rolette/?hl=en Official RawDawg Site: https://rawdawg.club/password ⚡ Join Set The Standard (Men’s Community): https://www.skool.com/setthestandard/about ⚡ Apply For Coaching or 7-Day Magnetic Challenge: https://8eltyrvzums.typeform.com/to/n777WygR ⚡ 1:1 Coaching Application: https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon #runclub, #noahrolette, #rawdawg, #viralcontent, #tiktokgrowth, #howtobuildacommunity, #menshealth, #masculineleadership, #contentstrategy, #communitybuilding, #instagramgrowth, #realmasculinity, #menscoach, #setthestandard Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

June 11, 2025Episode 28258 min

Why People Give Up On Relationships (And How To Avoid It) #282 Alexis Quiterio

Why Boss Babe Culture Isn’t Working Anymore with Alexis Quiterio CEO boss babe culture is officially dead. In this episode, I sit down with feminine embodiment coach Alexis Quiterio to unpack her journey from hardcore gymnastics, extreme discipline, and masculine energy… to surrender, softness, and the magic of true feminine power. We break down the real reason so many strong women feel exhausted, what men can do to support feminine embodiment, and why dropping control might be the most powerful decision you’ll ever make. Whether you’re a high-performing woman ready to come back to your body, or a man wanting to understand feminine energy on a deeper level this episode will blow your mind. Let’s go there. This one’s deep. This one’s real. Connect with Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisquiterio/ Listen to the podcast Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/set-the-standard/id1624704960 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0ZsvQSfuMgSScEVN5iUTZh?si=88dfb19a7a0843ed Watch more on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@coreyboutwell Join the free men’s community https://www.skool.com/setthestandard/about Retreats / Events / Coaching https://www.coreyboutwell.com DM me “PODCAST” on Instagram to connect https://www.instagram.com/coreyboutwell/ Timestamps 00:00 Why CEO Boss Babe Culture is DEAD 00:36 Alexis’ masculine upbringing & powerful physique 02:45 The turning point: letting go of being “the strong one” 05:05 Women holding men to unrealistic standards 06:59 The art of listening and masculine/feminine communication 08:17 Why feminine women need to receive 09:44 Why men feel useless when they can’t provide 11:12 The biggest compliment men rarely hear 13:08 Masculine vs feminine responses to praise 14:20 What’s missing in modern relationships 16:09 Magic vs masculine outcomes 18:11 Do high-performing men even want wives? 20:02 “I want to be more feminine” but… do everything myself 21:04 Reflective journaling & voice notes as emotional mastery 24:41 Self-awareness, communication, and nervous system safety 27:13 Voice note therapy & embodiment 28:31 Alexis’ sensual embodiment journey 31:58 Patterns, masks, and pressure to perform 33:32 Women: how to slow down and reconnect 35:09 Morning rituals & slowing down in a fast world 39:16 Self-worth vs self-expression 42:07 “Why did I choose to come to this Earth?” 43:16 Moving cities, relationships, and the search for meaning 49:29 Getting off birth control after 12 years (the IUD story) 53:56 Understanding the 28-day feminine cycle 55:06 Healing hormones naturally & returning to feminine power 55:26 What Alexis helps women with now If this episode hits, drop a comment, share it with someone you love, and don’t forget to subscribe for more deep convos on masculine/feminine dynamics, healing, business, and power. Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.

June 2, 2025Episode 2811 hr 6 min

Why Most Online Coaches Fail - Nick Komadina #281

f you’re an introverted business owner who’s secretly been playing small… this is the wake-up call. In this episode, I sit down with Nick Komodina a powerhouse in the space of nervous system safety, masculine leadership, and energetic presence to unpack what’s really keeping men stuck. We dive deep into how trauma and Tall Poppy Syndrome stop you from showing up online, crush your confidence in sales, and make you second-guess every move… even though deep down you know you’re capable of so much more. This conversation will hit hard if: • You keep downplaying yourself in rooms • You say “haha” at the end of texts to not be too much • You’re secretly scared of success and being seen • You feel like you’re always on edge or just “managing energy” We get raw about the costs of shrinking, and the nervous system tools to fix it fast — without needing more strategy or grind. If you’re done dimming your light and you’re ready to become magnetic as f**,* this one’s for you. ⚡ Follow Nick on Instagram: 👉 https://www.instagram.com/nickkomodina/ ⚡ Join Set The Standard (FREE Men’s Community): 👉 https://www.skool.com/setthestandard/about ⚡ Apply For Coaching or 7-Day Magnetic Challenge: 👉 https://8eltyrvzums.typeform.com/to/n777WygR ⚡ 1:1 Coaching Application: 👉 https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon 00:00 Hiding to holding power 01:15 The curse of Tall Poppy Syndrome for introverted men 03:02 How trauma makes you shrink in business and dating 05:41 Nervous system shutdown vs real masculine presence 08:20 The hidden cost of being the “nice guy” 11:09 My story: Carrying my ex’s trauma and losing myself 13:46 Why most men can’t be seen – and how to fix it 16:20 Masculine Social Dynamics explained 18:37 Nick breaks down leadership energy 21:00 The moment everything flipped in my business 24:30 Tension, edge, and magnetism in real time 26:44 Why you don’t need to “do more” to be powerful 29:05 The 7-day Magnetic Challenge breakdown 31:12 Closing words for the man who’s ready Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon Work With Me Here: https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgo Make sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code.