157. Writing a Book that Challenges the Status Quo with Sam Kelly
Take a moment to step back in time with me. We're hopping in our time machine back to the epic year of 1990. While I'm the youngest of three, by '90, I was the only kid left in the house. It's the year my mom brought out the poster board, markers and stickers to begin the era of the chore chart. It didn't come without wincing and whining, but at this point in my life, it was made very clear that the new black and olive green Airwalk sneakers I was dying for were only going to be acquired from the act of "doing" and earning. Now, my chore chart was mostly centered around room tidying and bathroom cleaning (the part I hated the most), and the only way to even BEGIN to summon the energy to execute these tasks was music. I dropped in the Wilson Phillips CD, and waited for the beat to take me over so I could get the chores done. Now, as a parent, I have tried all sorts of things. Lots of charts, the Skylight calendar, rewards systems, you name it. But something has always felt a bit off. Why should I be rewarding for the basic act of helping? Then I came across Sam Kelly and her SamKelly_World instagram page and my mind was blown. She was teaching an audio course called Notice and Do–a program where you teach your children about the mental load at home. As in–Mom is not responsible for all the things–it's time to be on the family team. HELL YEAH. I messaged her relentlessly over months on IG asking her to work with me to develop a book proposal, and finally, she caved. HA! That book, Notice and Do: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load , comes out October 20th, 2026. This week on Bound & Determined, I welcome Sam to the show to share her methodology and dive into her book process. You don't want to miss it! Also, Sam has some really incredible free gifts if you preorder before the 20th, so don't miss out!




