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Are you tired of the constant pressure to hustle harder, to be a "Boss Babe," to rise and grind until you burn out? Do you feel like you're stuck on a treadmill, chasing a version of success that doesn't feel like your own, while your personal life, passions, and well-being take a back seat? If you're a woman who is ready to say "no more" to burnout and "yes" to a life of authentic achievement and joy, you're in the right place. Welcome to Work it, Live it, Own it!, the podcast for women who are done with sacrificing their sanity for success. This is your home for finding work-life harmony. Join your host and work-life harmony strategist, SaCola Lehr, as we dive into practical, real-world concerns and strategies to help you: Rediscover Your Priorities: Get clear on what you truly want in your career and life, not what you've been told you should want. • Truly Rejuvenate: Learn sustainable practices for restoring your energy that go far beyond bubble baths, so you can move from constantly drained to deeply renewed. • Organize Your World: Move from chaos to clarity by designing a life architecture that honors your priorities and creates space for what matters most. • Navigate Boundaries with Confidence: Master the art of saying "no" without guilt, protecting your time and energy as an act of self-respect. • Step into Your Power: Reclaim your inner authority, trust your own judgment, and take empowered action to create the life you've always wanted. It's time to stop living on autopilot and start living with intention. It's time to work it, live it, and own it. Subscribe now and start your journey from burnout to brilliance, on your own terms.

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August 31, 2026Episode 9510 min

Feeling Unsupported? Who Do You Rely On?

The stronger you look on the outside, the more isolated you become on the inside. When you are everyone else's rock, who is yours? True brilliance requires genuine connection. SaCola Lehr tackles a truth about leadership and high achievement that is rarely spoken out loud: the stronger you look on the outside, the more isolated you become on the inside. 00:00 The Hidden Truth About Leadership and Loneliness 02:00 Building Walls That Isolate Us 04:11 A Personal Moment of Realization 06:23 Letting Others See Your Cracks 07:58 Connecting Authentically and Overcoming Isolation 08:42 The Vulnerability Hangover and Moving Forward Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career https://www.amazon.com/Harmony-Hustle-Women-Thriving-Expanded/dp/B0GPDWJ19Q • PRONE to Power Framework https://work-it-live-it-own-it.kit.com/8b35c4156e Episode 18: Educate Others on How to Treat You Right References 1 The Loneliness of Women in Leadership: Why Success Still Feels ... - Medium (https://medium.com/@amber_/the-loneliness-of-women-in-leadership-whysuccess-still-feels-empty-at-the-top-aaa ) 2 Loneliness in Leadership | Why Leaders Often Feel Isolated - CMA (https://cmaconsult.com/blog/the-top-truly-is-lonely-for-women/ ) 3 Gender-contingent effects of leadership on loneliness. - APA PsycNet (https://psycnet.apa.org/record/-- ) 4 It doesn't have to be "lonely at the top": How women leaders can find ... - LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/doesnt-have-lonely-top-how-women-leaders-can-findann-shoket ) Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

August 18, 2026Episode 9438 min

When the Show Must Go On & So Must You

SaCola Lehr sits down with Nick Strand, keynote speaker, author, and resilience expert, who spent twenty years building world-class stages for Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, and Stevie Wonder zero-margin environments where thousands of people are watching and there is no fallback plan. What the crowd never saw was what Nick was carrying offstage. He lost his mother to cancer, loved his wife Brianna through ten years of terminal cystic fibrosis until she passed away at 28, and later fought Bell's palsy mid-build. Professional peak performance and personal collapse running simultaneously. In the stillness that followed, Nick wrote his memoir Loving Someone Who Is Dying, launched the Choose Your Attitude® brand, and built the Build Your Stage framework, Attitude plus Action equals Impact, a system stress-tested not in a classroom, but in the hardest seasons of a real life. If you have ever kept showing up for everyone else while quietly falling apart inside, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Top Takeaways • Resilience is not about powering through it is about building a foundation that holds before life tests it. • Attitude is a decision, not a feeling. You start with what matters, and the attitude follows. • Changing the scenery of exhaustion is not rest. Real recovery looks different from what most high performers allow themselves. • The same principles that create unforgettable performances on stage are the ones that help us perform in life. • You do not need perfect circumstances to show up powerfully you need a repeatable process for when they fall apart. • "The show does not start when the lights go up. The show starts when you choose how to show up." — Nick Strand If this episode moved you, tap follow, leave a review, and share it with someone who is performing at their peak and running on empty. Connect with Nick Strand: • Website: https://www.thenickstrand.com • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenickstrand • Book: Loving Someone Who Is Dying — available on Amazon Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

August 3, 2026Episode 9317 min

Beyond Survival Mode: How to Pause Without Guilt

Episode Summary: In this powerful bonus episode, SaCola Lehr tackles the pervasive "Guilt of the Pause", the feeling that rest must be earned, not simply taken. She challenges the "rise and grind" mentality, revealing how it sabotages our brilliance and leads to burnout. SaCola shares a personal origin story of hitting a wall due to relentless striving and introduces her Recharge & Rise Framework, a focused application of the PRONE to Power framework. This episode empowers listeners to dismantle guilt, embrace intentional pauses, and understand that rest is a non-negotiable requirement for sustained success and well-being. Key Takeaways: • The Productivity Prison: Understanding how societal conditioning ties our worth to our output, leading to guilt when we pause. • Rest as Fuel, Not Reward: Shifting the mindset that rest is something to be earned after depletion, rather than essential for optimal function. • The Recharge & Rise Framework: A five-step process to intentionally integrate rest: Recognize Rest as Fuel, Not Reward (P - Priorities): Proactively schedule rest. Establish Non-Negotiable Pause Pockets (O - Organized): Protect scheduled times for intentional pauses. Communicate Your "Why" (N - Navigating Boundaries): Articulate the purpose and benefit of your rest. Embrace Imperfection (E - Empowerment): Recognize that perfection is an illusion; a rested you is a more effective you. Reframe "Laziness" as "Strategic Recovery" (R - Rejuvenation): View rest as an investment in long-term capacity. Harmony Hacks (Actionable Steps): Mindset Shift: Consciously challenge the belief that you must earn rest. Remind yourself: "My rest is required, not rewarded." Schedule a Micro-Pause: Identify one 15-minute non-negotiable pause in your day this week. Treat it like a critical meeting. Practice Your "Why": The next time you feel guilty about resting, articulate to yourself (or a trusted friend) why this rest is essential for your well-being and effectiveness. Quote of the Episode: "My rest is required, not rewarded. It's time to reclaim your right to pause, without the guilt." Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework • The American Institute of Stress: https://www.stress.org/workplace-stress • Brown, B. (2010). The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Hazelden Publishing. Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

July 15, 202612 min

When Your Body Says "Enough": Burnout Warning Signs & What to Do Next

Are you ignoring your body's warning signs in the name of "hustle"? In this bonus mini-episode of Work It, Live It, Own It!, SaCola Lehr gets incredibly honest about the dangerous reality of survival mode. Society rewards women who can "do it all," conditioning us to view exhaustion and brain fog as obstacles to push through rather than vital information. But as SaCola learned the hard way, if you do not choose to rest, your body will eventually choose it for you. Sharing the personal story that catalyzed her book, Harmony Hustle for Women, SaCola details her four-month battle with walking pneumonia and how losing her mobility forced her to fundamentally change her approach to work-life integration. This episode is a wake-up call for any woman navigating the messy middle of life and career who feels like she cannot afford to slow down. Tune in to learn how to identify your body's unique warning signs and shift from burnout to brilliance—because true success is never built on a foundation of exhaustion. In This Episode, You Will Learn: •Why we are conditioned to treat our body's warning signs as inconveniences. •The danger of treating "survival mode" as a permanent lifestyle. •SaCola's personal story of ignoring fatigue until it became a four-month physical crisis. •Why your well-being must be the core strategy for your success, not an afterthought. •How to accomplish your goals without forsaking your family, health, and peace. Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Conversation with Chase Friedman from In Pursuit of Purpose Podcast Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

June 24, 2026Episode 9214 min

You Know How to Succeed, but Do You Know How to Rest?

Are you exhausted from optimizing your rest? Discover why high-achieving women struggle to truly rest and how to reclaim genuine restoration without guilt. Rest is not a reward for exhaustion. It is a requirement for brilliance. If you are treating rest like a metric to conquer, or a luxury you have to earn by completely emptying your tank first, you are not resting. You are recovering from burnout. In this episode, work-life harmony strategist SaCola Lehr breaks down the critical difference between genuine restoration and the kind of "rest" that leaves you just as depleted as when you started. If you have ever returned from a vacation feeling like you need another vacation, or if you find yourself optimizing your downtime so much that it starts to feel like work, this episode was made for you. What You Will Learn in This Episode The Problem with How High-Achieving Women Rest Women who are used to driving results, managing households, and leading teams have been conditioned to believe that every minute must be productive. So when we finally take a break, we turn rest into a project. We read self-improvement books on the beach. We listen to industry podcasts while we run. We use our weekends to meal prep, organize, and catch up on emails. Our bodies may be resting, but our minds are still running a marathon. This kind of optimized downtime does not restore us, it just changes the scenery of our exhaustion. Why We Cannot StopStillness feels dangerous when your entire identity is built on being capable and productive. If you stop moving, you might have to sit with the exhaustion you have been outrunning. Society ties our value to our output, which turns rest into a source of anxiety rather than a source of renewal. We believe that if we are not constantly moving forward, we are falling behind. The PRONE to Power Framework : Navigating Boundaries. This episode focuses on the N in the PRONE to Power framework. Navigating your boundaries is not just about saying no to other people, it is about saying no to the voice in your own head that tells you to keep working when you are supposed to be resting. It means creating a boundary around your downtime and fiercely protecting it from the infiltration of productivity. Resources Mentioned: • Grab your copy of Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

May 18, 202615 min

Running on Empty: How to Tell Your Loved Ones Without the Fight

If you listened to our main episode, "The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One," you know that functioning while depleted is a survival strategy. But here is the hardest part about taking off that mask: when you have spent years making it look easy, your sudden need for help can feel to the people around you like an accusation. In this bonus mini-episode, SaCola Lehr tackles the delicate dynamic of asking for support at home. When you are the strong one, you train your family to rely on your endless capacity. When you finally hit a wall, asking for help often comes out as frustration, leading to defensiveness and arguments. SaCola shares her own origin story of handing her partner an angry, itemized list of chores, and explains why that approach fails. Instead, she introduces the "See, Feel, Want" structure—a powerful communication tool from the PRONE to Power framework that helps you reframe your depletion as a shared challenge rather than a personal attack. Key Takeaways • The Invisible Weight: Why your partner cannot see your exhaustion if you have spent years perfecting the art of making it look effortless. • The Danger of "You" Statements: How waiting until you are resentful turns a request for support into an argument. •The "See, Feel, Want" Structure: A simple, three-step method to state facts neutrally, share your emotional reality without blame, and make a specific, actionable request. • Your Action Step: Pick one small thing this week—the evening routine, the grocery run, or the weekend schedule—and use the See, Feel, Want structure to ask for the support you actually need. Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

May 4, 2026Episode 9113 min

The Hidden Cost of Being the "Strong One"

Are you the go-to person at work, the anchor for your family, and the sounding board for your friends? Being the "strong one" is often praised as a personality trait, but in reality, it is a survival strategy. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, work-life harmony strategist SaCola Lehr explores the hidden emotional toll of constant output and resilience. If you know how to succeed but are not sure how to rest, this episode is for you. SaCola breaks down why society rewards the "Rise and Grind" mentality and how it wires our nervous systems for constant action, making rest feel uncomfortable or guilt-inducing. Drawing from her own breaking point in the driveway after a twelve-hour day, she introduces the P in her PRONE to Power framework: Prioritize. Learn how to manage your energy, not just your calendar, and discover why asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Key Takeaways • The Mask of Strength: Why being the "strong one" is a survival strategy that leads to emotional depletion. • The "Rise and Grind" Lie: How workplace cultures condition us to tie our worth to productivity, ignoring the emotional cost. • The Driveway Moment: SaCola shares her personal origin story of realizing her strength had become her cage. • Prioritize Your Energy: An introduction to the first step of the PRONE to Power framework from the book Harmony Hustle for Women. • The 10-Minute Challenge: A practical, immediate action step to start dismantling the mask of the "strong one" today. Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

April 8, 202610 min

How to Shut Down the Questions You're Tired of Answering

Caring about someone and being entitled to their life plan are two entirely different things. In this bonus episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, we are taking the concept of society's timeline out of the abstract and into the real world—specifically, the family dinners and school pickup lines where you are asked the same personal questions over and over again. Building on our main episode, You Are Not Behind. You Are on Someone Else's Timeline, we explore why these questions are so exhausting and how to stop letting them trigger you. Using the Empowerment element of the PRONE to Power framework, you will learn the Calm, Close, Redirect Method—three exact scripts you can use to shut down personal questions with warmth, confidence, and zero apologies. What You Will Hear: • Why "When are you having kids?" is not innocent curiosity—it is a timeline wearing a smile • The difference between owing your loved ones honesty and owing them a justification of your choices • The family event moment that forced SaCola to stop over-explaining and start setting boundaries • The Calm, Close, Redirect Method: 3 exact scripts for shutting down the well-meaning relative, the persistent pusher, and the subtle judger • How to become so settled in your own choices that timeline questions simply have nowhere to land Listen to the Main Episode: • How to Stop Living on Someone Else's Timeline Resources Mentioned: • Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career • PRONE to Power Framework Connect: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/ Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com

March 16, 2026Episode 9017 min

How to Stop Living on Someone Else's Timeline

You are not behind. You are on someone else's timeline. And those are two very different problems. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, we are dismantling the invisible schedule that tells you when you should be promoted, when you should have children, when you should have it all figured out — and what it actually looks like to delete it. Using the Empowerment element of the PRONE to Power framework from Harmony Hustle for Women, we explore how to stop measuring your life against a timeline you never agreed to, and start building one that is genuinely, unapologetically yours. What You Will Hear: • Why "I should be further along by now" is not a personal failing — it is a design flaw in the timeline you inherited • ow society's timeline was never built for a real, non-linear woman's life • Renee's story — and the question that made her sit in her driveway for twenty minutes • Three Empowerment practices for deleting the timeline and replacing it with a direction that is actually yours • Why a non-linear life is not a failed life — it is a real one Resources Mentioned: Harmony Hustle for Women: Master the Art of Thriving in Life and Career — https://www.amazon.com/Harmony-Hustle-Women-Thriving-Expanded/dp/B0GPDWJ19Q • PRONE to Power Framework — https://SaColaLehr.com/ Connect: •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/workitliveitownit/ •Website: https://SaColaLehr.com/

February 25, 202613 min

When Your Partner Doesn't Get Why You're Unhappy: How to Talk About it Without Pushing Them Away

Have you ever felt like you're speaking a completely different language from your partner? You're going through this huge internal shift, realizing that the successful life you've built together feels... empty. But when you try to share this vulnerable feeling, you're met with a blank stare, confusion, or even defensiveness. Suddenly, you feel lonelier than ever, right inside your own home. In this bonus mini-episode, we're diving deep into one of the most challenging parts of this journey: what to do when your partner doesn't understand why you're unhappy. This isn't about blame or pointing fingers. It's about learning how to bridge that gap, turn confusion into connection, and invite your partner into your next chapter instead of accidentally pushing them away. We'll give you the exact words to use to start this conversation with love, compassion, and clarity. This episode is for any woman who has ever felt misunderstood in her relationship while navigating personal growth. If you're feeling successful but unhappy and struggling to communicate it, this is for you. In This Episode, You Will Learn: • The profound reason your partner’s confusion isn’t rejection (this single shift in perspective will change everything!). • Why vague feelings of unhappiness can sound like a threat to your partner, and how to be specific without being scary. • Four concrete, actionable strategies to talk about your feelings in a way that invites your partner in, instead of shutting them down. • How to reframe the conversation from "my problem that you need to fix" to "our next adventure that we get to design together." Episode Timestamps: (0:00) - Welcome & The Loneliest Feeling in a Relationship (1:30) - The Problem: When Your Partner Just Doesn't Get It (3:00) - The Real Reason for Their Confusion (It's Not What You Think) (4:30) - A Relatable Story: How Well-Intentioned Communication Goes Wrong (6:00) - Your 4-Step Toolkit for a Better Conversation (8:00) - Your Invitation: From a Difficult Problem to a Shared Project Resources Mentioned: • Main Episode: Successful But Empty: Why Your Perfect Life Doesn't Feel Perfect • Free Resource: Download the Energy Audit Worksheet • The Book: Get your copy of Harmony Hustle for Women Connect with Us: • Website: https://SaColaLehr.com •Instagram: https://instagram.com/workitliveitownit If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who needs to hear this. Your support helps us reach more women who are ready to move from burnout to brilliance! Email for business inquiries: info@workitliveitownit.com