
Let's Dance in the Discomfort Zone
With Special Guest: Anne Bonney, Change Management Authority, International Keynote Speaker, and Author of Get Over It! and Get Them Over It! Most people spend their whole career running from discomfort. Anne Bonney built hers by running straight at it. In this episode, Meridith sits down with change management authority Anne Bonney, who traces her path from a childhood spent moving across four continents to training seals and sea lions at the Boston Aquarium to a corner office job in New York City that looked perfect on paper and left her unable to get out of bed. Anne shares the moment she realized having the title, the salary, and the city she loved was not the same as having a life she wanted, and the leap she took into her parents' basement in Michigan to rebuild from scratch as a change speaker and author. Anne and Meridith dig into what actually moves people through uncertainty: shifting from an external locus of control to an internal one, focusing energy only on what you can act on, and letting go of the anger you feel toward everyone else. They also unpack what leaders get wrong about difficult conversations, including the shift from calling people out to calling them in, and why teams trust a leader who is consistently direct far more than one who is inconsistently nice. What you will take away from this conversation: Why "what can I control right now" is the single most useful question in a season of change The difference between an internal and external locus of control, and why it determines your resilience How one manager's simple question, "what are you worried about, what are you mad about, what are you losing," turned a scary company-wide change into a team that trusted him Why being liked and being respected are not the same goal, and choosing wrong costs you both The teapot metaphor for feelings, and why bottling them up always ends the same way If you are navigating your own basement moment, or leading a team through one, Anne's closing advice says it best: don't do it alone. Connect with Anne Bonney: yourchangespeaker.com | Books: Get Over It! and Get Them Over It! LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/annebonney Facebook or Instagram: @SpeakerAnneBonney












