A Leader’s Purpose: Navigating Career and Life-Defining Moments with Clarity, Confidence, and Purpose for High-Level Leaders Ready to Lead with Purpose over Pressure

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🎙️ A Leader’s Purpose with Tami Imlay The podcast for leaders who’ve outgrown surface-level success and are ready for soul-level impact. You’ve built the career, led the teams, checked the boxes—and yet, you’re still asking, “Is this really it?” Welcome to the space where high-achieving, faith-driven leaders come to get honest, get clear, and get aligned. Hosted by executive coach, speaker, and Master Certified Enneagram and NeuroCoach Tami Imlay, this show helps you rise into your next season with confidence, clarity, and purpose—without burning out, starting over, or chucking it all and moving to Bali (tempting as that sounds). With 20+ years of leadership experience—including military service, therapy and neuroscience training, and coaching high-level entrepreneurs and executives—Tami brings both strategy and soul to the mic. After becoming a Gold Star Spouse and walking through her own identity shift, she made it her mission to help other leaders do the same: step into a life and leadership that actually feels like you. Each episode blends truth-telling with tangible tools—expect a little sass, a lot of heart, and zero tolerance for performative leadership. We’ll cover topics like: ✨ Identity clarity & self-awareness using the Enneagram 🧠 Neuroscience-backed tools to rewire limiting beliefs 🎯 Purpose-aligned business and leadership strategy 🧭 Navigating transitions, pivots, and legacy-defining moves 🧘 Burnout recovery and sustainable success 💬 Authentic communication & emotional intelligence 🙏 Faith and leadership integration that doesn’t feel cheesy If you’re circling your calling, craving deeper impact, or just tired of pretending everything’s fine when you’re quietly questioning what’s next—this podcast is for you. Because here’s the truth: ✅ You don’t need another strategy. You need identity clarity. ✅ You’re not behind—you’re right on time. ✅ You already have what it takes. You just need to remember who you are. This is your permission to rise—without losing yourself in the process. Hit subscribe and let’s get started

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September 28, 2026Episode 36920 min

Finishing Something Big and Feeling Nothing. |369

Celebrating small wins keeps a capable team moving toward the bigger goal, and your standard stays exactly where it is. The leaders who do it well name what they noticed and why it mattered, then let it stand before adding the next ask. Episode Overview You finish something big and the finish line has already moved. I do this too. A friend asked me how I was celebrating a milestone six months in the making, and I had to think about it. This episode is about the six years I have spent working on that. What You'll Hear What it feels like to hit a milestone and feel nothing What your team hears when you notice good work and say nothing Why recognition and the next assignment should never share a sentence One ordinary win from my own life and what I did with it Leadership Pattern to Notice I see this in the strongest leaders I know, and I see it in me. The win gets noticed and the next thing is already moving before anyone hears a word about it. Then the conclusion shows up that nothing is going fast enough. From the inside, it looks like ambition. Sit With This What have you or someone on your team done recently that deserves more acknowledgement than you've given it? What's Coming Next Next, I am opening a longer series on why so much of what we were taught about leadership runs backwards, and team motivation is on its way. Something I Don't Want You to Miss My standards have not dropped one inch in six years of practicing this. You can recognize meaningful progress and still expect more from yourself and your team. Connect If you are ready to stop waiting for things to happen and your team to take ownership and ready to take action... Let's talk. http://tamimariecoaching.com/call I'm Tami Imlay, Executive Advisor. Come find me on LinkedIn. @tamiimlay Music Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017. Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

September 14, 2026Episode 36821 min

368| Why You Don't Have to Get Back to Your Old Routine

A habit can stop fitting your life without ever becoming a bad habit, and you don't have to force the old version back just to prove you're consistent. If a routine built for a different season isn't sticking anymore, that's not you falling behind. That's your life changing faster than the habit did. What You'll Hear Why a good habit can stop fitting without ever becoming a bad one What changes when the question shifts from why can't I get back to this, to what does this need to look like now The three questions Tami uses to decide if a habit stays, changes, or goes Where this shows up in something as ordinary as who talks first in a meeting Leadership Pattern to Notice The habits that build a career don't stay the same shape the whole way through it. The leader who always ran the meeting and brought every answer isn't wrong for having built that habit. She built it for a season that needed her to. The pattern worth noticing is what happens next: whether she keeps running the meeting because it's who she's always been, or lets the habit change shape now that her team is capable of holding it instead. Sit With This If this habit still belongs in your life, what version of it fits the season you're in right now? Find Me LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Send a DM. I'd love to connect. Music Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017. Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

September 7, 2026Episode 36725 min

367| Tami, I Just Need Things to Slow Down.

“Tami, I just need things to slow down. How do we slow things down?” I've heard some version of that question again and again lately. The interesting part? We live in a world that is constantly teaching us to go faster. We listen at 1.5x speed, try to beat the GPS, expect next-day delivery, reach for our phones in every empty moment, and start looking toward the next season before we've finished the one we're in. And then we wonder why life and leadership feel like they're moving so fast. In this episode of A Leader's Purpose, I'm talking about what it looks like to intentionally slow things down without shrinking your ambition, your leadership, or the impact you want to make. We talk about the difference between letting time happen to you and deciding what deserves your full presence, why the things that matter most often aren't getting our best attention, and what it looks like to create room before life fills it for you. Because you worked hard to build the career, business, team, family, and life you have. You should get to be present for it. A few things you'll hear in this episode: The everyday ways we've been trained to hurry without realizing it Why we're so focused on getting to “next” One question to ask yourself about what deserves your full attention this week Why creating room in your leadership has to be intentional What slowing down can make possible for your work, your people, and the life you've built And yes, we talk about Halloween decorations in August, beating the GPS, my love affair with the air fryer, and why my son suddenly became chatty after leaving for college. 😂 If you're ready for more room to lead, more ownership from your team, and more leadership happening around you, schedule a free Your Next Move call with me. Let's talk about what you want to be possible next. Find Me LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Send a DM. I'd love to connect. Music Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017. Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

August 3, 2026Episode 36626 min

366| The Leadership Reset You Keep Postponing and Why You Should Make it a Priority Now

A leadership reset doesn't wait for burnout to make the case for it. It's a scheduled recalibration, sometimes a defined season, sometimes an hour carved out over a month, built to look at what's working, what's stopped working, and where you actually want to go, whether this season is falling apart or things have never been better. EPISODE OVERVIEW I had a different episode planned for today. I scrapped it. This one is about the decision to set something down on purpose, four weeks before anything forces the decision for me, in the middle of a season that includes a son leaving for college, a daughter starting her junior year, and real momentum in the business that makes stepping back feel almost irrational. This isn't for the leader who's already burned out. It's for every leader, whether things are going well right now or not. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR The difference between a vacation and a real recalibration Why the best time to reset is before you think you need one What this season is actually asking of me, and maybe of you LEADERSHIP PATTERN TO NOTICE There is a version of leadership that treats stillness as something to be earned first. Rest gets scheduled for after the goal, after the quarter, after things calm down, except things rarely calm down on their own. This has nothing to do with how close you are to burning out. The leaders who wait for permission usually get it from exhaustion instead of intention, and by then, the reset is not a choice anymore. It is damage control. SIT WITH THIS What could you set down for a season, on purpose, before something forces you to? WHAT'S COMING NEXT I'll be back in September with more intention behind it, and likely some new voices in the room. Connect with me over on Linkedin (@tamiimlay) OR better yet get on my caledar! http://tamimariecoaching.com/call If This Landed Share it with a leader who needs to hear it. Leave a rating and review. It helps more leaders find A Leader's Purpose. Subscribe so you don't miss what's next. Find Me LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Send a DM. I'd love to connect. Music Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017. Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

July 27, 2026Episode 3658 min

365| Why the Strengths That Got You Promoted Are Now Working Against You

The strengths that earned every promotion before this one start working against you at the next level. The job outgrew them, not the other way around. What worked leading ten people can quietly cripple an organization of two hundred until you know what you're still trying to protect instead of trusting what already works. There's a version of you who trusts the harder right answer immediately. No negotiation, no performance, no need to explain it later. You've done it before, probably in a room where the strength that built your career was the same thing quietly working against you. This episode is about what stands between you and that version showing up every time, not just when the stakes make it easy. What You'll Hear Why the strength that got you here doesn't need to be put down, it needs to be reassigned A real moment from leading a team where the easy answer and the right answer weren't the same The difference between proving a strength and trusting it What's running underneath the signals you send without you realizing it Leadership Pattern to Notice The instinct to perform shows up before the instinct to lead. It moves fast because it can be defended later, and trusting a harder answer in the moment cannot. Most leaders never question the order. They call the fast answer good judgment and move on, without ever noticing that the real decision already happened underneath it. Sit With This Where am I still trying to prove a strength that I could be redeploying instead? Connect If you are ready to see what becomes possible when this shifts, the Next Move conversation is your first step. 45 minutes. Personalized. Let's look at what strengths have started getting in your way. http://tamimariecoaching.com/call If This Landed Share it with a leader who needs to hear it. Leave a rating and review. It helps more leaders find A Leader's Purpose. Subscribe so you don't miss what's next. Find Me LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Send a DM. I'd love to connect. Music Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017. Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

July 20, 2026Episode 36411 min

364| When Success Creates Its Own Ceiling

Leadership stops working the way it used to because the job changes, even when the strengths that built your career do not. What worked as a director will not automatically work as a VP, and the strengths that earned every promotion so far do not disappear. They just need to be redeployed for the level you are actually leading at now. You know your success formula without even thinking about it. Hard work. Staying involved. Having the answer before anyone asks. It got you every promotion so far, and lately, it feels heavier than it should. Not because you got worse at leading. What You'll Hear Why the formula that built your career can stop fitting the role you're actually in Where that heaviness comes from when nothing about your leadership has changed What separates leaders who keep growing from the ones who plateau at the exact level that made them successful Leadership Pattern to Notice Most leaders don't lose their edge when a promotion outpaces their instincts. They keep running the exact formula that got them there, one level too long, because it has never failed them before. What shows up as heaviness isn't a confidence problem. Sit With This What strength am I still using in the job I had, instead of the job I have now? Next week, this goes one layer deeper, into what's actually driving the strengths you keep reaching for. Something I Don't Want You to Miss Your high standards were never the problem. The job just started asking something different of them. That's the whole shift. Connect If you are ready to see what becomes possible when this shifts, the Aligned Leadership Audit is where that conversation starts. 45 minutes. A clear diagnosis of what's running your leadership right now. http://tamimariecoaching.com/call If This Landed Share it with a leader who needs to hear it. Leave a rating and review. It helps more leaders find A Leader's Purpose. Subscribe so you don't miss what's next. Find Me LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Send a DM. I'd love to connect. Music Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017. Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

July 13, 2026Episode 36310 min

363| Why Capable Teams Keep Handing Decisions Back

Your team isn't bringing decisions back to you because they lack confidence. They've learned, often correctly, that approval feels safer than ownership inside a system that was never redesigned for the size you've become. The fix isn't more delegation. It's redesigning where decisions get caught before they ever need to reach you. Episode Overview You've built a team you trust. You still can't fully step back from it. Not because anything's broken. Because something got built into how the whole thing runs, and you were the one who built it, without ever setting out to. What You'll Hear Why capable teams keep handing decisions back, even when nothing about their skill has changed The invisible rules every organization runs on that nobody ever wrote down What's actually being asked underneath every "what do you think?" What changed for one leader, without adding a single new approval step Leadership Pattern to Notice Most leaders assume the fix is approving less. But watch what's actually happening the next time someone brings you something they didn't need to bring you. They're not checking whether they got it right. They're checking whether you'll still be behind them if it goes wrong. Sit With This What signal have I consistently sent that makes bringing it back to me the safest option? What's Coming Next This series keeps building one layer at a time, and the next conversation moves from the system underneath your team to the strength underneath you. Something I Don't Want You to Miss You already know how to build systems. You've done it your whole career. You've just never called it that when it came to decisions. Connect If you're ready to see what's running this, the Aligned Leadership Audit is where we find out. 45 minutes. A direct diagnosis. Fast, real, and yours to act on immediately. http://tamimariecoaching.com/call If this landed, The Invisible Weight was made for exactly where you are. Six episodes. Free. No pitch. Just a closer look at what leaders at your level are carrying that does not get talked about in most rooms. http://app.helloaudio.fm/feed/c6ff1d1a-3115-4cc3-a54c-1af179e469e4/signup Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

July 6, 2026Episode 36213 min

362| What Your Team Learned That You Never Meant to Teach

Your team isn't bringing everything back to you because they can't decide. They're reading a signal you're sending without knowing it, and that signal is teaching them what to do every time. The fix isn't more training. It's seeing the signal. Your team stopped listening to your words a long time ago. They're reading your behavior instead, and they're more accurate than you think. Every time what you say and what you do don't quite match, your team doesn't get confused. They get information. This episode names the gap most leaders never see, and shows you exactly what's been teaching your culture without your permission. What You'll Hear The real reason your team trusts your actions over your words Why repetition builds culture faster than any training program does What one leader discovered was happening underneath his own organization The question that starts to shift everything the moment you ask it Leadership Pattern to Notice There's a gap most capable leaders carry without ever naming it: what they say and what they do are running two different conversations, and their team only believes one of them. It isn't a confidence problem and it isn't a communication problem. It's a signal problem, and signal problems stay invisible until someone finally points at them. Sit With This What signal is my team receiving from me every single day? Ready to discover the gap for yourself? http://tamimariecoaching.com/call Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

June 29, 2026Episode 36112 min

361| Why Smart Leaders Edit Their Best Ideas

Smart leaders do not stop having bold ideas when they get "the" seat. They start editing them before anyone else sees them. The bold call gets made smaller, the real idea never reaches the table, and the leader is the only one in the room who knows what she left out. This episode names that pattern with precision. What You'll Hear The specific moment the bold idea becomes the safe recommendation What twenty years of watching this pattern looks like from the outside Why the edit feels responsible and costs like something else entirely What leading at full volume actually looks like for a leader at your level Leadership Pattern to Notice The most expensive edit in a senior leader's career happens before anyone else is in the room. She already has the bold read. She already knows what needs to happen. But somewhere between the idea and the table, a smaller version shows up instead. Steadier. More defensible. Less hers. The room follows the careful version of her. And she is the only one who knows what she left out. Sit With This When was the last time you brought the real version of the idea into the room? Something I Don't Want You to Miss The bold ideas did not go anywhere. They are still there. What has been running the edit is something precise and nameable. And once you see it, you cannot unsee it. Stop editing. Start owning. Connect If you are ready to see what becomes possible when this shifts, the Aligned Leadership Audit is where that conversation starts. 45 minutes. Just you and me. No homework. Just a diagnosis. Book your Audit: http://tamimariecoaching.com/call Want to go deeper on what leaders at your level are carrying that rarely gets named out loud? The Invisible Weight private audio briefing was built for exactly where you are. Six episodes. Free. Access here: http://app.helloaudio.fm/feed/c6ff1d1a-3115-4cc3-a54c-1af179e469e4/signup

June 22, 2026Episode 36012 min

360| The Reason Capable Teams Still Bring Everything Back to You

Picture walking into a week where your calendar already has the right things on it. The decisions you handed off held. The project that took a turn got handled before it reached you. Your team walked in knowing what to bring to you and what to own. That room exists. And in this episode, I name exactly what it takes to get there. INSIDE THE EPISODE What Tuesday actually looks like right now Before 9am the questions start. The decisions that belong to your team are already landing on your lap. I name the moment most leaders recognize themselves in and why it keeps happening. What you have been trained to do that is working against you You are not doing anything wrong. You are doing exactly what made you excellent at the last level. There is a name for what that creates at this one. Why delegation training did not fix it Not a delegation problem. Not a communication problem. Not a boundaries problem. I name what it actually is and why that distinction changes everything. The room I want you to walk into I paint it specifically. Not aspirational. Not theoretical. The week that becomes possible when the signal shifts. WHAT TO TAKE WITH YOU Your team is not failing you. They are following your lead exactly. That is the whole point. Leadership runs on signals, not announcements. Your title changed. The signal did not. That gap is where the routing lives. Being the answer was the job at the last level. At this one it is the obstacle. Not because you became less capable. Because the role requires something different now. SIT WITH THIS What signal are you still sending that belongs to the leader you were two levels ago? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Friction Factor names what is underneath the routing before it becomes a leadership identity problem. Free, research backed, and built so you can see exactly where the gap is. Download the Friction Factor The Invisible Weight is my free private audio series for leaders carrying more than they should have to right now. Six episodes. Straight to your phone. Listen here Enjoyed the Episode? If this resonated, here is how to help more leaders find it: ✅ Share it with a leader in your world who needs to hear this. ✅ Leave a quick rating and review so more people can find A Leader's Purpose. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode. You already have what it takes. This is where you get to remember that. Find me: LinkedIn: @tamiimlay Instagram and Facebook: @tamimariecoaching Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Ready to go deeper? Book your Aligned Leadership Audit: tamimariecoaching.com/call For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026