Why "Come On, You Can Do It" Is the Wrong Advice.
"Come on, you can do it." Adam Roach says that's the wrong thing to tell someone who's stuck, and he explains exactly why in this episode: it's hero language, not guide language, and the difference determines whether someone actually climbs out of a hard spot or stays stuck in it. Adam breaks down a framework he uses with the people he coaches: four roles everyone cycles through when things get hard. The victim, who isn't ready to change. The villain, who keeps others stuck. The hero, cheering from the sidelines with encouragement that doesn't actually help. And the guide, the only one who gets someone out, because a guide gives specific steps instead of just belief. He walks through it with a simple story: someone stuck in a hole, and what the person at the top says (or doesn't say) that actually gets them out. If you're a business owner in a rough patch right now, or trying to help someone on your team who is, this framework will change how you show up for them, and for yourself. What you'll learn: Why "you've got this" is often the wrong thing to say to someone stuck The four roles: victim, villain, hero, guide, and how to spot which one you're playing What separates a guide from a cheerleader, and why it matters more than good intentions A simple way to know if you're actually helping someone or just making yourself feel better Connect with Adam: LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamrroach/ Web: ilovecoachingco.com Newly created intro gingle to get you in the mood about my intimate yet exciting conversation with my guest.
