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The Driven Introvert is a faith-inspired podcast designed for purposeful introverts. It's the place to be for dreamers, doers, and entrepreneurs ready to bring to life the dreams, callings, and ideas God has placed in their hearts. Are you holding onto an idea that you've been thinking about for a while but are unsure how to start? Do you sense that God is calling you to step out and do something new, but fear, uncertainty, or lack of clarity is holding you back? Our goal is to help you Get Unstuck, make progress on your God-inspired ideas, and find a supportive community. On this bi-weekly show, host Remi Roy, founder of Shepact.com, offers unique perspectives on what it means to follow dreams, passionately build out ideas, and live a life that matters. Tune in for inspiring conversations, valuable resources, reflective insights, and stories that will remind you that the life and work you've envisioned is possible, and your unique personality is not a limitation to achieving it. For the driven introvert, introvert leaders, introvert entrepreneurs, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders, and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

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June 14, 2026Episode 1215 min

How to Handle Criticism. Confidence Strategies for Introverts Who Want to Lead With Boldness

Do you struggle with knowing how to handle criticism without letting it take over your mind?Maybe one person said something harsh, and even though other people encouraged you, that one comment stayed with you.In this episode, we’re talking about how to handle criticism without giving every negative voice a seat at the table. We’re reflecting on chapter 18 of The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman, called Don’t Give Your Critic Words, and looking at how to decide which voices deserve our attention and which ones need to be released.Criticism is tricky because not all critics are the same.In this episode, I talk about why we can hear a thousand kind words and still focus on the one negative thing someone said.Why does that happen?Why do we replay the hurtful words?Why do we rehearse our defensive response?Why do we let one person’s opinion have so much power over our hearts?For many of us, the issue is not just the criticism itself.The issue is our confidence.Our identity.The way we see ourselves.When we are not rooted in who we are, critical words can shake us more deeply than they should.They can make us question our value, our work, our calling, and our ability to keep going.But when we are rooted in God, we can learn to listen differently.This episode is especially for the introvert, dreamer, creator, or purpose-driven person who feels deeply affected by the words of others.Maybe you are building something.Maybe you are using your voice in a new way.Maybe you are trying to step out in faith, but the fear of being judged keeps pulling you back.I want you to know this: not every opinion deserves your energy.Not every critic deserves your response.Not every negative word deserves space in your heart.Sometimes the next right thing is to draw a line in the sand and decide what you will believe.You may not be able to stop people from speaking.You may not be able to go back and change what someone said.But you can decide whether those words get to shape your identity.You can decide whose voice gets to lead.And you can ask Jesus to help you catch yourself when you start repeating negative words that were never rooted in truth.Learning how to handle criticism is not about becoming hard or unbothered.It is about becoming rooted.It is about knowing who you are.It is about trusting God’s voice more than the voice of the critic.Send me an email and tell me: what critical voice do you need to stop giving power to?Share this episode with a friend who needs encouragement after harsh words.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

May 31, 2026Episode 1118 min

How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty? Find a No Mentor. Communication Strategies for Introverts.

Do you struggle with knowing how to say no without feeling guilty?Maybe you’ve said yes to something, then immediately felt that heavy feeling in your stomach because you knew you didn’t really have the time, energy, or desire to do it.In this episode, I’m talking about how to say no in a way that honors your life, your people, your peace, and the work God has placed in your hands. We’re continuing the conversation from the last episode on what it means to choose your absence and turning our attention to chapter 17 of The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman, where she talks about finding a “no mentor.”A no mentor is someone who can help you make wise decisions when you already know something should probably be a no, but you don’t quite have the confidence to say it yet. This is the person who reminds you of what you value, what you have time for, what season you’re in, and what you truly want to give your energy to.Because the truth is, saying no is not always easy.Sometimes we say yes because we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings.Sometimes we say yes because we want to seem agreeable.Sometimes we say yes because we feel responsible for everything and everyone.And sometimes we say yes because the opportunity looks good, even though deep down we know it does not align with where we are going.But when we keep saying yes to things that do not belong, our calendar gets full, our hearts get heavy, and we lose the space we need for the things that truly matter.In this episode, I share why information is not always enough. We can read the books, listen to the advice, and understand that we need better boundaries, but when the moment comes, we still need the courage to act. We need to move from knowing to doing.I also share why my sister has been a no mentor for me, especially when I need help making decisions around relationships and personal connections I want to preserve. Some decisions require wisdom, care, and a trusted voice that can help us see clearly.We talk about what kind of person makes a good no mentor. Someone whose values align with yours. Someone who has context for your life. Someone who understands the underbelly of your choice. Someone who respects you but is not so impressed by you that they cannot tell you the truth.This episode is especially for the introvert who feels overwhelmed by obligations, expectations, and opportunities that may be good but are not right for this season.Here’s the question I want you to sit with:Do you have the time, space, and energy to pursue the life, dreams, and calling God has placed in your heart while still carrying all the things you’ve already said yes to?If the answer is no, I hope this episode gives you the courage to pause, reflect, and choose what truly matters.Learning how to say no is not about being selfish.It is about stewardship.It is about protecting your peace.It is about honoring your limits.And it is about making room for the life God is inviting you to live.Send me an email and tell me: do you have a no mentor in your life?Share this episode with a friend who struggles with saying no.Leave a review and let me know what stood out to you from this conversation.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

May 17, 2026Episode 1013 min

How to Figure out If Something Is a Great Opportunity or a Distraction. Decision-Making for the Introvert Leader.

Have you ever said yes to something that sounded like a great opportunity… and then later realized it stole your peace? In this episode, we talk about how to tell the difference between a great opportunity and a distraction, especially when you’re trying to live with intention. This is decision making for the introvert leader who wants to stay aligned, not just stay busy.This matters for the introvert because many of us already carry a lot internally. We think deeply. We notice everything. We want peace. And when too many invitations pile on, we don’t just get tired—we get scattered. That’s why decision making has to be connected to your vision, not your fear of missing out.Emily gives a practical tool that helps you slow down and think clearly before you say yes. She says: finish the sentence. Don’t just say, “This is a great opportunity.” That’s not specific enough. A great opportunity to do what?So you finish it honestly: “This is a great opportunity to ______.”Maybe it’s to grow your business. Maybe it’s to serve your family. Maybe it’s to rest. Maybe it’s to meet new people. Maybe it’s to walk with God. Maybe it’s to learn something new.All of those are good. But the next question is what makes this episode so helpful: Is this the season for that?That one question can save you so much stress. Because you can admit something is a great opportunity and still decide it’s not your opportunity right now. That’s not failure. That’s wisdom. That’s decision making with peace.You’ll also hear a reminder about fear of missing out. If you’re an introvert, you may feel pressure from what you see online, from what others are doing, and from what people assume you should want. But peace grows when you limit the noise and remember that God can lead you without panic. There is no one thing that can “make” your life, and there is no one thing that can “break” your life. God is faithful, and He knows how to guide you in every season.Key TakeawaysA great opportunity can still be the wrong choice for this season.Peace is a sign you’re aligned, not just productive.Strong decision making means you know what you’re saying yes and no toChoosing your absence is not selfish—it’s stewardship.For the introvert, fewer yeses can mean more clarity and more energy.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

May 3, 2026Episode 912 min

How to Lean on Others When You’re Tired of Doing Life Alone. Decision Making for the Introspective Introvert.

If you’re tired of doing life alone, you’re not weak, you’re human. In this episode, we talk about decision making when you’re carrying something heavy and you don’t know what to do next. As an introvert, you may be used to figuring things out by yourself. And if you’re introspective, you probably spend a lot of time thinking, praying, processing, and trying to find clarity on your own. But sometimes the next right step is not more time in your head. Sometimes it’s inviting a few safe people into the process. This episode is for the introvert who’s strong, capable, and tired. It’s for the introspective person who feels stuck in circles. We’re talking about what it looks like to ask for support in a wise way, how to choose the right people, and how to let others listen without letting them run your life. Healthy decision making doesn’t mean you do everything alone. The right community can help an introvert breathe again, and it can help the introspective person hear their own thoughts more clearly. If you want stronger decision making, you don’t need a crowd, you need the right people.What We’re Talking AboutYou can invite people into your life without handing them the steering wheel. The goal is not to pressure anyone for answers. The goal is to be heard, supported, and strengthened.Key Takeaways1) Don’t do it as an afterthought, do it on purpose. Emily suggests setting a time and date. It might feel formal, but it helps everyone show up with the right mindset.2) Choose people who know you and feel safe. They don’t have to know each other. But they should know you well, and you should feel safe sharing your heart without being judged.3) You have to ask. This part is big. Many of us want support, but we wait for people to guess what we need. Emily shares that she spent years wishing people would support her, only to realize she was waiting for something to come to her when she could have gone out and asked for it.4) Community helps you hear yourself. Even if they don’t give you a “solution,” saying things out loud in the presence of trusted people can bring clarity and peace.If you’re an introvert, this may feel hard. But no matter how introspective you are, you were not meant to carry everything alone. Ask God to show you the right people—and also show you how you can support someone else.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

April 19, 2026Episode 816 min

Stop Buying Online Courses! They’re Not Helping You. How to Get Unstuck. For the Introspective Introvert

Feeling pulled in a thousand directions by online courses and expert advice? In this episode, we talk about why online courses can’t give you vision, even when they offer a solid plan. If you’re considering how to get unstuck, it may be time to mute the noise and listen for God’s direction. This is for the introspective introvert who keeps collecting tips but still feels unsure. We’ll explore how to get unstuck by starting with clarity, not more content, and why online courses make sense only after your vision is clear. If you’re an introspective introvert craving peace, you’ll leave with a simple practice to clean your inputs, pray, journal, and choose your next right step, without guilt. Because online courses are tools, not a compass, and the introspective introvert doesn’t need more pressure, just space to figure out how to get unstuck.Key Takeaways1) Vision comes before strategy. Plans are helpful, but they can’t tell you why you’re doing what you’re doing. When the “why” is missing, the plan becomes pressure.2) “Research” can become a hiding place. Emily talks about how we can call it research when we’re really just looking around because we feel unsure. But you can’t research forever. At some point, you have to get quiet, listen, and choose.3) Quiet is not easy, but it’s worth it. Getting quiet with God can feel uncomfortable at first. You might feel lost before you feel led. But that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It may mean you’re finally slowing down enough to hear what matters.4) Boundaries are a spiritual practice. Sometimes the most faithful move is to unfollow, mute, or unsubscribe, at least for a season. Not because people are bad, but because your soul needs room to breathe.If you feel unsure right now, you’re not alone. Many of us want quick answers, but clarity usually comes through quiet time, prayer, and honest reflection. Scripture reminds us that God leads us step by step: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart… and He will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5–6)You don’t have to force it. Don’t rush clarity. Make room for vision.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

April 5, 2026Episode 711 min

How to Find Clarity Without Rushing the Process. Navigating Uncertainty. For the Introspective Introvert

Have you ever been in a place where you just couldn’t figure something out, no matter how hard you tried?You prayed. You journaled. You asked for advice.But the clarity didn’t come. In this episode of The Driven Introvert, I’m talking about how to find clarity and why it’s okay if it doesn’t come on your timeline. This is for anyone wrestling with a decision, feeling unsure about what’s next, or stuck waiting for peace about the path forward.The truth is, when you're wondering how to find clarity, it is crucial to understand that clarity can’t be forced.And sometimes, the pressure we put on ourselves to "figure it out" does more harm than good.Whether you're trying to make a big life decision as an Introvert or simply choose the next right step, this episode will encourage you to slow down, let go of the timeline you’ve created in your head, and trust God’s timing instead.You’ll learn:Why your mind sometimes needs space to process before you can see clearlyHow rushing clarity can lead to more confusionA simple mindset shift to help you release the pressure of needing certaintyWhat to do when the answer still isn’t clearA practical tip that helps reset your mind when you feel overwhelmedIf you're an Introvert who usually waits until you're 98% sure before taking action, this episode will speak to you. I share my own struggle with wanting everything to be black and white and how learning to be open, curious, and patient has made all the difference.One thing I’ve come to understand in my own life is this: learning how to find clarity isn’t always about doing more. Sometimes, it’s about stepping back. Letting go. And trusting that peace will come in its own time.It’s not about being passive. It’s about releasing the pressure.We also talk about the spiritual side of how to find clarity, how to invite God into your process, ask for guidance, and move forward even when you’re not 100% certain.This episode is for the dreamers, deep thinkers, and purpose-driven introverts who want to live a thoughtful, intentional life but sometimes get stuck in their own heads.If that’s you, I hope this gives you permission to breathe and move forward with grace.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

March 22, 2026Episode 613 min

How to Declutter Your Mind and Free Your Creative Soul. For Introspective Introverts Who Want Forward Momentum.

Have you ever felt like your mind just won’t settle?You sit down to get something done, but the mental clutter, the worry, the spinning thoughts—they don’t stop. In this episode of The Driven Introvert, we’re talking about what it means to declutter your mind, to stop rehearsing anxiety, and to practice presence. If you’ve ever struggled to focus, rest, or stay grounded in your daily life, this conversation is for you.I share how I’ve learned to center myself after years of being high-strung, overwhelmed, and constantly in motion. I open up about what I had to let go of—like binge-watching shows, consuming too much news, or trying to do all the things at once—to make space for clarity and peace. My goal wasn’t just to simplify my schedule but to declutter my mind so I could finally hear what God was saying, and take meaningful action.We’ll also explore a simple yet powerful mindset shift I picked up from Emily P. Freeman’s book The Next Right Thing on how to declutter your mind. It's a practice I now use whenever I'm tempted to spiral into future-worry: I take the overwhelming thought, turn it into a question, and add the word today. For example: “Is this problem something I need to solve today?” If not, I release it. If yes, I take one small step forward.This episode is your gentle reminder that not everything needs your attention right now. When you stay in today, you trade panic for peace and confusion for clarity.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

March 8, 2026Episode 515 min

How to Let Go and Make Space for the Next Thing. Navigating Identity Crisis. For the Introspective Introvert

Have you ever pursued something with your whole heart, only to arrive and realize, “This isn’t it”? In this episode of The Driven Introvert Podcast, we’re diving deep into what it looks like to pivot when a long-held dream no longer fits. If you’ve ever struggled with letting go of a passion, project, or even a piece of your identity, this one’s for you. We’re talking all about navigating identity crisis with honesty, courage, and faith.I share a personal story of falling in love with writing, from publishing my first short stories online, to chasing writing prizes, to finally releasing a book of fiction. For a long time, writing wasn’t just something I did, it was who I believed I was. But what happens when that no longer rings true? What do you do when what once gave you joy and purpose now feels like a closed chapter?Navigating identity crisis can feel like losing a part of yourself. But sometimes, it’s the very invitation God uses to usher you into something new. In this episode, I reflect on how I’ve learned to discern the difference between quitting and releasing. Sometimes, walking away from something, even something good, is exactly what creates space for your next “yes.”We also explore insights from The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman. I unpack a powerful story about chasing achievements that don’t fulfill us, and the quiet realization that more isn’t always better. Sometimes, success can still leave us feeling empty. That’s when we have to ask the deeper questions: Is this still right for me? Who am I now? And where is God leading me next?If you’ve been wrestling with questions about your path, your passions, or your purpose, this episode offers space to breathe and reflect. Whether you’re stepping away from a career, a dream, a creative pursuit, or even a role you once cherished, I want to remind you: it’s okay to change.In fact, it might be the most courageous thing you can do.Inside this episode:My journey from aspiring writer to discovering a new callingThe emotional toll of quitting something tied to your identityHow to know when it’s time to let goA soul-centered perspective on decision-making and surrenderReflection questions to help you assess your next stepRemember, navigating identity crisis isn’t about abandoning your past, it’s about making peace with who you’ve been, so you can fully step into who you’re becoming.🎧 Listen now and join me in this gentle but important conversation.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

February 22, 2026Episode 49 min

How to Evaluate and Make Decisions Beyond a Pro-Con List. For the Introspective Introvert

Have you ever made a pro-con list to help make a big decision only to still feel stuck or confused?In this episode of The Driven Introvert Podcast, we’re exploring a fresh approach to decision-making inspired by Chapter 9 of Emily P. Freeman’s book The Next Right Thing. It’s called the Life Energy List, and it just might change the way you approach every hard choice from here on out.Here’s the thing, a pro-con list has its place. They help us sort through our thoughts when we’re overwhelmed or confused. I’ve done it many times. I’ve weighed jobs, opportunities, and big life changes using the classic two-column format.But as Emily points out in the book, not every item on the list holds the same weight. Ten “cons” can easily be outweighed by one deeply important “pro” like peace of mind, health, or the joy of meaningful connection.That’s why she offers a new method: instead of asking “What are the pros and cons?” ask:What is life-giving?What is life-draining?This episode gets real and personal. I share stories from my own life where this approach would have made a world of difference and how I now use this tool to navigate everything from relationships to work and creativity.I also get into what it looks like to wrestle with decisions that aren’t black and white and go beyond a pro-con list. Like, when something feels draining in the moment (hello, hosting people at my house 🙃) but leads to something deeply life-giving: connection, joy, and a sense of belonging.This isn’t just another tool for your productivity kit it’s a mindset shift. One that can help you make decisions not from a place of pressure, but from a place of clarity, peace, and purpose.If you’ve ever had to choose between two good (or two hard) options… this episode is for you.Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.

February 8, 2026Episode 311 min

How to Know What You Really Want in Life and Make Decisions That Reflect That. Decision Making and Personal Development for Introverts.

Have you ever said, “I don’t even know what I want anymore?”You're not alone. Life is full of decisions. Some feel urgent, others overwhelming, and often we’re caught between choosing what brings peace and what brings purpose. Let's talk personal development for introverts.In this episode of The Driven Introvert Podcast, I’m walking through Chapter 8 of The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman, and we’re digging into a question we all need to answer—What do you really want… and what do you want more?I share a personal story from 2020, a quiet season where life slowed down and work was steady—but something was missing. I wasn’t juggling a big personal project or working toward a dream, and while that brought peace, it also stirred something else in me.Purpose.Desire.Impact.Sometimes the thing we want (like calm, simplicity, or comfort) isn’t the thing we want more (like meaning, movement, or mission). And often, those two don’t always go hand-in-hand. This is personal development for introverts.We also explore:Why naming your desire out loud matters more than you thinkWhat we can learn from blind Bartimaeus and how Jesus responded to himThe hidden cost of indecision—and why not deciding is still a decisionHow to move past fear of judgment and be honest about what you wantWhy a pro/con list might not be serving you—and what to do insteadWhether you’re deciding between two good options or navigating a situation with no clear answer, this episode is for you.You’ll walk away with clarity on how to:Listen inward, not outwardPray from an honest placeDiscern what’s life-giving versus life-drainingTrust that God is guiding even when things feel uncertainFriend, if you’ve been stuck in indecision or afraid to name what’s really in your heart, this is your gentle nudge forward. There’s more ahead of you than there is behind you. And your next right thing starts with being honest about your desire. Looking for personal development for introverts? This is it!Thanks for being here! If you'd like to support the show, please visit buymeacoffee.com/remiroy to give a one-time or monthly gift. And if you can’t give financially right now? A rating, a review, or simply sharing the show with a friend goes such a long way.Thank you for being here. I see you. I appreciate you.Support the showContact UsAsk a question or leave a comment, visit shepact.com/voicemailFollow me on Instagram at instagram.com/remiroyEmail us: thedrivenintrovert@shepact.comEnjoying the podcast?Share the podcast with a friend: shepact.com/TDIPodcastLeave a review: We’d appreciate it if you could WRITE a review for us. Your support and feedback mean a lot to us. Thank you!For the driven introvert, the introvert leader, the lonely introvert, introvert entrepreneurs, the confident Introvert, dreamers, faith driven entrepreneur, passionate leaders and anyone who wants to close the gap between where they are and where they need to be. We discuss Leadership for Introverts, career development for introverts, introvert success, introvert success strategies, networking for the introvert, and other pertinent issues to help you as an introvert grow personally and professionally.