The Capa Podcast - Understanding Child Against Parent Aggression, from Capa First Response CIC

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Conversations about 'CAPA' - commonly known as Child to Parent Abuse, although we prefer Child Against Parent Aggression. We strive to raise awareness and support for those impacted by CAPVA. In season 2 join Matt our Senior Practitioner and a special guest each episode of season 2, sharing their knowledge and insights. The podcast is suitable for families and professionals working closely with families experiencing harmful behaviours from a child. Season 1 is full of valuable resources, such as school refusal, siblings, neurodiversity and more. CapaFirstResponse.org

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October 30, 2025Episode 618 min

Invites to spend time

Episode 6, Season 2: Invites to spend timeLetting your child know that you are thinking of them, and that they're welcome to join you for an activity, a film, a walk - anything, but importantly with no pressure to say yes. Find out how to approach this method to start making changes with your relationship with your child.In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE drop in session for parents/carers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠We already have season one of our podcast live explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

October 23, 2025Episode 524 min

The Parent/Child Game

Episode 5, Season 2: The Parent/Child GameIn this episode, we explore The Parent Child Game. This is a powerful strategy you can use to strengthening the bond between parent and child. By allowing children to lead meaningful interactions, this exercise encourages trust, improves communication, and helps reduce challenging behaviours at home.In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE drop in session for parents/carers⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠We already have season one of our podcast live explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

October 16, 2025Episode 446 min

The Drama Triangle

Episode 4, Season 2: The Drama TriangleIn this episode, we dive into two powerful models that help us understand how we show up in conversations and conflicts. We explore the Drama Triangle, a really useful framework for recognising the roles we slip into when tension rises and the Communication Pie, which breaks down what truly carries weight in how we communicate.Spoiler: it’s not the words! Most of what we “hear” comes from body language and tone. So if someone’s words sound fine but something feels off, you’re probably picking up on the real message beneath the surface.This episode has some great visual prompts so do watch if you can. In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:⁠⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE drop in session for parents/carers⁠⁠⁠⁠We already have season one of our podcast live explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

October 9, 2025Episode 331 min

Validation

Episode 3, Season 2: ValidationWhy Validation is important, and how to validate without affirming unwanted behaviour and language. In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠Book a ⁠⁠⁠FREE drop in session for parents/carers⁠⁠⁠We already have season one of our podcast live explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

October 2, 2025Episode 222 min

Safety Planning and Calling the Police

Episode 2, Season 2: Safety Planning and Calling the PoliceStrategies for families, with handy visuals to support understanding.In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠Book a ⁠⁠FREE drop in session for parents/carers⁠⁠We already have season one of our podcast live explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

September 25, 202524 min

Three faces & Dysregulation

Episode 1, Season 2: Dysregulation and Three Faces. Strategies for families, with handy visuals to support understanding.In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠Book a ⁠FREE drop in session for parents/carers⁠We already have season one of our podcast explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

September 13, 20256 min

An Introduction to Season 2 of The Capa Podcast

Season 2 of The Capa First Response Podcast is here! In this season our hosts Jane and Matt return with all episodes available to watch as well as listen to! This season has been commissioned by East Sussex County Council - so a huge thanks to them for their support.Over the course of this season we'll be sharing a range of strategies that families can use to start making a positive change to their situation, so do tune in each week and see if you can find some useful support. More about Capa First Response CIC: We provides online, compassionate, expert support for both families and professionals navigating child to parent aggression and and/or harmful behaviours. This is often referred to as ‘CAPVA’ – Child or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse.Find out more about us on our website:Capafirstresponse.orgBook a FREE drop in session for parents/carersWe already have season one of our podcast explaining in more depth about 'CAPVA' and these behaviours, as well as talking about how it can effect siblings, education and so much more. Podcast editor: AJ LaasMore info: info@capafirstresponse.org

April 3, 2024Episode 643 min

Q&A: More about Child Against Parent Aggression

For our final episode of our first series we're chatting about lots of different things related to 'Child Against Parent Aggression', including talking more about the terms and language we use; validation, regulation, the difference between rules and boundaries etc. A massive thanks to everyone who has tuned in, we hope to be back in your ears with a second series soon - we're planning on inviting guests who are experts in their field to join us so watch (or rather, listen!) to this space! Any feedback would be very welcome too, you can leave a comment/rating or email us at info@capafirstresponse.org with PODCAST in the subject! You can find out more about us, what we do and get in touch via the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X/Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our Vision: To stop harmful and/or aggressive behaviour in the home from a child or adolescent towards a parent or caregiver; For no parent or caregiver to feel alone in their experience and for whole families to have access to the support they need to improve their family situation. Our mission: To facilitate development of a nation-wide network of consistent, accessible, quality support for families, and to raise awareness amongst families and professionals around children/adolescents who use harmful and/or aggressive behaviour towards a parent/carer.

March 27, 2024Episode 527 min

DEFINITION OF CAPA: How do we define this behaviour?

Today we're talking about HOW we describe these behaviours, the actions themselves and the words we use when talking about this area to both families and professionals. Aggression, abuse, violence, harmful... we discuss these and more! As an organisation we prefer to avoid using the word 'Abuse' even though this is typically a commonly used phrase, and we explain WHY this is. You can find out more about us, what we do and get in touch via the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠X/Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ Our Vision: To stop harmful and/or aggressive behaviour in the home from a child or adolescent towards a parent or caregiver; For no parent or caregiver to feel alone in their experience and for whole families to have access to the support they need to improve their family situation. Our mission: To facilitate development of a nation-wide network of consistent, accessible, quality support for families, and to raise awareness amongst families and professionals around children/adolescents who use harmful and/or aggressive behaviour towards a parent/carer.

March 20, 2024Episode 436 min

EDUCATION & CAPA: How does schooling affect behaviour?

This episode focusses on Education, which is a massive part of a child's life. Often issues experienced with children using aggressive behaviours can start with problems experienced at school. We discuss the typical school set up and how it might not work for all children, how it can cause issues and struggles for many students. We touch on how schools and parents can work in partnership with each other for a better result for the child. You can find out more about us, what we do and get in touch via the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Capafirstresponse.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠X/Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ Our Vision: To stop harmful and/or aggressive behaviour in the home from a child or adolescent towards a parent or caregiver; For no parent or caregiver to feel alone in their experience and for whole families to have access to the support they need to improve their family situation. Our mission: To facilitate development of a nation-wide network of consistent, accessible, quality support for families, and to raise awareness amongst families and professionals around children/adolescents who use harmful and/or aggressive behaviour towards a parent/carer.