Ep108 | Say the Thing You Have Been Avoiding
There is a sentence you have been carrying. You have half said it in the shower, in the car, at two in the morning. You have not said it out loud to the person who needs to hear it. This episode comes at it through sport, because it shows up there first. The player everyone knows is not pulling their weight. The tension in the change room the whole group works around. The feedback a coach softens so far it stops being feedback. From the outside the team looks fine. Underneath, every person is spending energy managing something nobody will say, and that is the exact energy the team needs to perform. It works the same way in your leadership, your business and your kitchen. We choose months of low grade tension over ninety seconds of honesty. Silence is not kindness. It is avoidance wearing kindness as a coat. What you avoid is almost never the conversation. It is the feeling you will have during it. Say it kindly. Say it once. Say it early, while it is still small. Download The 7-Day Chilli Shift 00:00 Intro 00:15 The sentence you have been carrying 00:50 What quietly kills a team 01:30 The energy everyone spends working around it 02:05 The decision nobody will name 02:25 Unsaid things do not stay still 02:45 Why we do not say it 03:20 Ninety seconds, or months 03:50 Keeping the peace, or keeping the problem 04:15 "I don't know why I waited" 04:45 Saying it late and breaking it badly 05:15 Clean, kind, once 05:45 Day five of the seven days 06:05 The question to sit with Free: the 7-Day Chilli Shift → [link] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.