
If You're Still Alive, You Have Everything You Need: Andy Nelson on Courage, Gratitude & Going First Through Hard Things
What happens when life delivers an unplanned unfolding you never saw coming? Andy Nelson was diagnosed with stage IV cancer ten years ago. The five-year survival rate for his type of cancer was six percent. He is still here. And he says the experience gave him clarity he could not have found any other way. Andy Nelson is a dad, a husband, a leadership coach, and a stage IV cancer survivor. He joins Jaime Taets for a conversation about what it actually takes to keep moving when you do not know what tomorrow holds. They talk about the moment he heard the diagnosis, how he and his wife decided to dance with cancer instead of fighting it, and why acknowledging the hard stuff is the first step toward finding any gift in it. This conversation is about courage, fear, and the choice to go first even when you are scared. Andy shares why courage means having an open heart and shaking knees, how to turn worry into concern so you can actually do something about it, and why sitting in the suck with someone is sometimes the most powerful thing you can do. He also opens up about the difference between resume virtues and eulogy virtues, and how that reframe changed the way he defines success. If you have ever felt stuck, scared, or unsure of what comes next, this episode is for you. Andy's wisdom will remind you that if you are still alive, you have everything you need. Timestamped Chapters 0:00 Introduction to Andy Nelson 2:11 The seeds planted long before cancer 4:08 When stage IV cancer becomes an unplanned unfolding 6:54 Dancing with cancer instead of fighting it 9:33 If you're still alive, you have everything you need 12:24 Turning worry into concern 15:07 Sitting in the suck with someone you love 18:02 Where courage comes from 23:22 Resume virtues vs. eulogy virtues 27:06 Anchoring in body, heart, and mind 30:09 The power of getting your thoughts in writing 33:21 Survivor's Gratitude and the gifts of cancer Guest Bio Andy Nelson is a leadership coach, executive coach, and stage IV cancer survivor. He is the author of Survivor's Gratitude: The Gifts of Cancer, Clarity, and Connection, releasing in October 2026. Andy spent years as a Fortune 5 leader before launching Nelson Executive Coaching, where he works with executives and teams to develop leaders and inspire growth. He is also a keynote speaker and musician. Andy lives in the Greater Minneapolis-St. Paul area with his wife Michael and their three daughters. Quotes from the Episode "If you're still alive, you have everything you need." "Courage is core coronary. Open heart, shaking knees." "There are resume virtues and there are eulogy virtues." Leadership Insights Q: How can leaders build courage to keep moving through uncertainty? A: Courage is not the absence of fear. It is the willingness to act even when you are scared. Andy Nelson describes courage as having an open heart and shaking knees. It comes from acknowledging that you are sitting in the suck and choosing to do the hard thing anyway. For leaders facing uncertainty, courage starts with checking in with yourself, naming what you are afraid of, and then asking what one thing you can do today to move forward. Q: What is the difference between resume virtues and eulogy virtues in leadership? A: Resume virtues are the achievements, awards, and outcomes you collect over your career. Eulogy virtues are the qualities people will remember you for when you are gone, like kindness, integrity, and the impact you had on others. Andy Nelson learned this distinction during a silent retreat and it reshaped how he defines success. Leaders who focus only on resume virtues risk missing the deeper legacy they could leave through how they show up for people every day. Resources Connect with Andy Nelson on LinkedIn Learn more about Nelson Executive Coaching Subscribe to Andy Nelson on YouTube Learn more about Andy's book, Survivor's Gratitude Learn more about Jaime Taets and Keystone Group International Explore Jaime's Women's Executive Retreats . Explore Keystone Group International and its leadership, culture, and organizational growth work. Follow Jaime on Instagram , LinkedIn , and Facebook If this conversation gave you a new perspective on courage, gratitude, or what it means to keep going when life gets hard, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Subscribe to Go First with Jaime Taets for more conversations about leadership, growth, and taking that next step forward. Go First is the show where we talk about what it takes to move forward: first, fast, and with purpose. Everything you want is on the other side of the next unknown step. Let's Go First together. Jaime Taets













