Self(ish) Confidence

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Jun 2026

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What if your confidence didn’t depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done trying to live by someone else’s timeline and ready to trust their own. Your confidence is your superpower but it can be hard to show up as your authentic self. When you’re caught in the scroll of everyone’s highlight reel or walking into a room full of strangers, it can be hard to show up as the truest version of yourself. Comparison kicks in. Doubt creeps up. And suddenly, being your full, beautiful, authentic self feels... hard. Self(ish) Confidence is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as YOU. It is about finding your confidence, shining your light and taking action toward your unconventional life. This podcast is all about building real, unapologetic confidence (the kind that doesn’t need approval). Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or totally different than what you thought it would.. you're in the right place! Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, will walk with you through mindset shifts, personal stories, and confidence-boosting truths to help you break free from people-pleasing, trust your gut, and build a life you’re wildly obsessed with. This isn’t just a podcast — it’s your reminder that you’re not too much, never behind, and more than worthy of the life you want. Let’s build that belief together.

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June 9, 2026Episode 31126 min

[311] Your Lack Of Confidence Is Showing 🙈

The fastest way to spot a confidence dip is not in what you say, it’s in what you do next: the overexplaining, the defensiveness, the mental replay of a one-minute interaction that suddenly feels like a life review. If that sounds familiar, you’re going to feel seen here.We unpack the sneaky signs your self-confidence is slipping and why it often happens during big life transitions. I share what’s been lighting up my own “seeds of doubt” lately, from parenting choices and toddler tantrums to the weird emotions around starting daycare, balancing work and family, and even stepping into an updated personal style and rebrand. When we’re not fully grounded in our decisions, other people’s opinions can shake us fast, even when they mean well.We also talk about the reality that everyone has opinions, and how the Let Them perspective can help you stop making those opinions your responsibility. The goal is not to become louder or tougher. It’s to build self-trust, get clear on the season you’re in, and practice responding in a way that keeps your peace. Think of it as watering confidence instead of watering doubt.If you’re ready for a mindset reset that’s practical and honest, press play. After you listen, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a boost, and leave a review so more women can find this confidence coaching energy. What seed of doubt are you working through right now?Apply for 1:1 Confidence Coaching with me.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

June 3, 2026Episode 31031 min

[310] What If Your Distractions Aren’t Random At All

Your attention is getting pulled in a hundred directions, and it’s not because you’re lazy or “bad at discipline.” It’s because modern life is designed to distract you and if you’re parenting, building a business, working a job, or just trying to feel like yourself again, those distractions can quietly eat the year you swore would be different.I’m sharing a real-life reset: how I think about showing up imperfectly, why I’m not “starting over,” and what it means to stay human and authentic in a world packed with AI content and constant noise. Then we get into the practical stuff, because motivation isn’t enough when your phone, your inbox, your clutter, and your mental load keep interrupting you. We talk about identifying your biggest distractions, running a simple one-day tally to find your patterns, and building small distraction-free pockets of time that actually fit real life.You’ll also hear the boundaries that help most, especially around social media and screen time, plus an easy way to keep a “distraction list” so your brain stops spinning with all the little things you’re afraid you’ll forget. And we end with the reminder I think you need: you don’t have to be perfect to make progress, but you do need to protect your attention if you want that vision board to turn into your real life.If this hits home, share it with a friend, leave a review, and send me a message with your number one distraction and what you’re trying to achieve so we can tackle it together.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

May 26, 2026Episode 30933 min

[309] Stop Letting Other People’s Fear Lead

Someone hears your dream and suddenly it feels risky, unrealistic, or “too much.” That moment can look like advice, concern, or even excitement, but underneath it is often the same thing: projection. We’re talking about what happens when other people’s fears and “shoulds” get placed onto your choices, and how quickly that can shrink your confidence if you don’t have protection around your ideas.We also get real about social media comparison and information overload, because a five minute scroll can send you straight into the spiral of “Am I doing this right?” and “Do I need to change everything?” I share the boundaries that help me stop the loop, why I keep certain dreams private until they’re strong, and how community support can feel totally different when it’s built on safety instead of opinions. If you’re craving connection without the constant noise, I also share what we’re building inside the Selfish Sisterhood, with both in-person meetups and virtual calls.If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a confidence boost, and leave a review so more women can find Selfish Confidence.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

May 19, 2026Episode 30830 min

[308] Being Delulu in Barbados: a BTS Look of the recent Self(ish) Retreat

Mom guilt tells us we have to pick a lane: be fully present at home or fully committed to the dream. I’m fresh back from our Barbados Selfish Retreat, and I’m here to tell you what it actually looked like to host a week-long women’s retreat as a mom and come out the other side more grounded, more clear, and honestly more convinced that “having both” is possible.Barbados isn’t just a pretty backdrop. It’s the place that helped bring my life to life, and returning with a new identity, new responsibilities, and a whole lot of real-world logistics brought up so much truth. I share the behind-the-scenes of planning, the post-travel crash that forced me to take real rest, and why the world doesn’t fall apart when we stop treating rest like something we have to earn.We also get into what made this retreat feel so powerful: a luxury villa team that let us receive care, a “delulu” mindset that made possibility feel real again, and the unexpected theme that kept coming up in compliment bags. Women felt safe to be 100% themselves, to wear what they want, speak freely, take up space, and opt out without judgment. The core teaching for the week is self-worth and value, and I walk through tools we used like human design and even a playful “glitter glasses” perspective shift that helped us see our gifts more clearly.Want to be the first to know about the new one? Get on the Retreat Waitlist.If you’ve been craving a confidence reset, a self-worth boost, or a community that actually feels safe, hit play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more women can find this work.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

May 5, 2026Episode 30720 min

[307] How To Quit The Comparison Trap And Trust Your Own Path

Comparison has a sneaky way of dressing up like motivation, then leaving you with that heavy “I’m not doing enough” feeling. While I’m in full pre-retreat mode packing for Barbados (organized chaos and a suitcase that’s barely under 50 pounds), I wanted to sit down with you for a quick, honest reset on the comparison game and why it keeps showing up even when life is going well.We talk about what’s really happening when social media comparison spikes your anxiety and self-doubt. We’re consuming more information than our brains were built for, and it can mess with focus, memory, and mental health, especially when you’re constantly seeing a curated glimpse into other people’s routines, bodies, businesses, and relationships. I share a simple way to start breaking the pattern: identify where the “not enough” message comes from, then change the input. That can mean muting accounts, limiting certain shows, and being more intentional about what you let shape your self-worth.If something on your heart keeps popping up, let this be your nudge to take one small step and tell me what it is. Subscribe for more honest confidence talks, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find the show.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

April 28, 2026Episode 30628 min

[306] The Compliment Effect

If you’ve been doing the juggling act of motherhood, work, relationships, and big dreams, you know the “enoughness” spiral. We talk about that shaky energy head-on, and how societal pressure quietly convinces women there’s one correct timeline and one acceptable way to live. When your path looks unconventional, the world can make you feel like an outsider, even when you’re simply telling the truth about what you want.From there, we dig into the identity traps that keep confidence small, especially the habit of labeling yourself as “weird” to protect yourself from judgment. The goal isn’t to get louder or tougher. It’s to get truer. We explore how confidence and self esteem grow when you stop comparing your journey, let your truth evolve, and practice being seen without immediately shrinking back.Then we get practical with the Compliment Effect: give one compliment a day, receive one compliment a day, and add one compliment to yourself. It sounds simple, but it’s a real confidence-building practice that retrains how you handle validation, visibility, and connection. If you’re ready for more self confidence, more authenticity, and less playing small, press play, then subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a friend who needs a little extra shine today.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

April 21, 2026Episode 30539 min

[305] [INTERVIEW] Painting Pictures with Sound: Confidence, Storytelling & Being Seen w/Melody Rose

A lot of people want to “use their voice” until the moment their voice can be judged. Today, I sit down with Halifax radio host and storyteller Melody Rose to talk about what confidence really looks like when you’re vulnerable, thin-skinned, and still committed to saying the honest thing on a microphone. Along the way, Melody shares the behind-the-scenes reality of public feedback, why openness can be a strength, and how storytelling creates the kind of community where someone hears your truth and thinks, “Oh my god, me too.” We get into the career path that brought Melody from teaching into media, and the realization that it was never about being a performer, it was always about telling stories and painting pictures with sound. Then we talk about how life changes your confidence, including the sleep deprivation years, the shift into a better schedule, and how perimenopause can collide with everything from mood to energy to identity. If you’ve been navigating women’s health, burnout, or the pressure to keep everyone else comfortable, you’ll feel seen. Connect with Melody RoseStory Time with Mrs. RoseListen to Country 103.5Explore the Lore Listen, share with a friend who needs a confidence boost, and leave a review if you want more honest conversations like this.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

April 14, 2026Episode 30430 min

[304] Get in the Room (Your Confidence Will Catch Up)

Some weekends don’t just feel fun, they snap you back into yourself. After the Fredericton Women Show and the She Leads women’s panel, I walked away with that buzzing reminder that confidence grows faster when you’re surrounded by women who actually want you to win.I’m sharing behind-the-scenes from the quick road trip, the magic of meeting “internet friends” in real life, and the contrast between glitter-goggles energy and the very real reality of coming home to mom life. We also get into why watching women entrepreneurs share their products and stories is so motivating: it turns the half-formed ideas in your Notes app into a simple question you can’t ignore anymore. Are you going to bring it to life?We talk about building community on purpose, including why I created the Selfish Sisterhood as a community in your pocket, plus the Moms Club and our accountability group. If you’ve been craving encouragement, connection, and that “OMG that’s so cool” kind of support, this is your sign to stop waiting for motivation and start finding your room.Then we go deeper: the versions of ourselves people never see, my Barbados chapter, and what it means to thank the past you who started before she was ready. If you need a nudge to do the thing even when it doesn’t make sense, press play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more women can find this kind of confidence.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

March 31, 2026Episode 30329 min

[303] Become Unfuckwithable

You know that moment when someone shares an opinion and your stomach drops because you can feel the judgment coming? I wanted to talk about the skill that changes everything: becoming unfuckwithable, not in a rude way, but in an unshakable way where you stay rooted in who you are even when people disagree. If you’ve been dimming your personality, filtering your thoughts, or trying to be “easy” for everyone else, this is your reminder that confidence is allowed to take up space.We start with why it can feel safer to blend in, especially on social media where comments can be brutal, and why people pleasing keeps so many of us stuck. Then I share a simple real-life story from a coffee shop that turned into a bigger lesson about parenting choices, comparison, and trusting your own values. When you know your foundation, you don’t need to defend every decision or spiral after a sideways look.From there, we get practical: how to identify your values, how to notice the “question marks” where you’re still borrowing beliefs from family or culture, and how to practice saying what you mean with safe people first. This is personal growth, self confidence, and authenticity work all rolled into one, and it helps you build a stronger mindset, clearer boundaries, and a personal brand that actually feels like you.If you want extra support, I’m also offering a free week of my program Confidently You. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a confidence boost, and leave a review so more women can find the show.Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course!Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

March 24, 2026Episode 30227 min

[302] Overstimulated & Under-Joyed

Your brain isn’t broken, it’s overloaded. I’m sitting down with a cup of tea and naming the thing so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: life is loud, busy, and weirdly serious, and we’ll do almost anything to avoid an empty moment. If you’ve ever found yourself “productively” organizing junk, scrolling Threads a little too long, or filling every pause with content, you’re in good company.I talk about why constant distraction feels so tempting in 2026, how information overload can keep our nervous system stuck on high alert, and why quiet can feel uncomfortable at first. We practice a simple reset I love called a “nothing pocket” a short, timed window where you do nothing on purpose so your mind can breathe again. From there, we shift into the real mission: joy. What’s actually fun for you right now? When did we stop playing, and why did adulthood become a loop of work, chores, and screens?We get practical with ideas to bring play back without overhauling your whole life: revisiting what you loved as a kid, scheduling it like it matters, trying an “artist date” style weekly adventure, checking local events, going to things alone, following tiny creative urges like doodling, and even shaking out energy with a five-minute dance break while dinner cooks. The goal is simple: more play, more core memories, less autopilot.If this lights something up, share it with a friend who needs more fun, tag me so I can thank you, and please leave a five-star review on Spotify or Apple to help this community grow.Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood: $33/month or $333/year.Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence