Self(ish) Confidence

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Self(ish) Confidence is your reminder that you don’t need to become someone else to create a life you love. Hosted by Self-Discovery and Empowerment Mentor, Jess Clerke, this is the podcast for women who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves, let go of the “shoulds,” and start living life on their own terms. We’re talking confidence, self-trust, identity, boundaries, relationships, motherhood, ambition, personal growth, and all the messy in-between moments that come with becoming more YOU. Because confidence isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about knowing yourself well enough to trust your choices, even when they don’t make sense to everyone else. Each week, Jess brings honest conversations, real-life stories, mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you question what you’ve been told you should want and get radically honest about what you actually want instead. You don’t need more permission. You need more trust in yourself. Welcome to Self(ish) Confidence. A place to trust yourself, own your truth, and live life on your terms.

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September 29, 2026Episode 32323 min

[323] Finish Confident In The Last 90 Days

The last 90 days of the year can mess with your head. One minute you feel fired up to finish strong, and the next you are wrapped in a heated blanket watching your calendar disappear into Canada Thanksgiving, Halloween, and the full holiday season rush. I’m Jess, and I’m talking straight about that pressure pot feeling and the real-life reasons our goals start to wobble, especially when motivation comes in waves and life is doing the most. We get into how to tell the difference between a goal you truly want and a goal you think you “should” want. I walk you through a simple way to look at your vision board or goals list, prioritize your top three, and give yourself permission to remove what no longer fits. I also share a Human Design lens on motivation and self worth, including the ego centre, and why understanding your pattern can help you stop beating yourself up and start working with your energy instead of against it. Then we make it practical. You’ll hear how to build a clear, realistic plan for the next 90 days, how to scale goals so they are doable, and why slip ups are not failure. I talk about why all-or-nothing challenges can feel soul crushing, and how confidence actually grows through action and consistency. We finish with the piece that changes everything for follow-through: community, accountability, and having people who celebrate you even when you pivot. If this hit home, listen now, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review so more people can find the Selfish Confidence Podcast. What goal are you committing to for the next 90 days? Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

September 22, 2026Episode 32224 min

[322] Stop Chasing Greener Grass

The grass is always greener until you get there and realize it comes with closures, sickness, and a whole new set of problems. I’m coming to you with a slightly scratchy voice and a very real story about childcare curveballs, jealousy, and the myth that one external change will magically hand us freedom, energy, and peace. If you have ever thought, “If only I had that job, that relationship, that schedule, that support… then I’d finally feel good,” you are going to feel seen. We dig into how social media comparison quietly trains us to believe everyone else has it figured out, while we’re the only ones struggling. I share what I wish I understood sooner: the “answer” is rarely the thing you are chasing, and waiting for more time is a trap. Instead, we talk about taking small actions that actually build women’s confidence and self-confidence, from regulating your nervous system with simple practices to sending the message, posting the imperfect first draft, or starting the project you keep delaying. Then we go deeper with a set of questions you can use right away: are you craving the physical thing, or the feeling you think it will give you? Valued. Loved. Calm. Free. That clarity changes everything. I also share a tough but important reminder after a day of estate planning: life is finite, and I don’t want any of us reaching the end wishing we’d taken our shot. If you’re ready to stop scrolling and start watering your own lawn, hit play, then share this with a friend who’s stuck in “if only.” Subscribe, leave a review, and tell me what small step you’re taking this week. Human Design Readings: https://jessclerke.com/programs Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

September 8, 2026Episode 32123 min

[321] Stop Letting Comparison Steal Your Pride

That reflex to say “I’m fine” can be the loudest sign that you’re not giving yourself enough room to feel what’s true. I’m Jess, and I’m getting real about a tender season over here: daycare transition days, constant colds, the heaviness of drop-offs, and the pressure to show up like I’ve got it all figured out. I also share a bit of the behind-the-scenes excitement as Selfish Confidence heads toward year five with refreshed artwork, more conversational “sleepover” style chats, and guests I can banter with while keeping the vibe exactly the same: honest, warm, and for you. Then we get into the core mindset shift I can’t stop thinking about: judgment and comparison don’t just steal your joy, they steal your pride. A single comment about screen time flipped a switch in my brain and had me questioning my parenting in seconds. If you’ve ever heard how someone else does things and immediately felt “less than,” you’re going to feel seen. We talk about the grade-comparison trap, parenting milestones, social media metrics, and why different paths, temperaments, and timelines make these comparisons wildly unfair. You’ll leave with a grounded self-confidence practice you can start today: find one thing you did well, celebrate it like you would for your best friend, and write it down daily to build real evidence of your progress. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a pride reset, and leave a review so more women can find this space. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

August 26, 2026Episode 32029 min

[320] Becoming Unrecognizable

You know that moment when you catch your reflection and think, wait, I don’t even recognize myself? That’s what we’re unpacking today: the experience of becoming “unrecognizable,” how it can feel heavy and disorienting, and how it can also be the most powerful sign that you’re growing into a truer version of you. We start with a real-life reminder of identity outside of roles, like being a mom, a partner, or the person who keeps everything running. I share how doing updated brand photos brought me back to myself, and why having spaces where we can be fully seen matters more than ever. We talk about why confidence isn’t something you “put on,” it’s something you practice, especially when your life has changed and your old patterns no longer fit. Then we get practical. We walk through how to identify energy leaks, set boundaries when you can’t just quit or walk away, and create simple rituals to separate work stress from home life. We also talk about shaking up autopilot with tiny changes that wake your brain up, like sunlight before blue light, a different routine, or one small choice that reminds you you’re human, not a robot. And if you’ve been hiding in a darker season, we name that too and talk about how community support can help you find your way back. If this hits, take a minute to listen, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. What’s one place in your life where you’ve been feeling unrecognizable lately? Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

August 18, 2026Episode 31928 min

[319] Overwhelm Reset: What is overwhelm trying to teach you?

Overwhelm can make you feel like you’re failing at life when the truth is simpler: you’re carrying too much, for too long, with too few breaks. Today we’re getting real about that “chest-tightening” season where the calendar is packed, your brain is tired, and you’re tempted to either burn everything down or push through until you hit some magical date where you can finally breathe. I share what’s been happening behind the scenes after nearly five years of the podcast and why readjusting expectations is sometimes the most self-respecting move you can make. We walk through a practical reset for stress and overwhelm that starts with matching your schedule to your actual energy, not the energy you wish you had. You’ll hear how to find pockets of rest inside a busy week, why “small actions” beat big plans when you’re running on fumes, and how setting goals your most tired self can still do builds real confidence over time. If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of getting excited, overcommitting, and then feeling like you “can’t stick to anything,” this will feel like a deep exhale. We also talk about the part people skip: feeling the overwhelm instead of numbing it away. Your emotions are data, and they can point to what’s missing, like joy, play, and the kind of fun that lights you up. We end with ideas for bringing that energy back in small, doable ways, even in a full season of life. If this resonated, share it with a friend who’s maxed out, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, and please leave a rating or review so more people can find this support. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

August 5, 2026Episode 31823 min

[318] How to Trust Yourself When Life Changes Your Plans

Your plan can be perfect and life can still change by lunch. I’m Jess, and today I’m talking straight to the part of you that wants to control every pawn on the chessboard, because I’ve been there too. When my childcare plan shifted unexpectedly, I had a choice: spiral, or pivot. I’m choosing a “30 days of fun” mindset and soaking up a season I might never get again, even if it isn’t the version of summer I imagined. From that real-life pivot, we go deeper into trusting yourself when things don’t make sense on paper. We talk intuition and Human Design authority, including why “trust your gut” isn’t one-size-fits-all, and how different authority types can shape your decision-making. I share what splenic authority feels like for me, that quiet instant hit that shows up once and disappears, and how learning to listen has helped me build self-trust and confidence. Then we get practical about taking action when excuses get loud. If time is your biggest roadblock, I break down how to use small time pockets, why messy action beats waiting for perfect conditions, and how simple visual reminders like a vision board can keep your goals from getting buried under real life. We also talk community, sisterhood support, and why consistent action is where confidence actually grows. If you’re craving more self confidence, better intuition, and a grounded way to chase your goals in a busy season, hit play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find the show. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

July 28, 2026Episode 31733 min

[317] Break The Thought Loop

Your brain can turn one hard moment into a full-time soundtrack, and suddenly you’re living inside a rerun instead of your real life. I’m Jess, and I’m sharing what’s been hitting me hard lately: parenthood and childcare did not go the way I pictured, and it was dangerously easy to translate that into “I can’t create, I can’t grow, I can’t do my work right now.” That belief sounds practical, but it quietly becomes a cage. We dig into the cycle of replaying conversations, second-guessing what you said, and carrying that heaviness into everything else. I talk about how anxiety and “good girl” conditioning can keep us from using our voice, and why that loop drains your energy and steals your joy. If you’re a cycle breaker, a people pleaser, or a woman trying to lead with light while life feels sharp around the edges, this one is for you. Then we get practical with three tools to break the loop: seek joy (because spirals don’t thrive there), get into nature to regulate your nervous system, and flip the script the moment the old thought shows up. I also share a release ritual you can try today (write it down, burn it safely or tear it up, bury it), plus a visualization that sticks: treating your thoughts like cassette tapes, tossing the one that keeps you stuck, and choosing a new message on purpose. If affirmations feel weird, we talk options like sticky notes, an audio recording, and simple daily repetition. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a gentle shake, and leave a quick rating and review so more women can find the show. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

July 24, 2026Episode 31612 min

[BOOST] What If Someone Needs What You Create?

Your best ideas always show up at the worst time: when you’re driving, showering, or staring at the ceiling right before sleep. I'm jumping on the mic for a short bonus boost to turn that familiar spark into something bigger, a reminder that creation is a practice, not a personality trait. If you’ve been telling yourself you’re not consistent enough, not confident enough, or not “ready,” this is the kind of pep talk that actually tells the truth. We riff on the ripple effect of creators and mentors, including how the EmpowerHer podcast helped bring this show to life. Then we go straight into the sticky part: visibility. The fear of judgment is real, and so is the reality that you might feel awkward, sound cringe, or even cry before you hit upload. We don’t pretend that goes away. We talk about why it’s still worth doing, and how self confidence is built by showing up scared and doing it anyway. Follow my sisters: Charlene at Wind Waves and Wands Meghan: @ teachonpause If you’ve been sitting on an idea, let this be your permission slip. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a push, and leave a review if the show helps. What are you going to create this week? Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

July 14, 2026Episode 31526 min

[315] How To Let Go Of Identities That No Longer Fit

You can outgrow a label and still keep living like it’s true. We’re talking about the sneaky way old identities cling to us, even after we’ve healed, evolved, and built a life that proves we’re different now. I start with a rare quiet moment, a big love letter to this community, and a reminder that self-confidence isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you are and letting that version of you take up space again. We also dig into practical tools for identity change: getting clear on the new version of you, catching your automatic “auto-reply” thoughts, and practicing a redo in real time. I share a helpful Human Design angle, the G Center or identity center, and how it can explain why some of us feel steady while others shapeshift around different people. Then we tackle comparison and social media boundaries with my favorite metaphor: we all have different microwaves, so stop timing your growth by someone else’s clock. If you’re ready to crumple up a label that no longer fits and let the real you lead, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find this kind of confidence work. Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

July 7, 2026Episode 31433 min

[314] Seasons That Shake Your Identity

Change can be exciting, but the part nobody warns you about is the identity whiplash. One day you’re handling life like you always have, and the next you’re in a new season, new schedule, new body, new priorities, and you’re still expecting the “old you” to keep up. I’m talking about the real impact of life transitions and why you don’t need to become someone brand new to grow, you need to remember who you are and come home to yourself. We start with a reminder to do everything with love, including how we treat ourselves when things feel messy. I share how community can feel “inconvenient,” but it’s also a privilege, and why support matters when you’re moving through a breakup, a new job, a move, parenthood, or any major shift that changes how you see yourself. We also get honest about the fear of judgment and why sharing your goals can feel vulnerable even with people who love you. If you’re in a season of change, come listen and be a little softer with yourself. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more sisters can find the support they’re looking for. 30-60-90 Day Consistency Tracker Confidently You Week 1 Free Trial Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Sign up for the free Confidently You Mini Course ! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If this episode inspired you to trust yourself, take up space, or live a little more unapologetically, share it with someone who needs that reminder too. Tag @jess.clerke so I can celebrate you because when one woman shines, we all shine. ✨ Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence