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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.

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August 24, 202632 min

360. How To Be Awesome At Being Delusional On Purpose

My goal in this podcast is to completely change the way you feel about the word delusional. Because most of the time, we use it as an insult… as if believing in something before you have proof means you're disconnected from reality. But I think delusional can be one of the most powerful words there is when it means refusing to let your current circumstances dictate what you believe is possible for your future. It means looking at your life as it is today and deciding that these are facts about today, not instructions for tomorrow. It means believing in the business before it works, walking like you're next before the room agrees, acting like the opportunity is coming before you can see it, and refusing to shrink your dream just because the results haven't caught up yet. Because most people don't fail because they lack talent… they fail because they are too reasonable. They make decisions based on what they've done before, what feels safe, what other people think is realistic, and what their current life seems to prove is possible. Then they pray for a new life and move like the old one. So today, I want to talk about what it actually means to be delusional on purpose: to believe bigger than the evidence, behave in a way that creates new evidence, stop inheriting other people's limitations, and stay in the game long enough for the life you imagined to actually happen. BE DELUSIONAL ABOUT THE VISION. BE RUTHLESS ABOUT THE EXECUTION. This is the distinction. Being delusional does not mean sitting on the couch imagining a better life and expecting Amazon Prime to deliver it. That's fantasy. The kind of delusion I'm talking about is different. Be completely unreasonable about what you believe is possible… and extremely practical about what you need to do today. Maybe you want to be in phenomenal shape. Great. Be delusional enough to believe you can completely transform your body. Then be incredibly non-delusional about what today requires. Train. Walk. Eat enough protein. Sleep. Stop negotiating with yourself. Maybe you want to build a huge business. Be delusional about how big it can become. Then be painfully realistic about what you need to do today. Make the calls. Film the videos. Make the offer. Study what isn't working. Fix it. Post again. Follow up. Get better. That combination is so powerful. Massive belief. Grounded action. YOU CAN'T PRAY FOR A NEW LIFE AND MOVE LIKE THE OLD ONE They pray for a new life and then they move like the old one. How often do we do this? We say… I want to get into the best shape of my life. I want to make way more money. I want to start the company. I want to become an incredible parent. I want to completely change my social circle. I want an extraordinary marriage. I want to write the book. I want to launch the thing. I want to travel. I want to have freedom. I want to wake up excited about my life. Okay. But then Monday morning comes… And we operate exactly like we operated last Monday. Same schedule. Same habits. Same distractions. Same excuses. Same amount of effort. Same standards. Same conversations. Same people influencing us. Same three hours disappearing into our phones. And somehow we expect a radically different result. It doesn't work that way. At some point you have to decide… If I want a life I've never had, I'm probably going to have to behave in ways I never have. That is where being a little delusional becomes your superpower. YOU CANNOT ACT OUTSIDE OF WHAT YOU BELIEVE TO BE TRUE This is a huge part of all of this. Your actions are limited by what you believe is possible. If you don't believe you can do something… how are you going to consistently take the actions that would actually allow you to do it? You probably won't. If deep down you don't believe your business is going to work, that doubt will eventually show up in your behavior. You won't do the outreach. You won't post enough content. You'll avoid the uncomfortable work. You'll procrastinate on the thing you know matters. You'll distract yourself. You'll convince yourself you need another course, another plan, another month of preparation. And then when it doesn't work, you get to say… See? I knew it. That's why your beliefs matter so much. The achievement of your goals is largely dictated by your actions. And your actions are heavily influenced by what you believe is possible. So if you want a radically different outcome, part of the work is expanding what you believe you are capable of creating. MOST PEOPLE ARE HANDING YOU THEIR OWN INSECURITIES This is one of the most important things to understand if you want to do anything big with your life. Most of the time when somebody tells you what isn't possible for you… They aren't actually talking about you. They're talking about themselves. They are giving you the boundaries of their own imagination. They're giving you their fears. Their experiences. Their disappointments. Their risk tolerance. Their insecurities. Their definition of what is realistic. And we absorb it like it's objective truth. Someone says: "That's really hard." "You probably can't make money doing that." "That industry is too saturated." "You're getting a little obsessive." "Do you really think you can do that?" "What if it doesn't work?" Okay. But ask yourself… Is this person qualified to tell me what is possible for my life? Have they built the type of life I'm trying to build? Have they taken the type of risks I'm trying to take? Have they accomplished the thing they're warning me is impossible? Because sometimes the advice isn't wisdom. Sometimes it's fear wearing a very convincing outfit. And you have to get really good at distinguishing between the two. You can listen to smart feedback. You should listen to facts. You should change strategy when necessary. But you do not have to inherit someone else's limitations. STOP ASKING YOUR CURRENT LIFE FOR PERMISSION One of the biggest mistakes we make is looking at our current circumstances for evidence that our future dream is possible. Of course the evidence might not be there yet. You haven't built it yet! Imagine somebody starting a business and saying… "Well, I'm only making $5,000 a month right now, so it would be pretty delusional to think I could make $100,000 a month." Yes! Exactly! Be delusional. Because every person making $100,000 a month once had a month where they made zero. Every person who is incredibly fit once had a first workout. Every person with a massive audience once posted something that six people saw. Every amazing relationship had a first conversation. Every expert was once completely new. Your beginning does not get to vote on your ending. We keep wanting proof before belief. But most extraordinary things happen in the opposite order. You believe. Then you behave differently because of that belief. Then the evidence starts showing up. BORROW EVIDENCE UNTIL YOU HAVE YOUR OWN Here's a practical way to strengthen your belief. Look for people who have already done the thing you want to do. Not so you can compare yourself to them. So you can give your brain evidence. Someone built the company. Someone transformed their body. Someone started over at 45. Someone built an audience from nothing. Someone came back from failure. Someone learned the skill. Someone figured out how to make the money. Someone changed their entire life. They aren't made from different materials than you. They may have different advantages, different circumstances, different timing and different talents. But their existence proves that the category of outcome is possible. Use that. Study people ahead of you. Learn what they did. Stack evidence. Follow your plan. Adjust when necessary. And keep moving. You don't have to blindly tell yourself something is possible. You can go collect proof that it is. GET RID OF THE "JUST IN CASE" ENERGY This was another part that really hit me. We want the blessing… But we keep a just-in-case plan. And I don't mean that you should make irresponsible financial decisions or abandon basic common sense. I mean emotionally. We say we believe in something… But we leave ourselves 900 exits. We don't fully commit. We keep one foot in the old identity. We keep telling everybody, "Well, if it doesn't work…" Why are we spending so much energy rehearsing the failure? What would happen if you spent that energy preparing for success? What would you need if this actually worked? Who would you need to become? What systems would need to be in place? What skills would you need? What help would you need? What would your days look like? That's a much more useful conversation. MAKE YOUR FUTURE SELF THE MAIN CHARACTER Main-character energy gets made fun of online, but there's something really useful buried inside of it. Stop acting like a supporting character in your own life. Stop letting everybody else's schedules, preferences, opinions and expectations determine your entire existence. You get one life. This is it. And sometimes we behave as if we're waiting for someone to come tell us what we're allowed to do with it. You are allowed to change careers. You are allowed to reinvent yourself. You are allowed to stop liking things you used to like. You are allowed to want more. You are allowed to become wildly disciplined. You are allowed to make new friends. You are allowed to build a different routine. You are allowed to start over. You are allowed to decide that the person you have been is not the person you are going to continue being. YOUR PAST IS INFORMATION, NOT A PROPHECY Maybe you've failed before. Okay. That is information. Maybe you've quit things before. Information. Maybe your business didn't work the first time. Information. Maybe you've lost weight and gained it back. Information. Maybe you've chosen the wrong relationships. Information. Maybe you've spent years not being disciplined. Information. But none of that is prophecy. We have this weird tendency to make past behavior part of our identity. "I'm just not consistent." "I've never been good with money." "I always quit." "I'm not athletic." "I'm shy." "I'm not a morning person." "I'm bad at business." Be careful. Because you will defend an identity even when that identity is making you miserable. You can choose a new one. THE TWO THINGS I THINK YOU NEED MOST: BELIEF AND REFUSAL TO QUIT When you strip this whole episode down, I think it comes down to two things. Believe that you can create the outcome. And refuse to quit on yourself. That doesn't mean believing every strategy will work. It doesn't mean believing everything will happen exactly when you want it to. It means believing: I will find a way. That is different. Maybe Plan A fails. Okay. Try Plan B. Maybe that fails too. Learn something. Try again. Maybe the timeline changes. Maybe your original idea evolves. Maybe you realize you need new skills. None of those things mean the dream is dead. The person who keeps adapting has an enormous advantage over the person who needs everything to go right the first time. THE QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF Here is the question I want you thinking about after this episode: If I were completely delusional about what was possible for my life, what would I go after? And then the second question: What would I do today if I genuinely believed I could figure it out? Those two questions together are magic. Because the first one expands the vision. The second one forces behavior. Maybe you would launch it. Maybe you would finally apply. Maybe you would completely change your routine. Maybe you would hire help. Maybe you would leave something that hasn't been working. Maybe you would train for something huge. Maybe you would post the content. Maybe you would make the call. Maybe you would finally stop playing small because you're worried someone is going to think you think too highly of yourself. Who cares? Think highly of yourself. Believe you can do extraordinary things. You're going to need that belief when it gets hard. BUILD EVIDENCE FOR YOUR DELUSION At first, it feels delusional. Then you start taking action. And every action becomes evidence. You said you were becoming disciplined and then you got up and trained. Evidence. You said you were building the company and then you made 20 sales calls. Evidence. You said you were becoming a creator and then you published for 30 days. Evidence. You said you were changing your health and then you kept promises to yourself for three months. Evidence. Eventually the thing everyone called delusional becomes obvious. And people forget that there was a period when nobody could see it except you. That's how almost every big thing starts. Be unreasonable about the vision. Be disciplined about the execution. Believe you can figure it out. And don't quit.

August 19, 202634 min

359. Awesome Health Lessons I Learned From Gary Brecka

Our dear friends invited us to an event this weekend in LA… they are partnering with Gary Brecka to build Ultimate Longevity Centers which will bring treatments and testing that just hasn't been easily accessible before now. I believe the way we look at aging is outdated and I'm going to share the biggest take aways I got from his on stage message and chatting with him one on one. We are talking about very practical starting points and Gary Brecka's actual morning health routine. Stop waiting until something is wrong to start taking care of your body. We have been taught this idea that getting older automatically means getting weaker, having less energy, gaining weight, losing muscle, sleeping worse, becoming more anxious, needing more medications and eventually developing all of the diseases that "run in our family." Gary challenges a lot of that thinking. His message is essentially… What if we became obsessed with keeping our bodies functioning incredibly well for as long as possible? What if instead of asking, "How do I treat disease once I have it?" we asked, "How do I create a body that is incredibly difficult for disease to thrive in?" And then there's the longevity piece that completely fascinates me. Gary believes we're entering a period where medicine, AI, biological data and longevity research are going to advance so rapidly that lifespan could look radically different in the future. Maybe 120. Maybe beyond. We don't know. But what we do know is that we need to keep ourselves healthy enough NOW to benefit from whatever becomes possible later. So today's episode is about doing the things that give you the strongest, healthiest, most capable body possible. I've been listening to Gary Brecka talk about health, longevity, anxiety, genetics, sleep, sunlight, oxygen, muscle, bloodwork and what he believes is coming next in longevity science. THE BIG IDEA: YOUR HEALTH IS BUILT EVERY DAY One of my biggest takeaways from Gary is that health isn't something we deal with when there's a problem. It's something we're building every single day. Your sleep last night matters. What you do when you wake up matters. Whether you move your body matters. Whether you maintain muscle matters. Your metabolic health matters. Your stress matters. Your relationships matter. Your nutrition matters. Your environment matters. And individually, none of these things feels life-changing. But repeated for years and decades… they become your life. Gary describes his routine as simple, portable and repeatable. I LOVE that. Because the best health routine isn't the $100,000 biohacking setup. It's the one you'll actually do every day. HABIT #1: HYDRATE BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE Gary starts his morning with water and minerals. One version of his routine is a large glass of room-temperature water with mineral salt and sometimes lemon. His current routine also frequently includes mineral salt, hydrogen water and essential amino acids. Wake up and hydrate. You've just spent roughly eight hours without drinking anything. Don't make coffee your first liquid of the day. Put water next to your bathroom sink. Put it next to your coffee machine. Make it automatic. Gary likes mineral salt because sodium and other minerals participate in fluid balance and normal nerve and muscle function. HABIT #2: GET OUTSIDE FIRST THING Gary says to get outside within the first part of your morning and get natural outdoor light into your eyes. His routine generally calls for about 10 minutes outside. Morning light helps tell your brain: It's daytime. Start the clock. Light is one of the strongest environmental signals for the circadian system. Properly timed morning light can shift circadian timing earlier and increase daytime alertness. And I love thinking of sleep this way: Your good night's sleep starts in the morning. We tend to think sleep health starts when we crawl into bed. But your body has been receiving signals all day telling it when to be awake and when to prepare for sleep. HABIT #3: BREATHE ON PURPOSE Gary talks about oxygen constantly. His personal morning practice has included three rounds of deep breathing followed by breath holds. And this connects to another thing we've been talking about: Anxiety. I love the idea that when you feel anxious, you shouldn't immediately decide: "I'm an anxious person." Anxiety is a state your nervous system is experiencing. Sometimes your thoughts are driving your physiology. And sometimes your physiology can amplify anxious thoughts. Either way, changing the physical state can sometimes help change the mental state. Research on structured breathwork has found modest improvements in stress and anxiety, although it isn't a cure-all and the quality of studies varies. HABIT #4: GIVE YOUR BRAIN SILENCE Gary often combines his morning breathing with quiet, gratitude and reflection. He has described sitting quietly for around 10 minutes, looking toward the horizon or closing his eyes and thinking about gratitude. (PodScripts ( https://podscripts.co/podcast s/the-ultimate-human-with- gary-brecka/246-gary-brecka- answers-googles-most-searched- questions-on-his-diet- wellness-and-lifestyle?utm_ source=chatgpt.com )) Think about how different this is from what most of us do. Eyes open. Phone. Email. Instagram. News. Text messages. Stress. Other people's priorities. And we wonder why we feel overstimulated. TRY THIS: Before consuming everybody else's thoughts… Have some of your own. What am I grateful for? What matters today? Who needs me today? How do I want to feel today? What is actually important? PRACTICAL VERSION: Five minutes. That's it. No phone. No podcast. No input. Just quiet. HABIT #5: USE CONTROLLED DISCOMFORT Cold exposure is another major Brecka habit. If he has access to a cold plunge, he uses it. When traveling, he has said a cold shower works too. But I think there is a bigger lesson here than whether everybody needs to buy a cold plunge. Stop designing your entire life around comfort. Human beings are unbelievably adaptable. Exercise is stress. Heat is stress. Cold is stress. Fasting is stress. Challenging your brain is stress. The key is appropriate amounts of stress followed by recovery. HABIT #6: MOVE EARLY Gary includes movement in his morning routine. But here's what I love: It doesn't need to be a full workout. Walk. Stretch. Squat. Lift. Do yoga. Go outside. Movement tells your body: We're alive. We're using this machine today. And then keep moving after the morning is over. One exceptionally practical habit is walking after meals. Instead of finishing dinner and immediately sitting on the couch… WALK FOR 10 MINUTES. Moving skeletal muscle after eating can help the body handle glucose. You don't need workout clothes. You don't need a gym. You don't even need to sweat. Walk around your neighborhood. Walk your dog. Walk while you're on a phone call. ONE OF THE EASIEST HEALTH RULES: Eat → walk. HABIT #7: BUILD MUSCLE LIKE YOUR FUTURE DEPENDS ON IT This is where I think longevity conversations get really practical. MUSCLE IS NOT JUST ABOUT LOOKING GOOD. Maintaining muscle becomes increasingly important as we age. Resistance training is one of the most powerful non-drug strategies available for preserving and building skeletal muscle. Losing muscle eventually affects: strength balance mobility independence your ability to recover from illness your ability to do normal life You're not building your 2026 body. You're building your 2056 body. HABIT #8: PRIORITIZE PROTEIN AND REAL FOOD- avoid processed foods Gary emphasizes protein and essential amino acids because preserving lean tissue is a major part of his longevity philosophy. The research strongly supports resistance training for preserving muscle, while evidence regarding how much additional benefit comes from protein supplementation specifically is more mixed. HABIT #9: PROTECT YOUR METABOLIC HEALTH I think this deserves WAY more attention. We obsess over weight. Gary talks much more about metabolic health. There is a difference. Weight is one number. Metabolic health includes things like: blood glucose insulin sensitivity blood pressure blood lipids waist circumference fitness body composition Instead of only asking: "How much do I weigh?" Ask: "How well is my body functioning?" Someone can lose weight while losing muscle. Someone can be thin and still have poor metabolic health. PRACTICAL HABITS: Strength train. Walk. Walk after meals. Eat mostly whole foods. Get enough sleep. Maintain healthy body composition. Reduce constant snacking if it isn't serving you. Know your basic health numbers. THE GOAL ISN'T SKINNY. The goal is metabolically capable. HABIT #10: TEST… DON'T JUST GUESS This might be one of my favorite parts of Brecka's philosophy. Stop guessing about everything. If you're exhausted all the time… investigate. If you're unusually anxious… investigate. If your sleep has suddenly changed… investigate. If your energy has disappeared… investigate. If your hormones feel completely different… investigate. If you feel awful despite doing "everything right"… investigate. Don't immediately decide: "I'm getting old." "This runs in my family." "I'm just an anxious person." "My metabolism sucks." "This is just how I am." ASK BETTER QUESTIONS. Could something modifiable be contributing? sleep nutrient deficiencies thyroid function iron status medications hormones metabolic health stress alcohol caffeine environment psychological health This does NOT mean ordering every exotic test on the internet. It means becoming curious about your own biology. HABIT #11: DON'T TURN ANXIETY INTO YOUR IDENTITY This is worth repeating because I think this is such an important mental shift. Instead of: "I AM anxious." Try: "I'm experiencing anxiety." Those are very different statements. One is an identity. One is a temporary condition worth investigating. Gary's message leans heavily toward investigating biology. He talks about things like methylation pathways and MTHFR. There are legitimate genetic influences on anxiety. But anxiety is complex. Research suggests anxiety disorders arise through a combination of genetic vulnerability and environmental influences, not one single "anxiety gene." (PubMed ( https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.g ov/15699295/?utm_source=chatgp t.com )) So I would approach it from ALL DIRECTIONS: Calm the body. Investigate the biology. Work on the thoughts. Breathwork. Sleep. Exercise. Less overstimulation. Healthy relationships. Therapy when needed. Medical evaluation when something feels physiologically off. Nutrition. Less caffeine when appropriate. Time outdoors. Don't choose between: "It's psychological." or "It's biological." It can be both. HABIT #12: GENETICS ARE INFORMATION… NOT ALWAYS DESTINY This is another Gary Brecka concept that I think is incredibly empowering when we phrase it accurately. People say: "Diabetes runs in my family." "Anxiety runs in my family." "Heart disease runs in my family." "Autoimmune disease runs in my family." And we can start thinking: Well… I guess that's coming for me too. But genetics often represent susceptibility rather than certainty. Your genes can increase risk. Your environment can increase or decrease risk. Your behaviors matter. Your metabolic health matters. Your exposures matter. Your entire biological environment matters. So instead of thinking: "My family gets this disease." Think: "I may have inherited a vulnerability. What parts of that vulnerability can I modify?" THAT is empowering. Important distinction: Some diseases absolutely are caused by inherited genetic mutations. So we should not say: "Genetic diseases aren't real." They absolutely are. The better message is: Genes can load the gun. They don't always pull the trigger. And with many complex chronic diseases, what ultimately happens involves an interaction between genetics and environment. HABIT #13: STOP THINKING OF SLEEP AS LOST PRODUCTIVITY Sleep is when your body gets to repair. And Brecka's evening routine reflects this. He emphasizes regular sleep, reducing stimulation late at night and setting up the next morning by protecting the night before. My favorite way to think about sleep: Tomorrow starts tonight. Stop trying to squeeze another hour out of your day if it destroys tomorrow. Decide when you're going to bed BEFORE you're tired. Dim things down. Get off your phone. Stop working. Let the nervous system receive a signal that the day is ending. Pick a bedtime and protect it the same way you'd protect an important meeting. NOW LET'S TALK ABOUT LIVING TO 120 The speed of advancement is changing. AI can analyze enormous amounts of biological data. Diagnostics are improving. Scientists are studying the actual biology of aging rather than treating aging purely as an unavoidable decline. Researchers are investigating cellular senescence, epigenetics, regenerative medicine and other mechanisms associated with biological aging. Gary believes these developments could eventually change human lifespan dramatically. And his argument is essentially: Stay alive and stay healthy long enough to benefit from what's coming. That hit me HARD. Because imagine being 75 in the future… But instead of arriving at 75: metabolically sick weak frail sedentary cognitively struggling carrying multiple preventable chronic illnesses You arrive: strong metabolically healthy active engaged cognitively sharp sleeping well maintaining muscle surrounded by people you love THAT is the bridge. Not: "How do I live forever today?" But: "How healthy can I be when tomorrow's medicine arrives?" DON'T JUST CHASE LIFESPAN. CHASE HEALTHSPAN. I don't want to simply exist until I'm 120. I want to LIVE. I want to: travel walk everywhere lift my suitcase play with grandchildren hike swim think clearly learn new things have great conversations have energy be independent laugh have purpose wake up excited THAT is longevity. Not adding years at the end where you can't live. Adding life to the years. WHAT SHOULD WE ACTUALLY DO RIGHT NOW? If you took this entire episode and boiled it down into a daily longevity checklist… MORNING Hydrate. Get outside. Get natural morning light. Breathe intentionally. Spend a few minutes in quiet. Think about gratitude. Move your body. Use cold exposure if you enjoy it and it's appropriate for you. Don't immediately flood your brain with stress. DURING THE DAY Eat nutrient-dense real food. Prioritize protein. Strength train consistently. Walk. Walk after meals. Stay metabolically healthy. Maintain muscle. Build meaningful relationships. Have purpose. Keep learning. Get outside. NIGHT Stop eating mindlessly late into the evening. Reduce stimulation. Get off the phone. Give yourself a predictable bedtime. Sleep. THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE Know your numbers. Do appropriate preventive screening. Investigate symptoms rather than ignoring them. Don't automatically assume something is "just aging." Don't automatically assume family history means destiny. Continue learning as science changes. Protect your muscle. Protect your metabolism. Protect your brain. Protect your relationships. Protect your sleep. THE SIMPLEST VERSION OF EVERYTHING GARY BRECKA IS SAYING 1. Get sunlight. 2. Breathe. 3. Hydrate. 4. Move. 5. Build muscle. 6. Eat real nutrient-dense food. 7. Protect your metabolism. 8. Sleep like it matters. 9. Challenge your body sometimes. 10. Investigate problems instead of simply accepting them. 11. Don't confuse genetic risk with guaranteed destiny. 12. Don't turn anxiety into your identity. 13. Build relationships and a life that gives you purpose. 14. Stay unbelievably healthy while longevity science continues advancing. And maybe most importantly… DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE SICK TO BECOME INTERESTED IN YOUR HEALTH. I learned that every single thing that gives me the best chance of being healthy at 120 also gives me a better life at 45. Getting sunlight tomorrow morning makes tomorrow better. Sleeping tonight makes tomorrow better. Building muscle makes this decade better. Eating well makes today better. Getting outside makes today better. Putting my phone down makes today better. Managing anxiety makes today better. Having people I love around me makes today better. So this isn't really an episode about trying to cheat death. It's about refusing to sleepwalk through your health. Your body is the vehicle that carries you through every single experience you're hoping to have. Every trip. Every adventure. Every business idea. Every dinner. Every workout. Every moment with your kids. Every future grandkid. Everything. So take ridiculously good care of it. And instead of looking at aging and thinking… "Well, I guess everything starts going downhill from here…" What if we thought completely differently? What if our goal was: I want to be stronger next year. Healthier next year. More metabolically healthy next year. More informed next year. More capable next year. And then do it again. And again. And again. For decades. Let's make the goal to be fully alive for as much of it as humanly possible. That's the health lesson I'm taking from Gary Brecka. Don't wait for the future of longevity medicine. Build the kind of body today that's ready for it.

August 10, 202638 min

358. Unexpected Ways To Use AI To Make Your Life More Awesome

Here's the link to my 2.0 calendar planning system… https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem **The perfect pairing to use with AI** I explain how and why towards the end of this episode! I think most people are using AI way too small. They're asking it to rewrite an email, make a grocery list, or answer a random question… which is fine. But that's like buying a Ferrari and using it to drive to the mailbox. The real opportunity is to use AI to remove friction from your life. To make decisions faster. To stop carrying 47 unfinished thoughts around in your head. To get healthier, make more money, organize your life, solve problems faster, and actually create more space for the things you care about. Today I want to show you how to start thinking differently about AI altogether. How to use it almost like an extension of your brain… a personal assistant, strategist, researcher, coach, planner, and sounding board that is available the second you have a problem to solve. Because I really believe the people who learn how to use AI well right now are going to have an insane advantage. Not because they're smarter or working harder… but because they're going to spend so much less time stuck in the figuring-it-out phase. And that means more time spent in forward motion, less of the mundane and more time living… which is always the goal. IDEAS!! TURN YOUR REFRIGERATOR INTO A PERSONAL CHEF Take a picture of what you have and say: "I want a high-protein dinner using these ingredients. Under 30 minutes, at least 40 grams of protein, no seed oils, kid-friendly, and minimal dishes." Now AI isn't giving you a random recipe. It's solving your actual dinner problem. USE BOOKS FOR EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED Instead of just asking for a book summary, make it relevant to your life. "Teach me the parenting principles from Good Inside using examples with an eight-year-old." "Explain the identity-based habits concept from Atomic Habits and tell me how to use it for my current goal." You can learn exactly what you need, exactly when you need it. USE AI AS YOUR TRAVEL CONCIERGE Give it your destination, hotel, kids' ages, budget, preferences, and schedule. Then ask it to: • Build the itinerary • Avoid tourist traps • Find great restaurants • Plan rainy-day backups • Organize everything geographically • Tell you what to pack • Compare hotel options • Decide whether upgrades are worth it It can save hours of research. TREAT IT LIKE A PERSONAL ASSISTANT If something has been sitting on your list because it requires research or decision-making… hand it over. "I'm comparing these three gyms." "I need a new mattress." "I'm choosing between schools." "I need the perfect birthday gift." Tell AI your priorities and let it compare the options. Don't just ask: "Answer this question." Ask: "Help me solve this entire problem." HIRE YOURSELF A PERSONAL TRAINER Say: "Act as my personal trainer. Ask me everything you need before building my program." Give it your goals, schedule, equipment, injuries, current fitness level, and nutrition goals. Then let it create a plan around your actual life. And when life changes: "I only have 25 minutes today. Modify my workout." LET AI ORGANIZE YOUR HOUSE Take a picture of your pantry, closet, garage, or playroom. Then ask: "Pretend you're a professional organizer. Tell me what to donate, relocate, buy, and exactly what order to tackle this in." This is especially helpful when you feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start. USE AI AS A THINKING PARTNER Sometimes you don't need more information. You need perspective. Dump the entire situation into ChatGPT. Then ask: "What am I not seeing?" "What pattern do you notice?" "If you were incredibly direct with me, what would you tell me?" Sometimes getting everything out of your head and organized is enough to create clarity. BUILD YOUR DREAM LIFE BACKWARDS Describe your current life. Then describe the life you want. Example: "I'm overwhelmed, my house is cluttered, I don't have enough energy, and I always feel behind." Versus: "My home feels calm, I feel strong, I'm organized, I have financial confidence, and my days feel intentional." Then ask: "Build me the smallest daily and weekly habits that would move me from Version A to Version B." Now AI becomes a life-design tool. CREATE A DEFAULT HEALTHY DAY Stop making 100 tiny decisions every day. Give AI your schedule and priorities. "I wake up at 5:30, kids leave at 7:45, I work from 8 to 1, I want 10,000 steps, 130 grams of protein, a workout, time outside, and bed by 9:30. Build me the most efficient version of my day." Now you have a default operating system instead of reinventing your schedule every morning. AUDIT YOUR TIME + MONEY Give AI your spending and say: "I want to free up $2,000 a month without dramatically changing our lifestyle. Show me where you would find it." Give AI your weekly calendar and say: "My priorities are health, family, income-producing work, and margin. Tell me what should be eliminated, delegated, batched, or moved." Sometimes the problem isn't that you need more time or money. You need to use what you already have better. THE BIG IDEA The people getting the best results from AI aren't necessarily asking better questions. They're giving better context. Don't ask: "What's a healthy dinner?" Ask: "I have 25 minutes, two hungry kids, chicken, broccoli, sweet potatoes, and Greek yogurt. I want something high-protein, kid-friendly, no seed oils, and minimal cleanup." The better you brief AI… The better it performs. ** Last thoughts ** Imagine carrying around a world-class assistant everywhere you go. Someone who can organize, research, teach, plan, compare, coach, and help you think through almost anything. The goal isn't to think less. The goal is to spend less time stuck. Less time overwhelmed. Less time researching. And more time executing, creating, taking care of yourself, being with your people, and actually living your life. The next time you think: "I need to figure this out…" Try asking: "How could AI help me figure this out faster?" This is the greatest time to ever be alive and AI can help your life be more efficient and filled with joy if you know how to use it!!

July 27, 202622 min

357. The Secret To Supporting Your People In The Most Awesome Way

I think a lot about how I can best show up and be there for my people. My family and closest friends… my inner circle. I want to be very intentional about how I support them. I realized something recently that I hadn't pin pointed in this way before. And one of the greatest gifts you can give them isn't advice… It isn't solving all of their problems… It's belief. I think that's what every single person is really looking for. Someone who believes in them. Someone who's in their corner. Someone who genuinely wants to see them win. Today we are talking about believing in your people sometimes even more than they believe in themselves. I honestly think that's what so many people are longing for. To know someone sees something in them they can't quite see yet. Sometimes people just need to borrow someone else's belief until they build their own confidence. It looks like this… someone you love says "I have a huge presentation tomorrow." Instead of… "Oh man… that's stressful." Smile and say… "Good thing you're one of the best presenters I know." It's belief in what they are doing and what they care about. By shifting our responses to belief statements, I think we can completely change how people feel after spending time with us. This is the reframe… when you're in a situation with someone you love and you're responding to what they have doing on or what they told you about… tell yourself… how can I show how much I believe in them? I think 99% of the time that's what they actually need and want to hear. Let's look at some examples. **Starting a business They say: "I've been thinking about starting my own business." Standard response: "Just be careful… most businesses fail." Your belief statement: "If anyone can figure this out, it's you. I know it will work because you don't stop until things do." **Child Before A Big Game They say: "I'm nervous about my game." Standard response: "Don't be nervous." Your belief statement: "Good thing you're the kind of person who plays their best when it matters. I can't wait to watch you." **Tough Day At Work They say: "I don't know if I'm doing a good job." Standard response: "I'm sure you're fine." Your belief statement: "I've watched you solve harder problems than this. I have complete confidence that you'll figure this out too." **Trying Something New They say: "I've never done anything like this before." Standard response: "Well… just try your best." Your belief statement: "Every expert was once doing something for the first time. I think you're going to surprise yourself." **Your Spouse Feeling Overwhelmed They say: "I don't know how I'm going to get everything done." Standard response: "Yeah… you've got a lot on your plate." Your belief statement: "I know it feels like a lot, but you're one of the most capable people I know. And we're a team—we'll figure it out together." Let's lean into these 4 types of belief statements 1. Believe in their ability "You've got this." "You're ready." "I trust you." "You can handle this." "You're really good at this." 2. Believe in their character "You're incredibly resilient." "You're wiser than you think." "You're a great leader." "You're one of the kindest people I know." "You're built for hard things." 3. Believe in their future "I can't wait to see what you do." "You're just getting started." "This is going to be part of your success story." "Your future is bright." "Big things are ahead." 4. Believe in them when they can't "I'll believe in you until you believe in yourself." "I see something special in you." "I wish you could see yourself through my eyes." "Don't count yourself out." "I haven't lost confidence in you for one second." Imagine if the people in your life consistently heard responses like these. Imagine how your spouse would walk into work. How your kids would walk into school. How your friends would chase bigger dreams. How much more courage they would have simply because they know there's someone in their corner who believes in them. You can't control every outcome for the people you love. But you can control what they hear from you. And maybe the greatest gift you can give someone isn't having all the answers… Maybe it's helping them believe they already have what it takes. The reframe… Before you respond to someone… Pause for just one second and ask yourself: "What response would make this person feel more capable?" Not more dependent. Not just more comfortable. More capable. Then respond from that place. Because the best supporters don't just make people feel better. They make people become better. And maybe that's one of the greatest gifts we can ever give the people we love.

July 20, 202632 min

356. How To Be Awesome At Resetting Fast

This is a bold statement but I fully believe it. The speed at which you recover from life's setbacks has a bigger impact on your future than almost anything else. Examples … Someone says something super rude. Or you get disappointing news. Or you make a big mistake you're so bummed about. The event lasts a few minutes... but for so many people, the emotional impact lasts for days or longer! I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I think one of the greatest skills you can develop isn't avoiding difficult moments... It's learning how to recover from them faster. Imagine two people. The exact same upsetting thing happens to both of them. Person A needs seven days to recover. Person B needs seven minutes. Now imagine that happens hundreds of times over the course of a lifetime. Who builds the better life? Today we're talking about one of the most valuable life skills you can develop... How To Be Awesome At Resetting Fast. Because you can't always control what happens to you... But you can absolutely control how long you let it affect you. Stop Measuring Failure... Start Measuring Recovery Time Alex Hormozi talks often about speed. Speed of decisions. Speed of learning. Speed of action. But one thing he demonstrates over and over is speed of recovery. He doesn't pretend successful people avoid problems. He believes they simply spend less time emotionally attached to them. Ask yourself: How long do I stay upset? 10 minutes? 10 hours? 10 days? The longer recovery takes... the more expensive every setback becomes. Great performers compress recovery time. Build Reset Rituals Successful people don't rely on motivation. They have reset systems. Examples: "I had a bad meeting." → Walk outside. "I argued with someone." → Journal. "I skipped my workout." → Schedule tomorrow before bed. "I feel overwhelmed." → Brain dump. The faster your ritual... the faster your recovery. I've been through harder. This is not the worst thing that's ever happened to you. Identity Doesn't Change Because Of One Decision Or Situation Mark Manson talks about identity being built through repeated behaviors rather than dramatic declarations. Environment and consistent actions matter more than forcing yourself through shame. One bad decision doesn't erase years of good ones. One great workout doesn't make you healthy. It's averages. The stock market doesn't go straight up. Neither do you. Hormozi's Philosophy Alex Hormozi says something along these lines all the time: You don't become exceptional by avoiding hard things. You become exceptional because hard things stop surprising you. Your response becomes automatic. Problem? Solve. Mistake? Adjust. Failure? Learn. Move. No drama. Just data. The Compound Effect Of Fast Resets Imagine two people. Both make 200 mistakes this year. Person A Needs seven days to recover. Person B Needs seven minutes. Who wins? Not because they're smarter. Not because they're more talented. Simply because they spend dramatically more days moving forward. That difference compounds over years. Challenge For the next 30 days... Stop trying to be perfect. Instead... Become obsessed with shortening your reset time. Miss your workout? Reset tomorrow. Bad conversation? Don't carry it into the evening. Eat poorly? Next meal. Made a bad decision? Learn. Adjust. Move. Your goal isn't to eliminate mistakes. It's to become someone who never stays down for very long. Because life will keep knocking you off course. The people who build extraordinary lives aren't the ones who never fall... They're the ones who become world-class at getting back up. If you remember one thing from today's episode, let it be this: One bad moment should never become a bad day. One bad day should never become a bad week. One bad week should never become a bad year. Your greatest superpower isn't avoiding setbacks... It's refusing to live there. Reset. Refocus. Take the very next right step. That's how extraordinary lives are built... one fast reset at a time.

July 17, 202622 min

355. How To Be Awesome At 5 words not to rush through life

How often do you find yourself rushing… even when nothing is actually wrong? You're hurrying your kids to get in the car. Speed-walking through the grocery store. Eating lunch while answering emails. Counting down to Friday. Thinking, "I just need to get through today." Somewhere along the way, I think we've started treating ordinary life like it's an emergency. I started saying these 5 words to myself... "This is not an emergency." Today we're going to talk about how to stop living like every single thing is on fire... ...because it isn't. And when you start reminding yourself that this isn't an emergency... you don't just become calmer… you become happier overall. We Have Accidentally Turned Everyday Life Into An Emergency Think about how many times today you probably said... "Hurry." "We're late." "Come on." "We don't have time." "Let's go." Most of us are moving at emergency speed... ...without an emergency. Ask yourself... If someone watched security camera footage of my life... would they think I was constantly responding to disasters? Or just making breakfast? Because sometimes they look exactly the same. Examples We Rush Through Every Day Getting kids ready for school Instead of... "Hurry! Hurry! Hurry!" Imagine saying internally... "This isn't an emergency." Will they still get dressed? Yes. Will yelling make it faster? Usually not. But it definitely changes everyone's morning. Waiting in line We immediately grab our phones. Complain. Get frustrated. Instead... "This isn't an emergency." Maybe it's two extra minutes. Maybe this becomes your breathing break. Traffic Somebody cuts you off. You're late. Heart rate skyrockets. Except... You arriving thirty seconds sooner changes almost nothing. Grocery shopping People rush aisle to aisle. Barely noticing anyone. Never smiling. Never enjoying choosing food they'll feed their family. Life becomes one giant checklist. Cleaning your house Instead of... "I have to get this done." Try... "I GET to create a home my family enjoys." Same task. Different experience. Folding laundry Jay Shetty often talks about mindfulness inside ordinary moments. Laundry isn't stealing your life. Laundry IS your life. These ordinary moments ARE your life. The "Can't Wait Until..." Trap This one is huge. People spend decades saying... "I can't wait until..." The baby sleeps through the night. They're potty trained. They're in kindergarten. Middle school. High school. College. Retirement. Vacation. Friday. Summer. The remodel is finished. When we finally move. When the house is clean. When I lose twenty pounds. Jay Shetty talks often about how our minds live in the future... and miss the only place life actually exists. Today. What If This Was The Good Part? This might be the chapter you'll miss someday. The noisy dinner table. Little baseball cleats by the door. Teenagers asking for rides. Kids needing hugs. Messy kitchens. Dog hair everywhere. The chaos... might actually be the dream. Looking For What's Wrong One thing I've noticed... When we're rushing... our brain becomes a problem detector. Traffic. Mess. Noise. Delays. People moving too slowly. Bad service. Rain. We're constantly scanning for irritation. Instead... What if we asked... What's beautiful about this moment? What would I miss if this disappeared tomorrow? The Brain Finds What It Looks For If you're looking for inconvenience... you'll always find it. If you're looking for joy... you'll find that too. This is something both Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty return to in different ways: attention shapes experience. You don't control every circumstance, but you do have influence over where your mind rests. Different Phases Of Life Young parents Instead of... "I just need bedtime." Think... "This little voice asking for one more story won't last forever." Parents of teenagers Instead of... "I can't wait until they're independent." Think... "One day they'll stop needing me this much." Working professionals Instead of rushing meeting to meeting... Take thirty seconds. Breathe. Drink your coffee while it's hot. Look out the window. Nothing explodes. Entrepreneurs Everything feels urgent. Every email. Every customer. Every notification. Every opportunity. But if we're honest... very few business decisions require panic. Good businesses are built through consistent decisions... not frantic ones. Questions To Ask Yourself Whenever you feel yourself speeding up... Ask: Is someone in danger? Is this actually urgent? Will this matter next week? Can I slow my breathing? Can I speak softer? Can I smile? Can I enjoy this? Can I choose peace instead? My Favorite Reset Whenever I notice myself getting worked up... I literally say... "This is not an emergency." Sometimes out loud. Immediately... My shoulders drop. My breathing slows. My voice softens. I become a better mom. A better wife. A better friend. A better business owner. Not because my circumstances changed... but because my nervous system changed. Tiny Moments That Become Better Waiting for your coffee. Watching your child tie their shoes. Cooking dinner. Folding towels. Driving to volleyball practice. Standing in line at Disneyland. Watching Little League warmups. Listening to your teenager tell a story that takes forever. Walking your dog. Sunsets. Rainstorms. Family dinners. These moments don't need to be escaped. They're the moments we're going to remember. CHALLENGE OF THE WEEK This week... Every single time you notice yourself rushing... Pause. Take one deep breath. And simply say... "This isn't an emergency." Then intentionally slow down by just 10%. Walk slower. Talk slower. Eat slower. Drive calmer. Listen longer. Smile more. You might be surprised how much life you discover in those extra few seconds. Life isn't usually asking us to move faster. It's asking us to be more present. The irony is that we spend so much of life racing toward the future... that we barely experience the life we're actually living. So this week... Give yourself one simple reminder. "This is not an emergency." Because most of the time... it isn't. And when you stop treating ordinary moments like crises... those ordinary moments become extraordinary. I hope this episode helps you slow down & enjoy the beautiful life you're already living.

July 13, 202627 min

354. How To Be Awesome At Building Your Personal Health Ecosystem

Feeling great isn't about chasing the next health trend. It's about mastering the fundamentals. It's about building a lifestyle where healthy choices become your normal. Because what you do every day will always matter more than what you do once in a while. I've been studying experts for years and despite coming from different backgrounds, they all point to the same idea... The healthiest people don't just make healthy choices... they've built lives where those choices have become automatic. Today, we're talking about the daily habits that help you feel better, think clearer, have more energy, and become the healthiest version of yourself. Health isn't one habit. It's an ecosystem. When you improve one area, every other area gets easier. Sleep makes workouts easier. Workouts improve mood. Better mood improves relationships. Better relationships reduce stress. Less stress improves sleep. It becomes a positive upward spiral. Get Morning Sun Your body needs to know it's daytime. Morning sunlight helps: • Circadian rhythm • Better sleep that night • More stable cortisol • Better energy • Better mood • Hormone production Go outside. No sunglasses. Even 5–10 minutes can help. Move Every Day Not because you're trying to lose weight. Because humans are designed to move. Walking is one of the most underrated longevity tools. Ideas: • 10,000+ steps • Walking meetings • Walking phone calls • Family walks after dinner Movement isn't punishment. It's medicine. Lift Heavy Things Muscle equals health. Benefits: • Blood sugar control • Longevity • Confidence • Bone density • Hormones • Energy Especially for women after 35. Eat Foods Your Great-Grandparents Would Recognize Choose foods with minimal processing. • Protein first • Fruit • Quality dairy if tolerated • Eggs • Meat • Seafood • Vegetables • Healthy fats Less: • Packaged food • Sugary drinks • Ultra-processed snacks Hydrate Like It Matters Water is important. With electrolytes is even better. Protect Your Brain • Sleep • Learning • Hobbies • Gratitude • Nature • Social connection • Limiting endless scrolling • Managing stress • Breathwork • Purpose What are you feeding your brain every day? Build Real Relationships Good relationships. Family dinners. Friendships. Community. Belonging. Health isn't just physical. Have Something You're Excited About Most adults accidentally quit playing. • Golf • Painting • Surfing • Gardening • Reading • Baseball • Cooking Adults need play too. Practice Delayed Gratification Modern life trains us for: • DoorDash • Amazon • TikTok • Constant dopamine But confidence comes from keeping promises to yourself. Examples: "I'll work out before I eat." "I'll finish my work before Netflix." "I'll read before social media." Build Your Environment Don't rely on motivation. Design your house. Ideas: Healthy snacks visible. Weights in the garage. Walking shoes by the door. Water bottle everywhere. Phone charger outside the bedroom. Sunlight first thing. Make healthy easier than unhealthy. Teach Your Kids These Habits The greatest inheritance isn't money. It's health habits. Imagine raising kids who simply believe: • We move. • We eat protein. • We go outside. • We don't complain about exercise. • We eat dinner together. • We get enough sleep. • We speak kindly to ourselves. My Daily Health Checklist Every day I try to hit these: ☐ Morning sunlight ☐ Walk ☐ Lift weights ☐ Eat plenty of protein ☐ Fruit ☐ Hydrate ☐ Spend time outside ☐ Read ☐ Family meal ☐ Gratitude ☐ Quality sleep ☐ Laugh ☐ Move again after dinner The goal isn't perfection. It's becoming the kind of person who naturally takes care of themselves. You don't need 100 new habits. You probably need 10 simple ones that you repeat for the next 20 years. Because when you feel better... You think better. You parent better. You lead better. You love better. And that's really what being awesome is all about.

July 9, 202619 min

353. How To Be Awesome At Designing The Second Half Of Your Year

We're officially halfway through the year. Picture this year as a book, half of the pages are filled, half are blank. Ask yourself this question… "If I ended this year having done __________…" Or… "If I ended this year feeling __________…" …I would look back and say this was a wildly successful year. That's your destination. Now your job is simple. Design the next six months to get there. It's not easy, but it's simple. Today isn't about beating yourself up over the first half of the year. It's about making sure you are very intentional about the second half. Welcome to your official Mid-Year Audit. Let's go! ⸻ PART 1: THE HALFTIME SPEECH Think about every great coach. Nobody waits until the season is over to make adjustments. They stop at halftime. They look at what's working. They look at what's not. Then they make changes. Life deserves the same approach. ⸻ PART 2: WHAT'S WORKING? Ask yourself: • What habits have actually improved my life? • What routines are creating momentum? • What relationships are making me better? • What should I absolutely keep doing for the rest of the year? Don't change things that are already working. Double down on them. ⸻ PART 3: WHAT ISN'T WORKING? What's costing you time? Energy? Peace? Health? Money? Ask yourself… "If I keep living exactly like I have for the past six months… …where will I end up?" If you don't like the answer… Today's the day to pivot. ⸻ PART 4: WHAT DOES JULY-YOU KNOW THAT JANUARY-YOU DIDN'T? I LOVE this prompt. January-you had hopes. July-you has evidence. Ask yourself: • What surprised me? • What lessons did I learn? • What assumptions were wrong? • What do I know now that I wish I'd known six months ago? Wisdom only matters if you use it. ⸻ PART 5: YOUR BIGGEST WINS We rarely celebrate ourselves enough. Write down: • Biggest accomplishment • Biggest proud moment • Biggest risk you took • Biggest relationship win • Biggest health win Momentum comes from remembering you've already done hard things. ⸻ PART 6: YOUR BIGGEST FAILURES Not to beat yourself up. To learn. Ask: What failed? Why? What did it teach me? What will I never do again? Failures are only expensive if you don't learn from them. ⸻ PART 7: FINISH THE SENTENCE Now come back to the question. "If I ended this year having done…" "If I ended this year feeling…" What is the ONE thing that would make December 31st feel incredible? Maybe it's… • Feeling healthy again • Becoming financially free • Building a stronger marriage • Becoming more present with your kids • Finally launching your business • Feeling peaceful No more than 3!! ⸻ PART 8: REVERSE ENGINEER IT If that's December… What has to happen by… November? October? September? August? Next Monday? Tomorrow? Today? Success isn't built in December. It's built on Tuesday mornings. ⸻ PART 9: CHECK YOUR CALENDAR Jesse Itzler says your calendar tells the truth. Not your goals. Not your vision board. Your calendar. Ask: Does my calendar reflect the person I'm trying to become? Or the person I've accidentally become? Because what gets scheduled… Gets lived. ⸻ PART 10: DON'T WAIT UNTIL JANUARY One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing they need a fresh year. You don't. You need a fresh decision. You still have 182 days. That's enough time to change your body. Strengthen your marriage. Grow your business. Repair relationships. Learn a new skill. Completely change the trajectory of your life. ⸻ CLOSING CHALLENGE Today, I want you to grab a notebook. Write these seven questions: • What's working? • What's not working? • What does July-me know that January-me didn't? • What am I most proud of? • What did I learn from my biggest failure? • If I ended this year having ________, it would be a wildly successful year. • What needs to happen this week to make that inevitable? Then remember this… The first half of the year gave you feedback. The second half is where you decide what to do with it. CHEERS to your most awesome second half!!

July 7, 202625 min

352. How To Be Awesome At Recentering So You Don't Miss The Good Stuff

I took a little break from podcasting and social media and to sort of recenter. To reorganize, focus on a few priorities without distractions and make sure I wasn't missing the best parts of life. There are a zillion podcasts you can listen to, I wanted to share what's ahead and the value of this podcast and why it's different than others. Leaning into how we can continually learn and grow to feel fulfilled, to be healthy, to create the best home environment, to continue to challenge and push ourselves, to be proactive about or healthy and to prioritize longevity… all of it. My favorite thing is to learn how to be more awesome myself, then share all of the best things I've learned. I'm so grateful for this platform that gives space for that! You know when you retreat then sort of come back to your routine, you have all of these new thoughts and ideas that you are super clear on that make your life better. Like when you go on a nice long vacation except this was like totally the opposite for me… I was far from vacation, I was cleaning out sheds, shelves and my entire garage for weeks. But same same. Thank you for coming back to this podcast and welcome back - today is about re-centering so you don't miss the best parts of life. Let's dive back into things that seem very true… Let's not compromise what we want to appease people socially. Don't think things you don't want to do. You have 4,000 weekends… you have to be so aware of how much time you have and not waste it. Thoughts… We have far less time than we think. Four thousand weekends. That's roughly what we get. Every invitation. Every obligation. Every Saturday. It's spending one of them. That doesn't mean become selfish. It means become intentional. ⸻ Stop saying yes because it makes other people comfortable. One of the biggest ways we waste life is doing things we secretly don't want to do. Going because everyone else is going. Buying because everyone else bought it. Living according to everyone else's expectations. I don't want that anymore. ⸻ Build a life you don't need to escape from. If you constantly need vacations to recover from your normal life… Maybe your normal life needs redesigning. That hit me hard. Instead of escaping… What if we simply designed a better everyday life? ⸻ Freedom is the real luxury. Not bigger houses. Not nicer cars. Freedom. Freedom over your calendar. Freedom over your mornings. Freedom over your attention. Freedom to spend Tuesday afternoon with your kids. That's wealth. ⸻ Your environment quietly shapes your future. The people you're around. The conversations you have. The media you consume. The clutter in your garage. The clutter on your phone. All of it is shaping your thinking. That's one reason I cleaned everything. I wasn't organizing my garage. I was organizing my mind. ⸻ The best goals create freedom. Sometimes we chase goals that only create bigger obligations. I want goals that create more margin. More health. More energy. More family dinners. More adventure. More peace. If the goal steals your life… It's probably the wrong goal. ⸻ You don't become happier by getting everything. You become happier by wanting less. Gratitude isn't settling. It's appreciating what you've already built while still growing. You can be deeply ambitious… and deeply grateful. Those two things can absolutely coexist. ⸻ That's really what this little break reminded me. Life isn't asking us to do more. It's asking us to become more intentional. Protect your weekends. Protect your family. Protect your health. Protect your attention. Protect your peace. Because the best parts of life aren't usually found by adding more. They're found by clearing away everything that never mattered in the first place. And that's exactly what I hope this podcast continues to help all of us do… Learn together… Grow together… And become just a little more awesome at everything.

April 23, 202626 min

351. How To Be Awesome At Reshaping Your Identity In 7 Days!

I learned the craziest life lesson this week, and I cannot believe it took me 44 years on the planet to actually realize this. I'm so excited to share it because I think, in some way, it applies to everybody in at least one area of life. For me, this shift came through organization. I've always told myself that I'm a creative person. I'm always building things, creating things, and planning adventures, so I'm not organized. I'm creative, not structured. But here's what I realized: my comfort zone was actually a cage I put myself in without even realizing it. And the wildest part is this: in a very short period of time, you can completely change how you see yourself. You don't have to get to the finish line. You just have to start doing the things that person would do. For me, that looked like purging and organizing my house in a completely different way, in the way an organized person would. And as I did that, I started to change my identity. I began to feel like an organized person, even though I'm still far from finishing the project. This applies to so many areas of life: getting healthy, starting something new, exercising, getting a better job, improving communication. Whatever it is for you, the question becomes this: are you labeling yourself in a way that's actually a cage, just because it feels comfortable? It's incredibly self-limiting. But the best part is how quickly you can flip it. I can't even believe how different I feel today compared to just one week ago in this one area of my life. And that shift spills into everything else. You feel more motivated, more inspired, and more aligned with the person you want to be. Today, we're diving into the ways we put ourselves in cages without realizing it, and how simple it is to flip the script and redefine yourself. With the internet and social media, we can learn how to do almost anything for free. So why can't we become more organized, more fit, more capable, or better in any area we choose? Think about the labels we casually accept: I'm always late. I'm a hot mess in the morning. I could never get a better job. I'm out of shape. I'm terrible at going to bed on time. I'm bad at remembering names. I'm a nagging wife. Those "truths" are often just cages. Cages we built, and then lived inside, without ever questioning them. And the wildest part? They feel comfortable. Because once you decide, "This is just who I am," you stop challenging it. You stop trying to change. You stop expecting more from yourself. That's where it becomes limiting. The shift that changed everything for me was simple. I didn't become organized overnight. My house isn't perfect. I'm nowhere near the finish line. But I started acting like an organized person. I purged differently. I created systems. I focused on finishing small areas instead of jumping around. I made decisions faster. Most importantly, I started asking myself, "What would an organized person do right now?" And then I did that. Within days, not months or years, I started to feel like an organized person. That's what blew my mind. We tend to think we need results before we can claim an identity. I'll feel organized when my house is done. I'll feel fit when I lose the weight. I'll feel confident when I reach the goal. But it's actually the opposite. Identity doesn't come from the finish line. It comes from repeated actions. If you consistently do what that type of person would do, you become that person, even if you're still in the middle of the process. So where are you labeling yourself? I'm not disciplined. I'm bad with money. I'm not athletic. I'm awkward socially. I'm not good at following through. What if those aren't truths, but just stories you've repeated long enough that they feel real? And even deeper, what if they're comfortable? Because labels remove responsibility. If "I'm just not organized," then I don't have to try. If "I'm not a workout person," then I don't have to push myself. It gives you an out, but it also keeps you stuck. Here's how you break out of the cage. You don't need a full life overhaul. You don't need a complicated plan. You don't need to wait for motivation. You just need to start doing what that version of you would do. Ask yourself: What would a healthy person do today? What would a confident person say right now? What would an organized person do with this space? What would the highest-performing version of me choose in this moment? Then do that one thing. Not perfectly. Not forever. Just right now. What surprised me most is how fast this works. Your brain starts collecting evidence immediately. You organize one drawer, that's evidence. You go for one walk, that's evidence. You follow through on one promise, that's evidence. And your identity starts catching up to your actions. You stop feeling like you're pretending. You start feeling like, "This is actually who I am now." And it doesn't stop there. When you shift in one area, it spills into everything. When I started feeling organized, I felt more clear, more in control, and more capable. That energy showed up in my work, my parenting, my routines, and my mindset. Because you start to trust yourself. And when you trust yourself, everything changes. So here's the question to sit with: Where have you put yourself in a cage without realizing it? And what would it look like to step out of it today? Not perfectly. Not completely. Just with one action. Here's your challenge: Pick one area, just one. For the next seven days, stop labeling yourself. Instead, start acting like the person you want to become. You don't need permission. You don't need a new plan. You just need to decide, "I'm not staying in this cage anymore." I cannot believe how different I feel today than I did one week ago. Nothing in my external world is fully done. But internally, everything has shifted. And that's available to you too, faster than you think.