Evolve Ventures

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Aug 2026

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Co-hosts, Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas are taking state-of-the-art research, experience, and data-backed methodologies to evolve the old version of themselves leveraging their obsessions into Evolve Ventures, a podcast designed to accelerate evolution, excellence, and extraordinary. Evolve Ventures is designed to radically equip you for today’s experiences, and tomorrow’s challenges, shifting you into unlimited potential. Topics will dive into the keys of leadership, elite brain performance, the not-so-scary parts of tech, the tools to navigate mental health, strategies for optimal living, relationships, and of course, personal development without the fluff. You can look forward to deeper stories, insights, and tactical takeaways to leverage and apply in your everyday life. Connect with the Evolve Ventures team on Instagram: @EvolveVentures @EvolvewithEmilia @EvolvewithBianca | Like the Evolve Ventures Facebook Page to connect with the global community: https://tinyurl.com/evolveventures

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October 1, 202637 min

#544 | If You Feel Like a Bad Parent for Resenting Your Kids, Watch This

Send us Fan Mail Today, Emilia and Bianca take on one of the most taboo truths of parenthood: the resentment, grief, and loss so many parents feel about the lives they had before kids, and why the narrative that your life is over once you become a parent is hurting parents and children alike. In this episode, we unpack the myth that having children means you stop being a person, what disenfranchised grief is and why parents carry so much of it alongside shame, and how having kids to meet a societal marker can lead to resenting both our children and ourselves. Through real client stories, they explore the painful messages kids absorb from parents who resented them, what being a "good" mom or dad actually means once you strip away the conditioning, why equal partnership in raising children matters, and how small, smart choices can help you reclaim who you are beyond mom, dad, husband, or wife. If you've ever felt like a bad parent for missing your old life, this conversation is your permission to admit it and start doing something about it. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #521 | How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-Doubt - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/521-how-to-trust-yourself-and-eliminate-self-doubt/id1511831621?i=1000776557116 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show Notes: (0:00) Cold open: Your life isn't over when you have kids (1:29) The myth that parents stop being people (4:25) Why taboo turns into shame (6:00) Disenfranchised grief and parental resentment (11:54) A client who never wanted to be a dad (16:09) Isaac shares his experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures (17:17) Societal standards and parental guilt (19:06) What kids hear from parents who resent them (22:47) What does it mean to be a good parent? (28:46) Making conscious choices about family (32:47) Outro: Small, smart choices and episode recommendation Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

September 28, 202621 min

#543 | Toxic Family Narratives We All Heard Growing Up

Send us Fan Mail Today, Emilia and Bianca take on one of the most uncomfortable and least talked about topics there is: the toxic family narratives so many of us absorbed growing up, and how these sayings were built to protect the family image rather than the people inside it. In this episode, we unpack the real origin of "blood is thicker than water" and why its true meaning is the opposite of how families use it, the common mottos like "what happens in the house stays in the house" and "I'll give you something to cry about," and how appearances can come to matter more than truth. Drawing on the work of John Bradshaw, Virginia Satir, and Dr. Yael Danieli, they explore shame-based family rules, multigenerational legacies of trauma, and why so many of us learned to override our own sense that something wasn't safe. If you've ever quietly known the truth about your family system, this conversation is your permission slip to acknowledge it as real. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #535 | I Did the Best I Could Is Not a Valid Excuse - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/535-everything-you-need-to-know-about-handling-rude/id1511831621?i=1000786923905 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Cold open: Breaking the silence around toxic family culture (1:37) Toxic family narratives we all heard (5:04) Debunking “blood is thicker than water” (8:09) Harmful family sayings and childhood discipline (9:36) Bianca invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (10:13) When appearances matter more than truth (12:41) Generational trauma and learned dysfunction (16:41) Trusting your experience and acknowledging the truth (19:26) Outro: Final message and episode recommendation ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.*** (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

September 24, 202618 min

#542 | Not All Men Are Bad; How Men Are Stepping Up

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a room full of men finally feels safe enough to be honest? We cannot keep calling all men trash and then expect them to want to grow, heal, or change. This year's Evolve Group Coaching cohort brought in more men than ever before, and when one member shared something deeply vulnerable, the other men didn't look away. They showed up, named what happened as wrong, and reminded him he was not alone. In this episode, we unpack what it looked like to watch men step up for one another in real time, why so many men have never had a safe space with other men or with women, and how emotional intelligence became a skill set men were taught to avoid. Emilia and Bianca talk about the "nakedness" of feeling safe in a room full of men for the first time, the decades many male survivors carry trauma in silence, and why we can hold harmful men accountable without throwing every man under the same label. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #448 | What Real Validation Looks Like - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/448-what-real-validation-looks-like/id1511831621?i=1000734176973 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:17) Why we're talking about men stepping up (2:42) The cohort that surprised us (3:56) Men showing up for a vulnerable share (4:52) Feeling safe in a room full of men (7:36) Redefining what's possible among men (8:43) Evolve spotlight: Derek Smith (9:44) Why growth-oriented men find Evolve (10:25) Men never had a safe space (12:38) Building the skills society discouraged (14:18) Not all men are the problem (16:31) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.*** (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

September 21, 202620 min

#541 | Adult Children of Mothers Who Have NPD

Send us Fan Mail What if the constant sense that something is wrong with you was never about you at all, but about the family system you had to bend yourself around to survive? In this episode, we unpack what it means to be the adult child of a mother with NPD or BPD, starting with what the DSM actually says about each disorder and why narcissistic traits are not the same as a clinical diagnosis. We talk about how the entire family contorts around the illness, how collusion and gaslighting leave you feeling like the black sheep, and how growing up without room to develop a self can lead to identity crises decades later. We also cover where to find support if you recognize yourself in any of this. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #539 | How Shame Prevents the Cycle of Motivation - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/539-how-shame-prevents-the-cycle-of-motivation/id1511831621?i=1000789504920 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:34) How the family system warps around NPD (4:08) The DSM criteria for NPD (5:35) Narcissistic traits versus the disorder (7:25) How NPD and BPD overlap (9:11) Emilia invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (10:08) The DSM criteria for BPD (11:53) Being blamed for the chaos at home (12:44) Family collusion and silence (13:42) Growing up gaslit and feeling like the outcast (15:34) When your identity never gets to develop (17:11) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.*** (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

September 17, 202626 min

#540 | Who Do You Turn to For Your Most Meaningful Wins?

Send us Fan Mail Who do you turn to for your most meaningful wins? For a lot of people, the honest answer is nobody, not because they lack people around them, but because the people around them don't understand what it actually took to get there. In this episode, Emilia shares a session with a longtime client who came to her in tears over a story about her teenage son, a beach day that almost turned into a fight, and a moment of vulnerability most parents only dream of witnessing. The client wanted to celebrate the win with her partner. Her partner couldn't see it. In this episode, we unpack what it actually means to be seen in your growth, why so many evolvers end up carrying their biggest wins alone, and what it takes to be the kind of person who can hold space for someone else's pride without it triggering their own shame. We also get into the difference between chasing validation and simply wanting to be witnessed, and why having the right person in your corner, whether that's a coach, a therapist, or a truly present friend, changes everything. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #448 | What Real Validation Looks Like - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/448-what-real-validation-looks-like/id1511831621?i=1000734176973 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect CHAPTERS (0:00) Intro (1:54) A client's win worth celebrating (4:04) The beach, the boys, and the girl (7:28) Choosing connection over conflict (8:47) The ripple effect of doing the work (11:07) Here's what Matthew has to say about the Evolve Ventures community and how it has helped in his journey (11:58) Reframing the win, lily pad by lily pad (18:27) Sitting in the mountain-peak moment (19:40) What it feels like to finally be seen (21:56) Who do you turn to? Final thoughts (23:57) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.*** (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

September 14, 202631 min

#539 | How Shame Prevents the Cycle of Motivation

Send us Fan Mail If you keep telling yourself you “just need more motivation,” the real thing holding you back may be much deeper. Shame can quietly shape the way you see yourself, what you believe you deserve, and whether you take action at all. Turning even simple goals, rest, or meaningful pursuits into something that feels nearly impossible. In this episode, we unpack how shame interferes with the cycle of motivation, why motivation often comes after action instead of before it, and how shame-based narratives can keep you stuck in avoidance, guilt, and self-criticism. Emilia and Bianca share real client examples involving rest, career decisions, and pursuing what you actually want, while exploring how self-compassion, identity, support, and a better understanding of your needs can help you create a stronger foundation for meaningful action. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #521 | How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-Doubt 👇 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/521-how-to-trust-yourself-and-eliminate-self-doubt/id1511831621?i=1000776557116 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Why motivation isn't the real problem (1:35) Rethinking how motivation works (3:47) What actually gets us to take action (5:15) When shame becomes the foundation (8:18) Building on self-compassion instead of shame (10:35) When your to-do list becomes shame (13:08) Why rest can feel undeserved (15:03) How shame shuts down motivation (16:53) Out of the Mud (17:30) How shame quietly runs your life (20:06) Choosing what you actually want (23:16) Finding the story underneath your resistance (27:22) Why shame needs outside support (29:26) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

September 10, 202629 min

#538 | How "Only The Brave" Changed Our Lives Forever - Evolve Movie Club

Send us Fan Mail The movies that stay with us don’t just entertain us. They can challenge the way we think about our lives, our choices, and the legacy we’re leaving behind. In this Evolve Movie Club recap, Emilia and Bianca reflect on Only the Brave and the conversations it sparked around courage, grief, responsibility, and what it means to become a better ancestor. In this episode, we unpack ecological grief, climate anxiety, seventh generation thinking, and the impact our everyday decisions can have far beyond our own lifetime. We also explore how meaning and purpose can become an antidote to nihilism, why small choices matter, and how becoming more conscious of the future can change the way we live today. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #510 | How to Cultivate a Conscious Leader's Mindset: - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/510-how-to-cultivate-a-conscious-leaders-mindset/id1511831621?i=1000771122618 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: 00:00 - Intro 01:43 - Why Evolve Movie Club matters 03:03 - Turning movies into reflection 05:56 - Wildfires and ecological grief 08:29 - What kind of ancestor will you be? 12:30 - Seventh generation thinking 15:22 - Naming ecological grief and climate anxiety 18:16 - Evolve Testimonial 19:13 - Choosing meaning over nihilism 27:50 - Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

September 7, 202628 min

#537 | "I Did the Best That I Could" is NOT A Viable Excuse

Send us Fan Mail “I did the best I could” can sound like an explanation, but when it is used to avoid accountability for real harm, it can leave adult children questioning their own reality for years. In this episode, we unpack why “I did the best I could” is not always a viable excuse, especially when a parent refuses to acknowledge, repair, or change harmful patterns. Emilia and Bianca explore how entire family systems can reinforce denial, why the sibling who speaks up is often labeled the problem, and what happens when maintaining a relationship requires you to repeatedly betray your own truth. They also discuss what future parents can do differently by practicing accountability, apology, emotional attunement, and the willingness to keep bettering their best. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #529 | The Truth About Wanting Them to Apologize - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/529-the-truth-about-wanting-them-to-apologize/id1511831621?i=1000781645317 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. J oin our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: 0:00 Why “I Did the Best I Could” Isn’t Enough 01:19 The Excuse Adult Children Keep Hearing 02:29 There Actually Are Resources for Parenting 04:13 When Family Members Defend the Dysfunction 07:00 Why Siblings Stay Silent 09:20 The Physical Cost of Family Dysfunction 11:40 When the “Problem Child” Is Actually Getting Help 14:30 You Either Get the Truth or Your Family 15:04 Choosing Truth Over the Family System 19:34 How to Become a Different Kind of Parent 21:30 Bettering Your Best 23:28 What Adult Children Need to Hear 23:47 When Refusing Accountability Causes Real Harm 25:28 “Doing Your Best” Is Not a Free Pass 26:10 Where to Go Next 26:35 Out of the Mud + Evolve Updates ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

September 3, 202629 min

#536 | Why Waiting to "Feel Like It" is Ruining Your Life

Send us Fan Mail Waiting to feel like it is quietly costing you your life. Bianca and Emilia break down why the belief that motivation has to arrive before you take action is one of the most damaging stories keeping people stuck, using a full gallon jug and a hand full of marbles to make the cost of "waiting" impossible to ignore. In this episode, we unpack why waiting to feel like it is actually a perception problem wearing a feelings costume, why every minute spent waiting for motivation is a minute of your life you don't get back, and why identity, not inspiration, is what actually drives consistent behavior. Emilia and Bianca walk through why "fake it till you make it" is bullshit, what actually builds the kind of person who shows up anyway, and the one question to ask yourself about the cost of staying the same. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #526 How Self-Disciplined Are You, Really? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4XQm929yZSO34JXGr9mrzz?si=hSfEKWP1R1afIZAunXaVWg Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE. https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show Notes: 0:00 Why You’ll Never “Feel Like It” 0:15 Welcome to Evolve Ventures 1:45 Why Waiting for Motivation Is Costing You 3:38 The Real Reason We Procrastinate 5:12 Break the Problem Into Smaller Pieces 6:00 The Hidden Cost of Waiting 8:50 Motivation Usually Comes After Action 9:31 Why Motivation Has Become a Crutch 11:10 Identity Is More Powerful Than Motivation 13:27 Building a New Identity Through Action 14:37 Why Doing Hard Things Gets Easier 17:10 The Identity Conflict Holding You Back 18:05 “Fake It Till You Make It” Doesn’t Work 19:21 How You Actually Become That Person 20:01 Behavior Comes Before Confidence 20:33 Becoming Someone Who Does Hard Things 21:46 You Have to Do What You Don’t Want to Do 24:20 Ask Yourself: What Is the Cost of Staying the Same? 26:26 Stop Waiting for Feelings 27:25 Evolve Ventures Resources & Closing Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

August 31, 2026Episode 53528 min

#535 | Everything You Need to Know About Handling Rude People, Sarcasm and Microaggressions

Send us Fan Mail Nobody teaches you what to say when someone cuts you down and smiles while doing it. In this episode, we unpack the psychology behind rude people, sarcasm, and microaggressions, why a dysregulated nervous system sits underneath almost all of it, and the four step formula you can actually reach for in the moment. Emilia breaks down where your real training in this area came from: the family, culture, school, and social systems that quietly taught you what is acceptable to say and what you are allowed to say back. Bianca shares why believing everyone is inherently good can leave you defenseless, and opens up about a recent moment where she did not feel safe enough to use the very skills she teaches her own clients. Together they walk through pause, ask, share and set, and returning to your power, plus the identity beliefs that stop most people from ever using the tools at all. Fair warning, this one is explicit. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #426 | You Don't Need to Be the Boss to Change the Culture - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/evolve-ventures/id1511831621?i=1000721917576 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - " The Difference Between Avoidance and Self-Protection " - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (2:19) Where you actually learned to handle rude people (4:07) The disservice of assuming everyone is good (5:23) None of this works without a regulated nervous system (8:40) Unconscious bias and where microaggressions come from (12:37) A workplace scenario to test yourself against (13:58) Bianca invites you to Out of the Mud, our free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (14:35) What panic does to your access to your tools (17:49) When a belief system becomes denial (19:29) Step one, pause (21:26) Step two, ask (23:05) Steps three and four, share, set, and return to your power (25:15) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)