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Co-hosts, Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas are taking state-of-the-art research, experience, and data-backed methodologies to evolve the old version of themselves leveraging their obsessions into Evolve Ventures, a podcast designed to accelerate evolution, excellence, and extraordinary. Evolve Ventures is designed to radically equip you for today’s experiences, and tomorrow’s challenges, shifting you into unlimited potential. Topics will dive into the keys of leadership, elite brain performance, the not-so-scary parts of tech, the tools to navigate mental health, strategies for optimal living, relationships, and of course, personal development without the fluff. You can look forward to deeper stories, insights, and tactical takeaways to leverage and apply in your everyday life. Connect with the Evolve Ventures team on Instagram: @EvolveVentures @EvolvewithEmilia @EvolvewithBianca | Like the Evolve Ventures Facebook Page to connect with the global community: https://tinyurl.com/evolveventures

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October 26, 202626 min

#551 | Toxic Resilience; The Dangerous Side of "Doing It All"

Send us Fan Mail Toxic resilience isn’t strength. It’s what happens when your worth gets tied to how much you can get done, and no amount of doing ever feels like enough. If you grew up watching burnt out parents stretch themselves thin, or you can’t relax without feeling like something is wrong with you, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we unpack where the “do it all” mindset comes from, why ever growing to-do lists chip away at self-esteem, and how constant output keeps your nervous system stuck in panic mode. Emilia and Bianca explain the difference between real resilience and rigid overextension, the pressure men and women feel to be Superman or do everything flawlessly, and how staying busy often becomes a way to outrun uncomfortable emotions. You’ll also hear why comparing your starting point to someone else’s ten years of practice isn’t fair to you, and why learning to say no may be the hardest skill of all. Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation: #540 | Who Do You Turn to For Your Most Meaningful Wins? - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/540-who-do-you-turn-to-for-your-most-meaningful-wins/id1511831621?i=1000790313991 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:24) Family narratives about doing it all (3:00) When your worth depends on output (9:51) A culture that values only what you produce (10:54) Superman expectations for men and women (12:18) Balance is a recipe, not 50/50 (15:43) Bianca invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (16:22) Suffering as a badge of honor (24:06) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday’s episode!)

October 22, 202628 min

#550 | How Doomscrolling is Rewiring Your Brain (And How to Stop)

Send us Fan Mail We all know scrolling isn’t great for us, and yet we keep reaching for our devices anyway. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas pull back the curtain on what’s really happening to your brain every time you fall into an infinite feed, and why the cost is far higher than a few lost minutes here and there. In this episode, we unpack how doom scrolling is rewiring your brain and how to finally stop. Emilia breaks down what the research shows about brain waves, mental exhaustion, brain fog, and sleep procrastination, while Bianca opens up her own screen time report live and does the math on how many days a year we hand over to our devices. You’ll learn why the apps are designed to hijack your nervous system, how to reframe doom scrolling into bloom scrolling, and the simple time boundaries that help you reclaim your attention, your agency, and your life. Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation: #492 | The Realities of Tech and Future Conversations None of Us Are Ready to Face - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/492-the-realities-of-tech-and-future-generations/id1511831621?i=1000759123683 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:25) Is your attention really yours? (3:25) Handing your brain over on a platter (4:15) Why countries are changing tech laws (6:53) How much time we really spend scrolling (8:39) What doom scrolling does to your brain waves (10:43) Brain fog, burnout, and sleep procrastination (13:28) Auditing your own screen time (15:34) Alex DeMello shares his experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures (16:30) The real math on your lost time (25:05) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday’s episode!)

October 19, 202624 min

#549 | 15 Better Ways to Spend Your Money This Fall

Send us Fan Mail Every fall, the costumes, candy, lattes, and last-minute gifts quietly drain your bank account before the holidays even begin. Emilia shares the story of a client who spent over $800 on Halloween alone, and the surprising shift she made once someone in her corner asked whether that was the best use of her capital. With Halloween spending in the U.S. projected to hit a record $13.5 billion this year, it’s worth pausing before you swipe. In this episode, we unpack where seasonal spending really goes, why so many of us optimize for short-term pleasure over long-term fulfillment, and the moment Bianca realized she had earned over a million dollars in ten years with nothing to show for it. Then we share 15 better ways to spend your money this fall, from investment accounts and coaching to national park passes, meaningful causes, and higher quality food, so you can keep the fun of the season without burning your capital. Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation: #536 | Why Waiting to Feel Like It Is Ruining Your Life - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/536-why-waiting-to-feel-like-it-is-ruining-your-life/id1511831621?i=1000787589194 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:31) Why fall spending sneaks up on us (3:01) The $800 Halloween costume story (6:50) Halloween spending by the numbers (9:01) Budgeting for lattes over growth (10:04) Emilia invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (11:00) What you really miss by skipping the hype (13:28) Bianca’s million-dollar wake-up call (14:43) Keep the fun, don’t burn your capital (16:31) Ways 1 to 5: invest in your growth (17:48) Ways 6 to 10: nature, causes, and classes (19:10) Ways 11 to 15: tech, skills, and giving (21:57) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday’s episode!)

October 15, 202645 min

#548 | 7 Habits That Are Secretly Making You Miserable

Send us Fan Mail Most of us know, logically, that nothing changes unless we do something differently, yet we still wait for life to magically improve on its own. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas draw on thousands of combined calls behind the scenes to name the patterns they see over and over in people who feel miserable, and they don’t sugarcoat any of it. In this episode, we unpack the seven habits that are secretly making you miserable and what to replace each one with. From fawning and saying yes to all the wrong things, to staying up past the bedtime you promised yourself, to chasing attention instead of building real skills, Emilia and Bianca show how misery gets cultivated like a garden. You’ll learn how your behaviors reveal your true values, why responsibility is not the same as blame, and how the people you surround yourself with shape your life in ways you may not even realize. Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation: #539 | How Shame Prevents the Cycle of Motivation - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/539-how-shame-prevents-the-cycle-of-motivation/id1511831621?i=1000789504920 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The # YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:17) Seven habits secretly making you miserable (3:02) Wishing won’t change your life (6:27) The three-clap challenge (8:52) Fawning and not speaking your truth (12:33) Not going to bed on time (16:15) Not knowing your values (19:22) Bree shares her experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures (20:04) Your behaviors reveal your values (22:00) Not being the captain of your own ship (24:53) Chasing attention over building skills (29:12) Avoiding responsibility (35:29) Surrounding yourself with the wrong people (39:10) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday’s episode!)

October 12, 202649 min

#547 | We’re in Our 30s. If You’re In Your 20s or 30s, Watch This

Send us Fan Mail Your 20s don’t come with a manual, and most of the people handing out advice online aren’t living what they teach. Emilia and Bianca sat down for a quick brainstorm and came away with 10 lessons they wish someone had given them a decade ago, the ones that would have saved them years of mistakes, detours, and rooms they never should have stayed in. In this episode, we unpack why concentration is the foundational skill behind everything else, what it means to give yourself permission to go all in on your craft, and why the people you spend time with and date shape your wiring more than you think. Emilia and Bianca also get honest about busting delusional beliefs early, getting to therapy as soon as you can, spending more time outside, treating your body like an asset, choosing the harder road when building skills, and learning everything you can about where technology is headed. Whether you’re 20 or 70, these are lessons for contemplation, and an invitation to reverse engineer your own future regrets before they happen. Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation: #521 | How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-Doubt - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/521-how-to-trust-yourself-and-eliminate-self-doubt/id1511831621?i=1000776557116 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:32) Ten things we wish we knew in our 20s (3:52) Why so much online advice is hollow (9:20) Concentration is the foundational skill (12:29) Dedicate yourself completely to your craft (19:21) Get out of rooms that only tolerate you (21:44) Bianca invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (22:23) Bust every delusional belief you have (24:43) Go to therapy as soon as you can (27:42) Spend as much time outside as possible (30:31) Be insanely intentional about who you date (34:09) Treat your body like an asset (38:40) Take the harder road to build future skills (40:30) Learn where technology is headed (46:57) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday’s episode!)

October 8, 2026Episode 54624 min

#546 | The Mental Health Advice Nobody Wants To Hear

Send us Fan Mail Most of us look for relief from anxiety and low moods in all the usual places, but rarely question the rooms, routines, and people we return to every single day. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas step outside their usual format to share the mental health advice that years behind the scenes have shown them people avoid most. It starts with Bianca's story of smoking hookah from childhood into her mid-twenties, and why every promise to quit fell apart when everyone around her kept lighting up. In this episode, we unpack why your environment shapes your mental health more than anyone is willing to admit, how the 80/20 rule reveals where your habits really come from, and why settling for a "good enough" life leaves so many people feeling empty. Emilia shares two questions to audit the spaces you spend the most time in, Bianca explains why the need to belong can outweigh even an athlete's identity, and together they make the case that loving someone is not the same as them being good for you. You'll also hear why belief steps, not baby steps, are what move your behavior toward the person you want to become. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #505 | Why We Feel Attacked When People Try to Help - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/505-why-we-feel-attacked-when-people-try-to-help/id1511831621?i=1000768356024 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:19) What you avoid is what you need (2:48) Your environment isn't built for you (5:40) Why good enough feels empty (6:51) Smoking hookah at nine years old (9:06) Can't quit when everyone smokes (9:39) Julie shares her experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures (11:14) Why environment never shows up in search (13:24) Audit where you spend 80% of your time (17:13) Loving someone isn't enough (19:03) Where healthy habits are celebrated (21:38) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming [Monday's episode!)

October 5, 2026Episode 54542 min

#545 | 5 Things You NEED To Know Before Getting a Therapist

Send us Fan Mail Most people walk into therapy hoping it will change their lives, but few know what to look for before they ever sit down on the couch. Emilia and Bianca draw on years of clinical experience, thousands of sessions, and their own personal therapy journeys to share what can make or break your experience, plus a behind-the-scenes look at the standard they hold as they grow Evolve Therapy's team of clinicians. In this episode, we unpack five things you need to know before getting a therapist. You'll hear why asking about a therapist's therapeutic orientation shapes everything from feedback to homework, why the real work begins after you leave the session, and why a therapist who leads by example matters more than credentials on a wall. They also explore how ready you actually are when therapy gets uncomfortable, a powerful client story about external locus of control, and why the problem you walk in with is rarely the root you end up uncovering together. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #505 | Why We Feel Attacked When People Try to Help - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/505-why-we-feel-attacked-when-people-try-to-help/id1511831621?i=1000768356024 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "What You're Carrying That Was Never Yours To Hold" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:00) Five things before getting a therapist (5:15) The credentials behind this conversation (11:10) Ask about therapeutic orientation (15:55) Modality as your therapist's medium (17:55) The work begins after you leave (21:15) Emilia invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (22:12) Buying the treadmill isn't enough (22:50) Is your therapist leading by example? (29:15) How ready are you, actually? (34:35) Know the problem, stay open to the root (37:32) Therapy as a collaboration (39:26) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

October 1, 2026Episode 54437 min

#544 | If You Feel Like a Bad Parent for Resenting Your Kids, Watch This

Send us Fan Mail Today, Emilia and Bianca take on one of the most taboo truths of parenthood: the resentment, grief, and loss so many parents feel about the lives they had before kids, and why the narrative that your life is over once you become a parent is hurting parents and children alike. In this episode, we unpack the myth that having children means you stop being a person, what disenfranchised grief is and why parents carry so much of it alongside shame, and how having kids to meet a societal marker can lead to resenting both our children and ourselves. Through real client stories, they explore the painful messages kids absorb from parents who resented them, what being a "good" mom or dad actually means once you strip away the conditioning, why equal partnership in raising children matters, and how small, smart choices can help you reclaim who you are beyond mom, dad, husband, or wife. If you've ever felt like a bad parent for missing your old life, this conversation is your permission to admit it and start doing something about it. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #521 | How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-Doubt - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/521-how-to-trust-yourself-and-eliminate-self-doubt/id1511831621?i=1000776557116 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show Notes: (0:00) Cold open: Your life isn't over when you have kids (1:29) The myth that parents stop being people (4:25) Why taboo turns into shame (6:00) Disenfranchised grief and parental resentment (11:54) A client who never wanted to be a dad (16:09) Isaac shares his experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures (17:17) Societal standards and parental guilt (19:06) What kids hear from parents who resent them (22:47) What does it mean to be a good parent? (28:46) Making conscious choices about family (32:47) Outro: Small, smart choices and episode recommendation Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

September 28, 2026Episode 54321 min

#543 | Toxic Family Narratives We All Heard Growing Up

Send us Fan Mail Today, Emilia and Bianca take on one of the most uncomfortable and least talked about topics there is: the toxic family narratives so many of us absorbed growing up, and how these sayings were built to protect the family image rather than the people inside it. In this episode, we unpack the real origin of "blood is thicker than water" and why its true meaning is the opposite of how families use it, the common mottos like "what happens in the house stays in the house" and "I'll give you something to cry about," and how appearances can come to matter more than truth. Drawing on the work of John Bradshaw, Virginia Satir, and Dr. Yael Danieli, they explore shame-based family rules, multigenerational legacies of trauma, and why so many of us learned to override our own sense that something wasn't safe. If you've ever quietly known the truth about your family system, this conversation is your permission slip to acknowledge it as real. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #535 | I Did the Best I Could Is Not a Valid Excuse - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/535-everything-you-need-to-know-about-handling-rude/id1511831621?i=1000786923905 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Cold open: Breaking the silence around toxic family culture (1:37) Toxic family narratives we all heard (5:04) Debunking “blood is thicker than water” (8:09) Harmful family sayings and childhood discipline (9:36) Bianca invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (10:13) When appearances matter more than truth (12:41) Generational trauma and learned dysfunction (16:41) Trusting your experience and acknowledging the truth (19:26) Outro: Final message and episode recommendation ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.*** (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

September 24, 2026Episode 54218 min

#542 | Not All Men Are Bad; How Men Are Stepping Up

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a room full of men finally feels safe enough to be honest? We cannot keep calling all men trash and then expect them to want to grow, heal, or change. This year's Evolve Group Coaching cohort brought in more men than ever before, and when one member shared something deeply vulnerable, the other men didn't look away. They showed up, named what happened as wrong, and reminded him he was not alone. In this episode, we unpack what it looked like to watch men step up for one another in real time, why so many men have never had a safe space with other men or with women, and how emotional intelligence became a skill set men were taught to avoid. Emilia and Bianca talk about the "nakedness" of feeling safe in a room full of men for the first time, the decades many male survivors carry trauma in silence, and why we can hold harmful men accountable without throwing every man under the same label. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #448 | What Real Validation Looks Like - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/448-what-real-validation-looks-like/id1511831621?i=1000734176973 Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/ 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZc Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show notes: (0:00) Intro (1:17) Why we're talking about men stepping up (2:42) The cohort that surprised us (3:56) Men showing up for a vulnerable share (4:52) Feeling safe in a room full of men (7:36) Redefining what's possible among men (8:43) Evolve spotlight: Derek Smith (9:44) Why growth-oriented men find Evolve (10:25) Men never had a safe space (12:38) Building the skills society discouraged (14:18) Not all men are the problem (16:31) Outro ***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.*** (Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

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