The Tessa Tubbs Podcast is a space for Self-Leadership: identity, emotional maturity, agency, boundaries, integrity, burnout, and reinvention. After years helping leaders navigate strategy and complexity inside organizations, I followed a deeper question: “What if the life you built was never meant for you?” Each week we explore how to know yourself accurately, own your choices, and live aligned with what’s true. Expect 30+ minute conversations plus 5-minute quick hits you can apply immediately.
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June 16, 2026Episode 452 min
Support vs Over-Functioning (and the Question That Keeps You Honest)
How do you tell the difference between being supportive… and over-functioning for someone?In this short episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa offers a simple distinction that can change the way you lead, parent, partner, and collaborate:Support empowers. Over-functioning replaces. Tessa breaks down what over-functioning actually is: substituting your capacity for someone else’s, often because watching them struggle makes you uncomfortable, you want things to move faster, or you’ve learned to feel useful by stepping in. She also names the deeper truth: over-functioning is frequently more about the helper than the person being helped. It can relieve your discomfort, satisfy your need to feel needed or in control, and unintentionally communicate to the other person that you don’t believe they can handle it on their own. To stay honest, Tessa shares the question she uses as a real-time check:“Whose comfort am I serving right now?” If you’ve been exhausted from carrying too much, rescuing too quickly, or feeling responsible for outcomes that aren’t yours, this episode will help you build healthier support, clearer boundaries, and stronger self-leadership.Learn More at TessaTubbs.com
June 9, 2026Episode 4437 min
Holding Space Without Disappearing Yourself (with Rachael Lewis)
Many of us are carrying responsibility, expectations, and care for others, often with very little room to be fully human ourselves. This conversation lives right there, not in performance or polish, but in the real work of showing up honestly, being seen, and creating safe space for others without abandoning yourself. In this episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa sits down with Rachael Lewis, owner of Honey and Sage Salon and former educator, to talk about reinvention, vulnerability, and what it costs (and gives) to choose alignment over expectation. Rachael shares her courageous shift from teaching during the COVID era to hair school, the sacrifices that came with it, and the freedom she found on the other side. In this conversation, we explore:Why vulnerability isn’t “one and done,” it’s a lived state of being The hidden weight of staying in soul-sucking environments, and what changes when you finally choose presence over protection How to navigate judgment, disruption, and the real barriers that make change complex Creating safe space and community, including what it means to be a trusted “beacon” for others Over-functioning, boundaries, and the self-leadership skill of saying “no” without guilt Why you shouldn’t light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm If you’ve been holding everyone else up while quietly disappearing yourself, this episode will help you rethink what you’re tolerating, reclaim your boundaries, and choose a life that actually holds up.Connect with Rachael Lewis / Honey and Sage Salon: Website: honeyandsagessalon.comInstagram / TikTok / Facebook: @HoneyandSageSalonAlso: @SaltandWavesHairSee Rachel's TedX Talk Here: https://youtu.be/EcrlmMtG-uU?si=noWUvH4aT5y_ok59
June 2, 2026Episode 432 min
Your Availability Is Not Your Commitment
What’s the boundary you wish you’d learned a decade earlier?In this episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa answers with a truth that hits a lot of high-functioning people right in the chest: your availability is not the same as your commitment. Tessa reflects on a season where she treated being available as generosity and “yes” as proof of value, only to realize that radical availability can be an angst-driven pattern rooted in not trusting that your real value is enough. She unpacks how she made herself indispensable through access, and what boundary work taught her about protecting energy, focusing on what matters most, and thinking through the downstream trade-offs of automatic yeses. You’ll hear why over-availability can quietly turn you into “infrastructure” in relationships instead of a mutual person, and how constantly responding keeps you from initiating the life you actually want. If you’ve been exhausted, overextended, or resentful while telling yourself you’re just being helpful, this episode will help you reconnect to self, set cleaner boundaries, and make choices that protect what deserves your deepest focus. Learn more at TessaTubbs.com
May 27, 2026Episode 422 min
Dismantling the Belief That Success Requires Sacrifice (Solo with Tessa Tubbs)
Many of us inherit a simple, seductive belief about success: you earn it through sacrifice. You outwork, outlast, outperform. You prove your worth through visible output, and rest isn’t rewarded. In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa unpacks how deeply this mindset can get wired into us through family, culture, and professional environments and how it can quietly train you to equate productivity with worth. She shares how her relationship with stillness exposed the belief operating underneath the surface, and the “reckoning moments” that forced a new question: am I doing this because it’s right, or because proving it feels like it justifies the cost? Ultimately, Tessa offers a powerful redefinition:Success is alignment between how you live and what you actually believe, not just what you achieve. If you’ve been living in go-go-go mode, measuring yourself by output, and feeling uneasy when you slow down, this episode will help you reassess the trade-offs and build a new metric: a through line of integrity. Learn More at TessaTubbs.com
May 19, 2026Episode 413 min
Living From Truth, Not “Should” (Solo with Tessa Tubbs)
What happens when your life looks exactly the way it’s “supposed” to look… but it doesn’t feel like yours?In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa shares a defining moment from her corporate career: a prestigious, high-visibility “destination” role that checked every box, yet carried a quiet grief she couldn’t ignore. She unpacks the difference between doing what’s admired and doing what’s true, and why “should” can be seductive while still pulling you out of alignment.In this episode, you’ll hear:How to recognize when you’re trying to “talk yourself into” a life that isn’t meant for youWhy “I should be grateful” can sometimes mask misalignmentThe decision filter Tessa uses now: not “Is it right or coveted?” but “Is it true for me?”How choosing truth changes what you say yes to, how you lead yourself, and the contentment you experience day to dayIf you’ve ever felt successful on paper but unsettled on the inside, this episode is an invitation to stop living by default and start choosing from truth.
May 12, 2026Episode 4031 min
Purpose as the Compass, Passion as the Fuel (with Christi Dortch)
What does it look like to stay anchored to purpose when the plan changes, outcomes aren’t guaranteed, and the path forward isn’t straight? In this episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa sits down with Christi Dortch, whose career spans the performing arts and entertainment world as a performer, director, administrator, consultant, and behind-the-scenes builder of sustainable systems. Together, they explore a powerful framework: purpose as the compass, passion as the fuel, and endurance as the way forward, especially in seasons where certainty is absent. You’ll hear:What it required emotionally for Christi to step off the road as a performer and let go of a long-held plan How to separate authentic direction from “should” noise, expectations, and fear Why silence and pausing can reveal whether fear is driving your choices or purpose is A reframe on failure: not a stop sign, but information and feedback How to sustain passion without burning out using what Christi calls a “diversified portfolio” of joy, creativity, and restoration A reminder for anyone feeling timid or stuck: start internally, light your own flame, and define what “success today” actually means This conversation is an invitation to stop living by default, return to your internal compass, and build a life that holds up over time even when the plan has to change. About Christi Dortch:Christi Dortch brings more than three decades of experience at the intersection of performance, leadership, and innovation in the arts. She is known nationally for cultivating new work, developing artist-audience-community ecosystems, and forging strategies that elevate both mission and margin.A seasoned arts executive, producer, and consultant, Christi Dortch brings more than 35 years of expertise across venue management, creative production, and strategic development. Her career spans leadership in some of the country’s most respected performing arts institutions, from multi-theatre campuses to immersive experience startups, guiding both established venues and emerging ventures through expansion, innovation, and reinvention.Christi has held executive leadership roles across the nonprofit and commercial sectors, including serving as Executive Vice President of Programming at the Tennessee Performing Arts Center. She has led teams delivering regional premieres, new musicals, and nationally broadcast specials at historic venues like War Memorial Auditorium and Westport Country Playhouse. Her strategic influence spans the full organizational spectrum -from frontline teams to C-suite leaders and Boards of Directors- making her a trusted leader in both day-to-day operations and long-range planning. Through her consultancy, Airlie Strategies, Christi has guided cultural institutions across the South and Midwest in designing long-term programming plans, building revenue infrastructure, and connecting artists with communities. Her work is deeply informed by experience in financial strategy, artist development, community engagement, product launches, retail brand collaborations, and operational systems from policies and procedures to performance metrics.Her work is grounded in creative vision and operational precision, shaping transformative projects from immersive IP-based experiences, to multi-year strategies for historic theaters, museums, and multidisciplinary festivals. She has served as a TEDx speaker, conference producer, and trusted advisor for organizations such as the Jewel Theatre, Franklin Theatre, TN Presenters, and History &Culture Center of Williamson County.Connect with Christi: Airelie Strategies (consulting): Airlie-Strategies.comEmail: christi@aireliestrategies.com
May 5, 2026Episode 391 min
From “I Can’t” to “I Won’t”: The Honesty That Changes Everything
The shift from “I can’t” to “I won’t” can feel small, but it changes everything.In this short solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa explains why “I can’t” often hides us from ourselves. It suggests powerlessness and quietly reinforces a victim mindset.When you’re willing to say “I won’t,” even privately, you step back into choice. The decision may not be easier, but it becomes real, concrete, and honest.Tessa unpacks how this level of honesty is deeply freeing because once you acknowledge you’re choosing, you also acknowledge you’re capable of choosing differently. And that’s where movement begins.Learn More at TessaTubbs.com
April 28, 2026Episode 381 min
How to Uncover Your Core Values (Without Overthinking It)
Most people can list values they aspire to.But real values aren’t what you say. They’re what you protect. In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa shares one simple question to help you uncover your core values without getting lost in theory:What do you consistently choose, even when it costs you? Because the choices that cost you time, energy, resources, or even conflict… are often the clearest signal of what you truly value. Tessa walks through how this question showed her a value that was present long before she had language for it (including why altruism, helping, and sacrifice were deeply embedded in how she relates, what she says yes to, and what she’s willing to say no to). If you’ve been trying to “find your values” but keep getting stuck in words, this episode will help you locate them where they actually live: in your patterns, your boundaries, and what you’re willing to pay for. Learn More at tessatubbs.com
April 14, 2026Episode 3730 min
The Success Code: Discipline, Relationships, and Integrity (with Ali Hemyari)
In this episode, Tessa Tubbs sits down with entrepreneur, author, TEDx speaker, aviator, and law enforcement professional Ali Hemyari for a grounded conversation about success, discipline, and legacy. Together, they explore what it really takes to build a meaningful life, not just a successful one: the power of relationships, the value of discomfort, the discipline of self-investment, and the responsibility that comes with influence. Ali shares hard-won insight on ambition, faith, family, ethics, and why true success is built through long-term effort, not quick wins. If you are redefining success and learning how to lead yourself with clarity and conviction, this conversation will meet you there.Ali Hemyari High-Octane Entrepreneur, Author, Pilot, SWAT Sniper, Canine Expert & Philanthropist Ali Hemyari is a dynamic and accomplished entrepreneur, having founded multiple successful companies within and outside of the pet industry. As a recognized dog training expert, Ali has transformed the lives of countless dogs and owners with innovative training and a deep understanding of canine behavior. A devoted husband and father, he is committed to living a life guided by faith and leading by example. Ali is the author of two inspiring books, with a diverse set of skills that includes flying helicopters and airplanes, in addition to being a highly trained SWAT operator and sniper. Beyond business, Ali gives back to his community by commanding two divisions for different police departments and volunteering hundreds of hours each year. He also hosts fundraisers benefiting impactful organizations like Make-A-Wish. In his spare time, Ali enjoys competing in triathlons, his love for martial arts and continually pushing his limits.Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ali-h-6168985/Twitter/Instagram/Facebook: @NashvilleK9The Success Code Book: https://a.co/d/j1gq7LyDiscipline Book: https://a.co/d/hCsUducWebsite: HemyariCompanies.com
April 7, 2026Episode 362 min
Drained by Over-Functioning
If you’re ending most days emotionally exhausted, it might not be your workload, it might be your self-abandonment. In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa explores a powerful self-leadership question she asks when work leaves her drained:“Where did I abandon myself to keep the peace?” She unpacks how chronic exhaustion often comes from over-functioning: closing the gap for others, rescuing unprepared teammates, and carrying responsibilities that were never yours to hold. In this episode, you’ll learn:How to recognize the difference between a healthy “season of sprinting” and an unsustainable way of living The hidden trade-offs we make when we over-function (movement, nutrition, mental clarity, stress release) Why your energy is often drained not because you can’t handle hard work, but because you’re abandoning your needs to keep things smooth How stepping back may require new boundaries, and why boundaries often create conflict when people are used to crossing them If you’ve been living in “closing the gap” mode for months at a time, this episode is an invitation back to self-leadership: stop abandoning yourself and start making different choices.
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