EP. 273 Too Much? Good. Let Them Choke — Let’s Stop Shrinking To Keep Everyone Comfortable
They call you "too much." Too ambitious. Too independent. Too confident. Too outspoken. Brig has a response: Let them choke, Queen. In this episode, Brig isn't holding back. She's calling out the expectations that tell women to dream big but stay small enough to keep everyone else comfortable. She reflects on the rise of Black women in positions of power, the backlash she's witnessed, and the conflicting messages women receive about ambition, leadership, and knowing their worth. Brig also challenges you to consider how much of your energy goes toward managing other people's reactions instead of pursuing your own goals. If you've ever been told you're too much, this episode asks you to reconsider who decided that and why you've been expected to make yourself smaller. What You'll Learn Why being called "too much" doesn't have to be an insult How women are taught to question their ambition and confidence Why knowing and trusting yourself matters when pursuing your impossible thing What happens when you stop making other people's discomfort your responsibility How to take up space without explaining or apologizing for it Why This Matters Women are often encouraged to be confident and ambitious, but criticized when they actually show up that way. Brig challenges that contradiction and asks what becomes possible when you stop measuring yourself against standards that were never designed with you in mind. You don't have to make yourself smaller to make someone else comfortable. Take Action This week, pay attention to the moments when you feel tempted to tone yourself down, explain your ambitions, or apologize for taking up space. And the next time someone suggests you're "too much," Brig has a response for you: "Yes, I am. Thank you for noticing." Then keep moving. No explanation necessary. Mentioned Come inside The Return , Brig’s new membership where you’ll work through the full S.T.A.Y. framework with support, coaching, and women who are learning to hear themselves again. To keep listening between episodes, sign up for the Reduce the Noise Memo , Brig’s weekly note for the woman chasing her impossible thing. STAY CONNECTED — Website | Instagram | Facebook


