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Be The Torch podcast is a life, business and personal development show that supports high-performing dads who are entrepreneurs, and aspire to reach their highest potential in ALL areas of life. Far too many dads who are business owners suffer from burnout, exhaustion, pain and chaos focusing on producing and performing for everyone else except themselves. It's time to shine the light on ourselves first, to illuminate our own path to freedom, fulfillment and happiness in all areas of life. This show is about building a life your business can fit into. Hosted by Cletus Coffey - a former professional football player, world champion athlete, turned entrepreneur, who knows first hand the pain and suffering men, who are single dads and entrepreneurs experience when they make business the priority and neglect all other areas of life. Listen in to learn the art and science to thrive in the Power 5, Focus, Fitness, Family, Fortune, and Foundation.

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January 22, 2026Episode 971 hr 6 min

Why Smart Leaders Lose Their Team’s Trust Without Realizing It

Most leaders believe trust is earned through vision, values, and competence.It isn’t.People don’t trust your words. They trust your patterns.In this LIVE conversation, I break down why smart, capable leaders lose their team’s trust without realizing it and what separates leaders people follow from leaders people quietly manage around.You’ll learn:The subtle behaviors that cause teams to filter the truthWhy mission-driven leadership fails under pressureHow your reactions, not your intentions, define your leadershipThe difference between being respected and being accommodatedA practical framework to lead with calm, consistency, and authorityThis isn’t about being nicer.It’s not about lowering standards.And it’s not about abandoning your mission.It’s about leading in a way people trust when it matters most.FROM THE EPISODE: The Practical Tool: The Fire Mirror AuditAfter any tense moment, ask:What triggered me?Which fire showed up?What truth was exposed?What needs repair, ownership, or a boundary? Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

December 11, 2025Episode 9632 min

Life Is A Mirror: Why Your Triggers Are Costing You Power, Profit And Peace

Most men are playing victim and blame everything around them.Her.The kids.The employees.The economy.Meanwhile their body is softening, their relationship is flat, the business is stuck and they keep attracting the same chaos in different clothing.In this solo episode, Cletus breaks down one of the core Be The Torch principles: life is a mirror, not a verdict. Your results in business, your body, your relationships and your bank account are feedback, not a life sentence.You’ll hear Cletus walk through:Why your relationship, bank account and body are a scoreboard that only shows feedbackHow victim mindset quietly weakens men and kills leadership at home and in businessThe real reason you keep attracting the same toxic relationship or bad hires on your teamHow to use triggers as a signal instead of a reason to explode or shut downWhat it looks like to live with standards, a personal code and real self respectHow to become the dad your kids can trust when they screw up, not the one they fearThis is straight talk for driven dad entrepreneurs who are tired of repeating the same patterns in their marriage, dating, co parenting and business.🔹 Ready to stop playing the blame game and build standards you actually live by? If you want to accelerate your growth and results.. book a complimentary connection call with Cletus and see what Be The Torch program is your best next step: 👉 https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

October 6, 2025Episode 9533 min

How to Tell If You’re Headed for Divorce, Burnout, or a Business Breakdown

Dude, you don’t need a psychic to predict the future, you just need the balls to look in the mirror. In this episode, Cletus Coffey exposes how your current habits, beliefs, and standards quietly predict whether you’ll face divorce, burnout, or business collapse. You’ll learn how to read the signs, raise your standards, and stop the breakdown before it happens. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

September 19, 2025Episode 9423 min

You Mad Bro? Squash Anger Today, Before Your Kids Copy It

You snap at your kids? Lose it with your partner? Let pressure dictate your decisions? It’s not about them my friend. It’s about you. And if you don’t get this under control, you’ll burn trust, connection, and energy that you can’t afford to lose.In this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast, Cletus Coffey shares the Torch Treatment™A 7-step recalibration tool that helps you regulate your emotions, stop reacting from old patterns, and start leading from power and presence.Discover:How triggers sabotage your leadership and relationshipsThe step-by-step Torch Treatment™ processWhy this tool can be done in 3 minutes or lessHow to shift from chaos and guilt to power and peace🔥 DM me on Instagram @CletusCoffey to get the free Torch Treatment™ guide. 👉 Book a call with Cletus to map this into a 3 step plan: https://cletuscoffey.com/bookacall Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

August 13, 2025Episode 9327 min

Your Kids, Your Business, and YOU… All Getting Screwed

The Impossible Triangle That’s Screwing You..and Everyone Else If you’re a divorced dad running a business, you’ve been sold a lie that you can give 100% to your business, 100% to your kids, and 100% to yourself. The math doesn't add up. It’s impossible, and it’s killing you.In this episode of Be The Torch, I break down the brutal reality of the “Impossible Triangle” every divorced dad entrepreneur faces—business, kids, and rebuilding yourself—and why trying to “balance” them will burn you out.We’ll walk through:Why “balance” is a losing gameHow to merge your three missions into ONE manThe guilt trap you’ve been living in (and how to crush it)The IGNITE Method for taking back your time, energy, and control🎯 Join me LIVE for the Guilt to Greatness Workshop 🗓 Thursday, August 14, 2025 | 10 AM PT / 1 PM ET ✅ 2.5 hours of interactive, AI-driven coaching to apply the IGNITE Method to your life 💰 Just $10 You put skin in the game and transformation in your hands👉 Register here: https://cletuscoffey.com/guilttogreatness Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

July 24, 2025Episode 9235 min

Why Focusing On Your Third Leg Matters In Business And Life

Are you struggling to balance business, fatherhood, and your own healing post-divorce or as a single dad?You’re trying to be a great father, a successful business owner, and somehow rebuild your life after divorce. But something keeps breaking down.That something… is you.In this episode breaks down:Why the “balance” myth is a lie keeping men stuckThe dangerous role-playing identities that lead to burnoutHow to stop fighting with your ex and start leading your lifeThe hidden cost of victim thinking and ego-driven decisionsIf you feel like you’re pulled in too many directions and losing yourself in the process...this is your wake-up call my friend. Takeaways for business owners, single dads, and high-performing men looking for real growth, freedom, and peace.👇 Book a free Take Charge Call with Cletus: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

June 26, 2025Episode 9132 min

The Legacy Lie: Why Your Money & Business Won't Set Your Kids Free

Most men believe that the best legacy they can leave behind is financial—wealth, inheritance, or handing over the family business. But here's the truth: that mindset might be hurting your children more than helping them.In this episode, I reveal the three powerful shifts every man must make if he truly wants to leave a legacy of freedom, fulfillment, and happiness:Possibility Over WealthCharacter Over ComfortFreedom Over SecurityYour kids didn’t come here to repeat your path. They came to learn their own lessons, through their own struggle, setbacks, and self-discovery. By trying to pave the road for them, you might be robbing them of the very strength they need to succeed.This episode will challenge everything you think you know about legacy, and give you a powerful new lens to lead your family forward. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

June 13, 2025Episode 9028 min

Divorced, Distracted, and Drowning in Business? Here's How to Reclaim Your Power

Divorced. Distracted. Drowning in business? If that’s you, and you’re tired of pretending everything’s fine while secretly struggling to keep it all together—this episode is your roadmap back to power.I reveal:- The 3 lies every divorced dad entrepreneur believes- The framework that rebuilt my life after burnout- How to lead from peace, not pressure🔥 Join the FREE 5-Day Master Your Morning Challenge:http://bethetorch.com/challenge Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

June 5, 2025Episode 8924 min

Stop Betraying Yourself: For Men Who Suck at Setting Boundaries

Brother, if you feel constantly drained, overwhelmed, or pulled in a million directions, this episode is a must listen. I drop the hammer on one of the biggest silent killers of self-respect, productivity, and peace: poor boundaries.Whether it's your ex (co-parent), your clients, your employees, or even your kids—if you can’t hold the line, you’re not leading. You’re leaking energy. You’re betraying yourself. And your business, family, and sanity are paying the price.You’ll learn:The brutal truth about why you feel frustrated and burnt outA simple 3-part framework to set powerful boundaries minus the guiltHow to communicate them like a leader, not a doormat.What to do when others cross your line, and how to stay cool, calm, and in control.Your freedom begins with one decision: to stop betraying yourself for the comfort of others. This is the Torch Standard. 🔗 Ready to go all in on YOU? Join the waitlist for Be The Torch Academy: https://bethetorch.com/academy Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

May 10, 2025Episode 8828 min

Your Business Is Stuck Because You Are (Men Don't Want to Hear This)

The success of your business is a direct reflection of YOU. In this episode, I’m calling out the trap most entrepreneurial single dads fall into: building a business at the cost of their health, relationships, and peace of mind.I break down:Why building a business before building yourself is a dead-endHow your current struggles are mirrors—not roadblocksThe 5 areas of self-mastery that drive true growthHow to stop being chained to your business and start leading your lifeThis isn’t about doing more. It’s about becoming the man who can handle more.🔥 Join the Be The Torch Academy priority list now → https://bethetorch.com/academywaitlist Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning. Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW! https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey