It's Only Hard for the Good Ones: Abby Cornelius on Leading in Homebuilding-198
Send us Fan Mail We invest heavily in training salespeople to serve customers. So why aren't we investing just as intentionally in preparing leaders to serve our people? Abby Cornelius - Leadership Advisor at Elevate Actually and a 20+ year homebuilding veteran - joins Anya Chrisanthon for a conversation about the leadership training gap in homebuilding and what to do about it. And this one is personal: Abby was Anya's sales trainer at NVR, where Anya was named Rookie of the Year for her cohort. From intern to executive Abby got into homebuilding as a fluke - a finance major whose cousin talked her into an internship. She never left. Sales, national sales training, sales leadership, nine months in land acquisition, division president training, and Director of Sales. Her takeaway from sitting in every seat: when you understand how the whole operation works together, you show up better in the seat you're in. The training stopped As a salesperson, Abby went through a rigorous year-long program with ongoing coaching. Then she got promoted to leadership and it was: here's your team, go figure it out. Sitting in ops meetings Googling terms under the table, no tenured leader to lean on, and a generic two-day management course that didn't connect to homebuilding. It felt hard for about a year - and it's the same story she kept hearing from every leader around her. Breaking out of firefighting mode Only three things should derail your day: sales, starts, and closings - today, not future ones. Everything else needs a cadence. Abby shares the systems that saved her: scheduled one-on-ones that teach your team to save non-urgent items, and building processes around repeat pain points - like her offer sheet that ended the scrambled texts and half-baked emails. Building self-reliant teams You teach people how to treat you. If your team brings everything to you, you've become the bottleneck. Abby's tips: don't answer on the first ring for non-urgent items, ask "what have you tried?" before giving answers, and borrow her sister's kindergarten classroom rule - "three before me." Leadership is stewardship When a neighbor asked Abby's husband for parenting advice, he said: "It's only hard for the good ones." The same is true of leadership. If it feels heavy, that means you care. Your job isn't to keep things moving today - it's to care for your people and your business long-term. Leadership Elevated Everything Abby wished someone taught her sooner, built into homebuilding-specific leadership development: a two-day workshop for entire operational teams - sales, construction, purchasing, marketing, finance - plus a six-month virtual cohort limited to 10 leaders, launching in September. Because the ROI on well-equipped leaders shows up in margin, retention, and days under construction. One piece of advice for this week Pick one. One thing you want your team to get better at - and triple down on it. Scattered effort never gets the depth of solution you need. Connect with Abby on LinkedIn , subscribe to her free weekly LinkedIn newsletter Leadership Edited, and learn more about Leadership Elevated at elevateactually.com - click Work With Abby. About Anewgo Anewgo is an all-in-one new home sales and marketing platform. We equip builders with AI-ready homebuilder websites, interactive design tools, floorplans, sitemaps, AI Sales Assistants, and data analytics to create personalized buyer journeys. Learn more at anewgo.com or find every episode at anewgo.com/podcast . Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/anewgo-of-new-home-sales/id1602564768





