Drinks with Shrinks

Hosted by Peter Anderson and Jessica Pechinis

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Aug 2026

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About the show

We are two therapists who work with couples, families, individuals, and people in crisis. We have been practicing for over 15 years and love what we do! We wanted to start this podcast as a way to help the general public understand complex issues such as infidelity, addiction, loneliness, depression, anxiety, and family issues. Come join us as we sip on a latte or an occasional glass of wine while we discuss our weekly observations. Peter Anderson has experience ranging from individual therapy, marital conflict, family crisis, couples, and family counseling. He also serves as an adjunct professor at a local college and is actively involved in the community, working as an on-call clinician at a local Hospital. Jessica Pechinis has experience working with individuals, couples and families as well as with different types of needs including: including enriching relationships; managing life transitions, anxiety and stress; as well as coping with grief and trauma. She uses an integrated person-centered, humanistic approach in her practice.

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September 29, 2026Episode 634 min

When Should One Apologize?

When should you apologize in a family estrangement—and when might an apology actually make things worse? In this episode, we explore the complicated role of apologies in fractured family relationships. We discuss the difference between taking genuine responsibility and apologizing simply to restore contact, why vague or pressured apologies often fail, and how to acknowledge another person’s pain without accepting responsibility for things you don’t believe you did. Most importantly, we look at what makes an apology meaningful, honest, and potentially healing—even when reconciliation isn’t guaranteed.

August 26, 2026Episode 542 min

Can a Separation Be "Helpful?"

Separation is often a misunderstood word. When people hear it, they often immediately think of divorce or the end of a relationship, but that’s not necessarily the case. Sometimes, separation can create much-needed space to slow down, reflect, and gain perspective on yourself and your relationship. In this episode, Jessica and I discuss how intentional separation can provide an opportunity for reflection, contemplation, and emotional processing. We also explore how stepping away from unhealthy patterns can help you reconnect with your values, better understand what you truly want, and make more thoughtful decisions about what comes next. Separation doesn’t always have to mean an ending; sometimes, it can create the space needed for clarity, growth, and meaningful change.

April 28, 2026Episode 428 min

How Porn Rewires Intimacy in Marriage

Research across Neuroscience, Psychology, and Relationship Science suggests that pornography can subtly but significantly reshape how partners experience intimacy in a marriage. Frequent consumption conditions the brain’s reward system toward novelty, intensity, and unrealistic sexual scripts, which can dampen satisfaction with a real-life partner over time. This often shows up as reduced desire, increased comparison, or difficulty with emotional attunement during sex. At the relational level, secrecy around porn use can erode trust, while mismatched expectations about sex can create cycles of rejection, shame, and resentment. Over time, couples may find themselves less connected—not just physically, but emotionally—unless they intentionally rebuild transparency, communication, and a shared vision of intimacy.

April 2, 2025Episode 31 hr 14 min

I See You: talking to Shai Davidai about Antisemitism

Antisemitism has surged dramatically since October 7, 2023, leaving Jewish and Israeli students grappling with a profound sense of grief and isolation. As a therapist, I’ve grown increasingly concerned about the rising tide of ignorance and antisemitism within the therapeutic community. Jewish clients frequently share how discriminated against they’ve felt—both by their own therapists and at their schools. That’s why I wanted to explore this issue with a Jewish voice who’s living it firsthand. I’m thrilled to welcome Shai Davidai, a professor of social psychology at Columbia University, to this episode. Together, we’ll dive into the alarming rise of antisemitism on college campuses, trace its origins, and discuss how the therapeutic world can better support our Jewish clients. I hope you find this conversation as enlightening as I do—enjoy the show!

February 5, 2025Episode 250 min

What to Do When a Partner Refuses Sex

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of intimacy when one partner is unwilling to engage in sex. We explore the emotional and relational challenges this can bring, sharing insights from our experiences as therapists. We also discuss what has helped our clients navigate these situations with understanding, communication, and connection.

January 14, 2025Episode 146 min

Parenting Adult Children

In this episode, Peter and Jessica discuss the struggles, fears, and common barriers to parenting adult children. What should parents do? What should these children expect? Hope you enjoy the show!

May 15, 2024Episode 632 min

Lovers to Roommates: How to get Out of the Roommate Debacle

In this episode, Peter and Jessica discuss how easy it is for couples to drift apart and essentially become roommates. As clinicians, we observe a common cycle that leads to this situation and offer remedies to address it. We hope you enjoy the show!

April 3, 2024Episode 532 min

Building Intimacy in Your Relationship

Intimacy is often very difficult to maintain. In this episode Peter and Jessica talk about some common misconceptions, guidance, and ways to maneuver and build a more intimate relationship. Hope you enjoy the show!

February 1, 2024Episode 41 hr 3 min

Personality Disorders: How to Recognize them and What to Do

In this episode, Peter delves into the work of Gregory Lester, an expert in personality disorders. Throughout the episode, you will gain insights into what a personality disorder is, how to identify it, and effective management strategies. Additionally, we address several common misunderstandings clinicians may have about this population and explore ways to provide assistance.

October 13, 2023Episode 320 min

The Need for Speed. How and Why to Heal Quickly in Conflict.

In this episode, Jessica and Peter talk about the need to heal "fast" when there's conflict. When couples don't, they are more prone to sit on their assumptions and create more conflict as time moves on.

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