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James "J.R." Reid goes behind the scenes with the elite of the elite and shares strategies to help you thrive under intense pressure and come up clutch more often. Discover how you can master your mind, relationships, and money to ensure they're an asset during your pursuit of greatness instead of a liability. Since 2005, J.R. has been a trusted coach, mentor, and advisor to the world's top athletes, public figures, and executives and is considered one of the "Navy Seals of Life Coaching." Coming Up Clutch™ is a mix of interviews, special co-hosts, and solo shows from J.R. that will energize and empower you to show up differently, compete more confidently, and live with more energy. If you're relentless about becoming world-class, you won't want to miss the gold that comes from these episodes. Hit subscribe and get ready to unlock the beast inside.

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October 21, 2026Episode 38022 min

5 Minute Drill | How to Get Out of Your Slump

You ever feel like you're at the top of your game…only to hit a wall a few weeks later? No energy. No clarity. No performance. Just…off. Most high performers call it a slump, but that word is off-limits with J.R. In this 5-Minute Drill episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. breaks down why the word "slump" reinforces the very thing you're trying to escape, and gives you a simple 4-step system to reset your identity and rebuild momentum, fast. He shares the story of a session with one of his MLB clients…a guy who went from league-wide recognition to spiraling confidence in under two weeks…and the mindset shift that got him out of it. This episode is about one powerful truth: your new benchmark is today, not yesterday, not last season, not whenever you were performing at your peak. When you stop benchmarking your identity against old results and start focusing on process over outcomes, you build the kind of momentum that compounds. In this episode, you'll hear: Why the word "slump" might be sabotaging your own comeback. The story of J.R.'s MLB client who went from All-Star to feeling like a Rookie in two weeks. The performance trap most high achievers fall into: benchmarking today against yesterday's results. The Win the Day Scoreboard, J.R.'s 4-step system for tracking process over outcomes. The science behind small wins, including Teresa Amabile's Progress Principle and the neurochemistry of momentum. Lamentations 3:22–23 and the story of Elijah in 1 Kings 18–19, and what they reveal about resetting daily. The most common mistake high performers make when they hit a wall, and why comparing yourself to your own past keeps you stuck. What you'll walk away with… You'll learn how to: Spot when you're benchmarking your identity against outdated results. Build your own Win the Day Scoreboard using process and performance-based metrics. Use the W/L standings method to stay encouraged even during a rough stretch. Reframe temporary setbacks as preparation instead of proof you've lost your edge. Reset daily and rebuild momentum using both proven science and biblical truth. KEY QUOTES "Your new benchmark is TODAY. Not two weeks ago. Not last year. Not when you were MVP in your business or with your health or with your team. Today." - J.R. "Benchmarking your current identity against yesterday's results is a trap." - J.R. "When you feel like you've hit the proverbial wall, outcomes are the LAST thing you want to focus on. It's a losing game." - J.R. "Stop using someone else's scoreboard to measure where you're at. This is YOUR game. This is YOUR season." - J.R. NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/episode380 Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

October 14, 2026Episode 37953 min

Nick Bolhuis | How to Leverage Your Breath for Breakthrough

You're not bad at managing stress. You're bad at breathing. That's the part nobody checks. Too many high-achieving men are running hard all day, chasing goals, leading teams, providing for their families…while their nervous system quietly falls apart underneath it. They can't sleep. Can't slow down. Short with their wife and kids. And they've convinced themselves it's a time problem or a willpower issue. It's not. It's a breathing problem. This week on Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. sits down with Nick Bolhuis, President of Neuropeak Pro. Nick trains elite performers, including some of J.R.'s own MLB clients on how to regulate their body and optimize their brain, starting with their breath. This is a practical, physiology-first conversation about what's actually driving the stress you've been trying to manage the wrong way. In this episode, you'll hear: Why most guys are stuck in "fight or flight" and don't even know it The #1 breathing mistake 90% of pro athletes make (and you probably do too) The key to stillness, presence, and showing up strong at home How just 60 good breaths a day can change your life KEY QUOTES "You're already breathing. Why not do it better?"- Nick Bolhuis "Stillness is a skill. Your breath is the way to train it." - J.R. CONNECT WITH NICK Website: NeuropeakPro Linkedin: Personal | Neuropeak Pro Instagram: @neuropeakpro NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/nick-bolhuis-cuc Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

October 7, 2026Episode 37823 min

5 Minute Drill | When Working Harder Isn't Working: How to Shift from Striving to Trusting

You ever catch yourself thinking… "I just need to push harder." "If I put in more hours, it'll finally click." "I can force this to work if I just try harder than I already am." That's not discipline. That's a lie about who's actually doing the work. In this 5-Minute Drill episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. breaks down why grinding harder often backfires and gives you a simple 3-step strategy to shift from striving to trusting. He shares the story of a coaching session where his own coach asked him one question that stopped him cold…and exposed that he'd been relying on his own performance instead of his partnership with God. This episode is about one powerful truth: You're not failing because you're not working hard enough. You're failing because you're carrying weight only God was built to hold. In this episode, you'll hear: Why doubling down on effort often leads to worse results, not better ones The story of J.R.'s coaching session, and the blunt question that exposed his own performance trap What performance science reveals about how chronic stress hijacks your prefrontal cortex and kills clarity, focus, and flow The biblical distinction between striving and trusting, and why the Kingdom's real currency is trust, not performance Gideon and Ezekiel's dry bones…and what obedience without logic teaches about breakthrough The most common objection J.R. hears when he teaches this Drill, and why it's not about doing nothing The 3-step Drill to reset when your grind isn't producing outcomes What you'll walk away with… You'll learn how to: Spot the difference between striving in your own strength and trusting God's Spirit within you Replace the pressure to force results with a posture of partnership Use the 3-step Drill to move from grinding to grounded in real time Make a declaration statement that shifts you from pressure to peace Show up with more clarity, intuition, and flow in your career, leadership, and home KEY QUOTES "This Drill isn't about doing nothing…it's about doing the right thing—partnering with God's power instead of forcing results in your own power." - J.R. "Working even harder when you're already busting your tail often has diminishing returns…it often leads to worse results—because the stress in your system is hijacking your brain." - J.R. "God's grace doesn't eliminate your discipline. It energizes it with more of HIS power." - J.R. "Stop carrying what only God was built to hold." - J.R. NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/episode378 Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

September 30, 2026Episode 37750 min

Joshua Lifrak | Neutral, Not Numb: The Mental Skill Elite Performers Use Under Pressure

You're not out of options. You're out of excuses to stay the same. Default living is quiet. No crisis. No rock bottom. Just years of slipping by on autopilot while you tell yourself you're fine. You're not falling apart. You're just on repeat. Same reactions. Same patterns. Same version of yourself, day after day, because it's easier than deciding who you actually want to be. Here's the good news: you can choose to not live like that. In this episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. sits down with Joshua Lifrak, mental performance expert and author of the new book, WIN TODAY. Josh spent two decades in the highest-pressure rooms in professional sports, including serving as Director of Mental Skills for the Chicago Cubs during their 2016 World Series run (the one that ended a 108-year championship drought). He's brought that same framework to boardrooms and executive teams ever since. This is a raw, practical conversation about the difference between staying calm and checking out completely. In this episode, you'll hear: Why "neutral thinking" beats both suppressing your emotions and shutting them down completely The exact difference between being neutral and being numb (and how to tell which one you're actually in) How to respond to your kids (or anyone) from your value system instead of your emotions in the heat of the moment Why "default living" quietly sabotages high-achievers who look successful on the outside The "shot clock" method for processing anger or frustration without letting it control your next move How Mile Zero can reset any area of your life that feels like it's too far gone to fix KEY QUOTES "Numb is, 'I don't care if this works or not.'" Neutral is, 'I'm committing to making this work.'" - Josh Lifrak "The past is not predictive of the future. What you think and do in the here and now is." - Josh Lifrak "We're human beings. We have a choice of who we want to be every single day." - Josh Lifrak CONNECT WITH JOSHUA Linkedin: /in/joshualifrak Instagram: @joshualifrak X: @lifrakattack Website: https://www.joshualifrak.com/ NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/lifrak-josh-cuc Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

September 23, 2026Episode 37021 min

5 Minute Drill | You're Not Too Busy. What's Happening Instead.

You're not too busy. You're just building the wrong thing first. Many high-achieving men don't neglect their families on purpose. They built a structure that's worked…in school, in sports, and in their career. But when life started happening…marriage, kids…responsibilities…they started stacking. They fit everything that matters most on top of the thing that was already there. In this 5-Minute Drill episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. exposes the architecture problem hiding underneath the busyness excuse (because being "busy" is an excuse): The foundation you built your life around was never designed to hold everything you're asking it to hold. This episode is about highlighting a simple truth: Your schedule is the most honest reflection of what you actually value. Not what you say you value. What your calendar actually protects. In this episode, you'll hear: Why most high-achieving men aren't too busy…they're just building the wrong thing first, and the difference between those two diagnoses changes everything How the "stacking" trap works and why the life structure that made you elite as a competitor or young professional doesn't automatically upgrade when you get married or have kids Why the provider identity is one of the most culturally celebrated and quietly dangerous traps a high-capacity man can fall into A biblical principle from Matthew 6:33 that reframes "first things first" from spiritual instruction into a sequencing command for every area of your life A 3-question, 5-minute priority audit that exposes the gap between what you say your priorities are and what your calendar actually protects Why balance is a myth that keeps you managing a broken structure and what to do instead What you'll walk away with… You'll learn how to: Identify what your life is actually built around versus what you say it's built around Recognize when the provider identity has quietly become your core identity Apply a biblical sequencing principle that reorders everything downstream Execute a 3-question priority audit in five minutes or less Rebuild your weekly schedule from the foundation up so you can protect what matters most before the work creeps in KEY QUOTES "You're not too busy. You're building the wrong thing first." - J.R. "Although provision is a function of your love for your family, it's not a substitute for it." - J.R. "Your schedule is the most honest reflection of what you actually value." - J.R. "The men who come up clutch at home aren't the ones who work less. They're the ones who build differently." - J.R. NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/episode376 Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

September 16, 2026Episode 37541 min

Bubba Herrick | Flatlined at 19: What a Near-Death Experience Teaches Us About Living Fully Alive

Lack of clarity is a checkpoint problem. You've built something real. The business. The family. The reputation. By every measure that matters, you're winning. But lately something's off. You're moving fast…maybe faster than ever…but you can't shake the feeling that you're drifting. Not failing. Not lazy. Just…off. The truth is, clarity isn't something you find once and carry forever. It's a daily checkpoint. And the moment you stop returning to it, you start leading your life on autopilot without even knowing it. In this episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. sits down with Becoming Ready to Die author, Bubba Herrick. Bubba flatlined on an operating table at 19 years old during what was supposed to be a routine surgery, and came back with a conviction most men spend a lifetime chasing. This is a raw, practical, and faith-rooted conversation about clarity, control, surrender, and what it truly means to live fully alive. In this episode, you'll hear: How to access life-changing clarity without a crisis to trigger it The most underrated performance question you're not asking yourself daily Why flow state and spiritual surrender are more connected than you think Why your high-achiever wiring may be blocking your highest performance Why "control the controllables" is a myth and what to do instead What it actually takes to rebuild your identity when life forces a transition Why becoming ready to die is the daily pursuit that unlocks unshakable confidence KEY QUOTES "I was given a second chance at life and I made a commitment to myself that the next time I died, I was going to be ready for it." - Bubba Herrick "You have to be able to understand that there is some other greater factor at play. And that requires some type of faith, I think a deep faith, in that once you let go, God, or whatever you believe in, will be there to catch you." - Bubba Herrick "It's okay to take risks and face fear, even though people are going to judge you and it might not make sense to you. And ultimately have so much faith that you become unshakably unmovable amidst all of your pursuits." - Bubba Herrick CONNECT WITH BUBBA IG: @bubbaherrickauthor LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bubba-herrick-8478831a4/ Website: bubbaherrick.com NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/herrick-cuc Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

September 9, 2026Episode 37424 min

5 Minute Drill | Your Alter Ego Is Costing You More Than You Know

There's a version of you that shows up when the pressure turns up. He's locked in. Relentless. Gets it done no matter what. And that version of you worked…he got you the promotion, the partnership, the deal. But that same character…the one that made you elite…is quietly compromising your house. Marriage. Kids. The man you actually want to be. In this 5-Minute Drill episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. tackles the performance identity trap that high-achieving men never see coming: The alter ego that built your career is the same one running on autopilot at home. And he has no idea. This episode is about one simple truth: Your alter ego isn't the problem. An unexamined alter ego that doesn't know when to stand down…that's the problem. In this episode, you'll hear: How your performance identity can quietly become the biggest threat to your marriage, kids, and the man you actually want to be Why awareness alone isn't enough (and the framework you need to stop your alter ego from running on autopilot across every field of play) The real reason elite performers carry the same character into the boardroom, bedroom, and dinner table (and what it's actually costing them) How elite performers from special operators to pro athletes to C-suite executives activate their performance identity intentionally and transition out of it deliberately The 3-step Drill to name your alter ego, audit where it belongs, and build the transition ritual that keeps your work persona from walking through your front door What Scripture and human performance science both agree on: real maturity is the ability to choose which version of yourself the moment actually requires What you'll walk away with… You'll learn how to: Identify the performance identity that takes over under pressure (and name it) Audit the fields of play where your alter ego serves you and where it's costing you Build a transition ritual that keeps your work character out of your home Activate your alter ego intentionally and deactivate him deliberately Lead, compete, and perform without leaving collateral damage behind KEY QUOTES "Your alter ego isn't the problem. An unexamined alter ego…one that shows up automatically and doesn't know when to stand down…that's the problem." - J.R. "Awareness without an actionable framework just leaves you feeling stuck." - J.R. "My family doesn't need the hungry, driven, relentless executive athlete. They need me. The husband. The dad. That man, not the machine." - J.R. "Name it. Audit it. Transition out of it. That's the Drill." - J.R. NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/episode374 Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

September 2, 2026Episode 37358 min

Ben Brown | Why Elite Performers Stay Stuck in Their Own Body

You're not out of shape. You're out of order. You've built something great. The career. Family. Reputation. By every measure that matters, you're winning. But something's off in your body and you know it. The energy isn't what it was. The weight isn't moving like it used to. You've tried the diets. You've pushed through the programs. And every time you go all in, life happens…and then you're back to square one. Here's what I wish someone told me in this season: it's not your body that's broken. It's your lifestyle. And there's a massive difference. In this episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. sits down with nutrition and fitness expert Ben Brown. Ben's the owner of Body Systems and a coach with over two decades of experience working with executives, entrepreneurs, and elite athletes. This is a raw, practical, and eye-opening conversation about what it actually takes to perform at your best when life is running at full speed. In this episode, you'll hear: Why fat loss and muscle gain after 40 isn't a physiology problem (and what it is instead) How to stop the all-or-nothing cycle that's keeping high-capacity men stuck in yo-yo health patterns Why "living in the gray" isn't a sign of weakness (and how values-driven decision making is the real key to sustainable physical performance) The truth about GLP drugs and peptides that no one with a financial stake in them will tell you The 85% weight regain stat that should make every driven man think twice Why your annual bloodwork saying "you're normal" doesn't mean you're healthy (and what optimal actually looks like for a high-performing man over 40) Why the most successful people don't rely on more discipline and self-control (and the simple mindset shift that makes the right choice the easy choice) KEY QUOTES "What's our non-negotiable baseline, right? What are the things that we're doing day in and day out, regardless of the circumstances." - Ben Brown "The people that are most successful don't assert more self-control and discipline. They just put themselves in situations that require less self-control and discipline." - Ben Brown CONNECT WITH BEN 30-Day Reset: https://bodysystems.com/30-day-reset/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benjamin.brown.146/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodysystemscoaching X: https://x.com/BenBodySystems LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminbrownnutrition/ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@bodysystemscoaching NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/brown-cuc Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

August 26, 2026Episode 37216 min

5 Minute Drill | How to Recognize When You're in the Temptation Danger Zone

You ever notice how your worst decisions show up right when you're running on empty? Tired. Stressed. Worn down. And in that moment, you tell yourself it's no big deal…you can handle it. That's not strength. That's exactly when you're most exposed. In this 5-Minute Drill episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™, J.R. breaks down why temptation isn't random. This episode targets a specific window of vulnerability and gives you a simple 3-step strategy to defend it. He shares the story of one of the darkest seasons of his own life, a nearly four-year stretch where exhaustion and isolation led him into the worst decisions he's ever made…and the wake-up call that turned it all around. This episode is about one powerful truth: The enemy doesn't need you to be evil. He just needs you to be exhausted. So stop waiting until you're already depleted to defend yourself. Start recognizing your danger zones before they cost you everything. In this episode, you'll hear: Why your worst decisions cluster around fatigue, stress, and isolation…and what that reveals about how temptation actually works. J.R.'s personal story of the darkest season of his life, and the isolation that nearly cost him his marriage, career, and life. The research on sleep deprivation and decision-making, and why your prefrontal cortex essentially goes offline when you're exhausted. How chronic stress and cortisol impair memory, weaken your immune system, and erode emotional regulation. King David's downfall in 2 Samuel, and how an idle, isolated king became vulnerable to the decision that defined his legacy. Why isolation, not weakness, is the enemy's favorite setup. The 3-step Drill to recognize your Danger Zones and defend against them before they devour you. What you'll walk away with… You'll learn how to: Identify your personal dangerzones…the conditions and circumstances that make you most vulnerable to bad decisions. Build a daily check-in practice to pause, reflect, and catch exposure before it becomes a crisis. Reframe isolation as the real threat, not a sign of strength. Stay connected to 1-2 people you can call for anything…before you need them, not after. Show up more alert, more guarded, and more ready to play offense in your career, leadership, and home. KEY QUOTES "The enemy doesn't need you to be evil. He just needs you to be exhausted." - J.R. "Just because you're surrounded by people doesn't mean you can't feel alone." - J.R. "You're not weak for needing help, you're wise for asking for it." - J.R. "Being surrounded isn't the same as being supported." - J.R. NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/episode372 Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!

August 19, 2026Episode 37152 min

Scott Mann & Chris White | Own Every Room: How Elite Leaders Influence Anyone, Anywhere

Before Scott Mann walks into any high-stakes conversation…a negotiation with the Taliban, a pitch to a skeptical investor, a hard conversation with someone he loves… he asks himself three questions. Not a script. Not a tactic. Three questions that determine whether the person across from him actually trusts what comes out of his mouth next. Most people skip straight to what they're going to say. Scott and his guest, Chris White, will tell you that's the mistake. Influence isn't won in the words. It's won before you ever open your mouth. That's why I brought both of these guys back on the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show. Scott is a retired Green Beret who spent decades building trust in combat zones, where influence was the difference between life and death. Chris is a serial entrepreneur and business coach who's watched hundreds of deals die in the room…not from a bad pitch, but from a missing connection. This conversation gets into what actually makes someone trust you, why most leaders are working twice as hard for half the impact, and the discipline both these men say is non-negotiable before you ever try to influence anyone else. In this episode, you'll hear: The three questions Scott runs through before every high-stakes conversation Why real leadership starts with reconnecting with yourself, not managing your image The role of storySELLING in building trust, influence, and business growth The #1 shift that changes how people respond to you almost instantly KEY QUOTES "We follow leaders who are relatable to our pain and relevant to our goals." - Scott Mann "Turn your phone off and ask better questions. Go deeper." - Chris White CONNECT WITH SCOTT Scott's Linktree to all social profiles, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/rooftop_leadership Websites: https://scottmann.com/ https://rooftopleadership.com/ http://theheroesjourney.org/ https://lastoutplay.com/ https://operationpineappleexpress.com/ https://operelief.org/ TEDx Talks: The Generosity of Scars: https://youtu.be/_szAosvdWdM Rooftop Leadership: https://youtu.be/M78sDuehUnk Surrounded on Purpose: https://youtu.be/61eEC1-L6RI CONNECT WITH CHRIS Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-chris-white/ Website: https://www.coachchris.io/ NEXT STEPS Listen to the full episode: https://jamesreid.com/scott-mann-chris-white-cuc Want to bring your best home more consistently? Take the Invisible Four™ Assessment and uncover what's quietly blocking you: https://jamesreid.com/assessment Follow J.R. on Social (@jamesJRreid): Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin | X | YouTube Visit J.R.'s website: https://jamesreid.com RATE & REVIEW this episode on Apple: https://jamesreid.com/review . We'd love it if you could drop a review or 5-star rating! Simply select "Ratings and Reviews" and "Write a Review" then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. SHARE this episode with someone who wants to be challenged, pushed, and positioned to come up clutch more often. SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any new episodes and Special Guests! Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. LISTEN to previous episodes on Apple , Spotify , or whatever podcast platform you prefer!